SCNDLS said:

In fairness... I more accurately suggested herpes would mean little more to me than if a person got an occasional heat rash. I know it's certainly not the exact same thing.

I'd not be willing to contract herpes to find or get someone. (If I were single, I don't think I'd be casually putting out regardless of the situation), but I wouldn't stress over getting it as a risk of keeping that someone I'd already found, decided was otherwise perfect and found myself willing to commit to. It's such a minor inconvenience.

As I said, though, HIV would challenge me more.
[Edited 5/11/09 12:11pm]

CarrieMpls said:

If it's birth control you're mostly worried about there's always anal

Imago said:

Are you trying to flirt with me?

Lammastide said:

I still don't get how herpes is like a heat rash, but okay.

JustErin said:

You don't automatically get it but the chances are high. And as SCNDLS said, it's much easier for a woman to contract the disease than men

SCNDLS said:

Heat rash goes away

CarrieLee said:

...and you all know I'm one of the loviest doviest heffas on here, but this is the deal breaker for my smiley-happy-hippy-ass, too

I had a girl tell me she had herpes on our first date...I admired and appreciated her honesty, but there was no second date...I was in my early 20's, I couldn't see taking that chance...

I'm in my lates 30's now, and I still dont think thats a chance I'd take...

SCNDLS said:

In the sense it is a latent thing that would be at most an occasional fleeting annoyance. So what I might have a cold sore from time to time? I just don't care.
[Edited 5/11/09 12:15pm]

CarrieMpls said:

he aint tryin honey!

CarrieLee said:

TWICE as easy.

Lammastide said:

Google image genital herpes and get back to me...

Imago said:

That's the only way I'll do it.

Lammastide said:

The symptoms and their seriousness vary from person to person as do the outbreaks themselves. So you have no way of knowing if you're ONLY going to have a cold sore and even if you do this time you could have more serious symptoms the next time. It's very disconcerting to me that you would say you "just don't care." But, okay.

CarrieLee said:

Damn, I'm ready to change my answer after doing so - don't think I could fuck w/ that, & DEFINITELY don't want it myself

CalhounSq said:

Hopefully this makes it a wrap.

http://www.famvir.com/inf...photos.jsp

http://www.herpesdiagnosi...erpes.html
[Edited 5/11/09 12:35pm]

CarrieLee said:

In my adult lifetime I have known THREE girlfriends with herpes, close friends who made a mistake and have to live with that shit for the rest of their lives...

...in one horrible scenario, one pal, on becoming a mother had to go on supressive drug therapy in her last gestational months so that she would not only prevent herpes transmission to baby, but particularly that she wouldn't make corneal scars on the babies eyes as it comes through the birth canal and cause vision impairment or blindness...the ramifications of contacting this is not as footloose and fancy-free as we would like to make it.

Ottensen said:

What was the mistake that they made?

JustErin said:

You know what? Stop playing.

Ottensen said:

Huh? What mistake did she make?

JustErin said:

I'm guessing unprotected sex.

Ottensen said:

A mother caught a cold sore at the time of giving birth, infected her baby which died.

Mrs Scott gave birth to Jennifer in November last year. Now she has mounted a campaign to get doctors and nurses to consider herpes simplex if a new baby falls ill during the first days of life. Marian Nicholson of the HVA comments “Whilst her death is tragic, we need to put it in context. Nearly three quarters of a million babies are born each year, only 13 develop herpes simplex in the first days of life and four die each year. The reason the risk is so tiny is that all mothers who have herpes simplex antibodies give their babies 'maternal antibody' in the last months of pregnancy. So the baby is born with antibodies and is protected from catching the virus for a few months - when the 'maternal antibody' fades away. Because her mother did not catch the cold sore until the end of pregnancy, Jennifer did not have any protective antibodies and so was able, fatally, to catch the cold sore off her mother or someone else."

"Although cold sores are only a very small risk to new borns, I would still suggest that mothers keep anyone with any sort of infection such as cold, flu or cold sores away from their new babies."

Nothinbutjoy said:

(note: this thread has no connection to my screen name. "It" is not a substitute for herpes)

StillGotIt said:

So you say . . .

CarrieLee said:

Perhaps, but people are saying that protected doesn't even really protect you.

JustErin said:

Well it helps significantly but it's just not 100%. Also people can be carriers and not know it...it can lay dormant for a long time.

CarrieLee said:

You people are freaking me out!!

I was just tested 2 weeks ago for everything because I wasn't feeling well. All clear, but damn, makes me never wanna touch another man again.





Ok, that's a lie.

JustErin said:

Dude it's VERY scary!!! I have immune system issues so I am paranoid all the time. I feel like I could contract something just by looking at someone the wrong way!

SCNDLS said:

CarrieLee said:

Yes it can lay dormant for years but you cannot pass it on whilst its dormant, only when its active.