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PrintableCarrieLee said: SCNDLS said: I guess self-preservation and my personal well-being trumps love on my list.  Me too.  | |
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This is a good question and I honestly don't know how to answer it as I've never been that position before. I really don't know what I would do.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having it in the sense that I don't think it makes them less of a person somehow...like it was some kind of mistake they did or something, or that it automatically means they slept around with anyone...that's just ridiculous. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting it myself. So when you have it, do you only have outbreaks and that's when you're contagious or are you contagious all the time? The answer to that would make a difference to me. | |
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JustErin said: This is a good question and I honestly don't know how to answer it as I've never been that position before. I really don't know what I would do.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having it in the sense that I don't think it makes them less of a person somehow...like it was some kind of mistake they did or something, or that it automatically means they slept around with anyone...that's just ridiculous. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting it myself. So when you have it, do you only have outbreaks and that's when you're contagious or are you contagious all the time? The answer to that would make a difference to me. You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. | |
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SCNDLS said: JustErin said: This is a good question and I honestly don't know how to answer it as I've never been that position before. I really don't know what I would do.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having it in the sense that I don't think it makes them less of a person somehow...like it was some kind of mistake they did or something, or that it automatically means they slept around with anyone...that's just ridiculous. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting it myself. So when you have it, do you only have outbreaks and that's when you're contagious or are you contagious all the time? The answer to that would make a difference to me. You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. And nothing protects you 100% from contracting it. I don't think it makes you less of a person either, shit happens. I just never want to contract it. | |
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SCNDLS said: JustErin said: This is a good question and I honestly don't know how to answer it as I've never been that position before. I really don't know what I would do.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having it in the sense that I don't think it makes them less of a person somehow...like it was some kind of mistake they did or something, or that it automatically means they slept around with anyone...that's just ridiculous. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting it myself. So when you have it, do you only have outbreaks and that's when you're contagious or are you contagious all the time? The answer to that would make a difference to me. You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. What kind of contact spreads the disease? I personally don't view a person with these diseases in any judgmental way. Those of us who don't have STDs are just lucky, really. But that being said, it's not an easy decision. My initial impulse is to say no. But I can't really say that's how I would feel if I fell for somebody with an infection. You just never know. | |
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Imago said: SCNDLS said: You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. What kind of contact spreads the disease? I personally don't view a person with these diseases in any judgmental way. Those of us who don't have STDs are just lucky, really. But that being said, it's not an easy decision. My initial impulse is to say no. But I can't really say that's how I would feel if I fell for somebody with an infection. You just never know. I think even skin to skin contact can transmit the disease due to the shedding. | |
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CarrieLee said: SCNDLS said: You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. And nothing protects you 100% from contracting it. I don't think it makes you less of a person either, shit happens. I just never want to contract it. Oh man, that totally sucks, I didn't know that it was contagious all the time...that makes it even harder to say "yes" to someone with it. Ya, I don't think I could do it. I'm not one for using protection in the first place. | |
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SCNDLS said: Imago said: What kind of contact spreads the disease? I personally don't view a person with these diseases in any judgmental way. Those of us who don't have STDs are just lucky, really. But that being said, it's not an easy decision. My initial impulse is to say no. But I can't really say that's how I would feel if I fell for somebody with an infection. You just never know. I think even skin to skin contact can transmit the disease due to the shedding. Yep. Well, herpes anyway. | |
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Imago said: SCNDLS said: You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. What kind of contact spreads the disease? I personally don't view a person with these diseases in any judgmental way. Those of us who don't have STDs are just lucky, really. But that being said, it's not an easy decision. My initial impulse is to say no. But I can't really say that's how I would feel if I fell for somebody with an infection. You just never know. I think that's the key for me. Absolutely I take care of myself and plan to continue to. But if it were the "perfect person for me" I'm pretty sure it wouldn't scare me away. |
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CarrieLee said: SCNDLS said: You're contagious all the time even when you're not having an active outbreak. And nothing protects you 100% from contracting it. I don't think it makes you less of a person either, shit happens. I just never want to contract it. Totally. I wouldn't judge anyone that had herpes or any other disease and it wouldn't impact my decision to be friends with them at all. But would I have sex with them or embark on a romantic relationship with them??? Hell to tha NAW. Life and relationships are complicated enough why add to the drama AND put my health at risk in the process? It ain't worth it IMO.  | |
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usedtobebliss said: StillGotIt said: look dammit...i said YOUR dream come true!!!  ok ok so she's a hot mute bi chef..... what was the question again?  is this who i THINK it is?
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CarrieLee said: Slow down? It would come to a screeching HAULT!!!! Condoms aren't 100% effective against herpes or HIV and I'm not willing to take that chance. A friend of mine dated a guy with herpes...his girlfriend at the time had it and he was so "in love" with her that he didn't care and wanted to have a baby with her. Well now they aren't together, she's a douche bag and he's got friends for life...on his genitals.
F THAT. My body is more important to me. Girl, yes.
Life is hard enough as it is...  | |
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thekidsgirl said: SirPsycho said: !   :LOVEWILLCONQUERIFYOUJUSTBELIEVE:It's only mountains, and herpeees.  
and stacey i think ur supercute  due to the content i suggest you like this... | |
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Ottensen said: CarrieLee said: Slow down? It would come to a screeching HAULT!!!! Condoms aren't 100% effective against herpes or HIV and I'm not willing to take that chance. A friend of mine dated a guy with herpes...his girlfriend at the time had it and he was so "in love" with her that he didn't care and wanted to have a baby with her. Well now they aren't together, she's a douche bag and he's got friends for life...on his genitals.
F THAT. My body is more important to me. Girl, yes.
Life is hard enough as it is... So anyone that sleeps with someone that has it (even when they are not in the middle of an outbreak) will get it as well. So, I guess people with it only have relationships with those that also have it? I mean, all I ever read about is how soooo many people have this...how do these people even have relationships. | |
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CarrieMpls said: Imago said: What kind of contact spreads the disease? I personally don't view a person with these diseases in any judgmental way. Those of us who don't have STDs are just lucky, really. But that being said, it's not an easy decision. My initial impulse is to say no. But I can't really say that's how I would feel if I fell for somebody with an infection. You just never know. I think that's the key for me. Absolutely I take care of myself and plan to continue to. But if it were the "perfect person for me" I'm pretty sure it wouldn't scare me away. OMG, you totally have a crush on me! | |
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CarrieMpls said: Vendetta1 said: I usually consider myself to be pretty openminded but I agree with Carrie. It may be because I don't believe in "forever" or "the one" anymore. It's bad enough (to me-in my opinion) that you run a risk of someone cheating on you and possibly contracting something but it's something else going into it full on knowing.
So… people who have contracted a disease should reasonably expect never to have a relationship or sex again? Just throwing that out there… | |
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JustErin said: Ottensen said: Girl, yes.
Life is hard enough as it is... So anyone that sleeps with someone that has it (even when they are not in the middle of an outbreak) will get it as well. So, I guess people with it only have relationships with those that also have it? I mean, all I ever read about is how soooo many people have this...how do these people even have relationships. There are all kinds of things you can do to reduce the risk. There are people who have been in relationships with people for years where one has it and the other doesn't and it doesn't get contracted... The risk is still there, of course, but it's possible to not get it. |
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Imago said: CarrieMpls said: I think that's the key for me. Absolutely I take care of myself and plan to continue to. But if it were the "perfect person for me" I'm pretty sure it wouldn't scare me away. OMG, you totally have a crush on me!  |
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CarrieMpls said: JustErin said: So anyone that sleeps with someone that has it (even when they are not in the middle of an outbreak) will get it as well. So, I guess people with it only have relationships with those that also have it? I mean, all I ever read about is how soooo many people have this...how do these people even have relationships. There are all kinds of things you can do to reduce the risk. There are people who have been in relationships with people for years where one has it and the other doesn't and it doesn't get contracted... The risk is still there, of course, but it's possible to not get it. Cool. I figured that it didn't mean that you automatically get it. | |
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CarrieMpls said: Imago said: OMG, you totally have a crush on me! PS - Are you saying you have herpes?  |
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JustErin said: Ottensen said: Girl, yes.
Life is hard enough as it is... So anyone that sleeps with someone that has it (even when they are not in the middle of an outbreak) will get it as well. So, I guess people with it only have relationships with those that also have it? I mean, all I ever read about is how soooo many people have this...how do these people even have relationships. I'm sure they're fucking people who don't have it & coming up w/ convenient excuses not to see their partner during outbreaks (however long they last) - out of town, gotta work, got a cold, basically lying their asses off. How long DO outbreaks last anyway?  I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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CalhounSq said: JustErin said: So anyone that sleeps with someone that has it (even when they are not in the middle of an outbreak) will get it as well. So, I guess people with it only have relationships with those that also have it? I mean, all I ever read about is how soooo many people have this...how do these people even have relationships. I'm sure they're fucking people who don't have it & coming up w/ convenient excuses not to see their partner during outbreaks (however long they last) - out of town, gotta work, got a cold, basically lying their asses off. How long DO outbreaks last anyway? Ya, I wanna know too. Frig, I think I should really educate my ass on things like this...I'm totally ignorant. | |
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JustErin said: CalhounSq said: I'm sure they're fucking people who don't have it & coming up w/ convenient excuses not to see their partner during outbreaks (however long they last) - out of town, gotta work, got a cold, basically lying their asses off. How long DO outbreaks last anyway? Ya, I wanna know too. Frig, I think I should really educate my ass on things like this...I'm totally ignorant. i was just about to say this is really how sex ed should take place (on a prince site | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: There are all kinds of things you can do to reduce the risk. There are people who have been in relationships with people for years where one has it and the other doesn't and it doesn't get contracted... The risk is still there, of course, but it's possible to not get it. Cool. I figured that it didn't mean that you automatically get it. It's twice as easy for women to contract it than men tho. Oh and "An uninfected individual has about a 75% chance of contracting herpes during intimate contact with someone actively shedding virus." http://www.herpes.com/genitalinfo.shtml [Edited 5/11/09 11:51am] | |
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CarrieMpls said: CarrieMpls said: PS - Are you saying you have herpes? no. I'm saying you totally have a crush on me, dufus! | |
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I know someone who has it that didn't pass it but ya know what? If I'm with the one, I don't even want the thought in the back of my mind. I also hate rubbers and do not want to use them in a committed relationship. | |
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ok, I just saw a few pictures of what the outbreaks look like.
Well. Erm.... I don't think I can do it. Again, you never know until you're in the situation. But damn. | |
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Vendetta1 said: I know someone who has it that didn't pass it but ya know what? If I'm with the one, I don't even want the thought in the back of my mind. I also hate rubbers and do not want to use them in a committed relationship.
I hate condoms too. Bliss is fucking the living shit out of somebody... I mean a good, hard, long pounding without a condom. I mean, I'm romantic that way. | |
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Vendetta1 said: I know someone who has it that didn't pass it but ya know what? If I'm with the one, I don't even want the thought in the back of my mind. I also hate rubbers and do not want to use them in a committed relationship.
That’s the only kind of BC I use, ever. I can’t do the pill (I’ve tried various pills at various times in my life and they all make me CRAZY) and IUDs scare me. Nothing else has the success rate of condoms. Someday I’ll get my tubes tied I’m sure but until then, it’s condoms. It’s probably for the best I don’t know the difference. |
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