Well i am not looking for a relationship that will last for ever and ever. As Prince has said.. "Forever is a mighty long time." So i don't need a lot of what you mention. If you stay with one person for that long you could miss out on a lot of great stuff.

Spats said:

Why can I not resist responding to your assinine posts? Can you ever speak to a female as an individual without lumping her in with her entire gender? You're not even listening.

Spats said:

Natisse said:

Keep trying. Believe me, some of us quiet guys love it when a woman makes the first move.

The woman I'm seeing now, we've run into each other on the bus for several years. One night I see her on the bus, she broke the ice, said hi, and asked me to sit next to her. We talked, exchanged numbers and now we're in the early stages of a relationship.

heartbeatocean said:

2 TIMES!!!

CalhounSq said:

What does that even mean?

Because most women think the same and the fact is most women do not make the first move on men. They mostly sit back and wait for the guy to do it. Like this girl. That's not individuality. She is doing what most women do.

As far as the other comment, if you just stay with one woman for years and years and years you could be missing out on other prettier women that are out there. Life is too short for that. You are closing yourself off from other experiences.

OH SHIT, it gets better!!

Spats said:

I was right! Spats IS gonna be the old, bitter fucker in the club still chasin'!!!

Spats said:

I don't understand.

gemini13 said:

Alright, ya'll. I don't think Spats is real.

Really.

No one could possibly be that, er, well... it's just not possible.

Huh? if you lock yourself into a relationship with the same woman for years and years you have closed off all other options. What else can you do? There are millions of pretty women out there that could and will be better than what you are with that you will never get to meet and possibly get involved with. You could be really missing out. Nobody wants to have regrets especially if you didn't have to.

Spats said:

Do you have a small penis or are you really short in stature? Why the need to be involved with as many women as possible? Sounds like some sort of ego insecurity to me.

It's not ego or insecurity. It's wanting some variety and not limiting yourself or closing off your options. And being able to do anything you want and go wherever you want and meet anyone you want. There are so many possibilities out there. The thought of being with the same person year in and year out until you die is a depressing thought.

Spats said:

CarrieMpls said:

DUDE, that's why I started responding to him instead of just rolling my eyes @ his posts. I had to see if he was just baiting or what, but dude is for real

Spats said:

Being with the wrong person would be depressing, but worse than being with the right person year after year, would be dating a string of the wrong people. Call it variety if you will but what a fool you'd be to let go of a good one if they came your way, just in case something better came along.

The odds that the person you are with is the best thing available is not good. There is always someone better. A person would be fooling themselves to think otherwise. Whenever i have been in a relationship i have always kept my eye out. And i have usually been right in doing so.

Spats said:

Spats, you kill me

So you're not looking for a person to connect with at all. You just wanna fuck as many different hot chicks as you can for the rest of your days, right?

Because there will ALWAYS be someone prettier, hotter, seemingly better. And you're up for that endless challenge

CalhounSq said:

well as long as he is a millionaire, he can

charlottegelin said:

That's the beauty of it He'll be SO much more PISSED than he already is in about 5+ years & the cycle will continue to manifest itself. It's beautiful

Why will i be angry? If i met a pretty woman who i connected and with then i would probably stick around for awhile. But not forever. I am not committing myself to that length of time. Out on the dating scene it is hard to find a woman that you would like to be around for more than 20 minutes. Nevermind a lifetime.

Spats said:

I'm sure these ladies are looking for someone long-term - everyone is (provided you are not dating teens). They don't waste their time with someone who is not going to be a keeper.

Yeah, but i don't tell them that i have no intention of being with them for years and years. They don't find out until we're breaking up.

ey, I orgnoted you Spats. Please resond back.

Spats said:

So are you always the one to break it off Spats?

Not always. But most of the time I usually do things to make them break up with me because i am not good at breaking up. There have been a couple times when i have been out and out dumped though. That stung for a little while.

What's an orgnote?

Spats said:

Orgnote is basically a private message. Beneath the title there is a subsection called: Orgnotes. If you received one, there should be some blinking star.

Maybe mine didn't go through.

I basically wanted advice on how to improve our conversations. Due to some traveling with family and friends on Friday, I couldn't come to work to tell him that if he he likes me, he should be more active and take me out somewhere. I called him three times and left two messages. One of them said that if he calls back, he should leave a message. He returned two of my calls and one of them(on Friday) with a message saying that I should get back to him.

It's Monday now and I feel shy to call him back. Do I tell him over the phone that he should take me out to places and open up to me? Previously, when I did speak to him on the phone it was bascially to tell him that my parents found out about the relationship, their reaction and what coworkers are saying. I do not want our phone coversation to be like:
"Hi. How are you? I am fine. School was stressing. Exams coming up. Work could have been more fun. The manager was a jerk." <A 2 minute conversation :/.
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