heartbeatocean said:

Spats said:

you are some kinda piece of work, ya know that ????





seriously, are you for real ????? i mean, basically, you have no responsibility in bed what so ever huh ???? just show up with a hard one, and she can take care of the rest ????? i would put your ass out in a new york second, sorry, i have no use for a man like you, and frankly, i can take care of myself all alone without the issues with taking care of YOUR needs

taking the piss out of eachother is one aspect that has turned petty arguments into fun.

sometimes, ending up in wierd positions, stroking odd parts of eachothers body while watching tv, is a symptom of compatibility.

i presume you mean a loving relationship, not a friendship (with which my last comment may seem a bit intense for friendship).

nakedpianoplayer said:

Shhhhh.....

:whispering to you: This is why he hasn't found anyone compatible yet

I think this kid is pretty young, and has all these inexperienced ideas about love and relationships.

gemini13 said:

:whisperingbacktoyou:

ahhhhh, i see

i get it now

blackbob said:

man i don't even know the answer to this question anymore. i thought i did. combatability does not guarantee you'll be free of wacko/psycho jobs

Here what I look for:

- That she is a biped.

- That she's a she (no room for compromise here).

- That she's alive.

As long as I got these, we have something to build on.

gemini13 said:

Maybe that's it - the age. Especially w/ the no kissing after oral thing. But kids today are SO into oral so it's weird

OR maybe Spats just hasn't been in love yet. Me thinks he hasn't. He's so rigid Good Lord, don't make me feel sorry for this kid



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CalhounSq said:

It sounds like a twelve year old...."Ewwwww, that's grooooosssss"

He's missing out.

Here's what I think... Both people have got to have things in COMMON. Shared Interests,Desires. The Ability to have Fun Together and Laugh. Common Goals. Be Attracted to each other. I think it's the whole Picture if ya Fight and all Forget It. I think Ya Gotta LISTEN TO EACH OTHER and RESPECT EACH OTHER...

Zelaira said:

I am in my twenties. Oral is hugely popular among teens these days so how can you you blame my dislike for it on immaturity? I just don't like it. I have tried it and it's not for me. I am sorry if i find the act disgusting. And i have been in love in the past but being in love does not mean you will do anything the person asks you to.And it does not mean that you have the right to ask them to do anything they are uncomfortable with.

I don't understand why anybody has a problem with what i have said. Nobody involved is doing anything they don't want to do.

Spats said:

BUT can you meet a woman half-way or more than half-way? Consider her needs, desires, interests? Can you relate to her for who she is and step up to the plate? Can you sacrifice your own desires for another? Can you open your heart and respond to a woman from her perspective and honor her point of view?


Is this too scary? Have you ever tried it? The real joy of relationship comes in the sacrifice and giving to another. It's an exchange of love, not a business arrangement. (you might do well with a few whores though)

Sounds like you need to build your self-esteem and sense of individuality first. That's okay, just don't give up on the path, buddy.

Spats,I didn't read your stuff. Here's what I think...If you Don't like Oral ..You Don't Like it. If the woman has a problem with that then you CANNOT be with her. You like her on top...Fine what about Doggie or Other Positions? I say find someone who ya Click with and also have the same SEXUAL Appetites and ya should be just Fine.

I do consider their needs but like i have said before, in none of my experiences have we made each other do stuff that made us uncomfortable.

Can i relate to her and step up to the plate? Not if she is annoying, a nag, self obsorbed, a big mouth, and the other turn offs i have.

I don't have a self esteem problem. I just know what i want and what i don't want.

I agree, Zelaria. If she can't accept what i feel uncomfortable about doing then she knows where the door is. And not I am not into that doggie style routine.

Spats,that's Cool. I think you should STAY IN BED for like a Day and Then Drink Champagne and go for a Swim. Thinking EXTREMELY YOUNG WHY NOT TRY EVERYTHING and DROP DEAD From EXHAUSTION and ORDER a PIZZA?

Spats said:

But it seems like you might find what you're looking for by dwelling on the positive qualities: generosity, reflective, confident, judicious, independent. Your posts are awfully negative and they come across as mysogynistic. Nobody wants those things, but we don't go around ranting about it. If you're hassled by these things, then that's what you're attracting. It has more to do with you, not her.

heartbeatocean said:

It's your outlook dude. If it's rubbing off on message board folks, can you imagine how it rubs off on the "chicks" you meet?

Food for thought

I am not ranting about it. Just aswering threads where the topic comes up. it's not me. They are that way when i meet them. I would love to be more positive but if you ventured out onto the dating scene you would see what i am talking about. The great looking, high quality women that i want are outnumbered by the women i have complained about.

it's because you're so damn shallow mang...like REALLY.
grow up and get over yourself already.

Your reply does not even make sense. The high quality babes are outnumbered by the annoying unappealing ones because I'm shallow???? Huh?

Spats said:

Chalkin' this one up as a hopeless case.

That's what people do when they have been proven wrong. You can't argue what i am saying as fact.

And what the hell does Mang mean?

Spats said:

The fact being that YOU'RE SHALLOW.

Spats said:

forget it man...just...
forget it.
i'm done, like said before by heartbeat...you're a hopeless case
and you'll only realize that when it's too late.
good luck.

Spats said:

CalhounSq said:

i thought i was the only one that found that funny
ohhh mang....

heartbeatocean said:

He's not shallow, he's just completely immature.

I'd almost suspect that he's actually a virgin.

I am not shallow. Just realistic. You are woman so you will have a hard time taking the truth about what most women are like. As i said if you ventured out into the dating scene up here you would turn against your gender.

Spats said:

dont try and tell me what i'm assigned to as a gender, that's your truth, and it's not even a truth, it's an ideal...you're not being realistic you're being idealistic, and your ideals mean nothing to anyone but yourself.
you don't know anything about women
you can't even respect them enough to even try to begin to know women
so i suggest you grow up, and if u can't do that, then give up.