Spats said:

You see, I disagree. You're absolutely UNrealistic. I'm in my thirties, and I've been around the block a time or two. I've conversed with so many men over the years about relationships and sex. I haven't heard about such immature ideals since junior high and high school, which makes me think that you are very young.

Simply put:

You don't know what the fuck you're talking about, dude.

I don't know women? My past relationships, my friends, and Being out in the dating scene has educated me pretty well.

Spats said:

I don't believe you know anything about relationships.

Spats said:

not well enough youngin.

gemini13 said:

and on THAT note...
i believe that you (spats) should never procreate...it just wouldn't be right.

SammiJ said:

Y'know, all of his "bitching and yammering" is getting on my nerves.

I know all i need to know about women today. You are not out in the dating world. You are the one that does not know what you are talking about.I am in my late 20's and must have higher standards than you. I won't put up with the bs and games and issues that come with a lot of women. Life is too short. If you consider that unrealistic that's your problem.

Spats said:

You don't know enough. I CANNOT and DO NOT believe that you're in your late twenties. Where do you live? You couldn't have higher standards than I do, because I choose to be with people based on things that are not superficial. When are you going to post your picture? I need to appraise your worth.

Don't worry, i am average looking. I am never going to be mistaken for Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise. But that does not mean i should settle for an average looking woman.

I don't choose to be only with someone based on the superficial. I have to get along with them. They have to be nice. They can't annoy the hell out me. But they also have to be good looking.If you can hook up with someone who is not phyiscally attractive then god bless you.

Spats said:

I need to know what you look like, I can't take your word for it.

Hurry please.....this is very important.

Even if i wanted to i could not. I don't know how to. Sorry.

Spats said:

Who the hell wants a man who can't even figure out how to post a picture on the Internet?

Do you have any worthwhile skills? Do you know how to take the garbage out? How about fix the car? Handiwork around the house? Do you have anything useful to give? This makes a huge difference.

My boyfriend says that if you don't have a lot of money, the hot girls aren't going to want you. Could this be the problem?

Your boyfriend is right. What the guy does for a living, how much money he makes, what kind of car he drives is important to a lot of women. I meet women like that at clubs all the time.

I don't believe in traditional gender roles. Women should be able to fix the car, to do handiwork, and take out the garbage too.

Spats said:

So what IS your responsibility in the relationship?

I have done my share. As i said, i don't believe in traditional gender roles. There aren't male only responsiblities in relationhips unless you are really old fashioned.

Spats said:

Could you possibly elaborate? Like WHAT have you done? I'm trying to understand what you're saying.

You elaborate. What do you mean what have i done?

i look for someone who can be patient with me. i know i'm a handfull.

just someone who is on the same level as i am in life.

a person who doesn't play mindgames and says whats on their minds.

Spats said:

You said you've done your share. Your share of WHAT exactly?

Come on, keep up with the convo.

I Have taken them out to the movies, out to dinner, bought them things for birthdays, Xmas. All the Stuff that women expect men to do for them. If you don't do that the women are not going to be very happy. I have done my share.

Spats said:

no u haven't
you're lazy...not all women want material things
but you're never gunna get it...so

we don't expect that of men, you give us such a bad name, and in turn, making yourself look like a complete asshole.

If you don't want that then you are such a special person. You are lying if you say women will be happy without that. Or just out of touch with what it's like out there.

Spats said:

Spats, PLEASE indulge me... WHY do you deserve an above average looking woman?

I am not saying i deserve one. But just because i am average looking does not mean i should settle for an average looking woman. I aim higher than that. Life is too short.

Spats said:

Obviously if you were to "settle" for an average looking woman, you feel that an average looking woman is less than what you deserve. That you deserve a "hot" girl. I just want to know WHY you deserve a "hot" girl given that you're average

OR do you realize you really don't deserve much of anything, you just wanna aim that high for the hell of it??

Not just for the hell of it. I am not attracted to average looking girls or plain jane's. I am attracted to hot looking women. You go with what you are attracted to. And you can''t help what you are attracted to.

Maybe a hot looking woman would elevate his self-esteem. He can parade her around as a showpiece. A wear-the-pants kind of hot looking babe who doesn't talk about herself and knows when to pipe down. But why would such a SUPER WOMAN be interested in Spats?

Spats would make a good candidate for Dr. Phil.

This all sounds like a LoveLine call to Adam Carolla.

It has got nothing to do with lack of self esteem. It's about what you are attracted to. What turns you on. And only pretty women turn me on. You cannot control what you are attracted to.

TMPletz said:

I think we all should sign up for Dr. Phil. The org and Spats.