I was thinking the SAME thing. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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WAIT!!! Wait a minute! I co-signed Tinaz post before her Lyle Lovett photo loaded!
I don't think Carrie's baby daddy looks like Lyle Lovett AT ALL!!!
...I think he looks a bit like Althom. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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He's already being referred to as Carries baby daddy!!!!! I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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He is way hotter than Lovett! 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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It's good that you have no pressure from the family - that helps. Thankfully, when my Sister had her third I finally stopped getting asked about it. Up until then it was pretty common for every visit with any family member to involve asking me when I was going to have children (even if I was single at the time ). I think my Mom has taken it the hardest, too. She only has two kids, I'm her first and (obviously) the only male. For some reason she really had it in her mind that I was going to get married, "settle down" and have some Grandkids. Took right around twenty years of me telling her it wasn't going to happen for her to finally believe it.
No exageration, I have ONE friend out of ALL my circles of friends who doesn't have at least one child. She also happens to be an ex and one of my very best, life-long friends. Starting when I was about seventeen, all of a sudden my friends were having kids. They'd just show up all smiley and shit to announce, "we're pregnant!", or "we're having a baby". Most of them weren't married and very few of them stayed together for any length of time after the birth (maybe none of those particular people). Talk about helping to solidify a point of view!
Non car owning vegetarian here as well. We belong to our own society.
OK, I didn't really mean that you would have a child to keep a man around. I mean, I actually know people who have done it, but that's a bit too daytime talk show for most folks. I was more referring to the idea that a coupld finds love, moves in together, maybe gets married, time starts to go by.... and then what? The logical "next step" according to "what you're supposed to do" is have a child. Like, "We love each other and we're going to be together so it's time to have kids." I totally disagree with that on every level. I think that means it's time to explore the world and everything we can do in it. Preferably without having to worry about anybody else. Is that selfish? In some peoples minds, yes, it is. But there are plenty of people having children. Really, there is. So I don't really care about what "some people" think.
I'm glad you're able to reconsider and possibly even change your mind in regards to something you felt so strongly about. I'm not. No marraige. No kids. The first argument in this regard is the end of the relationship.
In the end I guess only you can know what's right for you. Which kind of makes all this rambling a wee bit pointless. But like a few other people have mentioned, it's great that you're talking and thinking about it before just, ya know, doing it. | |
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I think Mr. Carrie AND Althom are way hotter than Lovett! Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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I honestly haven't read the thread but
NATALIA and ANTHONY
as you know, they are perfect. Luck I suppose!
I can say, there is no room for you, nor your personal desires coming first in the equation. The mathematical alignment places you dead last for a few decades. Ive traveled and the like as you know, but when it comes to recession like environments, it's all about them and all that is gone. ( Not that I mind)
There is no room for "me... me... me" in motherhood but I think youd find as most of us do, it isn't an issue once you hold the little screamer! Well look whom I found dipping their toe in the murky waters! :eyeroll: At least offer me a damn cup of coffee! | |
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I... I... I dunno 'bout dat...
I keep hearing how kids can eat into the Guitar Fund...
I keed, I keed.
Mostly... | |
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Oh yes... I forget how much you love your current "babies." Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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lol Its nice to see you both! Well look whom I found dipping their toe in the murky waters! :eyeroll: At least offer me a damn cup of coffee! | |
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I keep getting compliments on the latest one's sound. Here's what that's like for a musician who's chased and paid money to get the sound one's heard in their musical heart for YEARS.
It's like finally getting the number from and going out with that person you've been after for the longest time.... TIMES 10!!!
I'm all for settling down and all that, but I'm really, really happy with my sound right now. In a musical town, shoooooot, that's bread & butter. | |
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Hey, K!
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Hey there!
It's always nice to see you, too! Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Hello sweet gentlemen! Well look whom I found dipping their toe in the murky waters! :eyeroll: At least offer me a damn cup of coffee! | |
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Very cool. Does this mean you're doing lots of gigs lately? Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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Thank the Lord. | |
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Sweet. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
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I have three things to say on this.
1. Many women reach a time in their lives when all of a sudden all they want is a child - don't rule it out and certainly don't make any decisions based on your current feelings as it could all change a few years down the line.
2. Many days I wake up thinking I wish we had never had kids, but every night i go to bed missing them - even though they are sound asleep in their rooms just down the landing. I am welling up now trying to put the feeling into words. So I can't, it is a special thing that cannot be described and I would see it as a terrible thing to never experiece.
3. I have only met you briefly, on a couple of occasions, but you would make an excellent mother. There are too many shit parents in the world, you need to even up the odds, for mankinds sake!! Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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right?
And incidentally, no, I don't think he looks like Lyle Lovett, but I can see what you mean by that particular pic... maybe...
I do think he looks a bit like althom which is hilarious considering when he was still he here he used to ask me to marry him, like, every week.
And yes, my man is way hotter than both of them. |
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You're one of my awesome friends who has awesome kids. |
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Thanks for that last one.
As for maybe changing my mind, that's what I'm trying to open myself up to. And I'm open to it, but I'm definitely not there yet.
My only concern now is what if I don't? I don't want my bf to miss this experience because I don't want it. He's totally a catch, I have no doubt there would be women lining up to have his babies. And we're both getting older. So making these kinds of decisions sooner than later is really only fair to both of us. So now I have to see where he stands with the idea of it never happening. |
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Not many con-kids here, hey? Well I can compare the situation to marriage : I'm 25 and I have many friends my age who decided to get married to "settle down": Not that they DECIDED to settle down, but they thought marriage would make them settle down... Its such a sad sight to behold, watching your friends always asking to go out on a bar and listen to them talking about their regrets "I thought this, but actually...", "I hoped, but...", "I expected,but..." .. And I'm like.. "Dude, why did U get married in the 1rst place only to complain about it few months later??" Such decisions are not simple: Marriage, children, it's all about commitment and sharing... If u are a selfish, party-all-the-time, dreamer, lonesome person like me, think twice.. A child/a wife/husband is not something u get and then sell or give away when you dont want it... You deal with people's feelings/life...
Personnally, maybe it's because I'm still "young", I dont want no wife, no kids : I've seen so much downfalls and hypocrisy (cheating, irresponsible parents, bad educated children) around me that these are two things I know I won't handle...
Any man can make a baby, but it takes a real man to be a father... Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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Just a lot of people who actually read the original post. | |
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So what would you do if he says he can't accept the fact that you don't want to have kids? Maybe you would be a good mother- I don't know you like that- but I don't think it's a good idea to have a baby just to keep him.
"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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It would be a good idea if schools taught parenting. Teach horny young boys just how expensive raising a child is before he sticks his little shlong in Betty.
I'm sooo romantic..lol All you others say Hell Yea!! | |
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I was taking to the Biology teacher today, who told me that a student missed lab on Monday because he had no one to stay home and watch his 2-year-old daughter. He's in 10th grade. I think HE figured it out. "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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I always knew I wanted to be a parent. And I think that's part of it. While I didn't choose to be a father at the time that I did, I'd always wanted to be a parent. But it's a hard thing to describe when talking about the benefits of it, because it is a lot of sacrifice. That's why I applaud folks who know they don't want kids as equally as I do those who do, because there are so many people out there who are raising kids and have no business doing so.
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