I have a hard time understanding some (like I'm the only one).

I like boy. Boy tells me he always liked me. Boy sees me and says he's a little taken back that I'm not all huggy and shit with him. I ask boy to do something, boy says he's outta town for a month or so but we'll go out when he's back. Boy and I talk once online. Goes fine but after that, seems totally uninterested in talking again. Boy comes back in town and we see each other out. Boy isn't friendly with me at all so I just back off - I mean, wouldn't you? Next thing I know I'm being told to "get my head out of my ass" when I try to talk to him. I'm confused and also drunk so I think maybe I did do something wrong. Boy then goes out of his way to tell people close to me that he told me off. I call boy this week to get together for coffee to try and straighten things out. He's says he will call me, and of course, he doesn't. I see boy tonight and again, I am totally ignored, can't even make eye contact and of course says nothing about us getting together. Everyone notices. And once again before I got there, he went on about how I wasn't all friendly with him last week to people close to me.

So, boy hates my guts or WHAT???

Yes, I'm drunk right now.

Boy is a dramaqueen.

Doesn't sound he makes your life better. Or does he really add happinez to your life?

Sounds a bit immature on his part.

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Made me think of De La Soul though

Girl meets boy on Thursday night
Boy was high, girl fly like kite
They hold hands until next day
Boy then let's go, hit his way

Not that it mirrors your situation.

Now I'll have to put that track on.

I'm just a little confused. I feel like he thinks I'm revolting or something.

boy/boi/



johnart said:

boy/boi/

Noun: A male child or young man.



Ok, man. He's a man...almost 40.

JustErin said:

johnart said:

boy/boi/

Noun: A male child or young man.



Ok, man. He's a man...almost 40.

Right, that's my point. What's with the drama? Moody or misreading signals is one thing but going out of his way to tell folk business between you is childish.

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johnart said:

JustErin said:

Ok, man. He's a man...almost 40.

Right, that's my point. What's with the drama? Moody or misreading signals is one thing but going out of his way to tell folk business between you is childish.

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I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Like, it's super rude to see me and not say anything about how we were supposed to go out this week.

Thing is, he's close to my brother so he is going to be around a lot. I talked to my brother about it tonight and he has no fucking clue what the deal is.

Too bad he's kinda cute, if he wasn't I wouldn't care.

JustErin said:

johnart said:

Right, that's my point. What's with the drama? Moody or misreading signals is one thing but going out of his way to tell folk business between you is childish.

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I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Like, it's super rude to see me and not say anything about how we were supposed to go out this week.

Thing is, he's close to my brother so he is going to be around a lot. I talked to my brother about it tonight and he has no fucking clue what the deal is.

Too bad he's kinda cute, if he wasn't I wouldn't care.

Why do you assume you must've done something wrong? Lots of cute people who are close friends of family or other friends are total assholes too. Maybe he's a great friend and a dick bf/fwb

he sounds lame

sounds like a scary pussy

i find that boys get a high telling off girls they think are hot..it boost their ego

johnart said:

JustErin said:

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Like, it's super rude to see me and not say anything about how we were supposed to go out this week.

Thing is, he's close to my brother so he is going to be around a lot. I talked to my brother about it tonight and he has no fucking clue what the deal is.

Too bad he's kinda cute, if he wasn't I wouldn't care.

Why do you assume you must've done something wrong? Lots of cute people who are close friends of family or other friends are total assholes too. Maybe he's a great friend and a dick bf/fwb

I assume because he was said all this stuff about how he always cared so much, always thought I was sexy and blah blah blah...and now, he acts like I am not even there. Won't even make eye contact. Ya ok, so I'm not as young and cute and skinny as I used to be but damn, It makes me feel like he thinks I'm hideous or something.

That man sounds like a boy to me.

JustErin said:

I'm just a little confused. I feel like he thinks I'm revolting or something.

Ignore boy. You're playing his games, by his rules. Write you own rules, don't play ANY games.

In other words, just be yourself. Hang with your friends and don't ever mention it. Or if they ask (i.e., try to perpetuate that drama), just say something nice, or at least neutral. If he's the only one talking a mess they'll get the picture (pretty quickly I would imagine).

It may also make boy interested again, but really, fuck that. I mean, what? He's pissy because you weren't affectionate enough? Whaaaatever. You need a man, woman.

Oh yeah.... one more thing.... STOP BEING SO DAMN SELF-CONSCIOUS! There is nothing wrong with you and confidence is sexy. Ya know?

so you're saying HE choked????

no wonder you're having a hard time figuring that out...

Man? Sounds like a little whiny boy to me.

Do you really need this crap, Erin? Screw him.

...And is this all in Ottawa? If so, aren't you moving away from there, anyway? (Of have you already?)

Cerebus said:

Oh yeah.... one more thing.... STOP BEING SO DAMN SELF-CONSCIOUS! There is nothing wrong with you and confidence is sexy. Ya know?

I agree. Tell him to fuck off.

Timmy84 said:

Cerebus said:

Oh yeah.... one more thing.... STOP BEING SO DAMN SELF-CONSCIOUS! There is nothing wrong with you and confidence is sexy. Ya know?

I agree. Tell him to fuck off.

I wouldn't even give him that satisfaction. Just put that fool on ignore.

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

I'm just a little confused. I feel like he thinks I'm revolting or something.

Ignore boy. You're playing his games, by his rules. Write you own rules, don't play ANY games.

In other words, just be yourself. Hang with your friends and don't ever mention it. Or if they ask (i.e., try to perpetuate that drama), just say something nice, or at least neutral. If he's the only one talking a mess they'll get the picture (pretty quickly I would imagine).

It may also make boy interested again, but really, fuck that. I mean, what? He's pissy because you weren't affectionate enough? Whaaaatever. You need a man, woman.

Yeah, they already get the picture. They know it's not me because they all saw it.

I attempted to work it out by calling him to meet one on one...he's obviously not interested in that at all. I'm cool with that as long as the person has the balls to just say they're not interested.

But this shitting on me stuff to others is soooo weird. Makes me feel so awkard.

And tonight, he just left without telling anyone. Everyone said he was acting odd tonight too, saying shit that came off as him trying to make himself look cool, which he isn't normally like that.

I can't help it, all that stuff makes me super self conscious.

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Lammastide said:

Do you really need this crap, Erin? Screw him.

...And is this all in Ottawa? If so, aren't you moving away from there, anyway? (Of have you already?)

No, no no...this is hickville, dude.

Cerebus said:

Timmy84 said:

I agree. Tell him to fuck off.

I wouldn't even give him that satisfaction. Just put that fool on ignore.

True.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

Ignore boy. You're playing his games, by his rules. Write you own rules, don't play ANY games.

In other words, just be yourself. Hang with your friends and don't ever mention it. Or if they ask (i.e., try to perpetuate that drama), just say something nice, or at least neutral. If he's the only one talking a mess they'll get the picture (pretty quickly I would imagine).

It may also make boy interested again, but really, fuck that. I mean, what? He's pissy because you weren't affectionate enough? Whaaaatever. You need a man, woman.

Yeah, they already get the picture. They know it's not me because they all saw it.

I attempted to work it out by calling him to meet one on one...he's obviously not interested in that at all. I'm cool with that as long as the person has the balls to just say they're not interested.

But this shitting on me stuff to others is soooo weird. Makes me feel so awkard.

And tonight, he just left without telling anyone. Everyone said he was acting odd tonight too, saying shit that came off as him trying to make himself look cool, which he isn't normally like that.

I can't help it, all that stuff makes me super self conscious.

So maybe he's intimidated by how good you look and the fact that you didn't just throw yourself at him. Whatever, dwelling on it in the least is still playing HIS games. Just roll how you usually would and let him drama that shit out on his own.

...did he feel like you were chasing him...they hate that...DONT FOLLOW BEHIND ME...is what i hear.... xoxoxo

JustErin said:

johnart said:

Right, that's my point. What's with the drama? Moody or misreading signals is one thing but going out of his way to tell folk business between you is childish.

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I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here.

I think that is what you are doing wrong

NDRU said:

JustErin said:

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here.

I think that is what you are doing wrong

I TOTALLY agree. If he can't TELL YOU what (if anything) you've done that offended him then its nothing but some lame ass high school drama and that shit is beneath you. Let it go.

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, they already get the picture. They know it's not me because they all saw it.

I attempted to work it out by calling him to meet one on one...he's obviously not interested in that at all. I'm cool with that as long as the person has the balls to just say they're not interested.

But this shitting on me stuff to others is soooo weird. Makes me feel so awkard.

And tonight, he just left without telling anyone. Everyone said he was acting odd tonight too, saying shit that came off as him trying to make himself look cool, which he isn't normally like that.

I can't help it, all that stuff makes me super self conscious.

So maybe he's intimidated by how good you look and the fact that you didn't just throw yourself at him. Whatever, dwelling on it in the least is still playing HIS games. Just roll how you usually would and let him drama that shit out on his own.

Yes, just letting it go and forgetting about it is best....

NDRU said:

JustErin said:

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here.

I think that is what you are doing wrong

Yeah it's all HIS fault.

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