Is this thread about BOYS or MEN??

because, you know, the differences are ABYSMAL

I guess that 40 years old dude is not coherent. I think he just wanted sex...

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JoeTyler said:

ZombieKitten said:

JoeTyler said:

Is this thread about BOYS or MEN??

because, you know, the differences are ABYSMAL

[Edited 4/10/11 4:32am]

It's about some old bloke

edit

damn you're fast

JustErin said:

I have a hard time understanding some (like I'm the only one).

I like boy. Boy tells me he always liked me. Boy sees me and says he's a little taken back that I'm not all huggy and shit with him. I ask boy to do something, boy says he's outta town for a month or so but we'll go out when he's back. Boy and I talk once online. Goes fine but after that, seems totally uninterested in talking again. Boy comes back in town and we see each other out. Boy isn't friendly with me at all so I just back off - I mean, wouldn't you? Next thing I know I'm being told to "get my head out of my ass" when I try to talk to him. I'm confused and also drunk so I think maybe I did do something wrong. Boy then goes out of his way to tell people close to me that he told me off. I call boy this week to get together for coffee to try and straighten things out. He's says he will call me, and of course, he doesn't. I see boy tonight and again, I am totally ignored, can't even make eye contact and of course says nothing about us getting together. Everyone notices. And once again before I got there, he went on about how I wasn't all friendly with him last week to people close to me.

So, boy hates my guts or WHAT???

Yes, I'm drunk right now.

run! run far and run fast!

ZombieKitten said:

Well when he finally does explain himself I want to hear this. Hopefully it's not something lame like someone told him to "treat her mean to keep her keen" although that's kind of working, I mean you're nearly obsessing over him now!!!

yes it's the same story I used to hear from all those girls I liked in high school who thought I was "sweet"

what is a bloke??? ...

and what is blarney???

oh and bullocks....

hes a man!!say no more!porn will never ignore u,never let u down & is always there 4u when u want it & if used correctly can b ur best friend. take care erin.

JoeTyler said:

I guess that 40 years old dude is not coherent. I think he just wanted sex...

[Edited 4/10/11 4:35am]

Yep.

Unless this guy is well endowed , you had intimate relations with him in the past, and he was awesome in bed, you don't need this kind of drama. He seems like he is still doing that adolescent crap, and you don't need that from a 40 year old dude. You're better off looking for someone else.

ZombieKitten said:

Well when he finally does explain himself I want to hear this. Hopefully it's not something lame like someone told him to "treat her mean to keep her keen" although that's kind of working, I mean you're nearly obsessing over him now!!!

Uuuuuuh-yep.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

Well when he finally does explain himself I want to hear this. Hopefully it's not something lame like someone told him to "treat her mean to keep her keen" although that's kind of working, I mean you're nearly obsessing over him now!!!

yes it's the same story I used to hear from all those girls I liked in high school who thought I was "sweet"

Yeah, but there's a cool way to do that and a lame-ass, immature drama way to do it. This dude is definitely rolling hard with the latter concept.

JustErin said:

johnart said:

Right, that's my point. What's with the drama? Moody or misreading signals is one thing but going out of his way to tell folk business between you is childish.

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Like, it's super rude to see me and not say anything about how we were supposed to go out this week.

Thing is, he's close to my brother so he is going to be around a lot. I talked to my brother about it tonight and he has no fucking clue what the deal is.

Too bad he's kinda cute, if he wasn't I wouldn't care.

Why? I mean...seriously. Why put any effort whatsoever into figuring out why a total asshole is behaving in a juvenile manner? Especially a 40-year-old "man" who acts like a 15-year-old girl.

Oh - and don't put your brother in the middle. That isn't fair to him.

FauxReal said:

I am pretty sure we've talked about said boy a while back and I suggested maybe you should see where it leads and all. Knowing now that he's basically boasting about telling you off while acting like an ass, I would like to take that suggestion back. I'd say don't bother with him.

Yeah, lost cause.

eighteenandover said:

JustErin said:

I have a hard time understanding some (like I'm the only one).

I like boy. Boy tells me he always liked me. Boy sees me and says he's a little taken back that I'm not all huggy and shit with him. I ask boy to do something, boy says he's outta town for a month or so but we'll go out when he's back. Boy and I talk once online. Goes fine but after that, seems totally uninterested in talking again. Boy comes back in town and we see each other out. Boy isn't friendly with me at all so I just back off - I mean, wouldn't you? Next thing I know I'm being told to "get my head out of my ass" when I try to talk to him. I'm confused and also drunk so I think maybe I did do something wrong. Boy then goes out of his way to tell people close to me that he told me off. I call boy this week to get together for coffee to try and straighten things out. He's says he will call me, and of course, he doesn't. I see boy tonight and again, I am totally ignored, can't even make eye contact and of course says nothing about us getting together. Everyone notices. And once again before I got there, he went on about how I wasn't all friendly with him last week to people close to me.

So, boy hates my guts or WHAT???

Yes, I'm drunk right now.

You've done nothing wrong, he has no right to be treating you that way. I hate guys like this, they're great when it comes to fucking with your mind .. but that's about it.

If I were you I wouldn't have anything to do with the guy from now. You've tried, there's only so long you can put up with his shit - Personally, I think it's time for you to hit the road, no matter how hard it'll be - it'll only benefit you in the long run

He'll be around a lot, but I'll just do my own thing.

ZombieKitten said:

Well when he finally does explain himself I want to hear this. Hopefully it's not something lame like someone told him to "treat her mean to keep her keen" although that's kind of working, I mean you're nearly obsessing over him now!!!

I obsess over every dude to a certain degree.

Timmy84 said:

JoeTyler said:

I guess that 40 years old dude is not coherent. I think he just wanted sex...

[Edited 4/10/11 4:35am]

Yep.

No, I am the one wanting sex.

728huey said:

Unless this guy is well endowed , you had intimate relations with him in the past, and he was awesome in bed, you don't need this kind of drama. He seems like he is still doing that adolescent crap, and you don't need that from a 40 year old dude. You're better off looking for someone else.

No, never hooked up.

He's got issues.

Genesia said:

JustErin said:

I'm still trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Like, it's super rude to see me and not say anything about how we were supposed to go out this week.

Thing is, he's close to my brother so he is going to be around a lot. I talked to my brother about it tonight and he has no fucking clue what the deal is.

Too bad he's kinda cute, if he wasn't I wouldn't care.

Why? I mean...seriously. Why put any effort whatsoever into figuring out why a total asshole is behaving in a juvenile manner? Especially a 40-year-old "man" who acts like a 15-year-old girl.

Oh - and don't put your brother in the middle. That isn't fair to him.

I didn't put my brother in the middle - he did. I talked to him about it because I was pissed he was in the middle by him. I've asked both my brother and his gf to just let it go and not say anything to him on my behalf and to just tell him to leave them out of it if he talks to them about it again.

Why Erin, why?

Why do you spend time and energy thinking about what you did wrong?

Why don't you spend time and energy in elevating your standard to men who are not messing with your mind and heart?

Spend time and energy with men who are straightforward, honest, responsible, reliable, loving and f*** you real hard every night?

Please, you'r not worthy of a guy like this. Take someone of your own size and level

You know you;r better than this

JustErin said:

Timmy84 said:

Yep.

No, I am the one wanting sex.

With that punk ass???

dJJ said:

Why Erin, why?

Why do you spend time and energy thinking about what you did wrong?

Why don't you spend time and energy in elevating your standard to men who are not messing with your mind and heart?

Spend time and energy with men who are straightforward, honest, responsible, reliable, loving and f*** you real hard every night?

Please, you'r not worthy of a guy like this. Take someone of your own size and level

You know you;r better than this

Yes, I know. But other then wanting to know what his deal is, I'm not doing much else. I'm not chasing him...yeah, I'm venting about it...but that's about it.

Timmy84 said:

JustErin said:

No, I am the one wanting sex.

With that punk ass???

Sure, it's not like I'm getting it anywhere else.

Quit hanging around boys and start hanging around MEN!

RodeoSchro said:

Quit hanging around boys and start hanging around MEN!

I'm trying to!

why do you want to be hanging around someone who is treating you so poorly?

BlackAdder7 said:

why do you want to be hanging around someone who is treating you so poorly?

It's the old trap women always fall into...I just want to know what the fuck his deal is with me - because obviously there is some kind of issue. Honestly it's bugging me. I know I'll probably never know and I know that it really shouldn't matter and that I'll just need to move the fuck on.

JustErin said:

BlackAdder7 said:

why do you want to be hanging around someone who is treating you so poorly?

It's the old trap women always fall into...I just want to know what the fuck his deal is with me - because obviously there is some kind of issue. Honestly it's bugging me. I know I'll probably never know and I know that it really shouldn't matter and that I'll just need to move the fuck on.

just ignore him. you'll bug the crap out of him, and then you'll have to upper hand to get his story.

BlackAdder7 said:

JustErin said:

It's the old trap women always fall into...I just want to know what the fuck his deal is with me - because obviously there is some kind of issue. Honestly it's bugging me. I know I'll probably never know and I know that it really shouldn't matter and that I'll just need to move the fuck on.

just ignore him. you'll bug the crap out of him, and then you'll have to upper hand to get his story.

I don't want to play games to be honest. But I also am not the kind of person to give attention to someone who acts like I am invisible/not worthy of any respect so ignoring is the route I'm going to go. As long as people keep telling him to keep his bullshit to himself if he complains to them that I'm being a bitch, this should all just eventually go away...I hope.

I with I could help you out just a lil' bit more but I can't; in situations like this, I just don't think too much about it, if a woman wants to , fine, if she doesn't call me anymore I guess she doesn't want to , simple...

If I were you, I'd divide men in 3 cathegories:

-men who clearly want to you

-men who don't want to you (for whatever reason)

-men who act weird/like assholes in order to you

your man (boy?) clearly falls into the last cathegory...