I can honestly say that I was never bored with any orger here.... there are some crazy people up in this piece... all interesting... a few irritating...some wonderfully entertaining.... but NEVER boring.

Prince music attracts some really creative people and most people here are the least predictable I have run into... well, um... in the cyber world...

This is why I love the org... things may stay the same and go in cycles, but things are never too boring at all.

ufoclub said:

I dunno if I'm interesting, but I'm unique! In both good ways and bad.

UNIQUE is a precursor to Interesting.

paintedlady said:

I can honestly say that I was never bored with any orger here.... there are some crazy people up in this piece... all interesting... a few irritating...some wonderfully entertaining.... but NEVER boring.

Prince music attracts some really creative people and most people here are the least predictable I have run into... well, um... in the cyber world...

This is why I love the org... things may stay the same and go in cycles, but things are never too boring at all.

Like I said...I think that just being on the Org makes us all interesting people!

Some of us just need to expand on that to make our lives a little more interesting I guess.

I exude human interest and mental clarity.

I really don't think so

Im not trying to get any " oh yes you are pickles" comments either

I honestly don't believe im interesting. I get ignored a lot and I feel even at my best i just blend in with the crowd. If i do "let it all hang out" People think im a weirdo asshole...

Not many people give me compliements about anything so i gues im just some random person living in the world

I get more attention on this website than in real life... a tragic disgrace

PurpleJedi said:

ZombieKitten said:

She has every right to feel a certain way, but the way she expressed it lacked any kind of tact or respect, and we also know her opinion is coloured by her own boredom with everything in contrast to the excitement she has been feeling with Mr New.

So although I applaud PJ for taking it as a much needed kick in the ass to get his life full of life again, I'm also of the opinion he shouldn't take what she said 100% personally.

How can that NOT be taken personally?

Doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Maybe this angst is making me more of an interesting person in & of itself?!

I don't think the dissatisfaction lies solely with you is all!

PurpleJedi said:

This is inspired by a comment made by Punkmistress on Missfee's thread about "not being with the one you love".

In one of the many discussions/arguments/talks that my "wife" and I have had, she flat-out told me that it was 'pathetic' that my identity was based solely on her and the kids. That I have no outside interests or hobbies.

After the anger subsided, I realized that she is correct. Throwing myself into the role of father/provider 100% has made me a boring individual. Besides Prince.org and sci-fi books there really isn't anything that I dedicated time to for myself personally. It was work, sleep, eat, and dedicate time to the kids.

Now that I'm looking towards bachelorhood again, I find myself struggling to find anything interesting about myself. I like to travel - but it's all been kid-related trips since 1998. I enjoy dining out, but it's all been kid-friendly chain restaurants. I enjoy the movies, but it's been mostly Pixar and Dreamworks for as long as I can remember.

I'm afraid that I've allowed myself to become a very boring individual.

So step 1 is now to find interesting things that I enjoy and pursue them. Such as going into NYC and trying out new restaurants, or catching interesting exhibits at the MOMA, or even as my cousin suggested; start watching Sports just to be able to "talk sports". Hell...I'm even considering Golf and Yoga for Christian's sake.

SO...what about YOU?

Are you an interesting person? What makes you so?

If you you keyed in here is true and you did give 100%, you deserve a maximum hug with a whole lot of love. If being dedicated to being a provider for your family got you off track of a social life and a time for you and her, then I feel that maybe just maybe if someone would have had your bath water ran and ready, your favorite dinner brought up to the bedroom, sweet roses between the sheets and a night of "honey your appreciated," time, might have given you time to realize you were worth loving and being cared for.

Providing 100% to the family is a tedious thing these days. I don't know you, but I send you a "royal hug" for all the good you've done over the years. (((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))

Please don't agree with "boring," just say you have been "socially dormant." "it was beyond your control."

i'm interesting in the nude. i'm sort of tedious otherwise.

PurpleJedi said:

This is inspired by a comment made by Punkmistress on Missfee's thread about "not being with the one you love".

In one of the many discussions/arguments/talks that my "wife" and I have had, she flat-out told me that it was 'pathetic' that my identity was based solely on her and the kids. That I have no outside interests or hobbies.

After the anger subsided, I realized that she is correct. Throwing myself into the role of father/provider 100% has made me a boring individual. Besides Prince.org and sci-fi books there really isn't anything that I dedicated time to for myself personally. It was work, sleep, eat, and dedicate time to the kids.

Now that I'm looking towards bachelorhood again, I find myself struggling to find anything interesting about myself. I like to travel - but it's all been kid-related trips since 1998. I enjoy dining out, but it's all been kid-friendly chain restaurants. I enjoy the movies, but it's been mostly Pixar and Dreamworks for as long as I can remember.

I'm afraid that I've allowed myself to become a very boring individual.

So step 1 is now to find interesting things that I enjoy and pursue them. Such as going into NYC and trying out new restaurants, or catching interesting exhibits at the MOMA, or even as my cousin suggested; start watching Sports just to be able to "talk sports". Hell...I'm even considering Golf and Yoga for Christian's sake.

SO...what about YOU?

Are you an interesting person? What makes you so?

Okay, wifey is kinda pissin' me off here because it sounds like she's trying to deflect attention from her wrongdoing by dumping on you. In other words, she wants to feel justified in what she did because you're not 'Mr. Excitement"? It's bs and the way she said it by calling you pathetic is emotionally abusive.

It also makes my blood boil because there's so many ladies out here who are sick at heart because of fathers who don't give a damn about their kids.

Judging by the many interesting threads and comments you post here I wouldn't call you boring at all. Granted, wifey knows you better than I, but even if you had the personality of shoe leather, that still doesn't make it okay for her to trash you in order to ease her guilt.

None of us are perfect...so what? People who always think the grass is greener somewhere else never realize that it's probably because they seldom take time to water their own damn grass.

Movng on, if you think there's some validity to what she says then a good place to start would be looking at the things that interested you when you were young and carefree. Just about everyone has some special interest or talent that they maybe forgot about when they settled down. What kinds of things were you drawn to before?

Oh yeah, I'm quite fascinating!

ZombieKitten said:

I have a lot of interests, my life is super glamorous But I can be quite shy sometimes and I've totally been written off by people before they even get to know me, but if I think about it, the people I have let down my guard to really seem to like me and being around me, and I love them

And your blouse.

PunkMistress said:

PurpleJedi said:

Thanks to you...!

She's a bitch.

You're a great person and plenty of people are extremely interested in a devoted father and husband. I'm sure she was too until she got bored, which happened because she's a bitch - not because you're boring.

paintedlady said:

For your wife to say you were boring shows a lack of creativity on her part.

Even in the most mudane situations, fun can happen... small experiences that can be well, quite memorable. That's the beauty of life... that journey that you decide to take with someone can get well, like a routine... but its the creativity in our own minds that can put some umph in things and keep stuff interesting... usually the umph tends to be stress (like losing a job, and injury, sickness... or other bad crap that can happen) that makes you glad for the more "boring" days.

But why does the routing have to be a bad thing? I am the kind of person that finds joy in the "little things in life" since I am so bogged down being a mom, I have little energy to focus on me right now... but there is a season for everything and focusing on me is not the priority right now. I am still enjoying the role of mom.... now I still get my groove on in little spurts from time to time, but I will feel guilty if I spend too much time away from my kids.

So I do things that we all enjoy... together... and that is quite nice.

Keep being you and life you how ever you like to... do what makes YOU happy. If someone thinks you should do otherwise, tell the bitch to fuck off.

Here's to your own brand of happiness cheers!

Preach it sis,

I'm not terribly interesting IMHO. I think some people are initially interested in me because I talk very little compared to those around me. But once they start to know me better and realize there's really nothing behind the silence, the interest wanes.

I'm noticing the older I get the faster time passes by!

Were all here for a short time. I say live life to the fullest.

Enjoy this thing called life. Keep an open mind, & try new things.

I'm not going to leave this place with regrets!

kewlschool said:

ZombieKitten said:

I have a lot of interests, my life is super glamorous But I can be quite shy sometimes and I've totally been written off by people before they even get to know me, but if I think about it, the people I have let down my guard to really seem to like me and being around me, and I love them

And your blouse.

Honestly? Yeah, I'm a boring person, but truthfully I think everybody is boring.

paintedlady said:

imago said:

I exude human interest and mental clarity.

...but it's all dwarfed by your mad photoshop skills!

formallypickles said:

I really don't think so

Im not trying to get any " oh yes you are pickles" comments either

I honestly don't believe im interesting. I get ignored a lot and I feel even at my best i just blend in with the crowd. If i do "let it all hang out" People think im a weirdo asshole...

Not many people give me compliements about anything so i gues im just some random person living in the world

I get more attention on this website than in real life... a tragic disgrace

In the "Introvert" article that I read...it discussed the difference between an true introvert and a shy person.

Two people at a party standing against the wall...the introvert is happy to be standing there watching things unfold around them...whereas the shy person would LIKE to be out in the thick of things but is too shy.

If you are an introvert, then don't feel bad about "blending in" because that is your nature. If you're just suffering from shyness, then grab a shot of tequila and don't worry about what others say when you let it all hang out. Just makes you more INTERESTING!!!

ZombieKitten said:

PurpleJedi said:

How can that NOT be taken personally?

Doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Maybe this angst is making me more of an interesting person in & of itself?!

I don't think the dissatisfaction lies solely with you is all!

whistle said:

i'm interesting in the nude. i'm sort of tedious otherwise.

babynoz said:

Okay, wifey is kinda pissin' me off here because it sounds like she's trying to deflect attention from her wrongdoing by dumping on you. In other words, she wants to feel justified in what she did because you're not 'Mr. Excitement"? It's bs and the way she said it by calling you pathetic is emotionally abusive.

It also makes my blood boil because there's so many ladies out here who are sick at heart because of fathers who don't give a damn about their kids.

Judging by the many interesting threads and comments you post here I wouldn't call you boring at all. Granted, wifey knows you better than I, but even if you had the personality of shoe leather, that still doesn't make it okay for her to trash you in order to ease her guilt.

None of us are perfect...so what? People who always think the grass is greener somewhere else never realize that it's probably because they seldom take time to water their own damn grass.

Movng on, if you think there's some validity to what she says then a good place to start would be looking at the things that interested you when you were young and carefree. Just about everyone has some special interest or talent that they maybe forgot about when they settled down. What kinds of things were you drawn to before?

Besides Prince...I like art, movies, and food. Oh, and writing...but I can never finish anything that I start. I have about 5 or 6 stories that never got past the first few chapters.

In fact, I've dug up some of those papers and have started to write again (one in particular I think I can rewrite to fit what I'm dealing with now).

I suppose that if I actually do become a published author some day, there'll be NO DOUBT as to my level of awesomeness!!!

babynoz said:

Oh yeah, I'm quite fascinating!

Yes you are!

PurpleJedi said:

babynoz said:

PurpleJedi said:

This is inspired by a comment made by Punkmistress on Missfee's thread about "not being with the one you love".

In one of the many discussions/arguments/talks that my "wife" and I have had, she flat-out told me that it was 'pathetic' that my identity was based solely on her and the kids. That I have no outside interests or hobbies.

After the anger subsided, I realized that she is correct. Throwing myself into the role of father/provider 100% has made me a boring individual. Besides Prince.org and sci-fi books there really isn't anything that I dedicated time to for myself personally. It was work, sleep, eat, and dedicate time to the kids.

Now that I'm looking towards bachelorhood again, I find myself struggling to find anything interesting about myself. I like to travel - but it's all been kid-related trips since 1998. I enjoy dining out, but it's all been kid-friendly chain restaurants. I enjoy the movies, but it's been mostly Pixar and Dreamworks for as long as I can remember.

I'm afraid that I've allowed myself to become a very boring individual.

So step 1 is now to find interesting things that I enjoy and pursue them. Such as going into NYC and trying out new restaurants, or catching interesting exhibits at the MOMA, or even as my cousin suggested; start watching Sports just to be able to "talk sports". Hell...I'm even considering Golf and Yoga for Christian's sake.

SO...what about YOU?

Are you an interesting person? What makes you so?

Okay, wifey is kinda pissin' me off here because it sounds like she's trying to deflect attention from her wrongdoing by dumping on you. In other words, she wants to feel justified in what she did because you're not 'Mr. Excitement"? It's bs and the way she said it by calling you pathetic is emotionally abusive.

It also makes my blood boil because there's so many ladies out here who are sick at heart because of fathers who don't give a damn about their kids.

Judging by the many interesting threads and comments you post here I wouldn't call you boring at all. Granted, wifey knows you better than I, but even if you had the personality of shoe leather, that still doesn't make it okay for her to trash you in order to ease her guilt.

None of us are perfect...so what? People who always think the grass is greener somewhere else never realize that it's probably because they seldom take time to water their own damn grass.

Movng on, if you think there's some validity to what she says then a good place to start would be looking at the things that interested you when you were young and carefree. Just about everyone has some special interest or talent that they maybe forgot about when they settled down. What kinds of things were you drawn to before?

I agree with Babynoz. It does seem like your wife is telling you these things to justify her actions. You seem like a loving caring parent, and it's too bad she doesn't appreciate that.

I believe all people are interesting in their own unique way, but sometimes surround themselves with people who just don't have the same interests, which doesn't make one boring because of that. If you're comfortable with the things you like, then make the best of it for yourself. True happiness can be found within, because others can't find it for you or be that for you. Once you're secure, confident with who you are as a human being and your interests/talents/gifts, then no one else can take that away from you unless you allow them to.

It seems, you're going through a time period right now where you are searching your soul and there's nothing wrong with that. I guarantee in the end, you will surprise yourself. About your writing, and not completing some of it, well that happens to a lot of people who have an interest in writing, and go through "dry spells" but eventually you'll find yourself returning to complete some of if not all.

You come across as a person with a calm demeanor and a lot of patience, which in and of itself are good qualities. I think you'd do good starting a blog of your own, because from your postings, you seem to post threads of interest that promote discussion.

Best of luck to you during this time in your life, and never allow anyone to degrade/belittle or define you, to the point you have to question your own validity or existence. Peace.

[Edited 6/9/11 8:25am]

I'm sorry that she said that to you.....it's true that, that does tend to happen, but you would think people would be grateful to how commited you are instead of knocking it.....

It is hard though, when childrens activities and spouses consume so much of your life, you kind of lose yourself and there really is no spare time for anything else.

Soooooo......based on your "wifes" analysis of what makes people interesting, I'm quite a bore.

Now that you have more free time, I am sure you will find things that make you happy and that you enjoy doing.

Is there a cause that you are especially passionate about?

I started volunteering for the local Women in Crisis Center here and we also make dinner for the people staying at the Ronald McDonald house once a month. I relate to the people at both places and so I enjoy giving back to those two groups, and places like that are always looking for help. You feel good when you're there helping, and it's also a great way to meet people you never would have met otherwise.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm sorry that she said that to you.....it's true that, that does tend to happen, but you would think people would be grateful to how commited you are instead of knocking it.....

It is hard though, when childrens activities and spouses consume so much of your life, you kind of lose yourself and there really is no spare time for anything else.

Soooooo......based on your "wifes" analysis of what makes people interesting, I'm quite a bore.

Now that you have more free time, I am sure you will find things that make you happy and that you enjoy doing.

Is there a cause that you are especially passionate about?

I started volunteering for the local Women in Crisis Center here and we also make dinner for the people staying at the Ronald McDonald house once a month. I relate to the people at both places and so I enjoy giving back to those two groups, and places like that are always looking for help. You feel good when you're there helping, and it's also a great way to meet people you never would have met otherwise.

That's awesome!

You are definitely not a bore then!

I used to be passionate about social injustice on a grand scale...the Native American genocide for example...perhaps you're onto something...

Interesting point, I agree with her, but no disrespect. I have an aunt that is only with my uncle and kids a lot and they do EVERYTHING together. I think they should vacation on their own to have a break, especially cause they had no honeymoon, but they don't believe in that. If they go out with friends, it's all together, and the only thing she seems to do away from them is go to work parties. I can NEVER just be with family if I ever decided to have one. I had a boyfriend who wanted me all to himself and I couldn't stand him and eventually dumped him. I have to have multiple things to do cause I can't sit still anyways. Even when I got a job after my degree and tried to be serious and working, I was unhappy until I pushed myself to have a social life with fun people regardless of being an introvert, and realized it created a balance for me, especially cause I work at the kind of job where burnout can happen quickly if you don't take care of yourself. It is so important to not let a single thing like a job or a family or religion solely identify who you are. We have multiple identities, traits, should have lots of interests and be openminded, and then we can attract aiming for inner peace instead of expecting it to be handed to us.

PurpleJedi said:

In one of the many discussions/arguments/talks that my "wife" and I have had, she flat-out told me that it was 'pathetic' that my identity was based solely on her and the kids.

My wife's never come out and said that to me, but she's alluded to it, and my father's said it. I've thought about it a few times, too. Shit, the kids I spend a lot of time with aren't even my own, but rather my nephews. I'm cool with it though. My wife doesn't like spending as much time with me as I'm happy to with her, so she does her own thing more these days as we find a good balance for us. I'm ok with how things are, I've decided. I have a few little interests here and there. I just like seeing people happy though, seeing my family here happy and doing ok, and when I can do things towards that end I feel like nothing's missing. I feel content and I sleep well. I put in a lot of effort with our youngest nephew as far as spending quality time with him, and I'll occasionally bitch about the sacrifices, but all in all it's some of the best fun I have. It feels really worthwhile and I think family is increasingly important to me. I've lost interest in other things, in some material things, and I'm loathe to buy 'stuff' for myself much of time. It's not some altruistic, noble thing, it's just what interests me now, what's important, what brings me the most happiness seems to have changed this last 5 or 6 years.

I think I'm an interesting person in so far as I interest myself, make myself laugh. As for if others find me interesting, I think I come across as a bit dull, a bit stiff and restrained perhaps, in some (not all) situations, but that's alright. Occasionally my wife will gaze at me for a moment when I say (or sing hehe) something perhaps a little odd or funny and she has this cute smile on her face. She'll say "I love you" and I know it's like part of a longer, partly unspoken sentence along the lines of "sometimes I remember just why I love you". I think I possibly keep a bit too much of myself to myself most of the time, I don't know why. Maybe I'm potentially very, very interesting, who knows!