Alej said:

Serious said:

Alej said:

ZombieKitten said:

I have a lot of interests, my life is super glamorous But I can be quite shy sometimes and I've totally been written off by people before they even get to know me, but if I think about it, the people I have let down my guard to really seem to like me and being around me, and I love them

You're amessing

He's saying it better than I ever could .

dJJ said:

PurpleJedi said:

Yeah...selfish, self-centered & egotistical...that's my honey.

It just blew me away that she'd say that when - right or wrong - it was to her benefit that I was who I was. And yeah, with 3 kids only 2 years apart each...it's been diapers & doctors appointments & dance recitals & PTA meetings seemingly non-stop. It's only NOW that they're a bit older and can fend for themselves just a bit, that we should be enjoying more "us" time.

But whatever. Now it's finding "me" time to become a more interesting individual.

I wonder how long I would last in an MMA school???

Did you do it because then she had to be thankful for you and love you in return?

Or did you do it because you enjoy family life and nurturing?

I think it's just my personality.

Funny thing; I read an article in "Psychology Today" about Introverts...supposedly one of the differences between us is that Introverts place a low priority on the pursuit of happiness, while Extroverts make it a very high priority.

I enjoy making people happy. I enjoy giving more than getting. It actually shames me to accept a gift most of the time. I am the office "feeder" (always running out to get breakfast & lunch). Accepting a drink from a buddy at a bar is something I had to get used to.

So giving is in my nature and it just seemed the most natural thing to do. My dad dedicated his life to providing for our family, and I simply followed suit. I love(d) her and assumed she did as well. Now that the truth is out, I am having a hard time being the "bad guy" (as you already know). In fact, even now, it took everything I had to stand firm and not pay her cell phone bill (she can't afford to pay the old bill and the new phone that she bought on the down-low to text her lover).

Interesting question!

I'm proud that you didn't pay her bill. Don't let her manipulate you that much!

I'm the same. However, nowadays I only care for people whom I know for certain that they don't use me. My nurturing character has been favoring a lot of people. However, not myself.

I still love to nurture and give. However, I also started to take and take care of myself.

Life became much better. Now that I'm getting more independent, it's getting better. My tendency to avoid my own life by taking care of others is still very much present.

I'm working on it though. So, in the future I can be nurturing without the emotional blackmail behind it.

PurpleJedi said:

CallMeCarrie said:

To answer your question... I think I am interesting person, but I don't think that others will necessarily find me interesting. Ususally the people who find me interesting are people who share my interests or want to sleep with me!

So my opinion is that we should be who we are for our own satisfaction and not just to be considered interesting by someone else.

Screw your ex! In fact screw anyone who finds it necessary to comment on whether they consider you interesting or not. You get to live your life however you want. If you are happy going to pixar movies, sitting on the couch and drinking beer, reading a book, whatever...then that is what you should do!

However if you have the urge for some adventure, excitement, culture, or variety - then by all means go out and explore your options.

The world is your oyster, my friend!

You're correct on all counts.

I don't think that it's possible to be interesting to EVERYONE, but it's good to have hobbies,etc. that you can share & discuss with others.

...actually...doesn't being a member of the Org make us ALL a bit more interesting than the average person?

It either makes us all very interesting or sadly pathetic.

I can't decide which.

CallMeCarrie said:

It makes me more interesting for others when I'm not rambling on about Prince all the time. Therefore, the org is a good place to channel that hobby

Unfortunetaly it turned into an addiction. I have very low impulse control.

PunkMistress said:

Interesting question!

Thanks to you...!

CallMeCarrie said:

PurpleJedi said:

...actually...doesn't being a member of the Org make us ALL a bit more interesting than the average person?

It either makes us all very interesting or sadly pathetic.

I can't decide which.

...maybe a little bit of BOTH?

dJJ said:

It makes me more interesting for others when I'm not rambling on about Prince all the time. Therefore, the org is a good place to channel that hobby

Unfortunetaly it turned into an addiction. I have very low impulse control.

PurpleJedi said:

PunkMistress said:

Interesting question!

Thanks to you...!

She's a bitch.

You're a great person and plenty of people are extremely interested in a devoted father and husband. I'm sure she was too until she got bored, which happened because she's a bitch - not because you're boring.

PunkMistress said:

PurpleJedi said:

Thanks to you...!

She's a bitch.

You're a great person and plenty of people are extremely interested in a devoted father and husband. I'm sure she was too until she got bored, which happened because she's a bitch - not because you're boring.

Phishanga said:

I truely believe that everyone, EVERYONE, is "interesting". You might not enjoy talking to someone because his or her topics just aren't for you. But I find it endlessly interesting what makes us "us" (experiences, upbringing, circumstance, biology etc.) and therefore everyone is interesting.

100% agree on this

Your wife I think went a little overboard (and no offense, but it sounds like she's maybe getting a little mid-life crisis-y).

You should do stuff that makes you feel happy and fulfilled, and just try new things that have always interested you. It's okay to be a little selfish, but for God's sake, PLEASE don't start forcing yourself to like something (like sports) just cause you feel like you should. That is lame.

As for me... Well I'm the most interesting person in the world!

Genesia said:

Lammastide said:

It's one thing to encourage a partner to develop interests outside of the home. That sort of thing is healthy. It's quite another -- itself pathetic -- to criticize one's partner as pathetic for dedicating so much of themselves to home and family. Many people would love that sort of devotion. Your wife's criticism may be based in truth, but it screams "red herring" from any amount of her own crap, which we've already discussed elsewhere. It's good you're exploring new interests, PurpleJedi. Just make sure you're doing it for your own enrichment; not to make yourself more marketable to idiots who are impressed by shiny things.

As for me: Am I interesting? Well, I think I represent a truck load of paradoxes to certain people, and it intrigues some of them to sift through the apparent contradictions. I'd perhaps trade the breadth of that eclecticism for more devotion and depth in fewer areas, though, because being a jack of all trades, master of none forges a lack of articulation beyond a certain point of inquiry. And at that point, I'm boring as hell.

Can I ever relate to that!

I've often thought, "To what heights might I rise if only I could focus?"

Exactly.

And thanks for saying that so succinctly. I'm also less interesting for being so damned long-winded.

Your wife was cruel in how she said it, but I can understand how someone can feel that way.

A lot of people lose their individual identity when they get into a relationship. Sure, you can say an identity can change to what a person now thinks is most important, but I can definitely understand how one can be annoyed or be bitter with their partner when they expect you to be their "everything" (not saying that was the case with you). I personally think that having no "outside" interests is not healthy.

But...

I don't think it makes you an uninteresting person because as was mentioned already, everyone is interesting in one way or another.

Obviously, you both were not on the same page when it came to your relationship...I wish you happiness in whatever road you travel down next.

PurpleJedi said:

PDogz said:

More fathers & husbands should be as "pathetic" as you. Your wife will be eating her words when you find "outside hobbies" that interest you! She'll be wishing for her "pathetic" husband back, but he will have "Left The Building", and taken up with someone who finds him just a tad bit less "pathetic".

That's actually what my therapist told me...but it only made me want to hang around longer and see if that turn-around happened BEFORE I packed up and left (physically and emotionally).

That's very honorable of you, you're clearly a good man. Unfortunately, people don't usually "get it" until that moment you're completely done with them. At least when (or if) you get to that point, you'll know you tried your best (...and so will she, albeit too late).

JustErin said:

Your wife was cruel in how she said it, but I can understand how someone can feel that way.

A lot of people lose their individual identity when they get into a relationship. Sure, you can say an identity can change to what a person now thinks is most important, but I can definitely understand how one can be annoyed or be bitter with their partner when they expect you to be their "everything" (not saying that was the case with you). I personally think that having no "outside" interests is not healthy.

But...

I don't think it makes you an uninteresting person because as was mentioned already, everyone is interesting in one way or another.

Obviously, you both were not on the same page when it came to your relationship...I wish you happiness in whatever road you travel down next.

She has every right to feel a certain way, but the way she expressed it lacked any kind of tact or respect, and we also know her opinion is coloured by her own boredom with everything in contrast to the excitement she has been feeling with Mr New.

So although I applaud PJ for taking it as a much needed kick in the ass to get his life full of life again, I'm also of the opinion he shouldn't take what she said 100% personally.

Im a very interesting person but ultimately im just dust!!! Gen 3:19

Serious said:

Alej said:

You're amessing

He's saying it better than I ever could .

no

i am 2 normal 2 b interesting

thekidsgirl said:

Your wife I think went a little overboard (and no offense, but it sounds like she's maybe getting a little mid-life crisis-y).

You should do stuff that makes you feel happy and fulfilled, and just try new things that have always interested you. It's okay to be a little selfish, but for God's sake, PLEASE don't start forcing yourself to like something (like sports) just cause you feel like you should. That is lame.

As for me... Well I'm the most interesting person in the world!

So what exactly makes you the most interesting person in the world? DO TELL...

JustErin said:

Your wife was cruel in how she said it, but I can understand how someone can feel that way.

A lot of people lose their individual identity when they get into a relationship. Sure, you can say an identity can change to what a person now thinks is most important, but I can definitely understand how one can be annoyed or be bitter with their partner when they expect you to be their "everything" (not saying that was the case with you). I personally think that having no "outside" interests is not healthy.

But...

I don't think it makes you an uninteresting person because as was mentioned already, everyone is interesting in one way or another.

Obviously, you both were not on the same page when it came to your relationship...I wish you happiness in whatever road you travel down next.

BTW - the dynamic between you & Fauxie is MOST interesting!

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Your wife was cruel in how she said it, but I can understand how someone can feel that way.

A lot of people lose their individual identity when they get into a relationship. Sure, you can say an identity can change to what a person now thinks is most important, but I can definitely understand how one can be annoyed or be bitter with their partner when they expect you to be their "everything" (not saying that was the case with you). I personally think that having no "outside" interests is not healthy.

But...

I don't think it makes you an uninteresting person because as was mentioned already, everyone is interesting in one way or another.

Obviously, you both were not on the same page when it came to your relationship...I wish you happiness in whatever road you travel down next.

She has every right to feel a certain way, but the way she expressed it lacked any kind of tact or respect, and we also know her opinion is coloured by her own boredom with everything in contrast to the excitement she has been feeling with Mr New.

So although I applaud PJ for taking it as a much needed kick in the ass to get his life full of life again, I'm also of the opinion he shouldn't take what she said 100% personally.

How can that NOT be taken personally?

Doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Maybe this angst is making me more of an interesting person in & of itself?!

davetherave6767 said:

Im a very interesting person but ultimately im just dust!!! Gen 3:19

Dave...I think that with you, "interesting" is an understatement!

physco185 said:

no

i am 2 normal 2 b interesting

Normal by whose standards? That could be a source of interest!

For your wife to say you were boring shows a lack of creativity on her part.

Even in the most mudane situations, fun can happen... small experiences that can be well, quite memorable. That's the beauty of life... that journey that you decide to take with someone can get well, like a routine... but its the creativity in our own minds that can put some umph in things and keep stuff interesting... usually the umph tends to be stress (like losing a job, and injury, sickness... or other bad crap that can happen) that makes you glad for the more "boring" days.

But why does the routing have to be a bad thing? I am the kind of person that finds joy in the "little things in life" since I am so bogged down being a mom, I have little energy to focus on me right now... but there is a season for everything and focusing on me is not the priority right now. I am still enjoying the role of mom.... now I still get my groove on in little spurts from time to time, but I will feel guilty if I spend too much time away from my kids.

So I do things that we all enjoy... together... and that is quite nice.

Keep being you and life you how ever you like to... do what makes YOU happy. If someone thinks you should do otherwise, tell the bitch to fuck off.

Here's to your own brand of happiness cheers!

paintedlady said:

Here's to your own brand of happiness cheers!

¡Salud!

¡Dinero!

y ¡Amor!

I dunno if I'm interesting, but I'm unique! In both good ways and bad.