Timmy84 said:

I have to praise the WOMAN for withstanding nine or ten months of pregnancy, hell ANY MONTHS. Because sometimes the baby ends up being delivered prematurely (I came prematurely so I should know). But pregnancy definitely is not for EVERY WOMAN, I don't care what society claims. Sometimes men take for granted how hard it is to have another being in your body. My mom almost died having me, it's not that simple. So I applaud those that DON'T wanna go through that process. Personally for me it would take a lot of work to raise a child because you never know how parenting is going to be going in. No one really knows.

i did too... i'm a twin. i was about 3 lbs.

MJJstudent said:

Timmy84 said:

I have to praise the WOMAN for withstanding nine or ten months of pregnancy, hell ANY MONTHS. Because sometimes the baby ends up being delivered prematurely (I came prematurely so I should know). But pregnancy definitely is not for EVERY WOMAN, I don't care what society claims. Sometimes men take for granted how hard it is to have another being in your body. My mom almost died having me, it's not that simple. So I applaud those that DON'T wanna go through that process. Personally for me it would take a lot of work to raise a child because you never know how parenting is going to be going in. No one really knows.

i did too... i'm a twin. i was about 3 lbs.

I was 2 lbs.

Timmy84 said:

MJJstudent said:

i did too... i'm a twin. i was about 3 lbs.

I was 2 lbs.

WOW!

MJJstudent said:

Timmy84 said:

I was 2 lbs.

WOW!

Yep. People thought I was gonna die if I had stayed in the hospital. My doctor told my mama to take me home. Glad he did because I survived the odds (thanks to mom of course ).

MJJstudent said:

SUPRMAN said:

Have a C-section delivery. Go have that baby and be happy.

i don't want any part of pregnancy though.

Well that limits you to adoption I guess.

MJJstudent said:

Timmy84 said:

I have to praise the WOMAN for withstanding nine or ten months of pregnancy, hell ANY MONTHS. Because sometimes the baby ends up being delivered prematurely (I came prematurely so I should know). But pregnancy definitely is not for EVERY WOMAN, I don't care what society claims. Sometimes men take for granted how hard it is to have another being in your body. My mom almost died having me, it's not that simple. So I applaud those that DON'T wanna go through that process. Personally for me it would take a lot of work to raise a child because you never know how parenting is going to be going in. No one really knows.

i did too... i'm a twin. i was about 3 lbs.

I was two months premature.

SUPRMAN said:

MJJstudent said:

i did too... i'm a twin. i was about 3 lbs.

I was two months premature.

wow...

Timmy84 said:

MJJstudent said:

WOW!

Yep. People thought I was gonna die if I had stayed in the hospital. My doctor told my mama to take me home. Glad he did because I survived the odds (thanks to mom of course ).

well, i'm glad you did not, tim.

Oh my... I was 8lbs 8ounces...

I should go give my momma a hug right now...

MJJstudent said:

Timmy84 said:

Yep. People thought I was gonna die if I had stayed in the hospital. My doctor told my mama to take me home. Glad he did because I survived the odds (thanks to mom of course ).

well, i'm glad you did not, tim.

lPoeticl said:

Oh my... I was 8lbs 8ounces...

I should go give my momma a hug right now...

yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay, healthy baby! go hug your mama for all of us!

I'm thinking they are giving you this look instead:

lPoeticl said:

Oh my... I was 8lbs 8ounces...

I should go give my momma a hug right now...

my 3 were all over 9lbs, one VERY close to 10

I expect big things this mother's day

MJJstudent said:

SUPRMAN said:

I was two months premature.

wow...

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

Gave birth NATURALLY to a 10.5 pound child here! He sooooooooo owes me something pretty

SUPRMAN said:

MJJstudent said:

wow...

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

Thats really sad... I wanna hug you and your mom

tinaz said:

SUPRMAN said:

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

Thats really sad... I wanna hug you and your mom

Thank you!

We weren't sad to see my parents divorce. Divorce was a good thing.

SUPRMAN said:

tinaz said:

Thats really sad... I wanna hug you and your mom

Thank you!

We weren't sad to see my parents divorce. Divorce was a good thing.

That situation is close to home for me. So one more for you and for mom.

tinaz said:

Gave birth NATURALLY to a 10.5 pound child here! He sooooooooo owes me something pretty

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

SUPRMAN said:

MJJstudent said:

wow...

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

My mom went through a lot of stress with my dad's children, dad himself (not domestic violence, but verbal issues/arguments), and her own family. I'm thinking stress is one of the main factors that leads to premature births or SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome). Thank God it was the former. My dad had a son named after me (Timothy) after my eldest brother was born but he died stillborn I believe.

SUPRMAN said:

MJJstudent said:

wow...

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

wow... well i'm glad you did not die... i lived through an abusive childhood as well, so my heart goes out to you and your mother.

MJJstudent said:

SUPRMAN said:

Brought on by domestic violence.

Supposedly my father would have been arrested if I have died.

wow... well i'm glad you did not die... i lived through an abusive childhood as well, so my heart goes out to you and your mother.

My stepfather thought he could get physical too but he had four teenage boys to deal with. I had a couple of fights with him. Of couse, it's my mother pulling me off him. They seem to be past all that, but we're not close so I have no clue.

Serious said:

minneapolisgenius said:

Serious said:

I always hear what wonderful mom I would make because of how great I get along with kids and because of how much my niece always loved to spend summer with me and my ex. Still it is my own choice and not the business of everybody else.

Yes yes yes. I hear this all the time and I feel very judged and looked down upon because I never wanted kids. I don't see why anyone even cares.

minneapolisgenius said:

minneapolisgenius said:

Yes yes yes. I hear this all the time and I feel very judged and looked down upon because I never wanted kids. I don't see why anyone even cares.

Not sure why I am clapping here though.

I don't feel "the need" to have kids either... From what i read, a lot of orgers don't want kids... Is it the Prince syndrome?

I really don't feel such a "need" ... u know, by 'need', I mean that thought people have, "You have to have kids cause everybody does.".. Yeah, So if everybody decide to jump off the bridg, I'll have to do it too? Screw that herd mentality...

And I love when they say "That's so selfish! You are so selfish for not wanting kids!"... I don't know what's more ridiculous : Being selfish to somebody who doesn't/will never exist?? Or thay implicitly admit I'm happier without kids since I'm the only one enjoying MY life??

I love other people's kids... I love playing with children, so the girls I've been with always thought I'd be a good father or I was ready to raise children. I don't... If was living in the early 1960s, I'd thought the world would be good for my child. But in these crazy/wild/unstable times, having a kid seems foolish to me, we're living in such a fucked up world!

FrenchGuy said:

I don't feel "the need" to have kids either... From what i read, a lot of orgers don't want kids... Is it the Prince syndrome?

I really don't feel such a "need" ... u know, by 'need', I mean that thought people have, "You have to have kids cause everybody does.".. Yeah, So if everybody decide to jump off the bridg, I'll have to do it too? Screw that herd mentality...

And I love when they say "That's so selfish! You are so selfish for not wanting kids!"... I don't know what's more ridiculous : Being selfish to somebody who doesn't/will never exist?? Or thay implicitly admit I'm happier without kids since I'm the only one enjoying MY life??

I love other people's kids... I love playing with children, so the girls I've been with always thought I'd be a good father or I was ready to raise children. I don't... If was living in the early 1960s, I'd thought the world would be good for my child. But in these crazy/wild/unstable times, having a kid seems foolish to me, we're living in such a fucked up world!

nah, I think it's because the ones WITH kids haven't got the energy to get involved in org arguments

JoeTyler said:

SUPRMAN said:

They tend to keep asking.

yep, that question and "why are you still single", or "why you don't wanna get married"?

I get asked this all the time by family too. Just because I'm single, independent and not married then something is "wrong" with me. I'm 28 and my family are acting like time is running out for me. Even when I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, they were all asking "well is there any chance that you guys will get back together"? Umm no for what? I've already explained that we weren't right for each other, but just because my family LOVED him...I was supposed to settle, go get him back and continue on settling just for them. NO NO AND NO. I refuse to settle for just anyone just to please other folks and therefore my family will just have to mind their own business. Besides, a few, if not most of my family members are UNHAPPILY married to folks that they married just because their parents pushed them into it. Had kids they weren't ready for and now unhappy as hell. I refuse to be like that. SMH. It's always the family members who can't control their own lives that always seem to have some unwanted advice for your own life.

Vendetta1 said:

I look at people crazy who want kids.

It's not always an easy concept to learn, keep, and understand (that includes me), not everything you think needs to come out of your mouth. As others have mentioned it's no ones business why anyone makes a decision not to have a child or children. It's rude, for people to pry. Genesia advise, one shouldn't respond to such inquiries in my opinion is the right course of action. Live let live....

Not everyone wants children or marriage; Lord knows not all women are dying to have babies either. My /our personal beliefs, we really didn't see the point of being married if we weren't going to have a family but that's our opinion. People have different beliefs and value systems, it takes all kinds. .

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