JustErin said:

LadyCasanova said:

He is too pretty, I want to smack him around a bit...

[Edited 8/9/11 21:27pm]

I'm thinking he's out of my league anyway.

Out of YOUR league?

I hope you mean he is too far below you to get your attention.

Him better than you...pfff

johnart said:

JustErin said:

Ok, this dude messaged me today.

I figured these guys put their pics up on a public site, it should be ok to post here.

'He's cute too.

Prettier than no. 1 tho.

I hope he's posing, cause that face looks douchey, despite being pretty

ZombieKitten said:

Cerebus said:

Good. Because its not anymore true than it is with any other type of person.

I believe there is a category of menfolks out there that ARE doormats for whatever reason, and they blame their lack of breaks on their misconception that what they are is NICE.

IMO, a nice guy is gentle and kind to children and animals, enjoys spending time with his lady, does what he says he will, doesn't abuse substances or become violent, has an even temperament, loves his family, has positive outlook, LOVES sex, is a good friend and basically doesn't have issues that make him a dick. None of these are mutually exclusive to being hot, or assertive or ambitious or anything else that one might assume are attractive traits.

Totally agree. And in my experience, my friends who have gone for the stereotypical "nice guy" have nearly always ended up with a dick who just used that shit to get his foot in the door. A genuine nice guy could start off being a tough nut to crack, but end up with all the qualities you list above (or other good ones) once you get through that outer shell.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

This is the bigger guy I've been talking to. Again, the hair is not good. He's seems like a nice dude though.

Oh, he's in some band or something and that's why he has this douchey pic...it's from his facebook page actually.

He's cute, but not cut-a-bitch-while-it's-still-prime-time-at-the-bar-for cute.

If it were last call and I'd had a few (who am I kidding??) in me I might get territorial.

He also doesn't make me wonder if I might have to make a run for it in the middle of the night.

I don't know.

Yes, he's not my type really...but I maybe need to be more open to different types of guys.

i think u can do way better than those guys.... what happened to going out and meeting men

and some ppl r not photogenic and u may pass on someone very nice just because the pic is crap

i dont trust these Internet dating sites

JustErin said:

I talked to this guy as well. He's probably the most grounded sounding so far. He's a nice dude so far...but he's an army guy and that's a bit scary to me.

Not bad.

He has potential to be huskier than the pic lets on (under chin is suspect), not that this is a bad thing, just something to consider.

Definitely blowable tho.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

This dude is on my little list too.

We'll call this the JerseyKRS model for now.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!

Cerebus said:

ZombieKitten said:

I believe there is a category of menfolks out there that ARE doormats for whatever reason, and they blame their lack of breaks on their misconception that what they are is NICE.

IMO, a nice guy is gentle and kind to children and animals, enjoys spending time with his lady, does what he says he will, doesn't abuse substances or become violent, has an even temperament, loves his family, has positive outlook, LOVES sex, is a good friend and basically doesn't have issues that make him a dick. None of these are mutually exclusive to being hot, or assertive or ambitious or anything else that one might assume are attractive traits.

Totally agree. And in my experience, my friends who have gone for the stereotypical "nice guy" have nearly always ended up with a dick who just used that shit to get his foot in the door. A genuine nice guy could start off being a tough nut to crack, but end up with all the qualities you list above (or other good ones) once you get through that outer shell.

YES

ZombieKitten said:

johnart said:

He's cute, but not cut-a-bitch-while-it's-still-prime-time-at-the-bar-for cute.

If it were last call and I'd had a few (who am I kidding??) in me I might get territorial.

He also doesn't make me wonder if I might have to make a run for it in the middle of the night.

I don't know.

this one screams teddy bear to me, I can hear a big goofy laugh coming out of this one

those things wouldn't rule him out to me if he met all my NICE criteria

Yes, I get that from him too...especially from chatting.

ZombieKitten said:

Fauxie said:

He looks alright. As in, 'normal'.

he looks happy open and friendly

god I would LOVE to know how different they are to their pics

This is the same dude:

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

If you're feelin' it you need to go for it. With this guy or whoever. Can't hurt to try, really. And on the plus side, like I said before, maybe you meet some people who don't suck in general.

Yeah, totally. It's going to be hard for me because I struggle with self esteem issues, so I'm always so afraid of them being disappointed when we meet face to face.

Again, I know this. That's why I give you such a hard time about it, but also give you so much encouragement. Like I said, it can't hurt to try. You're new there, you don't know these people or their circle of friends. What's the worst that could happen? You go out a night or two and you don't have a great time. No big. Plus, it will give you something good to talk about here. Compared to all the good you could add to your life there, that's nothing.

JustErin said:

Cerebus said:

If you're feelin' it you need to go for it. With this guy or whoever. Can't hurt to try, really. And on the plus side, like I said before, maybe you meet some people who don't suck in general.

Yeah, totally. It's going to be hard for me because I struggle with self esteem issues, so I'm always so afraid of them being disappointed when we meet face to face.

In all seriousness, this is a damn shame.

JustErin said:

johnart said:

He's cute, but not cut-a-bitch-while-it's-still-prime-time-at-the-bar-for cute.

If it were last call and I'd had a few (who am I kidding??) in me I might get territorial.

He also doesn't make me wonder if I might have to make a run for it in the middle of the night.

I don't know.

Yes, he's not my type really...but I maybe need to be more open to different types of guys.

Says who??

If that's the case do it all the way and date a mousy rich dude, shit.

JustErin said:

Fauxie said:

So who's winning?

Serial killer...?

Yes. Which serial killer is winning?

LadyCasanova said:

JustErin said:

I'm thinking he's out of my league anyway.

Out of YOUR league?

I hope you mean he is too far below you to get your attention.

Him better than you...pfff

She doesn't. Drives me freakin' nutty.

Cerebus said:

ZombieKitten said:

I believe there is a category of menfolks out there that ARE doormats for whatever reason, and they blame their lack of breaks on their misconception that what they are is NICE.

IMO, a nice guy is gentle and kind to children and animals, enjoys spending time with his lady, does what he says he will, doesn't abuse substances or become violent, has an even temperament, loves his family, has positive outlook, LOVES sex, is a good friend and basically doesn't have issues that make him a dick. None of these are mutually exclusive to being hot, or assertive or ambitious or anything else that one might assume are attractive traits.

Totally agree. And in my experience, my friends who have gone for the stereotypical "nice guy" have nearly always ended up with a dick who just used that shit to get his foot in the door. A genuine nice guy could start off being a tough nut to crack, but end up with all the qualities you list above (or other good ones) once you get through that outer shell.

That's a bit like me.

ZombieKitten said:

johnart said:

'He's cute too.

Prettier than no. 1 tho.

I hope he's posing, cause that face looks douchey, despite being pretty

Yeah, maybe. He is very cute though.

LadyCasanova said:

JustErin said:

I'm thinking he's out of my league anyway.

Out of YOUR league?

I hope you mean he is too far below you to get your attention.

Him better than you...pfff

Thanks, but I mean he's out of mine. I can sorta picture what he would want and it's not me.

Fauxie said:

Cerebus said:

Totally agree. And in my experience, my friends who have gone for the stereotypical "nice guy" have nearly always ended up with a dick who just used that shit to get his foot in the door. A genuine nice guy could start off being a tough nut to crack, but end up with all the qualities you list above (or other good ones) once you get through that outer shell.

That's a bit like me.

......... I got nothin'.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

he looks happy open and friendly

god I would LOVE to know how different they are to their pics

This is the same dude:

Yep, this guy looks alright.

FuzzyWitch said:

i think u can do way better than those guys.... what happened to going out and meeting men

and some ppl r not photogenic and u may pass on someone very nice just because the pic is crap

i dont trust these Internet dating sites

I am 37 years old and never online dated. I have always meet people out and about....however, I have NO ONE to go out with to meet people.

This is the problem.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

I hope he's posing, cause that face looks douchey, despite being pretty

Yeah, maybe. He is very cute though.

OK, so you have your shortlist, now you need to go out on a date with all of them and then report back so the panel can make their selection

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

he looks happy open and friendly

god I would LOVE to know how different they are to their pics

This is the same dude:

I actually think these last two seem more like the pics of guys you've posted in the past. The JerseyKRS model looks a bit like a possibly douchey frat guy, though.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

I talked to this guy as well. He's probably the most grounded sounding so far. He's a nice dude so far...but he's an army guy and that's a bit scary to me.

Not bad.

He has potential to be huskier than the pic lets on (under chin is suspect), not that this is a bad thing, just something to consider.

Definitely blowable tho.

I'm definitely ok with bigger dudes.

Cerebus said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, totally. It's going to be hard for me because I struggle with self esteem issues, so I'm always so afraid of them being disappointed when we meet face to face.

Again, I know this. That's why I give you such a hard time about it, but also give you so much encouragement. Like I said, it can't hurt to try. You're new there, you don't know these people or their circle of friends. What's the worst that could happen? You go out a night or two and you don't have a great time. No big. Plus, it will give you something good to talk about here. Compared to all the good you could add to your life there, that's nothing.

You're right.

Shit, I think we all agree on possibly bigger, maybe slackerish, look a bit like your type guy.

Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

Yeah, totally. It's going to be hard for me because I struggle with self esteem issues, so I'm always so afraid of them being disappointed when we meet face to face.

In all seriousness, this is a damn shame.

Don't cyber touch me.

This is so exciting!

FuzzyWitch said:

i think u can do way better than those guys.... what happened to going out and meeting men

and some ppl r not photogenic and u may pass on someone very nice just because the pic is crap

i dont trust these Internet dating sites

But how can you tell from their pic that she can do better than them?
That's an out-there judgment call on them the same as if she's passing up someone for not being photogenic.

johnart said:

JustErin said:

Yes, he's not my type really...but I maybe need to be more open to different types of guys.

Says who??

If that's the case do it all the way and date a mousy rich dude, shit.