No thanks.

babynoz said:

destinyc1 said:

Guys,i think the picture of the urn was on the day of the memorial.

No, it's from August 12th. You can tell because it was taken inside a church as the article says.

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

When my mom passed I had a few people who wanted to tell me what to do for MY mother. I had to politely let them know that wasn't happening.

Because she was a community activist, I felt that while she lived I proudly shared her with so many people but when she passed I did not want to share her like that any more.

That is why I defend Tyka so fiercely.

I hear you. I went thru extremely similar things. Yes, I feel the same way about Tyka. The woman has done nothing 2 deserve the vile things I read.

I don't understand this kind of vitriol at all. Didn't Prince tell her his wishes and she carried them out? I thought I read that. It's no one ele's business but the family's. Thank God, this didn't turn into the James Brown fiasco.

Kara said:

NinaB said:

I'm not looking. Not now, not ever. Would rather that was kept private. What is the memorial service held today that's being referred to?

The memorial for family. Tomorrow there's supposed to be one for friends.

Why all the separate services? Why didn't they have 1 private service for family, close friends, and former and current employees? I'm not trying to criticize them, I'm just trying to understand.

purplethunder3121 said:

I have no problem with his familey keeping him close and not doing anything with his ashes. I just don't get bringing them out for the memorial and taking pictures. Which was not Tyka. Also I don't know much about JW stuff but I do know when anyone from my Husbands familey have died they have been cremated very quickley and the remains have been left at the funeral home as there body has no inportance to anyone. They have then had a quick memorial service the next week for anyone who wanted to go. Which included non JW from the familey. I also have to say they were always in the kingdom Hall and never a Church. There are no rules on how people grieve and I really was not having a pop at Tyka at this really hard time.

QueenofPurplePalace said:

BillieBalloon said:

OzlemUcucu said:

They can keep the urn as long as they want. What's got that to do with lying to rest? It's not like they are keeping a casket with him there. I don't understand your ethical reasoning.

He was cremated almost immediately upon his death according to his JW beliefs. That's not the point, it is that I thought by now either his ashes would have been scattered or his remains interred in his final resting place. I'm just surprised considering how fast he was cremated that his remains are still here. This is so morbid, I'm sorry if I've offended anyone. [Edited 8/13/16 4:52am]

I've heard of people keeping an urn with their loved ones remains in their home on a mantel or somewhere of that nature.

[Edited 8/13/16 9:05am]

tmo1965 said:

BillieBalloon said:

OzlemUcucu said: He was cremated almost immediately upon his death according to his JW beliefs. That's not the point, it is that I thought by now either his ashes would have been scattered or his remains interred in his final resting place. I'm just surprised considering how fast he was cremated that his remains are still here. This is so morbid, I'm sorry if I've offended anyone. [Edited 8/13/16 4:52am]

I've heard of people keeping an urn with their loved ones remains in their home on a mantle or somewhere of that nature.

A lot of people do it--it is not uncommon at all. In some faiths, it is traditional to place the urn in a shrine dedicated to one's ancestors.

onelap said:

I have no problem with his familey keeping him close and not doing anything with his ashes. I just don't get bringing them out for the memorial and taking pictures. Which was not Tyka. Also I don't know much about JW stuff but I do know when anyone from my Husbands familey have died they have been cremated very quickley and the remains have been left at the funeral home as there body has no inportance to anyone. They have then had a quick memorial service the next week for anyone who wanted to go. Which included non JW from the familey. I also have to say they were always in the kingdom Hall and never a Church. There are no rules on how people grieve and I really was not having a pop at Tyka at this really hard time.

Tyka has already stated several weeks ago that she and the urn would only be present at the official family memorial and that's what happened. She did not even attend the Kingdom Hall service as far as I know, or any other because she clearly stated that she was only personally doing one service.

I don't know why there is so much drama about the picture because the pic doesn't really feature the urn. It is a photo of Chazz speaking at the church. I didn't even notice the urn until someone pointed out that it was in the picture.

babynoz said:

destinyc1 said:

Guys,i think the picture of the urn was on the day of the memorial.

No, it's from August 12th. You can tell because it was taken inside a church as the article says.

BABYNOZ,Hey isn't that just the urn though?I thought they scattered the ashes ONLY.And kept the urn.Some people bury the urn as well sometimes right?

purplethunder3121 said:

destinyc1 said:

babynoz said:

No, it's from August 12th. You can tell because it was taken inside a church as the article says.

BABYNOZ,Hey isn't that just the urn though?I thought they scattered the ashes ONLY.And kept the urn.Some people bury the urn as well sometimes right?

I don't recall reading anything about them scattering the ashes, only a thread a few weeks ago asking people what they think should be done with them.

I was shocked to find out that it cost almost as much to place an urn in a columbarium in the cemetery as a coffin.

I'm sure many people who have used their backyard though.

babynoz said:

I'm sure you mean well but the thing is you know even less about any of us than we know about Prince so you might want to take you own advice and not involve yourself too much in assessing the grief process of people you don't know.

Very well said babynoz. It's a different process for all of us

NinaB said:

purplethunder3121 said:

In some faiths, it is traditional to place the urn in a shrine dedicated to one's ancestors.

Correct.

I remember my grandmother telling us about the olden days out in the country when they used to bathe and dress loved ones at home while somebody literally built a casket for them.

They held the service right there in the living room and buried them in a plot right there on the family's land.

Mumio said:

babynoz said:

I'm sure you mean well but the thing is you know even less about any of us than we know about Prince so you might want to take you own advice and not involve yourself too much in assessing the grief process of people you don't know.

Very well said babynoz. It's a different process for all of us

We're gonna make it through this.....

babynoz said:

babynoz said:

destinyc1 said:

BABYNOZ,Hey isn't that just the urn though?I thought they scattered the ashes ONLY.And kept the urn.Some people bury the urn as well sometimes right?

I don't recall reading anything about them scattering the ashes, only a thread a few weeks ago asking people what they think should be done with them.

I was shocked to find out that it cost almost as much to place an urn in a columbarium in the cemetery as a coffin.

I'm sure many people who have used their backyard though.

Thank you for that.All this time im thinking his ashes r scattered somewhere .And your correct i went back and read what his pr person Anna M said

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

I remember my grandmother telling us about the olden days out in the country when they used to bathe and dress loved ones at home while somebody literally built a casket for them.

They held the service right there in the living room and buried them in a plot right there on the family's land.

Yes. How I wished 4 that when my time came.

It's pretty deep to even contemplate.

destinyc1 said:

babynoz said:

I don't recall reading anything about them scattering the ashes, only a thread a few weeks ago asking people what they think should be done with them.

I was shocked to find out that it cost almost as much to place an urn in a columbarium in the cemetery as a coffin.

I'm sure many people who have used their backyard though.

Thank you for that.All this time im thinking his ashes r scattered somewhere .And your correct i went back and read what his pr person Anna M said

No worries.

babynoz said:

mikeyaddict said:

Love u all Purple Family. Big hugs to you all innit. Our guy is elsewhere now, just not here. Miss him so much - but gonna try and love and celebrate what he was and stood for more. Xoxox. Love you all!

mikeyaddict said:

Mumio said:

babynoz said:

I'm sure you mean well but the thing is you know even less about any of us than we know about Prince so you might want to take you own advice and not involve yourself too much in assessing the grief process of people you don't know.

Very well said babynoz. It's a different process for all of us

Yes--I appreciate this place so much because I ALREADY have those worries, and I ALREADY feel like I've exhausted my husband's tolerance for how sad I am about a "stranger." This is where I can visit to be around other folks having a similarly mind-blowing emotional experience. And who are patient and understanding with my n00biness.

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leadline said:

NinaB said:

Exactly what I've been saying (re a child) from day one. Opportunists plain & simple.