BillieBalloon said:

nursev said:

Love to his family and love to our FAMILY.

The cousin summed it up so well.

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Sending my condolences and love to the family of Prince. May you all be comforted.

NinaB said:

BillieBalloon said:

He was cremated almost immediately upon his death according to his JW beliefs. That's not the point, it is that I thought by now either his ashes would have been scattered or his remains interred in his final resting place. I'm just surprised considering how fast he was cremated that his remains are still here. This is so morbid, I'm sorry if I've offended anyone. [Edited 8/13/16 4:52am]

It's not unusual to keep your loved ones ashes. Many do. Including me. When I go we will be scattered together. Look at Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis 4 instance, that's not morbid, that's love. It's just not that simple. No offence taken tho.

Yep it's not uncommon to keep ashes.Some folks have them on the fireplace mantel etc.When my uncle passed his wife and GIRLFRIEND, split his ashes up between the two of them! (dont ask!) lol

Personally I would make a little memorial for P with the urn a picture of him,some candles and flowers on a cute little table. I wouldnt want to scatter him unless he told me where he wanted to be. My dad has requested the beach...so...

As a former thirft store worker I have encountered lots of urns with the ashes still in them when people have cleaned estates out and donated items not realizing they tossed out Grandmom or Uncle Pete! Some urns are very unique and can be mistaken for a old vase or candy dish etc.

flyscdiva said:

NinaB said:

BillieBalloon said: It's not unusual to keep your loved ones ashes. Many do. Including me. When I go we will be scattered together. Look at Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis 4 instance, that's not morbid, that's love. It's just not that simple. No offence taken tho.

Yep it's not uncommon to keep ashes.Some folks have them on the fireplace mantel etc.When my uncle passed his wife and GIRLFRIEND, split his ashes up between the two of them! (dont ask!) lol

Personally I would make a little memorial for P with the urn a picture of him,some candles and flowers on a cute little table. I wouldnt want to scatter him unless he told me where he wanted to be. My dad has requested the beach...so...

As a former thirft store worker I have encountered lots of urns with the ashes still in them when people have cleaned estates out and donated items not realizing they tossed out Grandmom or Uncle Pete! Some urns are very unique and can be mistaken for a old vase or candy dish etc.

Correct! My Dad died 12 years ago now and he insisted on having his remains put in a brass urn, in my Mum's back garden - so that's where he is!

flyscdiva said:

Dibblekins said:

NinaB said:

nursev said:

His cousin seems like a nice guy.

Yeah, I remember him from back in the day. Down to earth, genuine. Love to him & all the other grieving family members.

Wasnt he a drummer in the early P band? I remember seeing Charles interviewed in the BBC documentary.

ISaidLifeIsJustAGame said:

Guitarhero said:

ActUrAgeMomma said:

Not going to look

when u r ready, maybe never, u don't have 2 look if u don't want 2, it's ur prerogative and u don't need 2 seek help because u don't want 2 look!

funkaholic1972 said:

Although I realise that everyone mourns in his own way and tempo, I am also concerned about some of the peeps on here. Let's face it, most of us haven't known him personally. And although his music played a large roll in our lives, he was still only a public figure, not a close friend.

I fear some people have idolised him to the point where they think they knew and understood him on a personal level. THIS IS NOT THE CASE, THIS IS AN ILLUSION!!! And a unhealthy one, in my opinion. It makes you suffer deeply over the loss of someone you hardy knew.

Some of you would certainly be better off letting that illusion go and accept that you didn't actually knew him. And if you have a hard time doing that on your own, it might be smart to get some professional help.

On the other hand, most of us here are getting a bit older now (40+) and Prince's unexpected death reminds us of our own mortality. So that might also be a factor in the extended mourning over Prince for some.

Anyway, I wish all you Orgers the best, I love you, and I hope you will be able to cope with his loss some way soon.

I'm sure you mean well but the thing is you know even less about any of us than we know about Prince so you might want to take you own advice and not involve yourself too much in assessing the grief process of people you don't know.

NinaB said:

BillieBalloon said:

He was cremated almost immediately upon his death according to his JW beliefs. That's not the point, it is that I thought by now either his ashes would have been scattered or his remains interred in his final resting place. I'm just surprised considering how fast he was cremated that his remains are still here. This is so morbid, I'm sorry if I've offended anyone. [Edited 8/13/16 4:52am]

It's not unusual to keep your loved ones ashes. Many do. Including me. When I go we will be scattered together. Look at Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis 4 instance, that's not morbid, that's love. It's just not that simple. No offence taken tho.

Yeah I thought people knew that. My brother is on a shelf in the family room.

rogifan said:

Paisley Park looked extra purple tonight. [img:$uid]http://i.picresize.com/images/2016/08/12/V2xFw.jpg[/img:$uid] [Edited 8/12/16 20:54pm]

Thanks Rogi. I read that there will be another gathering there today for friends. Thinking of Tyka....

babynoz said:

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

Yeah I thought people knew that. My brother is on a shelf in the family room.

Unfortunately not. The morning I was getting ready 2 pick up my loved one's ashes I was told I was morbid 4 planning 2 keep them. The range (& amount) of insensitive things said 2 those in mourning was a revelation 2 me when my turn came. It's twofold, the death & then societies feedback...

One option now is having the carbon in your loved one's ashes 'condensed' into a diamond / jewel that you can then wear on a necklace or ring, for example.

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I like that idea...

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

Yeah I thought people knew that. My brother is on a shelf in the family room.

Unfortunately not. The morning I was getting ready 2 pick up my loved one's ashes I was told I was morbid 4 planning 2 keep them. The range (& amount) of insensitive things said 2 those in mourning was a revelation 2 me when my turn came. It's twofold, the death & then societies feedback...

It is shocking that somebody would say that to you. My bro is the first person in our family to be cremated but thank heavens everyone was kind when I asked about my options.

BillieBalloon said:

babynoz said:

Yeah I thought people knew that. My brother is on a shelf in the family room.

Some people are not familiar with this concept. Again, sorry..it didn't cross my mind.

No worries,

BillieBalloon said:

NinaB said:

It's not unusual to keep your loved ones ashes. Many do. Including me. When I go we will be scattered together. Look at Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis 4 instance, that's not morbid, that's love. It's just not that simple. No offence taken tho.

Hi thanks NinaB. I don't know anyone whose ever been cremated nor have I seen an urn filled with ashes unless it's in pictures. I just assumed ashes are generally scattered or interred. If people want to keep them that's entirely up to them.

Given how private Prince was;

A. I didn't think he would want his ashes displayed on social media.
B. They would have been scattered.

However it's wrong to presume anything. If the family are keeping them fine
I'm sure they've got a plan for him.

You're very sweet

BillieBalloon said:

NinaB said:

It's not unusual to keep your loved ones ashes. Many do. Including me. When I go we will be scattered together. Look at Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis 4 instance, that's not morbid, that's love. It's just not that simple. No offence taken tho.

Hi thanks NinaB. I don't know anyone whose ever been cremated nor have I seen an urn filled with ashes unless it's in pictures. I just assumed ashes are generally scattered or interred. If people want to keep them that's entirely up to them. Given how private Prince was; A. I didn't think he would want his ashes displayed on social media. B. They would have been scattered. However it's wrong to presume anything. If the family are keeping them fine I'm sure they've got a plan for him. You're very sweet

It could be worse...At least he wasn't subjected to a taxidermist!

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Read Roald Dahl's story, 'The Landlady'...

Dibblekins said:

Wow folks, having ashes displayed like this is a very common thing for families to do. The outpouring of anger of this is perplexing.

Much like God is Alive, Prince is alive, he is not of this earth anymore, but he still exists, he is still with us, he is still Prince, he still loves us......he is simply in a different place.

Peace

Dibblekins said:

NinaB said:

babynoz said: Unfortunately not. The morning I was getting ready 2 pick up my loved one's ashes I was told I was morbid 4 planning 2 keep them. The range (& amount) of insensitive things said 2 those in mourning was a revelation 2 me when my turn came. It's twofold, the death & then societies feedback...

One option now is having the carbon in your loved one's ashes 'condensed' into a diamond / jewel that you can then wear on a necklace or ring, for example.

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I like that idea...

When I was asking around my favorite idea was the bio-urn that could be planted so a tree grows from it.

babynoz said:

NinaB said:

BillieBalloon said:

Hi thanks NinaB. I don't know anyone whose ever been cremated nor have I seen an urn filled with ashes unless it's in pictures. I just assumed ashes are generally scattered or interred. If people want to keep them that's entirely up to them. Given how private Prince was; A. I didn't think he would want his ashes displayed on social media. B. They would have been scattered. However it's wrong to presume anything. If the family are keeping them fine I'm sure they've got a plan for him. You're very sweet

Aww no worries Billie the Cat who loves Balloons I do understand where you're coming from. I do agree about the ashes being on social media. But like u said he's their family. Thank u 4 the compliment

I think the photo was meant to capture Chazz speaking at the service. The urn just happens to be visible and the tv station only had that one photo I guess.

babynoz said:

NinaB said:

babynoz said:

It is shocking that somebody would say that to you. My bro is the first person in our family to be cremated but thank heavens everyone was kind when I asked about my options.

Soo many shocking things were said, still are occasionally. It's an initiation. I've never given birth, I don't tell pregnant women what 2 do. Death of a beloved one is the same, altho people who've never been there like 2 the bereaved what 2 do 4 some reason.

When my mom passed I had a few people who wanted to tell me what to do for MY mother. I had to politely let them know that wasn't happening.

Because she was a community activist, I felt that while she lived I proudly shared her with so many people but when she passed I did not want to share her like that any more.

That is why I defend Tyka so fiercely.