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I've never married nor had any children. I don't consider myself a loser. I just made specific choices, which in the long run have served me well. I don't have to worry about raising kids or cheating husbands. I like being able to make my own choices without having to consider anybody else's needs, and I love being independent. I could care less what other folk think about my status. I'm happy as I am. | |
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Thanks to you and everyone else for their comments. I guess I'm not completely surprised at the comments considering that most Prince fans (especially on the Org) are not exactly conventional people by any means I think it is good to live in an era where we have more choices. I wish that there were more mainstream examples of people that choose not to make mainstream choices, if that makes sense Trolls be gone! | |
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I haven't had a chance to respond...
I am 47 and am unmarried with no kids. No.
Quick story: When I got my Masters, one of my cousins said to me: "That's nice, but when are you going to settle down and have some babies?"
"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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chocolate1 said: I haven't had a chance to respond...
I am 47 and am unmarried with no kids. No.
Quick story: When I got my Masters, one of my cousins said to me: "That's nice, but when are you going to settle down and have some babies?"
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Sorry that some jerk decided to talk about you behind your back. I think it's pretty awesome that you are now Dr. Chocolate1 Glad that you were able to let go of judging yourself too harshly despite some of the strange comments that you seem to get from your relatives. It's a great accomplishment to finish school so they could have at least helped you celebrate that moment instead of reminding you of something else that they thought you didn't "have". Trolls be gone! | |
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RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Have any of you been suspected or accused of being gay because you're not married by a "certain age"? (NOTE: I am NOT saying anything making a moral judgment on gay folks, just making a point here) Trolls be gone! | |
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I'm not sure why social variables like this have to be so imbued with drama. Can't single and childless simply be a lifestyle choice -- one that suggests neither failure nor triumph? Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Yep, Graycap is my soulmate.....NEXT! Trolls be gone! | |
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Good point but I think it's because there aren't a lot of people willing to actually perceive it as a choice as opposed to something that just "happened" to you because you haven't yet "met the right one" who is supposed to come into your life when you least expect it. Those are the cliche responses that people usually have when someone single of a certain age says they are single. It's almost like people who feel sorry for people who have to take the bus to work instead of drive. Maybe that person likes taking the bus and saving money that would otherwise be spent on gas, maintenance and everything else that comes with having a car. I think it's all about the messages that we get growing up that there are certain things that we are "supposed" to do. Trolls be gone! | |
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If you have something to say, start a new thread and bring it up there, otherwise, please stick to the topic at hand please Trolls be gone! | |
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I certainly consider marriage and kids as a lifestyle choice, which is why I get a bit pissed at work that the people without kids get shafted with any personal requests for time off or get unfair hours. | |
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I'm unmarried with no kids and just turned 32. For the most part, I'm very happy with my independent life, but on the flip side, I do want to meet a guy who is for me, be in love and spend my life with him. However, I'm a strong believer that all things happen for a reason and sometimes you have to be patient for greater things to come later. It doesn't mean that I have to over-examine myself to see why it hasn't happened yet. It's all about timing. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It seems that you brought up a few points that others have also mentioned as well. The societal expectation is always there, even if it's not always present but it's reinforced in the media, with our families, etc. There always seems to be the notion that the grass is always greener but I don't think anyone who has responded thus far is saying that the grass is greener one way or the other. I guess there are pros and cons to both lifestyle choices. The weird thing is being single might actually be a "choice" until the right one comes along who could possibly change our mind. So, that makes me wonder if being single really is a choice or is it kind of a "default" option. If that makes sense... Trolls be gone! | |
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I wouldn't worry about it too much but you can always ask them if they are gay themselves for being obsessed with your love life Trolls be gone! | |
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That sucks that the single people get shafted like that. I guess that's something that I hadn't really thought of before is how that can happen because the boss figures that you have nothing else better to do with your time. Trolls be gone! | |
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Same here, unmarried and no kids at 27. There are a few reasons behind that, like my long-standing shyness/social anxiety issues and the fact that I work alone (self-employed), so it's not as if I can easily meet people through work. So it's either a case of signing up to dating sites or hitting the club/bar (despite not being a massive club/bar kinda guy...). I'm sort-of dating one or two people at the moment, but honestly, I'm a lot more relaxed about my perennial single status than I was just a few months back. | |
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Dodged a bullet 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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To Seventeendayze....
I had 3 kids out of wedlock. People like to judge me too... you need to tell those fuckers what I tell them.
"Stay outta my pussy and don't worry how I fuck... just worry about your own pussy."
I hate it when people try to tell others what they should or shouldn't do, and TRUST me, people have much to say about my life and they assume much. Fuck them. They don't pay my bills. I take care of mine and don't ask for shit. Funny thing is, those same bitches are always asking me for favors.
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At the end of the day, if you are ok with yourself, that is all that matters. You can have many experiences in life. Finding a partner is one of them. Having kids is one of them. But there are many others. I think my grandfather had no choice. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, etc. These days there are more choices. I'm 45 and very happy to be single. If I don't find the right woman, at least I died searching for her. | |
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Thanks, Painted Lady. I'll be sure to say that verbatim But, thanks for sharing about how others react when you talk about your single status. It's really terrible that people have rude things to say to you but as you said those are the same people asking you to help THEM. What a bunch of jerks! LOL! Trolls be gone! | |
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Yeah, it doesn't apply to all workers, certainly, but I have seen people literally use "kid's basketball game" as a valid excuse to leave My Legacy
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Neither. If you lead a happy, fulfilling life, you're a winner in this world. You don't have to do what everybody else does if it doesn't make you happy.
I like being married, and the feeling that there is someone in this world who has my back no matter what happens. It's more valuable to me than my desire for total freedom. At the same time, I know people who enjoy their single lives and make the most of it. They don't want to be responsible for someone else's needs and desires. Maybe they have some lonely nights and maybe I have some times where it would be nice to act completely selfishly or have some more wild adventures. But if we're all happy at the end of the day we all win.
I have never especially wanted kids and feel that the only people that should have them are the ones who do really want them are prepared to commit to them. I'm happy not havng them, other friends of mine say it's the best thing they ever did in their lives. Hopefully we are all happy with our own choices.
So no you're definitely not "a loser" for being in your situation. If something is making you unhappy, do what you can to change it. Otherwise, live life to the fullest. | |
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