I will be 53 years old and I have yet to meet the "love of my life".

So maybe I don't know.

My first crush was on Jimmy Durante, the 'Special K' cereal guy. He had to be almost 80 and I was maybe 5. My crushes in childhood (where the other girls liked the Osmonds, the Jackson 5, Peter Frampton, the BeeGee's, Members of Van Halen) where Vincent Price, Johnny Winters, Donald Sunderland, David Niven, David Bowie, and most of the members of the Rolling Stones.

My daughter's father was extremely thin and slim shady looking. My knowledge of rap music is extremely limited.

I STILL hope to fall in love at one point in my life for no other reason but to say I truly get it. I did love her father but was sure that his reason for being with me was because I was always going to work and cover his butt.

I like odd looking men. That I can see.

At 53 I should be a lot clearer then that.

MoBettaBliss said:

PurpleJedi said:

You don't prefer a certain height? Weight? Shape? Tan vs light? Loud vs quiet?

nope... sexy is sexy

as far as loud vs quiet, it would depend on the type of loud and quiet, if that makes sense

I definitely agree that "sexy is sexy" and to be quite honest it's hard for me to accept any sort of shallow definitions of beauty being a part of my psyche...but for whatever reason, they got in there.

One thing is a constant though...I can't get with a girl taller than me. Never have been able to get into someone towering over me.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

chocolate1 said:

RodeoSchro said:

The hell you aren't! I've seen your picture and I've talked to you on the telephone, and I can GUARANTEE you that whoever that lady is, you are qualified to talk to her.

And if that sentence didn't PREPARE you to talk to her, I don't know what will! Go get her!

TELL HIM!!!

especially if he is playing coy from EXW programming!

...and what exactly is EXW??? (EX Wife???)

PurpleJedi said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

especially if he is playing coy from EXW programming!

...and what exactly is EXW??? (EX Wife???)

Do EVERYTHING she doesn't want you to do

Back in the mid to late 90s I was on the internet chatting in Yahoo to a 14 or 15 year old girl (probably a man) called Crystal (lol) in California (ok, definitely a man). I was quite into her until one day she mentioned she was Asian. Completely lost interest. Asian girls were just like total non-entities to me, with no sex appeal. A few years later I met and fell in love with a Thai girl and we've been together ever since, so yeah...

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JustErin said:

Nope.

All the guys you dig look like Seth Rogan?

RodeoSchro said:

PurpleJedi said:

I am in no way, shape or form prepared or qualified to approach someone like that.

The hell you aren't! I've seen your picture and I've talked to you on the telephone, and I can GUARANTEE you that whoever that lady is, you are qualified to talk to her.

And if that sentence didn't PREPARE you to talk to her, I don't know what will! Go get her!

My type is called Denzel Washington....

Seriously though, my type hasn't changed much...finding someone who fits the description is a whole nother story.

PurpleJedi said:

Just curious...

I'd think that everyone has a "type" of gal/guy that they are attracted to...that they would pursue...that turns them on.

Whether it's physical or otherwise.

Has anyone noticed that their "type" has changed, significantly, for whatever reason?

Nope, not at all. Young, cute and in shape.

I've always been drawn to men my age... so as I age, so do my tastes in men. You won't see me eyeballing one of my girlfriend's sons.

I was always drawn to "tall, dark and handsome" but physically speaking.... I have dated different looking and different men culturally. I HAVE noticed that if I get my heart broken I search for the opposite. I dated "Mr. Adonis the narcissist" and then went to dating "Mr. flabby and short" after that. One was cheap, the other was generous.... but both were selfish assholes in the end.

I have YET to meet a man who really wants to make me happy (though they promise me this) - maybe that just doesn't exist. Men just want a woman to make them happy and tell her lies in order to get their needs met and keep other men from dating the women they meet.

I'm close to being DONE.

paintedlady said:

I've always been drawn to men my age... so as I age, so do my tastes in men. You won't see me eyeballing one of my girlfriend's sons.

I was always drawn to "tall, dark and handsome" but physically speaking.... I have dated different looking and different men culturally. I HAVE noticed that if I get my heart broken I search for the opposite. I dated "Mr. Adonis the narcissist" and then went to dating "Mr. flabby and short" after that. One was cheap, the other was generous.... but both were selfish assholes in the end.

I have YET to meet a man who really wants to make me happy (though they promise me this) - maybe that just doesn't exist. Men just want a woman to make them happy and tell her lies in order to get their needs met and keep other men from dating the women they meet.

I'm close to being DONE.

I hear ya, Paintedlady! Sometimes wisdom is depressing, huh?

RodeoSchro said:

SeventeenDayze said:

paintedlady said:

I've always been drawn to men my age... so as I age, so do my tastes in men. You won't see me eyeballing one of my girlfriend's sons.

I was always drawn to "tall, dark and handsome" but physically speaking.... I have dated different looking and different men culturally. I HAVE noticed that if I get my heart broken I search for the opposite. I dated "Mr. Adonis the narcissist" and then went to dating "Mr. flabby and short" after that. One was cheap, the other was generous.... but both were selfish assholes in the end.

I have YET to meet a man who really wants to make me happy (though they promise me this) - maybe that just doesn't exist. Men just want a woman to make them happy and tell her lies in order to get their needs met and keep other men from dating the women they meet.

I'm close to being DONE.

I hear ya, Paintedlady! Sometimes wisdom is depressing, huh?

You ain't kidding!

Beautifulstarr123 said:

...but for an older woman to be drawn or prefer younger men appears to be a double standard, regardless of how good she looks.

No offense but I consider both extremely creepy... it is because I have sons and witnessed some of them actually ask me about their dicks. Fucking filthy skeezers.

Not you... them trying to check out my boys. I consider it EXTREMELY disrespectful for a woman who is my friend (who watched my boys grow from infants) to turn around and check out my sons openly, even speak of "breaking him in". Spitting in my eye is less offensive!

My aunts and mother date younger men also. I try not to judge... but it scars you when you see family members and friends doing that. Still, I am happy to see them feeling spunky enough to have fun though, if its two consenting adults, hey, have at it!

I like men my age, not because I feel older, or feel like I can't pull a guy that age... but because I think young men are stupid as shit. I can't do dumbasses.... not saying that older men can't be dumb too mind you.

Oh and Happy Birthday hot stuff!!!

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paintedlady said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

...but for an older woman to be drawn or prefer younger men appears to be a double standard, regardless of how good she looks.

No offense but I consider both extremely creepy... it is because I have sons and witnessed some of them actually ask me about their dicks. Fucking filthy skeezers.

Not you... them trying to check out my boys. I consider it EXTREMELY disrespectful for a woman who is my friend (who watched my boys grow from infants) to turn around and check out my sons openly, even speak of "breaking him in". Spitting in my eye is less offensive!

My aunts and mother date younger men also. I try not to judge... but it scars you when you see family members and friends doing that. Still, I am happy to see them feeling spunky enough to have fun though, if its two consenting adults, hey, have at it!

I like men my age, not because I feel older, or feel like I can't pull a guy that age... but because I think young men are stupid as shit. I can't do dumbasses.... not saying that older men can't be dumb too mind you.

Oh and Happy Birthday hot stuff!!!

[Edited 8/10/14 11:55am]

Yeah back in the day, I used to think older men were "more mature", not based on experience but based on a preconceived notion. Now, I think immaturity runs the gamut and sometimes older men can be even more immature depending on the situation. Some of them try to play the whole "I'm a sexy, old bachelor" routine that's really stale but in their minds they are still sexy and want a woman 20 years younger. Either way you slice it, women who have half a brain and recognize this BS will have a harder time finding a guy that's compatible with what she needs and wants that would be suitable at the stage of life she's in.

Not all guys are dirtbags but you have to sift through so many that sometimes just throwing in the towel can be good for your mental health too!

SeventeenDayze said:

paintedlady said:

No offense but I consider both extremely creepy... it is because I have sons and witnessed some of them actually ask me about their dicks. Fucking filthy skeezers.

Not you... them trying to check out my boys. I consider it EXTREMELY disrespectful for a woman who is my friend (who watched my boys grow from infants) to turn around and check out my sons openly, even speak of "breaking him in". Spitting in my eye is less offensive!

My aunts and mother date younger men also. I try not to judge... but it scars you when you see family members and friends doing that. Still, I am happy to see them feeling spunky enough to have fun though, if its two consenting adults, hey, have at it!

I like men my age, not because I feel older, or feel like I can't pull a guy that age... but because I think young men are stupid as shit. I can't do dumbasses.... not saying that older men can't be dumb too mind you.

Oh and Happy Birthday hot stuff!!!

[Edited 8/10/14 11:55am]

Yeah back in the day, I used to think older men were "more mature", not based on experience but based on a preconceived notion. Now, I think immaturity runs the gamut and sometimes older men can be even more immature depending on the situation. Some of them try to play the whole "I'm a sexy, old bachelor" routine that's really stale but in their minds they are still sexy and want a woman 20 years younger. Either way you slice it, women who have half a brain and recognize this BS will have a harder time finding a guy that's compatible with what she needs and wants that would be suitable at the stage of life she's in.

Not all guys are dirtbags but you have to sift through so many that sometimes just throwing in the towel can be good for your mental health too!

Yeah, and older guys (any guy over 30) is usually married... so its hard finding a single non-dysfunctional guy who is older.

It's changed slightly but I believe that's because the older I get the more specific I get.

paintedlady said:

Beautifulstarr123 said:

paintedlady said:

No offense but I consider both extremely creepy... it is because I have sons and witnessed some of them actually ask me about their dicks. Fucking filthy skeezers.

Not you... them trying to check out my boys. I consider it EXTREMELY disrespectful for a woman who is my friend (who watched my boys grow from infants) to turn around and check out my sons openly, even speak of "breaking him in". Spitting in my eye is less offensive!

My aunts and mother date younger men also. I try not to judge... but it scars you when you see family members and friends doing that. Still, I am happy to see them feeling spunky enough to have fun though, if its two consenting adults, hey, have at it!

I like men my age, not because I feel older, or feel like I can't pull a guy that age... but because I think young men are stupid as shit. I can't do dumbasses.... not saying that older men can't be dumb too mind you.

Oh and Happy Birthday hot stuff!!!

[Edited 8/10/14 11:55am]

Why thanks for the belated shout out I appreciate it I'm not dating any younger guys at the moment, and never have. If I do, a mature man at least in his thirties will do. I just find that lately, I am attracted to younger guys, I don't know what to say

Hey, if it suits you.. go for it, nothing wrong with two sexy consenting adults getting their groove on!

missfee said:

It's changed slightly but I believe that's because the older I get the more specific I get.

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's like it doesn't take you as long to recognize the good (and bad) ones out there. The only problem is, as Painted Lady said, there are fewer guys to choose from at a certain point. Not exactly sure when this happens but it does certainly seem that way. For the most part, almost all the guys that I think are hot pretty much have the same look. As far as personality goes, it seems that guys who are like salesmen tend to be attracted to me because I'm more of a "take it or leave it" person

SeventeenDayze said:

missfee said:

It's changed slightly but I believe that's because the older I get the more specific I get.

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's like it doesn't take you as long to recognize the good (and bad) ones out there. The only problem is, as Painted Lady said, there are fewer guys to choose from at a certain point. Not exactly sure when this happens but it does certainly seem that way. For the most part, almost all the guys that I think are hot pretty much have the same look. As far as personality goes, it seems that guys who are like salesmen tend to be attracted to me because I'm more of a "take it or leave it" person

Ha! Seems I attract law enforcement men ALL OF THE TIME, cops, security guards, correctional officers, etc. And I really don't know why that is so. They say you tend to attract who YOU are. I actually think while law enforcement men can be gentlemen, they for the most part are quite arrogant with a high opinion of themselves and sneaky. Could it be a reflection that I'm truly an asshole?

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Fauxie said:

JustErin said:

Nope.

All the guys you dig look like Seth Rogan?

He's not my type. He was a one off...but a grown man with baby looking teeth...I just wouldn't be able to. Funny is cute, though.

My type is always the same and apparently all my boyfriends/fwb have looked the same even though they were different races. Taller than me, medium build, broad shoulders, medium toned skin with basically the same facial features. Personality wise, the one thing they all have in common was their intelligence. I just can't do dumb...no matter how hot.

missfee said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's like it doesn't take you as long to recognize the good (and bad) ones out there. The only problem is, as Painted Lady said, there are fewer guys to choose from at a certain point. Not exactly sure when this happens but it does certainly seem that way. For the most part, almost all the guys that I think are hot pretty much have the same look. As far as personality goes, it seems that guys who are like salesmen tend to be attracted to me because I'm more of a "take it or leave it" person

Ha! Seems I attract law enforcement men ALL OF THE TIME, cops, security guards, correctional officers, etc. And I really don't know why that is so. They say you tend to attract who YOU are. I actually think while law enforcement men can be gentlemen, they for the most part are quite arrogant with a high opinion of themselves and sneaky. Could it be a reflection that I'm truly an asshole?

[Edited 8/11/14 4:35am]

That's funny Yeah, I don't hate all cops per se but collectively they are the most duplicitous, power-hungry and (at times) cowardly folks you'll ever meet as a whole. Besides, if you date or marry a cop and you piss him off, he can make your life miserable and he KNOWS that he'd never get punished for it. What prosecutor is gonna go up against a cop represented by the police union? This is especially true for prosecutors who have higher political aspirations and almost all of them do, of course.

I was joking with someone when we saw an older couple go by us. I said, by the time I meet a decent guy I'm going to be that age and most people will assume we've been together 50 years but it will more likely we were together only six months

paintedlady said:

I've always been drawn to men my age... so as I age, so do my tastes in men. You won't see me eyeballing one of my girlfriend's sons.

I was always drawn to "tall, dark and handsome" but physically speaking.... I have dated different looking and different men culturally. I HAVE noticed that if I get my heart broken I search for the opposite. I dated "Mr. Adonis the narcissist" and then went to dating "Mr. flabby and short" after that. One was cheap, the other was generous.... but both were selfish assholes in the end.

I have YET to meet a man who really wants to make me happy (though they promise me this) - maybe that just doesn't exist. Men just want a woman to make them happy and tell her lies in order to get their needs met and keep other men from dating the women they meet.

I'm close to being DONE.

I hate to even think of you being "DONE". I haven't heard from you since you were doing just fine with the weekly visitor who you had no intention of cooking for. You seemed like you knew what you wanted and so did he. So sorry it ended.

I can't bare the thought of you giving up on sex because you love it so much. Damn shame when someone who actually enjoys it is doing it for herself while some woman who has absolutley no interest in doing it at all has a man she can do it with every day. Unfortunately at my age, 52, the men I meet are married and have too much equity to part with to leave their wives. So they both stay in a dead marriage waiting for eachother to call it quits. I am no big fan of playing second fiddle. But....

I am too young to think "never again".

Deadflow3r said:

paintedlady said:

I've always been drawn to men my age... so as I age, so do my tastes in men. You won't see me eyeballing one of my girlfriend's sons.

I was always drawn to "tall, dark and handsome" but physically speaking.... I have dated different looking and different men culturally. I HAVE noticed that if I get my heart broken I search for the opposite. I dated "Mr. Adonis the narcissist" and then went to dating "Mr. flabby and short" after that. One was cheap, the other was generous.... but both were selfish assholes in the end.

I have YET to meet a man who really wants to make me happy (though they promise me this) - maybe that just doesn't exist. Men just want a woman to make them happy and tell her lies in order to get their needs met and keep other men from dating the women they meet.

I'm close to being DONE.

I hate to even think of you being "DONE". I haven't heard from you since you were doing just fine with the weekly visitor who you had no intention of cooking for. You seemed like you knew what you wanted and so did he. So sorry it ended.

I can't bare the thought of you giving up on sex because you love it so much. Damn shame when someone who actually enjoys it is doing it for herself while some woman who has absolutley no interest in doing it at all has a man she can do it with every day. Unfortunately at my age, 52, the men I meet are married and have too much equity to part with to leave their wives. So they both stay in a dead marriage waiting for eachother to call it quits. I am no big fan of playing second fiddle. But....

I am too young to think "never again".

I find myself in that exact same predicament... I am 43 and most men I meet are married.

I am still with the same guy who comes around... but I feel that after 5 years things have gone stale.

There is no growth, no real investment on his part, though he claims to love me more now than he did when he first fell in love years ago. We like eachother, but if this is it then I feel bamboozled and I want my money back! Screw this "love" business!

Atleast the sex is fun.... for now.

paintedlady said:

Deadflow3r said:

I hate to even think of you being "DONE". I haven't heard from you since you were doing just fine with the weekly visitor who you had no intention of cooking for. You seemed like you knew what you wanted and so did he. So sorry it ended.

I can't bare the thought of you giving up on sex because you love it so much. Damn shame when someone who actually enjoys it is doing it for herself while some woman who has absolutley no interest in doing it at all has a man she can do it with every day. Unfortunately at my age, 52, the men I meet are married and have too much equity to part with to leave their wives. So they both stay in a dead marriage waiting for eachother to call it quits. I am no big fan of playing second fiddle. But....

I am too young to think "never again".

I find myself in that exact same predicament... I am 43 and most men I meet are married.

I am still with the same guy who comes around... but I feel that after 5 years things have gone stale.

There is no growth, no real investment on his part, though he claims to love me more now than he did when he first fell in love years ago. We like eachother, but if this is it then I feel bamboozled and I want my money back! Screw this "love" business!

Atleast the sex is fun.... for now.

Yeah it does seem that it gets to a point where every guy on the planet is taken, even the horrible ones