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Thread started 07/21/12 8:32am

Fury

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So my 47 year old ex/Now platonic friend now is in love with a 19 year old

Sure we both have dated other people, but now this is a new wrinkle.
We always give each other space in dating as not to confuse anything, but Im having a hard time co-signing this one.
Should I let this thing run its probable short term course and keep my opinions to myself, or shake the shit out of this chick?

Thoughts ?
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Reply #1 posted 07/21/12 8:35am

Nothinbutjoy

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You use to date Prince?


* boxed *

Seriously, let it run it's course. You don't have to pretend that you like it, but if both parties are willing, we all make our own choices.
I'm firmly planted in denial
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Reply #2 posted 07/21/12 8:40am

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No doubt this is a short term fling...let it run its course.

However, you need to decide whether your ex is worthy of your friendship given her questionable

decision making. It may be time to move on.

Thanks for the laughs, arguments and overall enjoyment for the last umpteen years. It's time for me to retire from Prince.org and engage in the real world...lol. Above all, I appreciated the talent Prince. You were one of a kind.
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Reply #3 posted 07/21/12 8:43am

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Nothinbutjoy said:

You use to date Prince? * boxed * Seriously, let it run it's course. You don't have to pretend that you like it, but if both parties are willing, we all make our own choices.

yeahthat

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Reply #4 posted 07/21/12 9:03am

Fury

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We spent all day Tuesday together while the boy toy was at an amusement park with his friends. So while he was out riding roller coasters, we were having drinks, eating out and went to see a play-- 10 hours together Half the time we talked About Junior and how
Awesome he is... A very peculiar day indeed
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Reply #5 posted 07/21/12 9:18am

aardvark15

Is the ex a woman? It's perfectly fine in society if it's a woman lol

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Reply #6 posted 07/21/12 9:23am

KingBAD

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if it's an EX, it ain't yo bizzness whut they do.

if you got a prollum with it, it's yo prollum lol

i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
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STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE...
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Reply #7 posted 07/21/12 10:48am

lauralevesque

Fury said:

We spent all day Tuesday together while the boy toy was at an amusement park with his friends. So while he was out riding roller coasters, we were having drinks, eating out and went to see a play-- 10 hours together Half the time we talked About Junior and how Awesome he is... A very peculiar day indeed

eek eek WTF?! eek eek

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Reply #8 posted 07/21/12 11:00am

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lauralevesque said:

Fury said:

We spent all day Tuesday together while the boy toy was at an amusement park with his friends. So while he was out riding roller coasters, we were having drinks, eating out and went to see a play-- 10 hours together Half the time we talked About Junior and how Awesome he is... A very peculiar day indeed

eek eek WTF?! eek eek

yeahthat

Seriously...even if the split hadn't been bitter with my ex...I don't think that I'd ever want to know ANYTHING about her subsequent relations, nor she of mine.

hmph!

It's all;

"Hello."

"Hi. Here's the child support."

"Thank you."

"Bye."

What you (Fury) described - to me - was a DATE with your ex. nod

By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory!
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Reply #9 posted 07/21/12 11:10am

Fury

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PurpleJedi said:



lauralevesque said:




Fury said:


We spent all day Tuesday together while the boy toy was at an amusement park with his friends. So while he was out riding roller coasters, we were having drinks, eating out and went to see a play-- 10 hours together Half the time we talked About Junior and how Awesome he is... A very peculiar day indeed

eek eek WTF?! eek eek



yeahthat



Seriously...even if the split hadn't been bitter with my ex...I don't think that I'd ever want to know ANYTHING about her subsequent relations, nor she of mine.



hmph!



It's all;


"Hello."


"Hi. Here's the child support."


"Thank you."


"Bye."



What you (Fury) described - to me - was a DATE with your ex. nod


We only dated 3 months but we've been really good friends in the three years since, so it's never really been a big deal when the other one starts dating. That being said, we don't have sex (not since April 2011 anyway), but we do go to dinner and movies once a month or so. I think she is just in lust with this young dude. I'm not jealous, more like baffled by the whole thing
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Reply #10 posted 07/21/12 11:14am

lauralevesque

Fury said:

PurpleJedi said:

yeahthat

Seriously...even if the split hadn't been bitter with my ex...I don't think that I'd ever want to know ANYTHING about her subsequent relations, nor she of mine.

hmph!

It's all;

"Hello."

"Hi. Here's the child support."

"Thank you."

"Bye."

What you (Fury) described - to me - was a DATE with your ex. nod

We only dated 3 months but we've been really good friends in the three years since, so it's never really been a big deal when the other one starts dating. That being said, we don't have sex (not since April 2011 anyway), but we do go to dinner and movies once a month or so. I think she is just in lust with this young dude. I'm not jealous, more like baffled by the whole thing

I'm baffled too, because, as a woman, if a guy anywhere below 30 even flirts with me, I shut it down quick (I'm 39) and to me, it just feels like they are kids. I was in the gas station the other day and this very cute boy, about 22 or something began flirting with me and I swear I almost said, "Boy I'm old enough to be your mother!" I just did not like it. disbelief

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Reply #11 posted 07/21/12 11:22am

Fury

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lauralevesque said:[quote]



Fury said:


PurpleJedi said:


yeahthat



Seriously...even if the split hadn't been bitter with my ex...I don't think that I'd ever want to know ANYTHING about her subsequent relations, nor she of mine.



hmph!



It's all;


"Hello."


"Hi. Here's the child support."


"Thank you."


"Bye."



What you (Fury) described - to me - was a DATE with your ex. nod



We only dated 3 months but we've been really good friends in the three years since, so it's never really been a big deal when the other one starts dating. That being said, we don't have sex (not since April 2011 anyway), but we do go to dinner and movies once a month or so. I think she is just in lust with this young dude. I'm not jealous, more like baffled by the whole thing

I'm baffled too, because, as a woman, if a guy anywhere below 30 even flirts with me, I shut it down quick (I'm 39) and to me, it just feels like they are kids. I was in the gas station the other day and this very cute boy, about 22 or something began flirting with me and I swear I almost said, "Boy I'm old enough to be your mother!" I just did not like it. disbelief




She is 2 years younger than dude's Mom !
I said y'all must not have went public with this yet because Sistas don't play that cougar shit with their kids lol
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Reply #12 posted 07/21/12 11:26am

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Sounds like ol' gal is enjoying putting your ego in check by going on about this kid while on your date with her. Act as if it doesn't bother you.

I say, stop letting this kid get to you because this kid was all that she wouldn't need you in the picture.

Yeah... I generally disapprove of women going after little boys since it usually means they must have control issues.

Keep her as a fuck buddy since she can't play mommy with you and don't let this get to you at all. One good argument is all it takes before this young buck will find a tighter pussy to fuck and she'll get her reality check. You can tell her that when he does. biggrin

That 19 year old going to the amusement park is what he is SUPPOSED to be doing not fucking some woman that's most likely older than his own mother.

But hey... that's just my humble opinion and I am a little jaded when it comes to old horny bitches trying to fuck young men in hopes of reliving their wasted youth. My guy dumped me for a senior citizen when I was 35. Turns out the old piece of trash did me a favor. rose

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Reply #13 posted 07/21/12 12:07pm

Fury

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We are really just less than FWB's now-- I'm
Not tripping off of the youngin because he is out on summer college break and is enjoying the attention. But I think everybody knows that when school gets back
In session somebody is getting dumped lol
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Reply #14 posted 07/21/12 12:20pm

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Fury said:

We are really just less than FWB's now-- I'm Not tripping off of the youngin because he is out on summer college break and is enjoying the attention. But I think everybody knows that when school gets back In session somebody is getting dumped lol

Let's hope she does. lol

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Reply #15 posted 07/21/12 12:31pm

Fury

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paintedlady said:



Fury said:


We are really just less than FWB's now-- I'm Not tripping off of the youngin because he is out on summer college break and is enjoying the attention. But I think everybody knows that when school gets back In session somebody is getting dumped lol

Let's hope she does. lol



Lol. I think she knows this is some Grease type summer shit. She said "I hope he don't think I'm gonna be sitting in the house fri and Saturday while he's at school"

The way she describes him
It sounds like she needs a damn puppy--
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Reply #16 posted 07/21/12 12:32pm

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Fury said:

paintedlady said:

Let's hope she does. lol

Lol. I think she knows this is some Grease type summer shit. She said "I hope he don't think I'm gonna be sitting in the house fri and Saturday while he's at school" The way she describes him It sounds like she needs a damn puppy--

Or a kitten... lol

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Reply #17 posted 07/21/12 12:40pm

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paintedlady said:



Fury said:


paintedlady said:


Let's hope she does. lol



Lol. I think she knows this is some Grease type summer shit. She said "I hope he don't think I'm gonna be sitting in the house fri and Saturday while he's at school" The way she describes him It sounds like she needs a damn puppy--

Or a kitten... lol


Basically she's enamored with all his gushing
And fawning - I swear listening to her prattle on about this basic 101 shit he does is hilarious. "we just kiss for
Hours..." The bama don't even drive!

So when I asked to see the dude's picture she was all hesitant and shit. I
Was expecting some Taye Diggs/ Stella got her groove back top model looking dude--
The dude is just basic-- like a 5 or 6
Kinda basic. I just said oh, okay. Raggedy beard, looks like neyo
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Reply #18 posted 07/21/12 1:07pm

SeventeenDayze

Fury said:

paintedlady said:

Or a kitten... lol

Basically she's enamored with all his gushing And fawning - I swear listening to her prattle on about this basic 101 shit he does is hilarious. "we just kiss for Hours..." The bama don't even drive! So when I asked to see the dude's picture she was all hesitant and shit. I Was expecting some Taye Diggs/ Stella got her groove back top model looking dude-- The dude is just basic-- like a 5 or 6 Kinda basic. I just said oh, okay. Raggedy beard, looks like neyo


Looks like Ne-yo? Yikes!

To me it seems like she's trying to make you jealous or something, are you sure she doesn't want you back?

Trolls be gone!
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Reply #19 posted 07/21/12 1:14pm

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SeventeenDayze said:



Fury said:


paintedlady said:


Or a kitten... lol



Basically she's enamored with all his gushing And fawning - I swear listening to her prattle on about this basic 101 shit he does is hilarious. "we just kiss for Hours..." The bama don't even drive! So when I asked to see the dude's picture she was all hesitant and shit. I Was expecting some Taye Diggs/ Stella got her groove back top model looking dude-- The dude is just basic-- like a 5 or 6 Kinda basic. I just said oh, okay. Raggedy beard, looks like neyo





Looks like Ne-yo? Yikes!



To me it seems like she's trying to make you jealous or something, are you sure she doesn't want you back?




Nah, we both know that ship has sailed-- romantically anyway. We
Both are well versed in each other's relationship material deficiencies and neither one of us is about to change them. She has no problem critiquing my dates either lol
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Reply #20 posted 07/21/12 7:54pm

aardvark15

Fury said:

paintedlady said:

Or a kitten... lol

Basically she's enamored with all his gushing And fawning - I swear listening to her prattle on about this basic 101 shit he does is hilarious. "we just kiss for Hours..." The bama don't even drive! So when I asked to see the dude's picture she was all hesitant and shit. I Was expecting some Taye Diggs/ Stella got her groove back top model looking dude-- The dude is just basic-- like a 5 or 6 Kinda basic. I just said oh, okay. Raggedy beard, looks like neyo

You do realise Ne-Yo has a helluva six pack right? lol

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Reply #21 posted 07/21/12 8:02pm

imago

Why are you friends with your ex?

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Reply #22 posted 07/21/12 8:02pm

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KingBAD said:

if it's an EX, it ain't yo bizzness whut they do.

if you got a prollum with it, it's yo prollum lol

King has a point, yo! nod

surviving on the thought of loving you, it's just like the water
I ain't felt this way in years...
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Reply #23 posted 07/21/12 8:06pm

imago

KingBAD said:

if it's an EX, it ain't yo bizzness whut they do.

if you got a prollum with it, it's yo prollum lol

This!

Of course it may take a while to transition from being jealous to not caring about it.

If you find you're jealous, you really should not remain in contact during that time.

But, I just don't get why people want to be friends with their exes. They're NOT

your friends...they're your exes.

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Reply #24 posted 07/21/12 8:15pm

Timmy84

KingBAD said:

if it's an EX, it ain't yo bizzness whut they do.

if you got a prollum with it, it's yo prollum lol

nod lol

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Reply #25 posted 07/21/12 8:32pm

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imago said:



KingBAD said:


if it's an EX, it ain't yo bizzness whut they do.


if you got a prollum with it, it's yo prollum lol




This!



Of course it may take a while to transition from being jealous to not caring about it.


If you find you're jealous, you really should not remain in contact during that time.




But, I just don't get why people want to be friends with their exes. They're NOT


your friends...they're your exes.


I don't see how u can trade spit with somebody and be intimate physically and mentally and not want to be friends. Every breakup In life isn't bitter

lol
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Reply #26 posted 07/21/12 8:45pm

imago

Fury said:

imago said:

This!

Of course it may take a while to transition from being jealous to not caring about it.

If you find you're jealous, you really should not remain in contact during that time.

But, I just don't get why people want to be friends with their exes. They're NOT

your friends...they're your exes.

I don't see how u can trade spit with somebody and be intimate physically and mentally and not want to be friends. Every breakup In life isn't bitter lol

Oh, I agree with this. Not all mine are. But, in general, we also know not to pee in each others sandboxes upon splitting up, and part of this is distance.

I'm not bothered of who my exes sleeping with either.

There's no need to keep up any kind of friendship with them, and certainly no reason to if you can't be emotionally in the right place to deal with who they're sleeping with next.

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Reply #27 posted 07/22/12 12:26pm

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imago said:

Fury said:

imago said: I don't see how u can trade spit with somebody and be intimate physically and mentally and not want to be friends. Every breakup In life isn't bitter lol

Oh, I agree with this. Not all mine are. But, in general, we also know not to pee in each others sandboxes upon splitting up, and part of this is distance.

I'm not bothered of who my exes sleeping with either.

There's no need to keep up any kind of friendship with them, and certainly no reason to if you can't be emotionally in the right place to deal with who they're sleeping with next.

i've got a dvd of that

Hamburger, Hot Dog, Root Beer, Pussy
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SeventeenDayze said:

Fury said:

paintedlady said:

Basically she's enamored with all his gushing And fawning - I swear listening to her prattle on about this basic 101 shit he does is hilarious. "we just kiss for Hours..." The bama don't even drive! So when I asked to see the dude's picture she was all hesitant and shit. I Was expecting some Taye Diggs/ Stella got her groove back top model looking dude-- The dude is just basic-- like a 5 or 6 Kinda basic. I just said oh, okay. Raggedy beard, looks like neyo


Looks like Ne-yo? Yikes!

To me it seems like she's trying to make you jealous or something, are you sure she doesn't want you back?

nod

and maybe she wanted to get your attention on another level. from my POV, she got it.

wink

"Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack
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Reply #29 posted 07/22/12 1:42pm

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imago said:

Fury said:

imago said: I don't see how u can trade spit with somebody and be intimate physically and mentally and not want to be friends. Every breakup In life isn't bitter lol

Oh, I agree with this. Not all mine are. But, in general, we also know not to pee in each others sandboxes upon splitting up, and part of this is distance.

I'm not bothered of who my exes sleeping with either.

There's no need to keep up any kind of friendship with them, and certainly no reason to if you can't be emotionally in the right place to deal with who they're sleeping with next.

right. It should be "if she likes it, I love it"

That is how it is with my friends.. unless someone is beating me, swindling me, or cheating on me.

But just because of his age, or scraggly beard?? Uhn, uhn.

So if you can't had the same feeling as my friends... maybe y'all are different kind of friends:

"in love but can't be together so we are friends because we can't be apart."

"Remember, one man's filler is another man's killer" -- Haystack
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