SeventeenDayze said:

Ottensen said:

Well I wouldn't say he's being "strict" rather than being faithful to the Word of God, and he's likely looking for someone who has that same level of faith, tenacity & obedience to the Lord. Now about getting pregnant- why would you be trying to sleep with a pastor anyway?That's not the way it's supposed to work.

By "strict" I mean like, based on conversations with him he seems like the type who would take that verse about wives "submitting" to their husbands and run with it....Honey, why is my dinner cold? YOU MUST have hot dinner waiting for me every night, SUBMIT TO ME!!! Kinda like that I reckon he'd be like....

But do you know what the Bible actually means when it says submit? That's not what it's telling you to do (have a hot meal ready for a husband just because he screams for it). It's waaaaaaaaaay deeper than that. And for the record, husbands are also instructed to submit to wives, that we should submit to one another...but that's a different story for a different day . Still, I would say if that's what you believe submission means, then, methinks it's time for you to read the Good Book some, but more importantly, if you really think that's what Pastor dude thinks submission is... then um, yeah...

Hell yea! Leave that one alone. I have a cousin whom I love dearly but she's dating a Baptist preacher in Brooklyn and my mother co-worker goes to the same church and she told my mother how my cousin thinks she's the first lady up in that church and everybody know's he's sexing about 4 of 5 of them up in that joint..

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do u like him?

banks said:

Hell yea! Leave that one alone. I have a cousin whom I love dearly but she's dating a Baptist preacher in Brooklyn and my mother co-worker goes to the same church and she told my mother how my cousin thinks she's the first lady up in that church and everybody know's he's sexing about 4 of 5 of them up in that joint..

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chocolate1 said:

banks said:

Hell yea! Leave that one alone. I have a cousin whom I love dearly but she's dating a Baptist preacher in Brooklyn and my mother co-worker goes to the same church and she told my mother how my cousin thinks she's the first lady up in that church and everybody know's he's sexing about 4 of 5 of them up in that joint..

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when my mom's said that shit we was like

MacDaddy said:

Have you told eachother how much you hate eachother's ass already?

Chile, leave that bible thumping man alone. He lookin for baby mama and a someone to freak with.

You know I just automatically assumed he's a widower raising 3 kids on his own, but looking at others questions. Yeah, what did happen to the mama? That's an important question. I would say, preachers, usually, don't have problems finding dates, granted finding "the one" is difficult but dates, no. So one that's willing to lock someone down before he/she really gets to know them, isn't a good sign.

i have nothing against dating a preacher, my former pastor's wife died of cancer, and he re-married after 5 years alone. maybe his wife passed away?

i also don't think prechers/pastors are boring, my husband is going to seminary to become a pastor right now, and he isn't boring at all.

having said that, this guy sound off to me, i would be very careful, and go with your gut feeling.

Leave him alone. Them preachers are bigger whores than average men.

A belief in "God" is enough to make my dick shrivel completely up.

kimrachell said:

i have nothing against dating a preacher, my former pastor's wife died of cancer, and he re-married after 5 years alone. maybe his wife passed away?

i also don't think prechers/pastors are boring, my husband is going to seminary to become a pastor right now, and he isn't boring at all.

having said that, this guy sound off to me, i would be very careful, and go with your gut feeling.

All Pastor's/preachers aren't bad BUT shucks my uncle's pastor's wife passed and within ONE YEAR he married the nurse who was caring for his wife when she was sick.

Is his name Eddie Long?

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StillGotIt said:

Is his name Eddie Long?

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He wouldn't had been interested unless she had a dick or two attached.

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missfee said:

StillGotIt said:

Is his name Eddie Long?

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He wouldn't had been interested unless she had a dick or two attached.

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BUt he still needs a "wife" for photo ops.

Genesia said:

MacDaddy said:

Have you told eachother how much you hate eachother's ass already?

The best.

Anyway, ignoring the OP's fake drama, I'll give my opinion on dating a preacher.

No, I'd never do it....for a million reasons. I don't meet these kinds of men anyway.

I wouldn't date a preacher either... but not because of HIM.

There are some really nice, decent men out there who I wouldn't date simply because they are preachers.

Having grown up in the church, I have been close to a few pastor's wives, or have had friends who married preachers.

Nope. Uh uh. No way...

The crap these women put up with because they are married to preachers is not worth it to me.

I am not patient or diplomatic enough to deal "in a Christian way" with some of the BS I've seen my friends go through with members of the congregation.

StillGotIt said:

Is his name Eddie Long?

damn ... lol.

LittleBLUECorvette said:

StillGotIt said:

Is his name Eddie Long?

damn ... lol.

The dude just really passed off as controlling and tempermental. Also, I felt very weirded out about how dude was really trying to get my address. My first thought was that he was trying to get personal info about me in the beginning before showing just how bat shit crazy he probably really is. By then, it's too late and then you gotta hope he doesn't pop out of the bushes and whatnot.

Are there any normal dudes over 30 who just want a nice girl and no drama? The other day, I was walking down the street and saw (I counted) 5 black men. Two were gay, one was way older, one with a white girl, the other with an Asian girl.....do folks really wonder why we black women have attitudes sometimes?

*Sigh*

Don't give up, stay positive and smile more... lots of available good brothas around!

Unless you have a flat ass... then well, just get a cat or two. They don't discriminate!

chocolate1 said:

I wouldn't date a preacher either... but not because of HIM.

There are some really nice, decent men out there who I wouldn't date simply because they are preachers.

Having grown up in the church, I have been close to a few pastor's wives, or have had friends who married preachers.

Nope. Uh uh. No way...

The crap these women put up with because they are married to preachers is not worth it to me.

I am not patient or diplomatic enough to deal "in a Christian way" with some of the BS I've seen my friends go through with members of the congregation.

yeah, pastors wives go through a lot! and every little thing they do, everyone is looking at, you have no privacy. glad my husband is going to be a missions pastor for missionary trips, that is somewhat better.

missfee said:

kimrachell said:

i have nothing against dating a preacher, my former pastor's wife died of cancer, and he re-married after 5 years alone. maybe his wife passed away?

i also don't think prechers/pastors are boring, my husband is going to seminary to become a pastor right now, and he isn't boring at all.

having said that, this guy sound off to me, i would be very careful, and go with your gut feeling.

All Pastor's/preachers aren't bad BUT shucks my uncle's pastor's wife passed and within ONE YEAR he married the nurse who was caring for his wife when she was sick.

oh there are a lot of bad ones out there, that's for sure! you have to be careful.

I love how when a dude got kids you supposed to not mess with him, but single moms are worth making the time and effort to date.

I say if the dude seems too pushy (kids or no kids) then leave him be.

Spinlight said:

A belief in "God" is enough to make my dick shrivel completely up.

Don't despair!
I'm here to wash the "God" off your dick.

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johnart said:

I love how when a dude got kids you supposed to not mess with him, but single moms are worth making the time and effort to date.

I say if the dude seems too pushy (kids or no kids) then leave him be.

that's a very good point!

kimrachell said:

johnart said:

I love how when a dude got kids you supposed to not mess with him, but single moms are worth making the time and effort to date.

I say if the dude seems too pushy (kids or no kids) then leave him be.

that's a very good point!

No responsible adult would advise seventeen to date any man with children.

paintedlady said:

kimrachell said:

that's a very good point!

No responsible adult would advise seventeen to date any man with children.

Why? Is she a minor? Actually 17?

I took her handle to be the name of a Prince song.

If she's 17 then she should only date folk her age and the preacher is reachin in the wrong cookie jar. Nothing to do with him having kids.

johnart said:

I love how when a dude got kids you supposed to not mess with him, but single moms are worth making the time and effort to date.

I say if the dude seems too pushy (kids or no kids) then leave him be.

VERY good point!

I don't know if it's true, but it would almost appear that if you're a single dad you might as well have leprosy.

paintedlady said:

kimrachell said:

that's a very good point!

No responsible adult would advise seventeen to date any man with children.

and you have a valid point too

johnart said:

paintedlady said:

No responsible adult would advise seventeen to date any man with children.

Why? Is she a minor? Actually 17?

I took her handle to be the name of a Prince song.

If she's 17 then she should only date folk her age and the preacher is reachin in the wrong cookie jar. Nothing to do with him having kids.

I gave my desicion based on her attitudes and history on the org. I am ALL for single parents being great catches, men or women... this man being a single father is NOT the problem.

The deeper issue is WHY is this preacher single and fishing? Most preachers have a swarm of eager beavers clamoring for his attentions married or not.

Also, she seems to be attracted to drama-filled situations and feeds into it.

The latter being a VERY bad thing for dealing with other people's kids.