The concept of age and all its rules and expectations only restrict people's free development and set limits to their honesty towards who they really are.

Furthermore, it promotes the decline of individual identities and stands in the way of a diverse, multifaceted society.

If people tell others to "act their age", they reduce them to one of the very few things someone cannot change about themselves - the age of their body.

Age doesn't express anything about intelligence, the current state of mind, feelings and the character of a person.

If you're truly interested in a PERSON and not how that person might fit into what society expects your circle of friends to be like, age is the last thing to ask about.

You, Dan, are a wonderful person because you don't "act your age". You're intelligent, you're free, you're honest with yourself and you are self-aware. And, even though you have told us on numeral occasions that you are not equipped with the world's largest penis, I am sure it could still tear any arse to shreds.

DexMSR said:

imago said:

Dex, this is why you have a couple hundred children scattered all over the globe wondering who their daddy is.

Not!!! I may have a couple hundred women scattered all over the globe wondering where the hell I AM though....

whap!

I need to keep in touch better.....

!!!!

Lawd, the org needs you now.

imago said:

DexMSR said:

Not!!! I may have a couple hundred women scattered all over the globe wondering where the hell I AM though....

whap!

I need to keep in touch better.....

!!!!

Lawd, the org needs you now.

You just want to see him post naked pics of himself again . He already asked on another thread how to post photos .

Serious said:

imago said:

!!!!

Lawd, the org needs you now.

You just want to see him post naked pics of himself again . He already asked on another thread how to post photos .

What do you mean, 'again'?

I never saw them

I sit most days with a blanket over my legs and a puzzle book in my lap, like an 80-year-old.

I'm horny all the time, like a 17-year-old.

I touch things and press buttons in public, like a 5-year-old.

I giggle and snort at dumb jokes and potty humor, like a 12-year-old.

I huff and puff with jaded annoyance like a 40-year-old.

MacDaddy said:

Serious said:

You just want to see him post naked pics of himself again . He already asked on another thread how to post photos .

What do you mean, 'again'?

I never saw them

I remember seeing one and wondering if it is allowed to post something like that considering that it is an US based site . It was gone pretty quick from what I remember .

DexMSR said:

Do what the fuck you want....WHEN U want....How U want....and stop giving yourself fucking parameters dude!!!

Like there is some fucking secret formula to living YOUR life!! THERE ISN'T!!

FUCK!!!

Marry me :hugs: oh no WAIT .... NOT MARRIAGE Baaaaaaaa ( sheep call )

MacDaddy said:

Serious said:

You just want to see him post naked pics of himself again . He already asked on another thread how to post photos .

What do you mean, 'again'?

I never saw them

you missed out !

MachT said:

MacDaddy said:

What do you mean, 'again'?

I never saw them

you missed out !

damn

DexMSR said:

Do what the fuck you want....WHEN U want....How U want....and stop giving yourself fucking parameters dude!!!

Like there is some fucking secret formula to living YOUR life!! THERE ISN'T!!

FUCK!!!

WHAPPITY!!!

[Edited 1/26/12 10:09am]

MachT said:

DexMSR said:

Do what the fuck you want....WHEN U want....How U want....and stop giving yourself fucking parameters dude!!!

Like there is some fucking secret formula to living YOUR life!! THERE ISN'T!!

FUCK!!!

Marry me :hugs: oh no WAIT .... NOT MARRIAGE Baaaaaaaa ( sheep call )

Dex and his -ing!

XxAxX said:

never. BWAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!

Dave1992 said:

The concept of age and all its rules and expectations only restrict people's free development and set limits to their honesty towards who they really are.

Furthermore, it promotes the decline of individual identities and stands in the way of a diverse, multifaceted society.

If people tell others to "act their age", they reduce them to one of the very few things someone cannot change about themselves - the age of their body.

Age doesn't express anything about intelligence, the current state of mind, feelings and the character of a person.

If you're truly interested in a PERSON and not how that person might fit into what society expects your circle of friends to be like, age is the last thing to ask about.

You, Dan, are a wonderful person because you don't "act your age". You're intelligent, you're free, you're honest with yourself and you are self-aware. And, even though you have told us on numeral occasions that you are not equipped with the world's largest penis, I am sure it could still tear any arse to shreds.

Dave...you're probably going to get upset with me again...but I totally disagree.

People have different stages to their development.

A typical 5 year old behaves differently than a 10 year old, who in turn behaves differently than a 15 year old. That goes on and on until the day you die. You grow, you learn things, you MATURE.

The person that I was at 15 is different than who I was at 25, and different than I was at 35.

No one can FORCE you to mature. I know a couple of 30-somethings who are living like teenagers...going from girl-to-girl, hanging out in clubs, not really doing much with their lives other than "having a good time". Irresponsible for a 37 year old, but acceptable for a 17 year old.

As you grow older, you WILL find that your temperance, your emotions, and even your outlook on life will change. It's natural. I personally would hate to have stopped learning or growing emotionally at age 20, 30, whatever.

Mind you, I've always been an "old soul". Straight-laced, not one to get into mischief or recklessness. I read the newspaper as a teen, I "hung out" at the library, I found drunken stupors to be...well...STUPID. So at 17 I was in many ways more like a 37 year-old. I didn't "act my age". Was that a good thing? Was that a bad thing? I can't say for sure.

But I can assure you that I'm more level-headed now, TODAY, than I was just 5 years ago. I've experienced things that have changed me. And YES, I consider myself to be smarter than I was even 5 years ago.

NOW...this is NOT to generalize that a 40 year old is more "intelligent" than a 20 year old. Hell, my 13 year old son is in many aspects smarter than me (I can no longer help him with his math homework!). BUT yes, there are EXPECTATIONS for him to act with more brains and maturity than his 10 year old brother. And I, as a 41 year old, am expected to act with more brains and maturity than anyone in his upcoming high school. These are not "limitations" of who I am (honestly), but rather a fact of LIFE.

You are young, and full of optimism and idealism. It's a beautiful thing man. Enjoy it. When I was your age I spent countless hours writing political editorial letters for the local newspaper (2 actually got published), and once for Columbus Day I wrote a 2-page essay on the MYTH of Columbus "discovering" America, made about 2 dozen photocopies, and left them all over the lunchroom at the store that I worked at. I had this idealistic fire burning in me that time & all the shit life throws at you has cooled to a gray ember. I am different. You yourself may find 10 years from now that things which you find important and cause you to get worked up into a lather aren't that pressing any longer. OR you might find those feelings grow stronger. BUT it's natural for you to change.

One thing I will say, you don't want to try to stop your development. Accept the fact that you will age, learn from your experiences, take responsibility for your mistakes, and embrace whatever comes.

You don't want to be living in a van down by the river, constantly re-living your youth and regretting some missed opportunity for the rest of your life.

CarrieMpls said:

imago said:

"You don't act your age," I'm told.... often.

I'm told I don't look my age either. This has always been true. But part of it I think is

that I 'forget' to act my age, whatever that is supposed to mean.

I'm really just a grown man-boy, and often revert to a childlike view of things when

I should be looking and behaving like an adult.

But I don't really know what is my age.

I mean, I just discovered there is actually a bar that plays 80s neo-Industrial

music here in BANGKOK friggen Thailand, and now I want to check it out.

..but I'm 40.... sooooooo, perhaps that's not a good idea. Most of my friends

are in their early 30s, but even that can be 'old' in certain settings.

I'm not self-concious about it to the point that I wouldn't go. But, I really don't

have any intention of hanging out in places that are meant for the young.

When is it ok to not act 'your age', and when is it not ok? Do you have a line?

Your students invited me out dancing with them. When I said I was too old they emphatically tried to tell me I wasn’t. When I told them my age they all got kind of quiet and let it drop.

PurpleJedi said:

Dave1992 said:

The concept of age and all its rules and expectations only restrict people's free development and set limits to their honesty towards who they really are.

Furthermore, it promotes the decline of individual identities and stands in the way of a diverse, multifaceted society.

If people tell others to "act their age", they reduce them to one of the very few things someone cannot change about themselves - the age of their body.

Age doesn't express anything about intelligence, the current state of mind, feelings and the character of a person.

If you're truly interested in a PERSON and not how that person might fit into what society expects your circle of friends to be like, age is the last thing to ask about.

You, Dan, are a wonderful person because you don't "act your age". You're intelligent, you're free, you're honest with yourself and you are self-aware. And, even though you have told us on numeral occasions that you are not equipped with the world's largest penis, I am sure it could still tear any arse to shreds.

Dave...you're probably going to get upset with me again...but I totally disagree.

People have different stages to their development.

A typical 5 year old behaves differently than a 10 year old, who in turn behaves differently than a 15 year old. That goes on and on until the day you die. You grow, you learn things, you MATURE.

The person that I was at 15 is different than who I was at 25, and different than I was at 35.

No one can FORCE you to mature. I know a couple of 30-somethings who are living like teenagers...going from girl-to-girl, hanging out in clubs, not really doing much with their lives other than "having a good time". Irresponsible for a 37 year old, but acceptable for a 17 year old.

As you grow older, you WILL find that your temperance, your emotions, and even your outlook on life will change. It's natural. I personally would hate to have stopped learning or growing emotionally at age 20, 30, whatever.

Mind you, I've always been an "old soul". Straight-laced, not one to get into mischief or recklessness. I read the newspaper as a teen, I "hung out" at the library, I found drunken stupors to be...well...STUPID. So at 17 I was in many ways more like a 37 year-old. I didn't "act my age". Was that a good thing? Was that a bad thing? I can't say for sure.

But I can assure you that I'm more level-headed now, TODAY, than I was just 5 years ago. I've experienced things that have changed me. And YES, I consider myself to be smarter than I was even 5 years ago.

NOW...this is NOT to generalize that a 40 year old is more "intelligent" than a 20 year old. Hell, my 13 year old son is in many aspects smarter than me (I can no longer help him with his math homework!). BUT yes, there are EXPECTATIONS for him to act with more brains and maturity than his 10 year old brother. And I, as a 41 year old, am expected to act with more brains and maturity than anyone in his upcoming high school. These are not "limitations" of who I am (honestly), but rather a fact of LIFE.

You are young, and full of optimism and idealism. It's a beautiful thing man. Enjoy it. When I was your age I spent countless hours writing political editorial letters for the local newspaper (2 actually got published), and once for Columbus Day I wrote a 2-page essay on the MYTH of Columbus "discovering" America, made about 2 dozen photocopies, and left them all over the lunchroom at the store that I worked at. I had this idealistic fire burning in me that time & all the shit life throws at you has cooled to a gray ember. I am different. You yourself may find 10 years from now that things which you find important and cause you to get worked up into a lather aren't that pressing any longer. OR you might find those feelings grow stronger. BUT it's natural for you to change.

One thing I will say, you don't want to try to stop your development. Accept the fact that you will age, learn from your experiences, take responsibility for your mistakes, and embrace whatever comes.

You don't want to be living in a van down by the river, constantly re-living your youth and regretting some missed opportunity for the rest of your life.

I actually agree with at least 95% of what you said, and therefore can't really see how that contradicts anything I have said!

I never said people should not or can't develop. In fact, I am not only damn sure I will change and develop, I am also really glad I will. Getting stuck at any point in life is never good. Any motion is motion and moving is always important.

What I was talking about was people thinking the stereotypes and "typicals" are something to live up to, something ultimate, powerful and bigger than our free will and our individual journey.

Of course you expect different things from people who have experienced certain things (notice I don't use people who haven't experienced much as the agent, because experience doesn't always make you cleverer and make the better decisions automatically!), but that doesn't mean people aren't allowed to not be "the typical 12-year-old".

To me, this age thing is a massively ridiculous search for a fixed identity. Something to hold on to, when you're not sure whether you're on the right path or "normal" enough.

I say, be what you are at this very moment in time, embrace it. And look forward to being the person you will be tomorrow.

imago said:

"You don't act your age," I'm told.... often.

When is it ok to not act 'your age', and when is it not ok? Do you have a line?

i dunno, it's a weighty question.

seek comfort inside your surroundings?

I am very mature for my age.

And I didn't get a stern talkin-to at the studio today for Mary and I playing out our antics in front of "important" folk.

johnart said:

I am very mature for my age.

And I didn't get a stern talkin-to at the studio today for Mary and I playing out our antics in front of "important" folk.

+ :swoon:

I love your fuckin ass with a passion uncontested.

Boriqua1130 said:

XxAxX said:

never. BWAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!

Serious said:

imago said:

!!!!

Lawd, the org needs you now.

You just want to see him post naked pics of himself again . He already asked on another thread how to post photos .

I had NO idea you were 40. None what so ever. You look and act like you're in your early 30s.

People tell me I act younger too, I just take it as a compliment.

Question....is there a certain way I should be acting since I am 40? I don't think I have ever acted my age. When I was younger I hung out with an older crowd, now that I am older I hang out with a younger crowd. It was not my intention to do this it just happened.

PunkMistress said:

johnart said:

I am very mature for my age.

And I didn't get a stern talkin-to at the studio today for Mary and I playing out our antics in front of "important" folk.

+ :swoon:

I love your fuckin ass with a passion uncontested.

In all fairness our artist advocate did have a few good points and I know she has to think with her "job" hat on to keep everything working in a productive manner at the arts center. It was just such a bizarre feeling to be sitting there with Mary having a talkin-to (which again, in fairness, was not unwarranted ).

Is it odd that I felt both retarded and young at heart in that moment?

johnart said:

PunkMistress said:

+ :swoon:

I love your fuckin ass with a passion uncontested.

In all fairness our artist advocate did have a few good points and I know she has to think with her "job" hat on to keep everything working in a productive manner at the arts center. It was just such a bizarre feeling to be sitting there with Mary having a talkin-to (which again, in fairness, was not unwarranted ).

Is it odd that I felt both retarded and young at heart in that moment?

my best friend and I had a conversation about this subject at lunch two days ago...I'll be 40 this July, and looking back I remember when somebody that age seemed very mature, not necessarily old...I hardly feel mature-or old for that matter....but there are times when I'm talking to a 20-something and realize I have absolutely nothing in common with them and their ideas seem so juvenile or naive...maybe-just maybe-I seem mature to them....most likely they just think I'm an old fuck that thinks he's still cool....as far as acting my age, I just act like me...I think I'm level headed, have my priorities in line and make sound decisions that not only affect me but my family and those closest to me...but I'm also always looking for a good laugh, no matter what it takes...being goofy, poking fun at someone or even at myself, I need to laugh...that comes across as immature a lot of times, I'm certain...but I don't really know how to be any other way

orger said:

my best friend and I had a conversation about this subject at lunch two days ago...I'll be 40 this July, and looking back I remember when somebody that age seemed very mature, not necessarily old...I hardly feel mature-or old for that matter....but there are times when I'm talking to a 20-something and realize I have absolutely nothing in common with them and their ideas seem so juvenile or naive...maybe-just maybe-I seem mature to them....most likely they just think I'm an old fuck that thinks he's still cool....as far as acting my age, I just act like me...I think I'm level headed, have my priorities in line and make sound decisions that not only affect me but my family and those closest to me...but I'm also always looking for a good laugh, no matter what it takes...being goofy, poking fun at someone or even at myself, I need to laugh...that comes across as immature a lot of times, I'm certain...but I don't really know how to be any other way

I certainly don't FEEL like a 41 year old...but I definitely feel the disconnect when dealing with 20-somethings.

I respect kids/teens who act like adults

I despise adults who act like kids / teens, specially irritating, immature, loud mouth teens

.

johnart said:

PunkMistress said:

+ :swoon:

I love your fuckin ass with a passion uncontested.

In all fairness our artist advocate did have a few good points and I know she has to think with her "job" hat on to keep everything working in a productive manner at the arts center. It was just such a bizarre feeling to be sitting there with Mary having a talkin-to (which again, in fairness, was not unwarranted ).

Is it odd that I felt both retarded and young at heart in that moment?

orger said:

my best friend and I had a conversation about this subject at lunch two days ago...I'll be 40 this July, and looking back I remember when somebody that age seemed very mature, not necessarily old...I hardly feel mature-or old for that matter....but there are times when I'm talking to a 20-something and realize I have absolutely nothing in common with them and their ideas seem so juvenile or naive...maybe-just maybe-I seem mature to them....most likely they just think I'm an old fuck that thinks he's still cool....as far as acting my age, I just act like me...I think I'm level headed, have my priorities in line and make sound decisions that not only affect me but my family and those closest to me...but I'm also always looking for a good laugh, no matter what it takes...being goofy, poking fun at someone or even at myself, I need to laugh...that comes across as immature a lot of times, I'm certain...but I don't really know how to be any other way

I'm sort of the same way. But laughter is the goal most of the time. Life is very serious that is why I make fun of it.

WHUT!!!