Or do they fall in love with the idea of falling in love?

FauxReal said:

I think both can happen.

Can you explain?

What a stupid question.

Do people brush their teeth?

Some do, some don't.

PunkMistress said:

What a stupid question.

Do people brush their teeth?

Some do, some don't.

CarrieLee said:

PunkMistress said:

What a stupid question.

Do people brush their teeth?

Some do, some don't.

No. They fall in love with the way certain people make them feel about themselves.

I have a theory about love of all kinds. I think the people we love are people who possess qualities we either possess and like in ourselves, or that we admire and wish we possessed. When you love a person who possesses qualities you admire, those qualities are conferred upon you by your association with them (or so you believe/hope).

ThreadCula said:

CarrieLee said:

People think too much

Not a stupid question at all. And people, IMO, do not think enough.

I think people fall in love with the idea of someone. Especially if it's a new romance. Because how can you really know that person truly until you've spend enough time with them to know if you like them and then love them. Infatuation, lust, etc. is often confused as love.

Now, if you know the person well enough and for some time, then we're working on a different set of parameters, and then maybe we can fall in love with a person.

Just my opinion of course.

Love.......the greatest illusion of them all.

Graycap23 said:

Love.......the greatest illusion of them all.

It sure can be.

Or it can be the most powerful, awe-inspiring emotion.

TheResistor said:

ThreadCula said:

People think too much

Not a stupid question at all. And people, IMO, do not think enough.

I think people fall in love with the idea of someone. Especially if it's a new romance. Because how can you really know that person truly until you've spend enough time with them to know if you like them and then love them. Infatuation, lust, etc. is often confused as love.

Now, if you know the person well enough and for some time, then we're working on a different set of parameters, and then maybe we can fall in love with a person.

Just my opinion of course.

I see your point. I've been through all that stuff. The "illusion" and loving someone when I dont. Confusing new romance infatuation with the real thing.

But it all boils down to... you either love a person or you dont. Everything else is bs.

Im in love now. I have no question about it. Its nothing to overthink about

But

ThreadCula said:

TheResistor said:

Not a stupid question at all. And people, IMO, do not think enough.

I think people fall in love with the idea of someone. Especially if it's a new romance. Because how can you really know that person truly until you've spend enough time with them to know if you like them and then love them. Infatuation, lust, etc. is often confused as love.

Now, if you know the person well enough and for some time, then we're working on a different set of parameters, and then maybe we can fall in love with a person.

Just my opinion of course.

I see your point. I've been through all that stuff. The "illusion" and loving someone when I dont. Confusing new romance infatuation with the real thing.

But it all boils down to... you either love a person or you dont. Everything else is bs.

Im in love now. I have no question about it. Its nothing to overthink about

But

Agreed.

Falling in love is just that - you haven't arrived there yet. If you're infatuated and attracted and all of that with someone, you usually know if you're on your way there. Doesn't mean you're going to arrive, but when and if you do, it's still love.

Genesia said:

No. They fall in love with the way certain people make them feel about themselves.

I have a theory about love of all kinds. I think the people we love are people who possess qualities we either possess and like in ourselves, or that we admire and wish we possessed. When you love a person who possesses qualities you admire, those qualities are conferred upon you by your association with them (or so you believe/hope).

Interesting theory. Do you feel the same way about non-romantic love? Like a mother has for a child, like siblings and friends have for each other, etc.

Do women "fall" pregnant?

Here in the UK they do.

CarrieMpls said:

Genesia said:

No. They fall in love with the way certain people make them feel about themselves.

I have a theory about love of all kinds. I think the people we love are people who possess qualities we either possess and like in ourselves, or that we admire and wish we possessed. When you love a person who possesses qualities you admire, those qualities are conferred upon you by your association with them (or so you believe/hope).

Interesting theory. Do you feel the same way about non-romantic love? Like a mother has for a child, like siblings and friends have for each other, etc.

I think its definitely true with friends.

Familial love is different. I mean...in the case of parents, they are almost certainly trying to instill what they believe to be favorable qualities in their children. But presumably, they would love them before the kids were "cooked"...right?

I do think the siblings who are more like each other will probably be closer than siblings who are less like each other. I have three sisters and am definitely closest to the one who is most like me.

Yes and no.

To cynical response would be that we don't usually know enough of the other person to really fall in love with whom they "really are".

On the other hand, most people usually have a pretty decent gut instinct in these matters.

So perhaps it's reasonable to assume that the immediate qualities in the other person are something that play the most important part in it. That involves also looks, but they do tend to signal often about what type of qualities the person might possess. In the end, it's not that shallow. You can tell a lot by observing general behaviour.

If you are "falling in love with the idea of falling in love" then I think you are just a specific type of a person and it's not necessarily that frequent with everyone.

attraction + hormones + the need to connect with another human being + culture/tradition = love

or maybe its a mystery wrapped in an enigma.

Hmmmmm.....do people really fall in love? Good question...

I know that for me, to "fall in love" means that I would've found someone compatible with me. Someone who shares the same likes/dislikes, same interests, same view on life, same morals, work ethic, etc.. No, I'm not expecting to find someone who is completely like me. I can't even get along with myself. But someone who is different enough to keep interest, and have discussions with. If we differ in opinion, I'd like to be able to discuss it inteligently with him. Perhaps we can come to a favourable solution together. Someone I'd fall in love with, I'd probably also admire them for various reasons. Their view on the world, their career, their compassion, their generosity, etc.

And yes, someone who can accept me for who I am. Someone I'm comfortable with.

I mean, for me...falling in love goes way beyond a physical or sexual attraction. Although, it is important to have an attraction, if a man and woman see eye to eye on several things and are accepting of each other and are willing to love each other through ups and downs, then down the line, a stable family can be formed.

To "fall in love at first sight" doesn't really happen. It's rare that relationships that are formed from just immediate physical/sexual attraction last. That's why a lot of relationships/marriages end in break-ups/divorce. Because by the time the lust/amazement phase passes and you see the other person as they really are, you might not like what you see. That's why you hear a lot of couples complain when they break up, "because you've changed. You're not the person I fell in love with". Not entirely true. They just began to see each other as they really are, and realized they're not compatible with each other. If you associate sexual/physical attraction as a major factor in determining whether you're in love or not, face it, your relationship will not last.

SherryJackson said:

Hmmmmm.....do people really fall in love? Good question...

I know that for me, to "fall in love" means that I would've found someone compatible with me. Someone who shares the same likes/dislikes, same interests, same view on life, same morals, work ethic, etc.. No, I'm not expecting to find someone who is completely like me. I can't even get along with myself. But someone who is different enough to keep interest, and have discussions with. If we differ in opinion, I'd like to be able to discuss it inteligently with him. Perhaps we can come to a favourable solution together. Someone I'd fall in love with, I'd probably also admire them for various reasons. Their view on the world, their career, their compassion, their generosity, etc.

And yes, someone who can accept me for who I am. Someone I'm comfortable with.

I mean, for me...falling in love goes way beyond a physical or sexual attraction. Although, it is important to have an attraction, if a man and woman see eye to eye on several things and are accepting of each other and are willing to love each other through ups and downs, then down the line, a stable family can be formed.

To "fall in love at first sight" doesn't really happen. It's rare that relationships that are formed from just immediate physical/sexual attraction last. That's why a lot of relationships/marriages end in break-ups/divorce. Because by the time the lust/amazement phase passes and you see the other person as they really are, you might not like what you see. That's why you hear a lot of couples complain when they break up, "because you've changed. You're not the person I fell in love with". Not entirely true. They just began to see each other as they really are, and realized they're not compatible with each other. If you associate sexual/physical attraction as a major factor in determining whether you're in love or not, face it, your relationship will not last.

bravo and i second this..but yes i do believe people really fall in love..

DesireeNevermind said:

attraction + hormones + the need to connect with another human being + culture/tradition = love

or maybe its a mystery wrapped in an enigma.

Maybe it's a false sense of emotion...

A person, many persons at the same time, or themselves.

Depends on the person I guess.

That being said, there is no person being loved, and noone loving that person. Only processes. But I'll leave that one alone.

NastradumasKid said:

DesireeNevermind said:

attraction + hormones + the need to connect with another human being + culture/tradition = love

or maybe its a mystery wrapped in an enigma.

Maybe it's a false sense of emotion...

lust and the need to be needed. shit i dunno. last mofo i fell in love with went crazy on me and slashed my tires. Well it wasn't really me that loved him or him that loved I...our genitalia shared deep mutual affection ....naughty addictive love. If they could they would have run off together and there would be a dickless man and a pussyless woman roaming the earth.

all ya need is love

all ya need is love

all ya need is love, love

Love is all ya need

DesireeNevermind said:

NastradumasKid said:

Maybe it's a false sense of emotion...

lust and the need to be needed. shit i dunno. last mofo i fell in love with went crazy on me and slashed my tires. Well it wasn't really me that loved him or him that loved I...our genitalia shared deep mutual affection ....naughty addictive love. If they could they would have run off together and there would be a dickless man and a pussyless woman roaming the earth.

all ya need is love

all ya need is love

all ya need is love, love

Love is all ya need

You are such a romantic.

TheVoid said:

A person, many persons at the same time, or themselves.

Depends on the person I guess.

That being said, there is no person being loved, and noone loving that person. Only processes. But I'll leave that one alone.

I don't think Nagarjuna fell in love.

I think both can apply ... It just really depends.

I have to say i really did and still am in love with my husband

To answer the question, I'd have to say 'yes'.

I definitely see what Genesia's saying. There's loving someone for how that person makes you feel, and simply loving that person, who they are, for them. Or a combo of both, I'd suppose, would often be the way.

DoesNotCompute said:

Or do they fall in love with the idea of falling in love?

Sometimes lust AND love feels the same. Right there is the real problem.

Yes people really fall in love with a person. Falling in love with the idea of being in love, if that was the case, you'd probably fall in love with each male/female you became involved with. And it's a fact that not every person is in love with the one they are involved with. And I say involved because not all people start actual relationships.