When you think of someone who has good "CHARACTER" what qualities do they posess?

Honesty.

Integrity, and a great rack.

Respects others.
Will tell you the truth, even if it's not what you want to hear.
Do what they say they will do.

These are the biggies to me.

Someone who is truly sincere and seems to be genuinely happy when others do well and are happy, even when things aren't going so well for themselves.

I've only known a couple of people like that in my life and, to me, they are incredible people.

"Character," to me, suggests someone who is consistently true to self... and self-determined enough that "self" has some marked distinction from every other bozo around them.

Good character is subjective, of course. But I personally dig things like candor/honesty, critical thinking, charity, ambition and a great sense of aesthetic.

To me, looks and the way people act are a part of their character, if they do it out of honesty and not drama-shit.

This is what I told a friend of mine yesterday, describing and woman that would amaze me:

"erst einmal: kleine frauen mit langen haaren =
wenn sie dann noch wissen wie man sich anzieht, einen schönen, weiblichen, graziösen, sanften, aufrechten gang haben, gut riechen, intelligent und lustig, edel aber verletzlich, sensibel und einfühlsam, aufgeschlossen aber geheimnisvoll, ehrlich und gutmütig, humorvoll, erotisch und kreativ sind, zuhören können und interessiert sind, aber auch selbst inspirieren und faszinieren können, gut küssen und berühren können, schöne augen, weiche lippen und einen schönen körper haben, dann ist das das absolut atemberaubendste, das ich mir vorstellen kann und würde mich so sehr bereichern, dass ich nichts anderes mehr wollen würde. aja, gut ficken wär natürlich auch nicht schlecht."




Good qualities


Translated:

"First of all: Small women with long hair =
If they also know how to dress up, if the way they walk is beautifully feminine, graceful, soft and upright, if they smell well, if they are intelligent and funny, noble, but vulnerable, sensitive and perceptive, open-minded, but mysterious, honest and sweet-tempered, humorous, erotic and creative, interested, but also able to inspire and fascinate others, if they can listen, kiss and touch, if they have beautiful eyes, soft lips and a beautiful body - then this would absolutely be the most breath-taking thing I could have ever imagined and would enrich so much I would not nead anything else anymore. Oh, by the way, a good fuck should be included, of course."

What I absolutely despise, for instance, is people who are acting all the time. Drama-queens, looking for the perfect moment to say the perfect thing, no matter whether it is meant to be sincere or not. They just want to fit into Hollywood shit and I'm certainly not the one to join. I'm all for occasional romance and a nice, deep look into someone's eyes, but no dishonest, drama-acting shit.

Dave1992 said:

Der hat ja total mich beschrieben

Reliability
Wisdom
Kind natured
Non judgemental
Ability and willingness to give constructive criticism if necessary.
Selfless without being a walkover
A person who walks the walk not just talks the talk.

JOYJOY said:

Good one. Reminds me of a preference I forgot above:

Ability and willingness to take and use constructive criticism if necessary.

Serious said:

Liebstes, das war meine eigene Beschreibung!




Aber, Moment mal...

Dave1992 said:

Shit ich habe bloß gelesen "a friend of mine" und dachte ein Freund von dir hat dir diese Beschreibung gegeben . Naja, das Alter kann es ja wenigstens nicht sein weil deine Sache mit dem Handyanruf bei deinem Vater war noch weit dämlicher .

Serious said:

ICH STAND UNTER STRESS, OKAY?!

Dave1992 said:

ICH AUCH, OKAY!

JustErin said:

What she said.

character, as I see it, isn't something that's advertised or worn on a persons sleeve...I think you generally see a persons true character when it's least convenient for them...I think we all know "good" people but that general disposition doesn't always speak of their character...I don't think it can be summed up by a list of adjectives describing their actions...it's more evident by what someone does...not how, why or how often they do it...

Mach said:

1. Honesty - That's not to say they reveal everything about themselves, but that when they say they will do something, they will do it.

2. Respect - severely lacking right now in many people.

3. Someone who makes tough choices. Sometimes to my chagrin, but always with the intention of doing something for the betterment of all.

4. There's a Buddhist quote I wish I could remember, but essentially it boils down to doing right rather than saying right--People will judge you by your actions, not your words. You may have a heart of 'gold' but so does an egg.

5. Lastly, someone who knows who they are, and understands their weaknesses and strengths. Someone who is 'in touch' and uses this not just to his or her advantage, but to the advantage of those around him/her. They leave an impression.

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4 to 5 edit, as pointed out by thejason who succumbed to my doting charms; hence, the subdued and friendly tone of his delivery.
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thejason said:

My love and respect for you as a man just keeps growing.

TheVoid said:

thanks, Dan...
and I was just about to make a smart ass remark about the two # 4's in your previous post...
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compassion and empathy.

thejason said:

You had me at hello. You had me at hello.

TheVoid said:

cborgman said:

OMG, did you see the John Bon Jovi redub that Anxiety posted on facebook?

Mach said:

I think of someone who does what needs to be done no matter how hard it is.

Someone who rarely complains, and is always thinking of what they can do - for themselves, for those around them, or another's need that they've just noticed.

"Character," to me, goes along with "grit" - that inner toughness that makes you get up and go to work, or help someone move, or keep a secret, or keep trying to get through to a difficult child, whatever it is, no matter how sick, tired, or unappreciated you feel.

Thanx everyone


based on what has been said thus far ... I believe that the person that told me this weekend that I "should really work on my character"


REALLY may have wrong about me

Mach said:

Indeed!

ThreadCula said:

This was someone I have known for years

it was not a joke

and SOME drunk people can be so very rude

Mach said:

Now thats shocking! That statement is not true at all.You would be the last person I would think of that has to work on their character.

ThreadCula said:

I have thought about this statement and person for 4 days now ... and all I can come up with is perhaps an envy issues that they need to address maybe

It really hurt my feelings ...


thought edit
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