I kinda wanna checkout some of the gay bars here this weekend but I don't have anyone to go with and I'm far too shy to ask my sister's/roommate's gay friend if he wants to come with me. yet i could probably have a few drinks at home and work up the courage to make my way downtown alone and dance it up with randoms on a dance floor.

So... have you/ do you gone out alone? what were your experiences? good and bad.

Go by yourself. I always have enjoyed going to places without others, cause it leaves me the freedom to do as I want and not feel the need to worry bout anyone else, specially if youre new to the area. Hell its easy to talk up strangers in gay bars.

As a woman.... never.

Leaving a bar or club at in the wee hours of the morning by yourself after mingling with strangers that may have too much liquor in their system is not the safest thing to do... unless you leave before everyone else and you hop in a cab right outside the club.

I worked in a Bar from the age of 18 - 21

I never really had much interest in going to the bar or clubs after that

I have gone several times in the past 24 yrs though, usually to hear a local
( different friends ) bands sometimes I go alone and sometimes with a group I have a great time either way because I love the music


Not much help I know because I'm way past the dating/hooking up part of my expereince

Have fun and be safe

NEVER!

I don't even like to arrive alone to meet someone there immediately.

lazycrockett said:

thanks

paintedlady said:

goood point

I'm a small guy but i don't think I'd get raped in an allie. i would be leaving in a cab right outside tho.

Mach said:

thanks

and you're lucky. I wish I already had a mate and didn't have to bother with all this stuff.

Rarely.

But when I do I always have a prepared answer for the moment a woman asks why I'm there alone.

lazycrockett said:

its so much better by yourself

I rarely go out to bars or clubs even with people these days.

But once upon a time I'd go out by myself on occasion. Of course, this was during the days that I could go out to a group of places or club nights and be reasonably sure I'd run into someone I knew, even if it were only an aquaintance or someone I would hang out with "out" but wouldn't mecessarily make plans with.

JustErin said:

that just about made me spit out my drink.

I'm the same way tho I just gotta put myself out there or i'm going to go crazy staying in every weekend with the rare invites from my sister and her friends.

I've never gone to a bar/club alone, but I would. I think you have more freedom that way; you don't have to worry about what the other person/people want to do.

all my friends deserted once and left me by myself both groups of friends assumed the other was still there and that I wasn't left alone.

It was boring, I finished my drink and caught a cab
the nice boy that talked to me the previous week wasn't there and nobody else looked even vaguely familiar.

All the time and I ALWAYS have a great time.

When you go out alone, you don't have to worry about someone ready to leave before you are or someone not ready to leave when you're ready to go. However, it is fun to go out with a friend if you have the right kind of friend because you double your chances of getting some dick that night. I have several friends who aren't stingy and if either one of us works some dick, we don't mind sharing it.

i dont like to do it....but i do it all the time....if its someone who i need to see dj wise...i will go alone no problem any day.

CarrieMpls said:

same here tho.

i do go about once every 5 or 6 weeks and i used to only go with friends
but lately my best friend has been home bound through severe anxiety so,
i've been out on my own a few times and eventho i dreaded doing it when
i left the house, it turned into nice nights all 3 times.

i actually spoke to and got to know people when i went out alone, when
in the past if i was with my friend, i never hooked up with anyone.

my main problem tho is that there aren't any nice bars in my area so i
always have to go there in my car, thus i'm not able to drink before or
during, which is a major party poop.

IstenSzek said:

we are going to have to solve that problem somehow

vainandy said:

amazing

ZombieKitten said:

i know. but don't worry, i'll think of something. there's always cabs
or cheap hotels, lol.

IstenSzek said:

how far away is Herman's place from a good bar?

I'll go to a club alone if I'm going to see a live show or something. It's no big deal because the purpose is more to enjoy the band than to socialize anyway...but of course it's funner to go with someone else.


There is this kind of industrial club around here that I really want to go to, but I know most of my friends wouldn't want to go, so I'm trying to work up the courage to go solo

Nope.

I don't go to clubs anymore at all.

Bars I go to with the missus.

Fauxie said:

I'd go to bars with your missus too

Sometimes I do, when I really want to be left alone by people who know me and get to know someone completely new and then have anal sex.

ZombieKitten said:

Come on over.

No. I'd feel weird just sitting at a bar or club alone.

FauxReal said:

You missed the whole point!


When you enter without a lady, you'll have thousand of others around your neck immediately.

I've entered without a lady in the past (just friends) and that hasn't happened...

Going to a bar alone seems almost like an alcoholic sort of thing to do.