Fauxie said:

I wish, it won't be this year

I only go to hear a live act or DJ, really.

What are you guys ? Come on and get your groove on

I go out by myself and enjoy it. It can be hard at first, but it can also help you make friends and lovers and even just general acquaintances. But if you're shy, one way around it I would suggest is to go into a bar at off-hours, sit at the bar and talk to the bartender. If it's a small neighborhood bar, there might be some regulars there too. If you find a bar you like, with a clientele you like, getting to know some of the bartenders will help you feel more comfortable in the bar at all times.

I wouldn't go out alone but there have been times - years ago - when I went out with friends and they left early so I stayed out alone.

IstenSzek said:

a) Jessica is moving into my neighbourhood in a month! Just around the corner!
b) Houses for sale in my street.
c) Just sayin'...

ZombieKitten said:

Like, two hours by car, four by train.

I dont like going alone. Too much attention from men creeps me out. crazy fuckers sometimes wanna get all touchy feely and make a bitch pull out her mace.....

matthewgrant said:

No, I hate it. If I know the barstaff, it's cool. But otherwise, never again. I always felt like rent.

Of course. I don't really want my friends to see how I behave at those places anyway.

I might go to gigs all by myself too, but I usually at least meet some familiar faces there.

Dave1992 said:

I can't believe I'm going say this, but this is my position too.

It's pretty safe where i live so I can go pretty much anywhere alone. A lot of hang out spots are located smack dab in our red light district, but it's such a tourist trap and chock full of 20 somethings and theatre going senior citizens, even that area doesn't pose much of a threat. It's also heavily walked by the police so if anything happened there's pretty much a cop or two on every corner, plus the police station is right where the hookers sell their wares. The main danger safety wise would be pick pocketing from the crowding on the streets. For the most part I pretty much don't go out alone anymore because frankly,I'm just too tired. I need lights out by 1am, preferably after a good movie, some wine, or a nice dinner party instead.

i haven't got any friends, but i don't go to bars. perhaps the two are connected...

TheVoid said:

Anyone else surprised?

TheVoid said:

All gay people do this.

HamsterHuey said:

Not all.

I have a question:

Why is it that gay men go out to clubs/bars with the expectation of getting easy, anonymous sex? That seems to be pretty common among my gays IRL and gay men on the Org. I've never understood how/why that is such a pervasive characteristic of gay male culture, especially given the inherent dangers of fucking around with strangers.

As much as I go out, I've never gone to a bar or club with the intention of meeting someone and having sex with them that night. I think I've done that twice in the 20 years I've been going out regularly but it wasn't the "plan." I've also never heard any straight woman I know say that her goal for going out was to hook up with someone that night. Someone please explain this.
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vivid said:

Okay. All single gay people do this.

I used to if there was a band I wanted to see. I wouldn't go and see a DJ on my own or otherwise.

SCNDLS said:

Male hormones. And cuz we can. You don't wanna know how many male straight friends of mine have lamented that there isn't such a thing for hetero's.

So, it's a male thing. Hormonial. Drive. A modern day version of the hunt. And, as it's male on male, there's much more hormones going around than in most male/female realtionships.

HamsterHuey said:

Not all.

HamsterHuey said:

Yep. Most men would do if they could - plain and simple.

vivid said:

Well, the fun ones.
[Edited 2/19/10 3:42am]

HamsterHuey said:

Yeah, probably.

vivid said:

HamsterHuey said:

I'm blessed on my own part to live only two blocks away from this place





It might be the worst meat market in the entire country

It's actually pretty terrible.

novabrkr said:

But does it have a darkroom?

To be honest, I don't really see too much when I'm not wearing glasses or contacts and I'm assfaced drunk.

HamsterHuey said:

Really??? "Hormones" is the explanation?

So, it's okay for a man hetero or straight to say that he cheated cuz his hormones got the best of him?

ZombieKitten said:

herman's place is only 10 minutes away from the entire nightlife of amsterdam