She doesnt want a present for Christmas what is she saying? PLease tell me!!!

She wants presents. Lots of them.

And flowers. Lots of them, too.

She doesn't want A present.She wants LOTZ of presentz.

That she really wants a present...but wants you to pick it out!

She wants diamonds.

it means you better have been listening to her all year and you better figure out what she wants, stat!

She's either telling the truth and doesn't want christmas presents or she's lying and wants christmas presents.

My mom has a tendency to say things like this too. She's not trying to be difficult and it's not that she doesn't mean it. She just feels our money should be spent elsewhere - which of course it's silly. She's always been like that...puts herself last.

But she's always very touched when she gets gifts so I know she enjoys receiving them.

She probably would not mind a small gift with meaning but does not want you to go crazy and spend too much on her.
Maybe she does not have a lot to spend on you and would feel bad if your gift was a lot more expensive than her's.


I don't know. Good luck!

MoniGram said:

Exactly!

veronikka said:

I vote for this one too.

this is Spat's territory if I've ever seen it...

oldpurple said:

Slave2daGroove said:

where is that bitch anyway?

sooooo


1. She wants a present not an expensive one

2. she wants a present but an expensive one

3. No i havnt been listening to her! DOH!!



now i need to come up with a present that has meaning hmmmmm

any good sites out there that i can get an idea?


flowers as well!!

oldpurple said:

How "old" are you?



The thing that's cool for me and my woman is that I know what she wants by instinct alone but that's written in my DNA. I thought it was in most men but apparently not. Think about her likes and buy a bunch of small things for the stocking (bath/skin stuff she uses are a good starter), in combo with 1 big thing (insert the most money you can spend on X-Mas for her) and she'll be happy, which is what it's all about.

Just surprise her with something you know she likes and make a note to yourself to listen to her more if you fuck up, she'll be happy you made the attempt. Flowers will make her think you're guilty of something if you don't normally buy them.

Slave2daGroove said:

How Old am I sometimes I feel like im ninty

In the last yr my wife has given Birth,(our second) and all our time is wrapped up in the kids , whats worse is I work 12 hrs shifts (weekends and night days bank holidays) on my rest days shes at work kids either at school or nursery. we dont get to spend the time I want just her and me I know children need our time as well, but i feel guilty about not spending quality time with her, just her, dont get me wrong I Love my kids adore them to bits would die for them. I know in a couple of yrs we will look on this time as being quite busy for the both us. I seemed to have lost that kind of knowing what she wants, It happened when our first was born and I had to do 3 jobs. So all im asking is do you know any sites that cater for a hopeless romatic that loves his wife after nearly 20 yrs together.

many thanks for your time

Anxiety said:

...And this from a gay man. You nailed it.

Sweeny79 said:

Pick it out, but be thoughtful, not some Victoria's Secret Lotion or something Maybe something that isn't tangible, breakfast that morning, foot massage, relax, I'll take care of everything type thing, favorite foods, no cooking for her, etc.

It means take this Christmas off. You got it easy this year. Believe me.

oldpurple said:

With all of this said, take a couple of lunches or go in a little late or come in early and stop at the mall. Body Works store will hook you up with the bath oils and lotions. Next available minute (when you're not surfing the net on the Org) or the next time you can get a lunch hour back to the mall and pull from you're earliest memories of 20 years ago, what little things make her happy. It really can't be that hard to do, you love her obviously, start there, why?

My point is spend the time, make the damn time to get her things with a thought behind them and not from a web site or Walmart. That's what will really make her feel the way you want her to feel and it won't have to cost you an arm and a leg unless you want it to.

From the sounds of it, just a weekend away with whatever small things you get her would really accomplish what you both need.

Many your welcomes...

She doesn't just want a present. She wants a present (ideally, more than one) that shows you understand and appreciate and cherish her.

(Where's Spats, when a thread needs him?)

So, if she has a favorite movie that she'll watch over and over again, or a favorite team, or a childhood cartoon, or a weird hobby, now's your chance to cater to it.

oldpurple said:

I don't know, but it sounds like a setup...

violator said:

Sure does...

my parents keep saying this to me I know they mean well with not wanting us to spend all our money, or I have enough on my hands with 3 kids, never mind christmas shopping.

but to tell the truth, it has taken the fun out of christmas for me. I WANT to give them something damnit I want christmas to feel fun, not awkward.

I think you still need to get her something. A romantic gesture to say you love her. Simple as that. Don't let her deny you the joy of giving.

... so it seems you're buggered. To summarise;

1. No present.
2. Lots of presents.
3. Something small.
4. Something very special.

Buy her a Rabbit, perfume and some jewellery. If she's not happy then tell her to keep the Rabbit and go f... oops!

iloveannie said:

DissonantChord?

You've gotta love NIN, right?

Yeah, you don't want to fall into THAT trap.

It means she wants a present, and she's not going to give you ANY clue whatsoever as to what it is that she wants, because she wants YOU to figure it out.


Depending on how long you've been with her, it shouldn't be that hard....

DanceWme said:

This is the truth.

Maybe she's trying to tell you that she wants a divorce.