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Thread started 08/04/16 2:58pm

Asenath0607

Healthy vs. Obsession

Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their
interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?
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Reply #1 posted 08/04/16 3:13pm

EmmaMcG

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Not personally. I'd say most people on here are pretty upset that he's gone but I don't think anyone was ever so upset that they needed professional help to cope with the loss. At least, thats the impression I get from reading the threads about his death. I know I, for one, was never THAT upset about it. Of course I was sad that he died, but I didn't know the man. My mum died at the age of 41 two years earlier and if I didn't need professional help for that, then I certainly didn't need it for someone I didn't actually know. I will really miss any new music he may have come out with but that's about as far as it goes for me.
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Reply #2 posted 08/04/16 3:18pm

morningsong

Asenath0607 said:

Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?

Nope, but then I don't talk about it with most people I know because I know most people by now would be sick of hearing about it.

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Reply #3 posted 08/04/16 3:40pm

nursev

Nope...my grown son just told me it was time to let it go lol and maybe it is
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Reply #4 posted 08/04/16 3:46pm

anotherfan

no and I keep it to myself too.

Mourning is tough and it's great to be strong enough to get help, if that would be useful.
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Reply #5 posted 08/04/16 3:53pm

AnnaStesia91

nursev said:

Nope...my grown son just told me it was time to let it go lol and maybe it is

My whole family has told me this. With the exception of my moms. They understand. Brought me back some flowers and rocks and leaves from Paisley when they went and are driving to Minne with me for the tribute. They respect my grief process but my grandfather almost got the cuss out when he said "it's not that deep"
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Reply #6 posted 08/04/16 6:29pm

Revolution

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I tend to bury my emotions deep inside. I think my wife was the only one who knew how deep this cut. I was devastated for about a month, breaking down often. It slowly got better. I accept it now. Prince was special in so many ways.
Thanks for the laughs, arguments and overall enjoyment for the last umpteen years. It's time for me to retire from Prince.org and engage in the real world...lol. Above all, I appreciated the talent Prince. You were one of a kind.
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Reply #7 posted 08/04/16 7:10pm

QueenofCardboa
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Everybody in my family agrees that I am obsessed, but they disagree about whether it is healthy or not.

My mother thinks it is wierd, but my husband is supportive and has tried to reassure my mom that I am okay.

I went through this with David Bowie too.

And now everyone is saying that I will be obsessed with Prince until the next one dies.

Parish the thought of losing anyone else.

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Reply #8 posted 08/04/16 7:30pm

ldmendes

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My family all liked Prince and they miss him too..I just talk about it more. They get annoyed sometimes, but if a Prince song comes on, they turn it up. If something happens during the day that is associated with Prince, they point it out. I told them if a Prince event comes up I am going, and they want to come too. So I guess we are a family that admires and respects Prince and understand that his death is an enormous loss..it just upsets me more. Not sure that makes sense.

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Reply #9 posted 08/04/16 7:46pm

flyscdiva

Nope,pardon my bluntness guys....but I aint letting s*** go. It still hurts and I just let it be. For me it's more reminiscing about him,his music. When he passed,it took me back to the very beginning, over 30 years of being a fan. So many memories.... Even my mom saying she remembers knowing I was up getting ready for school when she heard Sign O The Times(1987) start up on my boom box! For the first time in years I thought about my scrapbook I worked on and lost when we had to make a hasty move and left/lost a lot of things behind. That hadnt crossed my mind in years.

For me he was ALWAYS IT!! My first and ONLY celebrity crush since I was about eight years old. I took him for granted cause he was just always a part of my life. Now, he's gone and I just feel so heartbroken sad

I mourn him how I want. If I feel like crying I let myself do it. If I feel like getting funky I play my favorite jams and dance etc. Him passing so suddenly cut me so deep I can say, this is gonna take me some YEARS to get over. Meanwhile I am enjoying my life, BUT I still take time to allow myself to process his lost. I hope no one needs to seek professional help, yet at the same time dont let friends/family etc tell you how you should or shouldnt feel because "it's been 3 months" or "you didnt even know him". What's it to anybody else? If some have moved on good for them. For a lot of us we grew up right along with him and his music was with us through major points in our lives so it not that easy. Just remember, you're okay,Iam okay and ITS going to be okay! Take it one day at a time! wink

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Reply #10 posted 08/04/16 9:26pm

leslievette

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Not to the point of professional help, but I've been told by my Dad (who was the one who got me into Prince, mind you) that it's "time to let it go". That's the worst thing anyone can tell me at this point. Like that's gonna make it any better. I've always been to one to love hard, no matter who or what it is. So if/when something goes wrong, I take it that much harder. This is no different. 3 months, 3 days, 3 hours, it doesn't matter how long it's been. It still hurts just as bad as the second I saw those words on my computer screen at work and my fu%*ing world fell apart. I could care less how other people perceive my grieving.

From now on, 4 U I shall be wild 💜
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Reply #11 posted 08/04/16 9:30pm

bigtimefan

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I won't name names, or post specific messages, but there ARE some that have sought therapy after/because of Prince's passing.

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I was/am worried that some will even be suicidal because of it all.

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I get the "obsession" part. I never used to, but I check in here and on other sites for updates and info. I think it's really hard for some of us because we don't know the "whys" and realize that we may never get the closure that is so helpful in healing/grieving.

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There is nothing wrong with seeking help if you are having a hard time coping. For me it's okay and "healthy" as long as it doesn't disrupt your entire life. If you aren't able to work or enjoy your family and friends, and your regular routine and life feels like a tailspin, then it may be time to seek some help.

Eventually every cloud runs out of rain.
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Reply #12 posted 08/04/16 10:24pm

sonshine

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No, but they are over hearing about it so I keep a lot of it to myself. It would be nice to share my love of him and his music with the people closest to me but thank God I gave the org for that! Dont know what I would do without this outlet.
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It's a hurtful place, the world, in and of itself. We don't need to add to it. We all need one another. ~ PRN
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Reply #13 posted 08/04/16 10:41pm

oliviacamron

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Asenath0607 said:

Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their
interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?

No one has told me but am thinking of seeking help. Do you think you need help?
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #14 posted 08/04/16 10:47pm

oliviacamron

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bigtimefan said:

I won't name names, or post specific messages, but there ARE some that have sought therapy after/because of Prince's passing.


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I was/am worried that some will even be suicidal because of it all.


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I get the "obsession" part. I never used to, but I check in here and on other sites for updates and info. I think it's really hard for some of us because we don't know the "whys" and realize that we may never get the closure that is so helpful in healing/grieving.


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There is nothing wrong with seeking help if you are having a hard time coping. For me it's okay and "healthy" as long as it doesn't disrupt your entire life. If you aren't able to work or enjoy your family and friends, and your regular routine and life feels like a tailspin, then it may be time to seek some help.

I guess it's time to get help then
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #15 posted 08/04/16 10:51pm

PeteSilas

Asenath0607 said:

Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?

it would be possible, people don' ttalk about it much but when michael died about 13 people killed themselves because of it. Yes, the Prince death hurt a lot, i didn't practice for about a month, that's the kind of entropy and lack of work that I've only encountered a few times in the last 25 years.

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Reply #16 posted 08/04/16 10:52pm

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leslievette said:

Not to the point of professional help, but I've been told by my Dad (who was the one who got me into Prince, mind you) that it's "time to let it go". That's the worst thing anyone can tell me at this point. Like that's gonna make it any better. I've always been to one to love hard, no matter who or what it is. So if/when something goes wrong, I take it that much harder. This is no different. 3 months, 3 days, 3 hours, it doesn't matter how long it's been. It still hurts just as bad as the second I saw those words on my computer screen at work and my fu%*ing world fell apart. I could care less how other people perceive my grieving.


Do you cry everyday?
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #17 posted 08/04/16 11:02pm

laurasmpls

I'm having a hard time, but knew the day he was gone would be a huge challenge. His show and music has been a passion that I loved for 30+ yrs, an escape from difficulties. My family is irritated, but 30 yrs is most of my adult life and it just takes time. I also there would be more truth come out about what happened. I think that would help closure.
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Reply #18 posted 08/05/16 12:09am

ilo

There were a fair few I could think of that had an unhealthy obsession before he died and that perhaps needed a bit of therapy wink
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Reply #19 posted 08/05/16 5:57am

justAmeda

EmmaMcG said:

Not personally. I'd say most people on here are pretty upset that he's gone but I don't think anyone was ever so upset that they needed professional help to cope with the loss. At least, thats the impression I get from reading the threads about his death. I know I, for one, was never THAT upset about it. Of course I was sad that he died, but I didn't know the man. My mum died at the age of 41 two years earlier and if I didn't need professional help for that, then I certainly didn't need it for someone I didn't actually know. I will really miss any new music he may have come out with but that's about as far as it goes for me.

yeahthat clapping highfive thumbs up! Yep mine died in late 2014 at 54 and I feel the same way as you EmmaMcG!

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Reply #20 posted 08/05/16 6:24am

Purplebflogirl

I agree with the several posters who mentioned that it feels like we have no closure..That's some of it I believe..
I wish I had seen him in concert.
I can't think of any musician with even half his talent sad
Until the end of time
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Reply #21 posted 08/05/16 8:28am

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nursev said:

Nope...my grown son just told me it was time to let it go lol and maybe it is

I may try and let it go, but I can see myself April 21, 2017 still can't believeing P is gone! neutral

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Reply #22 posted 08/05/16 11:24am

QueenofCardboa
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Purplebflogirl said:

I agree with the several posters who mentioned that it feels like we have no closure..That's some of it I believe.. I wish I had seen him in concert. I can't think of any musician with even half his talent sad

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I think that I am upset because it was a total shock, and so horribly unfair because he was so young.

I know that am going to be very sad when Bob Dylan dies, but I won't be shocked and think that it is unfair.

I have actually had time to think about the fact that Bob Dylan isn't immortal, and that he won't always be with us.

Just like when my grandmother died at 89.

I was sad, but it wasn't like I didn't see it coming.

I think that is what hurt so much about David Bowie, and hurts even worse about Prince.

I didn't see it coming so it was like a sucker punch.

Anyway, I don't feel a personal loss the way many others do on this org.

For me it is more about realizing that I am getting older and I can't take for granted that someday I'll have enough time to see Prince in concert.

Prince dying made me realize that I haven't danced enough in my life.

And that I shouldn't put it off until tomorrow anymore, because the world isn't going to wait for me.

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Reply #23 posted 08/05/16 12:01pm

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I was obsessed with Prince during his lifetime, so the obsession continues after his death, sadly. sad
"Just like the sun, the Rainbow Children rise."

"Am I black or white? Am I straight or gay?"

"We had fun, didn't we?"
-Prince (1958-2016) 4ever in my life
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Reply #24 posted 08/05/16 12:20pm

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I just cried again today. I don't let anyone see me but I talk about Prince a lot.

No one has said anything but I think they think I'm being a little ridiculous, especially for a woman my age.

Oh well.

My mother's long lost cousin came for a visit and I went over to my mother's house to see him. When he saw that I love Prince and I said something positive about Prince, the cousin said something passive-aggressive and cutting about Prince dying from an overdose. It was intentional and odd. I just said that Prince's legacy is already standing for itself.

I had to bite my tongue because I was going to say, "Well...Prince wasn't miserable."
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Reply #25 posted 08/05/16 12:23pm

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QueenofCardboard said:

For me it is more about realizing that I am getting older and I can't take for granted that someday I'll have enough time to see Prince in concert.

Prince dying made me realize that I haven't danced enough in my life.

And that I shouldn't put it off until tomorrow anymore, because the world isn't going to wait for me.

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Reply #26 posted 08/05/16 2:09pm

icequeen78

Asenath0607 said:

Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their
interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?



I personally think that quite a few people are beyond obsessed here and it's worrisome to me. When you can't seem to move on with your own life that's an issue. It's okay to feel sad .quite another to be in a state of paralysis... I'm sure he would have been disturbed by this fanatic behaviour. Now I see people making crass comments on Estabon fb page and being obsessed there too... odd and creepy
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Reply #27 posted 08/05/16 2:12pm

nursev

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nursev said:


Nope...my grown son just told me it was time to let it go lol and maybe it is


I may try and let it go, but I can see myself April 21, 2017 still can't believeing P is gone! neutral



I'm trying too, but this time next year I'll be feeling the same way
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Reply #28 posted 08/05/16 2:12pm

nursev

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I was obsessed with Prince during his lifetime, so the obsession continues after his death, sadly. sad


Sad but true
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Reply #29 posted 08/05/16 2:15pm

PeteSilas

icequeen78 said:

Asenath0607 said:
Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?
I personally think that quite a few people are beyond obsessed here and it's worrisome to me. When you can't seem to move on with your own life that's an issue. It's okay to feel sad .quite another to be in a state of paralysis... I'm sure he would have been disturbed by this fanatic behaviour. Now I see people making crass comments on Estabon fb page and being obsessed there too... odd and creepy

who's estabon? Prince wanted to be a leader, almost to cult proportions so i don't think he'd be that disturbed. I don't think it's all that fanatical, you want to see real fanaticism, go watch ayatollah khomeni being ripped out of his casket. People love telling other people to "get help" or whatever, makes them feel superior but "get help" really doesn't do much for most people, counselors and psychologists are just as fucked up as you and me, if not moreso.

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