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Reply #30 posted 08/05/16 2:18pm

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disch said:

QueenofCardboard said:

For me it is more about realizing that I am getting older and I can't take for granted that someday I'll have enough time to see Prince in concert.

Prince dying made me realize that I haven't danced enough in my life.

And that I shouldn't put it off until tomorrow anymore, because the world isn't going to wait for me.

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yeahthat

Yep, I have had similar thoughts when Prince passed away. You never know when it is your time, it could be sooner than you would think (or like!). Enjoy life everyday and have as much fun as possible, that is my mission!

RIP Prince: thank U 4 a funky Time...
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Reply #31 posted 08/05/16 2:23pm

PeteSilas

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disch said:

yeahthat

Yep, I have had similar thoughts when Prince passed away. You never know when it is your time, it could be sooner than you would think (or like!). Enjoy life everyday and have as much fun as possible, that is my mission!

ya, you never know, anything can happen, life is random like that. You can only do so much to prolong the inevitable. I keep the fuck away from drugs and alcohol, be careful with the people I allow into my life(lots of people get killed by the people they once called friends/husbands/family) and I drive extra careful, doesn't mean i won't die today.

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Reply #32 posted 08/05/16 2:28pm

TooLate

It's been 7 years since MJ died and I still cry thinking about it sometimes haha..

The thing I don't understand is why Prince's death Hurt me so much. I mean I wasn't even a fan. I have always been intrigued by that Man but not a fan. So that's weird. I cried when I heard the news. I can't imagine for some of you who have been fan for 30 years. It's normal to feel sad, cry etc. But if it goes to the point that you're depressed and can't go on with your life... Help is needed. That feeling will always be there though.
It sucks sad
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Reply #33 posted 08/05/16 2:29pm

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Such a fine line. Kevin Smith described it as falling into a Prince Hole. The hole has been getting deeper. Things have been getting WORSE, not better. But some of that is just my own personal circumstances. Sometimes I make it a whole day without crying. Sometimes even two. That's about it. Sorrow becomes the norm, and any other emotion is temporary. I will never get over this. But it will not destroy my life. Cope, I do. P challenged us in life, and, for some of us, he is challenging us on a deeper level from the astral plane.

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Reply #34 posted 08/05/16 2:56pm

icequeen78

PeteSilas said:



icequeen78 said:


Asenath0607 said:
Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?

I personally think that quite a few people are beyond obsessed here and it's worrisome to me. When you can't seem to move on with your own life that's an issue. It's okay to feel sad .quite another to be in a state of paralysis... I'm sure he would have been disturbed by this fanatic behaviour. Now I see people making crass comments on Estabon fb page and being obsessed there too... odd and creepy

who's estabon? Prince wanted to be a leader, almost to cult proportions so i don't think he'd be that disturbed. I don't think it's all that fanatical, you want to see real fanaticism, go watch ayatollah khomeni being ripped out of his casket. People love telling other people to "get help" or whatever, makes them feel superior but "get help" really doesn't do much for most people, counselors and psychologists are just as fucked up as you and me, if not moreso.



Google estabon or look on the front page.. and yea it's interesting to note how people are behaving and prince actually did have an issue with people behaving in a fanatical manner toward him. He spoke about that in some interview. Hell- he didn't like the word fan based on the meaning of fanatic... and avoiding calling his supporters fans because he said that fanatic was negative. Come on now. He wanted to be treated like a regular person not worshipped like a demi god.


I'm also not telling a soul how to be... just making sure I keep an eye on folks who took one sip too many of the purple kool-aid
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Reply #35 posted 08/05/16 3:09pm

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Please guys let's not judge eachother harshly. Let's practice a little compassion towards our fellow Prince fans. Even the ones who fixate on Prince and seem to have an unhealthy obsession with his physical being. Maybe they do that because they have not found their true soul purpose yet and haven't realized their gifts yet. Sometimes I think Prince had a lot of "obsessed" fans because his presence/gifts/nature was a way some people felt closer to God...not saying he was a God or God like but his gift was otherworldley and even he knew and respected that. Maybe being in his presence was a way for soul depleated people to feel like there WAS confirmation that God was out there. His presence was magnetic, powerful and he made people feel a certain way that.

I'm not saying that some Prince fans don't have mental health problems but even if they do, let's be empathetic towards them and not make them try to feel worse. This is hard on all of us. There are a lot of people really hurting out there.

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Reply #36 posted 08/05/16 4:18pm

justAmeda

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I'm also not telling a soul how to be... just making sure I keep an eye on folks who took one sip too many of the purple kool-aid

lol cracks me up! I have a dear friend who has mentioned "purple kool-aid folks" recently when describing many fanatical P fans. So much that now when I go in my pantry and see my big thing of powdered grape kool-aid (grape is one of my fav flavors and not because of P) and I can't drink it and not get the giggles...

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Reply #37 posted 08/05/16 4:38pm

icequeen78

Estabon is the adopted guy who was refused the dna test and let me tell you. The way I see some prince fans carrying in is disturbing me to a great deal.. it's like naked worship by lemmings...I just smh at their sheep behaviour... constantly writing that you love someone over and over on their profile page is creepy. Very very creepy. Especially someone who added you an hour ago
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Reply #38 posted 08/05/16 5:03pm

PeteSilas

icequeen78 said:

Estabon is the adopted guy who was refused the dna test and let me tell you. The way I see some prince fans carrying in is disturbing me to a great deal.. it's like naked worship by lemmings...I just smh at their sheep behaviour... constantly writing that you love someone over and over on their profile page is creepy. Very very creepy. Especially someone who added you an hour ago

i don't understand, someone added estabon and said they loved him?

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Reply #39 posted 08/05/16 5:16pm

PeteSilas

icequeen78 said:

Asenath0607 said:
Does anyone feel (or have been told) that their interest in Prince, and/or their sadness because of his death, has passed from healthy interest, into obsession, and that maybe it is time to seek professional help?
I personally think that quite a few people are beyond obsessed here and it's worrisome to me. When you can't seem to move on with your own life that's an issue. It's okay to feel sad .quite another to be in a state of paralysis... I'm sure he would have been disturbed by this fanatic behaviour. Now I see people making crass comments on Estabon fb page and being obsessed there too... odd and creepy

i thought estaban was that mexican guy with the cowboy hat who had a guitar course on tape.

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Reply #40 posted 08/05/16 6:42pm

icequeen78

PeteSilas said:



icequeen78 said:


Estabon is the adopted guy who was refused the dna test and let me tell you. The way I see some prince fans carrying in is disturbing me to a great deal.. it's like naked worship by lemmings...I just smh at their sheep behaviour... constantly writing that you love someone over and over on their profile page is creepy. Very very creepy. Especially someone who added you an hour ago

i don't understand, someone added estabon and said they loved him?



That's right.. they keep writing on his wall that they love him so much and going on about Prince and I'm like? Obsess much.
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Reply #41 posted 08/05/16 6:47pm

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Think this is a hard one for many of us....it is going to take time.
Honestly I think it's so hard because of the length of time he has been apart of our lives.
It was like a habit to constantly want to know what he was going to do next...that was part of the fun. Sadly there isn't going to be the next big surprise.
Will always miss his presence being gone...
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Reply #42 posted 08/05/16 10:13pm

DollyDagger

I have a theory about my own reaction to Prince's passing and how I have grieved.

I think it has been much harder to put my grief aside because i saw him in concert.....the connection was formed and it never really went away. sad

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Reply #43 posted 08/08/16 8:58am

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My husband pulled me aside about a month ago and asked me how much longer this "Prince mourning" would last....I just stopped and looked at him and said "even longer now!" I have lost 15 lbs since April 21st (no appetite!)I have all the tribute magazines, a new Prince tattoo, 3 new t-shirts, a pair of his symbol earrings, and an angelic prince symbol decal on my car. All I listen to is Prince. If that is unhealthy, well then that is ME!!!!
"Str8 PurpleMack Baby♥"
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Reply #44 posted 08/08/16 9:24am

Waiting4Fall

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Astasheiks said:

I may try and let it go, but I can see myself April 21, 2017 still can't believeing P is gone! neutral

I'm trying too, but this time next year I'll be feeling the same way

Hi NurseV

I always like reading your posts because you're practical.

When your son told you it might be time to "let it go", did he mean "move on" or "accept"? There's a difference.

:hugs:

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Reply #45 posted 08/08/16 9:29am

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My guy told me he was actually surprised at how well I've done with it all.

He has no idea.

We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
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Reply #46 posted 08/08/16 11:30am

theartistirl

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My guy told me he was actually surprised at how well I've done with it all.

He has no idea.

My wife said something similar. She thinks I took it better than she expected. She has no idea, holding it together just about. Listening to the Lenny Kravits interview on http://www.jonesysjukebox.com/archive the day Prince passed. Lenny sounds so kind about Prince and Jonesy is clearly feeling down because of it and yet he didn't even know him.

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Reply #47 posted 08/08/16 11:41am

Guitarhero

Am like a typical man , the other half has no idea. Keep it all to myself but i can come here and tell you cool guys and it helps alot. Still miss the guy but it ain't a obession.

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Reply #48 posted 08/08/16 11:50am

nursev

Waiting4Fall said:



nursev said:


Astasheiks said:



I may try and let it go, but I can see myself April 21, 2017 still can't believeing P is gone! neutral



I'm trying too, but this time next year I'll be feeling the same way

Hi NurseV



I always like reading your posts because you're practical.



When your son told you it might be time to "let it go", did he mean "move on" or "accept"? There's a difference.



:hugs:





My son is a Prince fan cuz I am, but he meant to carry on with life cuz P is gone. He's always had a way to tell me about Prince lol hug
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Reply #49 posted 08/08/16 11:54am

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I listen to him everyday. Cant help but to. In some fashion I was already doing that while he was still here so why stop now.

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Reply #50 posted 08/08/16 3:08pm

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PurpleHeartBreak said:

My husband pulled me aside about a month ago and asked me how much longer this "Prince mourning" would last....I just stopped and looked at him and said "even longer now!" I have lost 15 lbs since April 21st (no appetite!)I have all the tribute magazines, a new Prince tattoo, 3 new t-shirts, a pair of his symbol earrings, and an angelic prince symbol decal on my car. All I listen to is Prince. If that is unhealthy, well then that is ME!!!!

Are you in love with Prince?
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #51 posted 08/08/16 3:15pm

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Waiting4Fall said:



nursev said:


Astasheiks said:



I may try and let it go, but I can see myself April 21, 2017 still can't believeing P is gone! neutral



I'm trying too, but this time next year I'll be feeling the same way

Hi NurseV



I always like reading your posts because you're practical.



When your son told you it might be time to "let it go", did he mean "move on" or "accept"? There's a difference.



:hugs:



Maybe there is hope for our broken hearts. Let's see where we are at in 3 more months. God allowed him to die right?

sad
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #52 posted 08/08/16 3:22pm

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oliviacamron said:

PurpleHeartBreak said:

My husband pulled me aside about a month ago and asked me how much longer this "Prince mourning" would last....I just stopped and looked at him and said "even longer now!" I have lost 15 lbs since April 21st (no appetite!)I have all the tribute magazines, a new Prince tattoo, 3 new t-shirts, a pair of his symbol earrings, and an angelic prince symbol decal on my car. All I listen to is Prince. If that is unhealthy, well then that is ME!!!!

Are you in love with Prince?

Lol! I do love Prince, that's for sure. I actually work at a Mental Health Clinic, and the guy who works next door to me is a therapist. I'm not an overly emotional person; it takes a lot to make me cry. The first few days after Prince passed were a struggle for me. I went next door to talk to my coworker because although I have always loved Prince, I didn't understand why I was so choked up over his demise. I walked in and started talking and immediately started crying uncontrollably. He was shocked to see me like this and told me to sit down. We talked for a bit and his take on the whole thing was interesting. He thinks that since I had a few traumatic things occur when I was 11 or 12, and that since that's when I first started listening to his music, that was my safe haven. Its funny how music goes deeper than we think!
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Reply #53 posted 08/08/16 3:46pm

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PurpleHeartBreak said:

oliviacamron said:


Are you in love with Prince?

Lol! I do love Prince, that's for sure. I actually work at a Mental Health Clinic, and the guy who works next door to me is a therapist. I'm not an overly emotional person; it takes a lot to make me cry. The first few days after Prince passed were a struggle for me. I went next door to talk to my coworker because although I have always loved Prince, I didn't understand why I was so choked up over his demise. I walked in and started talking and immediately started crying uncontrollably. He was shocked to see me like this and told me to sit down. We talked for a bit and his take on the whole thing was interesting. He thinks that since I had a few traumatic things occur when I was 11 or 12, and that since that's when I first started listening to his music, that was my safe haven. Its funny how music goes deeper than we think!

I fell in love with Prince when I was 11 years old and that lasted about a year. I had not thought about him much until he died then I just lost it. I'm back in love with him or maybe I always did really love him. For 32 years I don't think about Prince then he dies and it hurts worse then when I lost family. I could not eat or sleep the first two weeks. I still cry daily. I finally told my Pastor what I'm going through and I'm suppose to start counseling. It totally took me by surprise too how much I'm hurting over this. As a matter of fact, a few days before he passed, I dreamed he died. I told my mom about the dream and very casually said that I hope that didn't happen. Maybe in 3 more months things will be better for us. I never expected to grieve this long but there is got to be an end. If I can convince myself God allowed this to happen then maybe some acceptance will help
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #54 posted 08/08/16 11:29pm

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sonshine said:

No, but they are over hearing about it so I keep a lot of it to myself. It would be nice to share my love of him and his music with the people closest to me but thank God I gave the org for that! Dont know what I would do without this outlet. [Edited 8/4/16 22:25pm]

Amen

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Reply #55 posted 08/09/16 8:03am

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I think that I'm a bit obsessed about Prince's passing. My daughters (15 and 18) have both made comments about me always looking at Prince videos, interviews, and being on the org. My 15 yo asked me when will this end. I said I don't know.

I've accepted the fact that he is no longer here, but I feel so bad about it and there are still so many unanswered questions. I'm also concerned about what will happen to his work, PP, and his legacy. I hope it all remains with his family.

I don't think that I need counselling, but I am grieving probably more than I've greived for my own family members who have passed away.

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Reply #56 posted 08/09/16 8:28am

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oliviacamron said:

PurpleHeartBreak said:


Lol! I do love Prince, that's for sure. I actually work at a Mental Health Clinic, and the guy who works next door to me is a therapist. I'm not an overly emotional person; it takes a lot to make me cry. The first few days after Prince passed were a struggle for me. I went next door to talk to my coworker because although I have always loved Prince, I didn't understand why I was so choked up over his demise. I walked in and started talking and immediately started crying uncontrollably. He was shocked to see me like this and told me to sit down. We talked for a bit and his take on the whole thing was interesting. He thinks that since I had a few traumatic things occur when I was 11 or 12, and that since that's when I first started listening to his music, that was my safe haven. Its funny how music goes deeper than we think!

I fell in love with Prince when I was 11 years old and that lasted about a year. I had not thought about him much until he died then I just lost it. I'm back in love with him or maybe I always did really love him. For 32 years I don't think about Prince then he dies and it hurts worse then when I lost family. I could not eat or sleep the first two weeks. I still cry daily. I finally told my Pastor what I'm going through and I'm suppose to start counseling. It totally took me by surprise too how much I'm hurting over this. As a matter of fact, a few days before he passed, I dreamed he died. I told my mom about the dream and very casually said that I hope that didn't happen. Maybe in 3 more months things will be better for us. I never expected to grieve this long but there is got to be an end. If I can convince myself God allowed this to happen then maybe some acceptance will help

Its good to know I'm not alone....although I wouldn't wish this heartache on my worst enemy!(if I even had one!lol) I also am struggling with anger towards the JW's, because I feel like he would still be here if he had never converted to them.😳
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Reply #57 posted 08/09/16 8:30am

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I think that I'm a bit obsessed about Prince's passing. My daughters (15 and 18) have both made comments about me always looking at Prince videos, interviews, and being on the org. My 15 yo asked me when will this end. I said I don't know.


I've accepted the fact that he is no longer here, but I feel so bad about it and there are still so many unanswered questions. I'm also concerned about what will happen to his work, PP, and his legacy. I hope it all remains with his family.


I don't think that I need counselling, but I am grieving probably more than I've greived for my own family members who have passed away.

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You are not alone! 😉
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Reply #58 posted 08/09/16 7:00pm

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PurpleHeartBreak said:

oliviacamron said:


I fell in love with Prince when I was 11 years old and that lasted about a year. I had not thought about him much until he died then I just lost it. I'm back in love with him or maybe I always did really love him. For 32 years I don't think about Prince then he dies and it hurts worse then when I lost family. I could not eat or sleep the first two weeks. I still cry daily. I finally told my Pastor what I'm going through and I'm suppose to start counseling. It totally took me by surprise too how much I'm hurting over this. As a matter of fact, a few days before he passed, I dreamed he died. I told my mom about the dream and very casually said that I hope that didn't happen. Maybe in 3 more months things will be better for us. I never expected to grieve this long but there is got to be an end. If I can convince myself God allowed this to happen then maybe some acceptance will help

Its good to know I'm not alone....although I wouldn't wish this heartache on my worst enemy!(if I even had one!lol) I also am struggling with anger towards the JW's, because I feel like he would still be here if he had never converted to them.😳

I also thought that perhaps if Prince would have found a real Christian Church that he may not have died either. I know you didn't say that, but that's what I think. If he was searching for a way to get close to God then the JW s would have been the wrong route. I do believe that Prince is one of God's own though. Prince was healed by an angel at 7 years old for his epilepsy.
I asked Prince what he was planning to do. He told me , I'm going to look for the ladder. I asked him what that meant. All he said was, sometimes it snows in April. - book D.M.S.R.
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Reply #59 posted 08/09/16 9:31pm

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I think that for me a lot of the distress I feel about Prince's death is that 1) it was out of left field for the most part and 2) he was a man that was larger than life and could never truly die (which I guess he won't, but you know what I mean). I think his death made me too aware of my mortality which is also upsetting.

Admission is easy, just say you believe and come to this place in your heart... <3
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