When did Lil Wayne get green skin?

Shyra said:

uPtoWnNY said:

THIS.

You know how times I've heard "what's wrong with you?" for not wanting kids, mostly from relatives. And I'm a guy....I bet women who feel like me get more crap.

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You know it. When I was about 25, a coworker told me I was selfish for not having kids. I told her, "No. I am not selfish. I knew enough to practice birth control to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Look at yourself. You had your first kid when you were 16 and you've been catching hell ever since. Just because I kept my draws up did not make me selfish. It made me smart."

Ouch! I bet she left you the hell alone after that...

She was dead wrong.

Graycap23 said:

When did Lil Wayne get green skin?

You sooo wrong for dat

Graycap23 said:

When did Lil Wayne get green skin?

Shyra said:

uPtoWnNY said:

THIS.

You know how times I've heard "what's wrong with you?" for not wanting kids, mostly from relatives. And I'm a guy....I bet women who feel like me get more crap.

[Edited 9/11/14 8:24am]

You know it. When I was about 25, a coworker told me I was selfish for not having kids. I told her, "No. I am not selfish. I knew enough to practice birth control to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Look at yourself. You had your first kid when you were 16 and you've been catching hell ever since. Just because I kept my draws up did not make me selfish. It made me smart."

BANG! POW!

Nothing better than cutting stupid mfers to pieces with the cold-blooded truth.

The selfish thing to do is having kids when you're not emotionally mature and financially stable.

I'm afraid you're thinking about breeding

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uPtoWnNY said:

Shyra said:

You know it. When I was about 25, a coworker told me I was selfish for not having kids. I told her, "No. I am not selfish. I knew enough to practice birth control to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Look at yourself. You had your first kid when you were 16 and you've been catching hell ever since. Just because I kept my draws up did not make me selfish. It made me smart."

BANG! POW!

Nothing better than cutting stupid mfers to pieces with the cold-blooded truth.

The selfish thing to do is having kids when you're not emotionally mature and financially stable.

Right on the money, honey!

when i was little i watched my parents fight and struggle and my mom try to pretend everything was okay for her childrens' sake. scared me right out of any desire to follow that path myself... maybe next lifetime.

If your thinking about having a baby but are not sure if your ready or not get a pet. If you can't handle that then your definitely not ready to for a baby.

kpowers said:

If your thinking about having a baby but are not sure if your ready or not get a pet. If you can't handle that then your definitely not ready to for a baby.

Right on. I substitue kids with 6 cats of my own and am feeding 3 strays that hang around my house. Eating my ass out of house and home.

Shyra said:

uPtoWnNY said:

BANG! POW!

Nothing better than cutting stupid mfers to pieces with the cold-blooded truth.

The selfish thing to do is having kids when you're not emotionally mature and financially stable.

Right on the money, honey!

There's still this notion that a woman is not "complete" unless she has kids. I'm glad to see today's women not buying into those backwards ideas.

Shyra said:

kpowers said:

If your thinking about having a baby but are not sure if your ready or not get a pet. If you can't handle that then your definitely not ready to for a baby.

Right on. I substitue kids with 6 cats of my own and am feeding 3 strays that hang around my house. Eating my ass out of house and home.

Never ever have children.

They will suck you dry, increase your car insurance and be ungrateful as shit.

Never.

Ever.

kpowers said:

Revolution said:

SuperFurryAnimal said:

Revolution said:

Never ever have children.

They will suck you dry, increase your car insurance and be ungrateful as shit.

Never.

Ever.

The way the school system is sick, they should replace no child left behind with no child sucks you dry. One teacher I know was arrested for sodomy and another for feeling up a little girl. You can't trust the school syetem. I also advise to homeschool or a good reputable Christian/Baptist school.

And things don't happen at Christian schools? *smh* No offense, but everywhere has potential for danger

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alphastreet said:

SuperFurryAnimal said:

Revolution said: The way the school system is sick, they should replace no child left behind with no child sucks you dry. One teacher I know was arrested for sodomy and another for feeling up a little girl. You can't trust the school syetem. I also advise to homeschool or a good reputable Christian/Baptist school.

And things don't happen at Christian schools? *smh* No offense, but everywhere has potential for danger

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That's why I believe in home schooling first and foremost. Some sickos did infiltrate the Christian schools but I believe they weeded out the bad guys. I read story after story of bad public schools. What is even worse is the gov funds and controls them and take a look beyong the drama scandals, we not doing very well. When they can't even teach kids to tie a shoe and the kids are using velcro. YES WE CAN FAIL.

SuperFurryAnimal said:

Revolution said:

Never ever have children.

They will suck you dry, increase your car insurance and be ungrateful as shit.

Never.

Ever.

The way the school system is sick, they should replace no child left behind with no child sucks you dry. One teacher I know was arrested for sodomy and another for feeling up a little girl. You can't trust the school syetem. I also advise to homeschool or a good reputable Christian/Baptist school.

This is an attempt at sarcasm, right?

There are over 3 MILLION full-time teachers in the Public School systems across America.

I know, I KNOW, you wouldn't be a part of such a ridiculously ignorant stereotype. Right?

SuperFurryAnimal said:

alphastreet said:

And things don't happen at Christian schools? *smh* No offense, but everywhere has potential for danger

[Edited 9/14/14 7:02am]

That's why I believe in home schooling first and foremost. Some sickos did infiltrate the Christian schools but I believe they weeded out the bad guys. I read story after story of bad public schools. What is even worse is the gov funds and controls them and take a look beyong the drama scandals, we not doing very well. When they can't even teach kids to tie a shoe and the kids are using velcro. YES WE CAN FAIL.

I've read horrifying stories about what has happened at Catholic and residential schools too, don't get me started. They can weed out all the bad guys, but unfortunately they are still out there too, and what's happened in the past, is unforgivable. Everywhere has a potential for danger and till this day, there are still sick stories that come out of any type of school. But it doesn't mean one school is better than other today or there is a right and wrong choice of where to educate them. Parents can't prevent everything, but should absolutely make an extra effort to know where they are sending their children and who's with them all day, no matter what type of educational setting, instead of dumping them, working and not really communicating with them about how their day truly was.

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1. Don't make a child by accident or if you are unsure or not ready-- take all precautions to prevent pregnancy!

2. Don't create a child just to have a baby, for they grow up!

3. Don't create a child thinking you and your lover, husband, and or wife will be together forever and that is what YOU as a couple will always get along.

4. Do NOT agree to be a parent under pressure from your partner or spouse.

If you do agree to have a child be prepared and willing to raise that child alone, (worst case scenario of course), but expect to invest all you have to give, in one way or another, into raising that little baby to be the best person he or she can be alone.

Have a financial plan for your kid -- they are expensive! Literally from day one -- diapers, formula, and daycare cost a lot and that's just in the first few years!

Expect to lose sleep -- This NEVER ends from birth to adult -- you worry. From daycare provider, bullying at school, peer pressure, premature sex, first broken heart, school grades, romantic partners they choose etc. It never seems to end...

Be ready for self questioning and self-doubt-- did I do enough, did I teach enough, were they listening etc., this is normal and par for the course. At some point you have to love and let go..

If nothing else give yourself a BREAK you are NOT perfect and you ARE going to make mistakes. Forgive yourself and allow for imperfections, share this with you child in an age appropiate way and use it as a teaching moment with your child. Remember sometimes the lesson is what not to do and how we can make mistakes choices better!

Realize that your social life WILL change -- baby changes EVERYTHING! From your outlook to what others expect and perceive about you! From birth it's no longer about you it's about your child

Then you have to learn to let go. Once baby is grown you have to adjust and learn to let go and let them make their own mistakes. This can be hard for those of use who put our all and in our kids.

In the mean-time take a lot of pictures and videos -- for time will go slow and fast at the same time. What can frustrate you on a day to day basis now will cause you to say " I wonder where the time went" later. Before you know it he/ she is graduating from high school/ college.

Regardless of how and why you get in to parenthood embrace it, and know you are not alone as this is a wonderful and confusing club. Ask for help if you need it.

nammie said:

1. Don't make a child by accident or if you are unsure or not ready-- take all precautions to prevent pregnancy!

2. Don't create a child just to have a baby, for they grow up!

3. Don't create a child thinking you and your lover, husband, and or wife will be together forever and that is what YOU as a couple will always get along.

4. Do NOT agree to be a parent under pressure from your partner or spouse.

If you do agree to have a child be prepared and willing to raise that child alone, (worst case scenario of course), but expect to invest all you have to give, in one way or another, into raising that little baby to be the best person he or she can be alone.

Have a financial plan for your kid -- they are expensive! Literally from day one -- diapers, formula, and daycare cost a lot and that's just in the first few years!

Expect to lose sleep -- This NEVER ends from birth to adult -- you worry. From daycare provider, bullying at school, peer pressure, premature sex, first broken heart, school grades, romantic partners they choose etc. It never seems to end...

Be ready for self questioning and self-doubt-- did I do enough, did I teach enough, were they listening etc., this is normal and par for the course. At some point you have to love and let go..

If nothing else give yourself a BREAK you are NOT perfect and you ARE going to make mistakes. Forgive yourself and allow for imperfections, share this with you child in an age appropiate way and use it as a teaching moment with your child. Remember sometimes the lesson is what not to do and how we can make mistakes choices better!

Realize that your social life WILL change -- baby changes EVERYTHING! From your outlook to what others expect and perceive about you! From birth it's no longer about you it's about your child

Then you have to learn to let go. Once baby is grown you have to adjust and learn to let go and let them make their own mistakes. This can be hard for those of use who put our all and in our kids.

In the mean-time take a lot of pictures and videos -- for time will go slow and fast at the same time. What can frustrate you on a day to day basis now will cause you to say " I wonder where the time went" later. Before you know it he/ she is graduating from high school/ college.

Regardless of how and why you get in to parenthood embrace it, and know you are not alone as this is a wonderful and confusing club. Ask for help if you need it.

Amen!

JoeTyler said:

I decided, a long time ago, that I don't WANT to have children, I'm 29 now, been THINKING about it since I was 18 at least; this may sound freudinian, but I think I AM my own kid...

when I settle down ( IF I settle down) I'll look for a woman who doesn't want children either, simple as that...

Women that don't want or cant have kids will cling to you like cheeeze to Grits...Do you want that? Can you deal with having to send her a Text when you leave the bedroom just to let her know you made it to the bathroom down the hall? Can you handle wearing matching outfits every time you go out in Public? Can you deal with her taste-testing all your Food and Drinks?

nammie said:

1. Don't make a child by accident or if you are unsure or not ready-- take all precautions to prevent pregnancy!

2. Don't create a child just to have a baby, for they grow up!

3. Don't create a child thinking you and your lover, husband, and or wife will be together forever and that is what YOU as a couple will always get along.

4. Do NOT agree to be a parent under pressure from your partner or spouse.

If you do agree to have a child be prepared and willing to raise that child alone, (worst case scenario of course), but expect to invest all you have to give, in one way or another, into raising that little baby to be the best person he or she can be alone.

Have a financial plan for your kid -- they are expensive! Literally from day one -- diapers, formula, and daycare cost a lot and that's just in the first few years!

Expect to lose sleep -- This NEVER ends from birth to adult -- you worry. From daycare provider, bullying at school, peer pressure, premature sex, first broken heart, school grades, romantic partners they choose etc. It never seems to end...

Be ready for self questioning and self-doubt-- did I do enough, did I teach enough, were they listening etc., this is normal and par for the course. At some point you have to love and let go..

If nothing else give yourself a BREAK you are NOT perfect and you ARE going to make mistakes. Forgive yourself and allow for imperfections, share this with you child in an age appropiate way and use it as a teaching moment with your child. Remember sometimes the lesson is what not to do and how we can make mistakes choices better!

Realize that your social life WILL change -- baby changes EVERYTHING! From your outlook to what others expect and perceive about you! From birth it's no longer about you it's about your child

Then you have to learn to let go. Once baby is grown you have to adjust and learn to let go and let them make their own mistakes. This can be hard for those of use who put our all and in our kids.

In the mean-time take a lot of pictures and videos -- for time will go slow and fast at the same time. What can frustrate you on a day to day basis now will cause you to say " I wonder where the time went" later. Before you know it he/ she is graduating from high school/ college.

Regardless of how and why you get in to parenthood embrace it, and know you are not alone as this is a wonderful and confusing club. Ask for help if you need it.

Love this post, it's so true. I can definitely empathize from family and coworkers on a lot of these topics though I'm not married with children yet.

The last thing I have to add, and I'm the mother of six kids age range from 29 to 10, is what to do when you and your child just do not connect. For what ever reason or circumstance you just don't see eye to eye. And I didn't always get it right believe me....

Nevermind of how it comes about just listen and never stop trying to connect to your child regardless of age. CHILDREN ACHE FOR EFFORT FROM THEIR PARENTS REGARDLESS OF AGE. I cannot say this enough! If NOTHING ELSE take this in...

Acknowledge their feelings, hear them and accept how they feel. Don't try to explain the WHY and HOW-COME on your part, just listen and be an audience. Then take some time to see their point of view --- then work from that point. Most of the time kids, just like grown folks , just want to be heard and understood. You don't have to always agree you just have to listen and FULLY hear what they are saying and accept your role in the lack comunication.

It's a selflless, thankless job BUT an experience like no other if you choose to accecpt it.

PURplEMaPLeSyrup said:

thank you, nammie!!! i feel like if i had a kid they may have way different perspective from me, so that brings me some understanding.

So funny I was having a conversation with my eldest son tonight, the child whom I have had the biggest issue with. He was Listening to Floetry's Say Yes Live in NO, and he said how that song reminded him of what his wish was for - for our relationship back in the day.... Not in a lovers sense but a mother sense. Say YES