XxAxX said:

you have to tell guys what you want, and how. some listen, some don't

it can be hard to hear with a set of thighs covering your ears

MoBettaBliss said:

MoBettaBliss said:

XxAxX said:

you have to tell guys what you want, and how. some listen, some don't

it can be hard to hear with a set of thighs covering your ears

MoBettaBliss said:

XxAxX said:

you have to tell guys what you want, and how. some listen, some don't

it can be hard to hear with a set of thighs covering your ears

I prefer to keep my thighs off his face. Gives him more room for head swirling.

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Stymie said:

And let me add that I prefer to give than to receive. It's such a turn on to feel a man's body react to every little lick and suck you give him.

chocolate1 said:

JoeTyler said:

please, you two=explain how they did it wrong, lol, so I avoid those mistakes?

May I chime in?

1) Knowing WHERE to lick... Look at an anatomy chart, or just ASK.

2) Knowing HOW to lick... The worst one was lapping like he was emptying a dog dish.
Again: ASK. Ask about pressure, motion, etc... I'll let you know.

3) When I ask you to stop or switch it up, listen. I WAS enjoying it, but now I'm ready for something else. K?

I absolutely HATE the one person who could "go shopping downtown and hit all the stores" with skill. I'm not so sure I wouldn't run him down if he happened to find himself in front of my car. But DAMN, that man had the "Magic Tongue"!!

I think that it's similar as giving head to a man.


I like it when a man teases me with his tongue. And barely touches my clitoris, or softly licks the skin around it.

Makes me yearn!


Only after an hour of teasing and massaging and kissing, it's time that dude licks me as if he's licking the last drups of chocolate out of a bowl.


And if you don't like to do it, don't do it.


It's great if a man goes down and is excited about giving you a great experience.

If he just goes down, to finish a job, so he can do his............ that's horrible sex. Dude should get off porn and learn erotic sexuality.

Unfortunately most guys are like the I'll to my job, in order to stick my dick in. Unfortunately.

JoeTyler said:

HuMpThAnG said:

ouch!!!

if anything, it was a fair comment, not an insult; but I'm truly surprised that she finds MOST men incompetent at , that's why I said that perhaps she doesn't like oral sex that much to begin with

Most men are incompetent. They sort of suffice, but it's more about getting the job done, than actually passionately loving the sex together.

jeez yall, I'm beginning to wonder if I'm pathetic OR excellent at sucking

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JoeTyler said:

jeez yall, I'm beginning to wonder if I'm pathetic OR excellent at sucking

[Edited 7/14/14 8:49am]

You should know if you've made a woman cum with your tongue.

Stymie said:

JoeTyler said:

jeez yall, I'm beginning to wonder if I'm pathetic OR excellent at sucking

[Edited 7/14/14 8:49am]

You should know if you've made a woman cum with your tongue.

thanks for the obvious!

JoeTyler said:

Stymie said:

You should know if you've made a woman cum with your tongue.

thanks for the obvious!

Then you don't have to wonder if you are good or not, do you?

[Edited 7/14/14 9:50am]

dJJ said:

chocolate1 said:

May I chime in?

1) Knowing WHERE to lick... Look at an anatomy chart, or just ASK.

2) Knowing HOW to lick... The worst one was lapping like he was emptying a dog dish.
Again: ASK. Ask about pressure, motion, etc... I'll let you know.

3) When I ask you to stop or switch it up, listen. I WAS enjoying it, but now I'm ready for something else. K?

I absolutely HATE the one person who could "go shopping downtown and hit all the stores" with skill. I'm not so sure I wouldn't run him down if he happened to find himself in front of my car. But DAMN, that man had the "Magic Tongue"!!

I think that it's similar as giving head to a man.


I like it when a man teases me with his tongue. And barely touches my clitoris, or softly licks the skin around it.

Makes me yearn!


Only after an hour of teasing and massaging and kissing, it's time that dude licks me as if he's licking the last drups of chocolate out of a bowl.


And if you don't like to do it, don't do it.


It's great if a man goes down and is excited about giving you a great experience.

If he just goes down, to finish a job, so he can do his............ that's horrible sex. Dude should get off porn and learn erotic sexuality.

Unfortunately most guys are like the I'll to my job, in order to stick my dick in. Unfortunately.

to all of this.

Stymie said:

dJJ said:

I think that it's similar as giving head to a man.


I like it when a man teases me with his tongue. And barely touches my clitoris, or softly licks the skin around it.

Makes me yearn!


Only after an hour of teasing and massaging and kissing, it's time that dude licks me as if he's licking the last drups of chocolate out of a bowl.


And if you don't like to do it, don't do it.


It's great if a man goes down and is excited about giving you a great experience.

If he just goes down, to finish a job, so he can do his............ that's horrible sex. Dude should get off porn and learn erotic sexuality.

Unfortunately most guys are like the I'll to my job, in order to stick my dick in. Unfortunately.

to all of this.

Co-sign.

Some want to suck it like the clit is detachable or stab at it like my clit has agreed to a sword fight.

Don't come at it like a Saint Bernard to a bone, slobbering all over my ass, thighs and bed. Keep
it moist but understand that my body lubricates on its own.

If you pull back and SPIT on my pussy...we are done. This is not a porn, you will not hock a loogie on me

Take your time. It is not a speed eating contest.

My pussie does not smell like flowers or taste like fresh rain. Don't expect it to. I keep myself clean
but I don't spray myself down with nasty scented BS. You asked for pussy, you're getting pussy. If you don't
like pussy, don't ask for it.

Also, cumming isn't automatically a sign that the head (or sex) was good. I think that can be said for both men
and women.

dJJ said:

JoeTyler said:

if anything, it was a fair comment, not an insult; but I'm truly surprised that she finds MOST men incompetent at , that's why I said that perhaps she doesn't like oral sex that much to begin with

Most men are incompetent.

most men?

wow

you sure must have had a lot of guys eat your pussy to be able to say that

not sure how you get anything done... i can understand how you can type on a message board with a guy's head between your legs... but how do you do the vacuuming?

and do you go to church?

the mind boggles

boggle boggle

LadyCasanova said:

Some want to suck it like the clit is detachable or stab at it like my clit has agreed to a sword fight.

Don't come at it like a Saint Bernard to a bone, slobbering all over my ass, thighs and bed. Keep
it moist but understand that my body lubricates on its own.

If you pull back and SPIT on my pussy...we are done. This is not a porn, you will not hock a loogie on me

Take your time. It is not a speed eating contest.

My pussie does not smell like flowers or taste like fresh rain. Don't expect it to. I keep myself clean
but I don't spray myself down with nasty scented BS. You asked for pussy, you're getting pussy. If you don't
like pussy, don't ask for it.

Also, cumming isn't automatically a sign that the head (or sex) was good. I think that can be said for both men
and women.

Girl damn.

LadyCasanova said:

Also, cumming isn't automatically a sign that the head (or sex) was good. I think that can be said for both men
and women.

very true

Stymie said:

LadyCasanova said:

Some want to suck it like the clit is detachable or stab at it like my clit has agreed to a sword fight.

Don't come at it like a Saint Bernard to a bone, slobbering all over my ass, thighs and bed. Keep
it moist but understand that my body lubricates on its own.

If you pull back and SPIT on my pussy...we are done. This is not a porn, you will not hock a loogie on me

Take your time. It is not a speed eating contest.

My pussie does not smell like flowers or taste like fresh rain. Don't expect it to. I keep myself clean
but I don't spray myself down with nasty scented BS. You asked for pussy, you're getting pussy. If you don't
like pussy, don't ask for it.

Also, cumming isn't automatically a sign that the head (or sex) was good. I think that can be said for both men
and women.

Girl damn.

For real!

MoBettaBliss said:

dJJ said:

Most men are incompetent.

most men?

wow

you sure must have had a lot of guys eat your pussy to be able to say that

not sure how you get anything done... i can understand how you can type on a message board with a guy's head between your legs... but how do you do the vacuuming?

and do you go to church?

the mind boggles

boggle boggle

Saying "most men" may be taking things a bit far, but it is rare for me to hear a friend say they
have fucked a dude who gets down on some pussy like an all star. (Not from lack of conversation
about sex!)

On the other hand, I hear plunty of my male friends (and my own brothers) talking about the good
head they get.

Hell, I don't know a ton of women who receive oral sex in general. A fair mix of "not interested"
and "partner doesn't like it."

Ignorance on the topic really doesn't surprise me. How often do we talk about eating
pussy in a way that is pussy focused? How many guys pay attention to every juicy lip and fold vs
just the clit and hood? (I know, I know, women don't show enough love to the sac...)

Where I grew up, it wasn't "cool" for a guy to eat pussy. In fact, it was used as an insult or a slur.
It was cool to fuck or get your dick sucked, but guys never ran around bragging about how they
were face-first in it all night (they still don't).

It is still rare for me to hear conversations that focus on female pleasure. I know plunty of
women who don't feel comfortable talking about their bodies or their pleasure. They will talk about
what makes their men happy all day long, but when they talk about their bodies, they focus on
how their body pleases their men. Which is good and fine, but if we can't talk about our own
pleasure, how do we teach our partners?

An important factor in all of this is the fucked up relationship many women have with their own
pussy. It is hard to enjoy the tongue game when you can't stop thinking about how your pussy
looks/smells/feels/tastes...

To this day, the best eating has been from a woman. Hands down.

Side note:
When my brother found out I was dating a woman, the thing that most blew his mind was
the idea that I was eating pussy...like on the regular...not just as "something extra."

*Spacing edits*

[Edited 7/14/14 17:31pm]

I had a friend tell me today that he thinks the taste of pussy is gross and he won't do it if he doesn't have to.

I bet he lets his girlfriend suck his dick til her jaw locks tho.

Stymie said:

I had a friend tell me today that he thinks the taste of pussy is gross and he won't do it if he doesn't have to.

I bet he lets his girlfriend suck his dick til her jaw locks tho.

but not surprising.

My brother told me he won't eat pussy because he knows that other men have been balls deep in it

LadyCasanova said:

Stymie said:

LadyCasanova said:

but not surprising.

My brother told me he won't eat pussy because he knows that other men have been balls deep in it

What about all the pussies his dick has been in?

He says it doesn't count because he never asks her to suck his dick. She just "does it."

LadyCasanova said:

Stymie said:

LadyCasanova said:

He says it doesn't count because he never asks her to suck his dick. She just "does it."

Ugh! It's such a hard balance. You want the guy to do it and enjoy doing it. You want the guy to do it because you did him. You don't want the guy to do it if he thinks its a chore but it makes you feel less than desirable if he's not willing to do you back. You don't want to deny yourself when you're a head junkie.

I don't expect my partner to love the taste of pussy, I really don't. I don't get sad when I go out
and don't find pussy flavored ice-cream. Goodness knows, i'm not in love with the taste of dick

I just want my partner to care about my pleasure and my desires.

Don't expect something from me you won't give and once you commit to the act, do it with your
heart in it.

Some couples are just not sexually compatible.

If you're a head junkie, give me a

LadyCasanova said:

LadyCasanova said:

A selfish lover (or so-called lover) is a selfish person, period..... ultimate turnoff

Most of my lovers were horrble at giving oral sex... and so was I.

I learned how to give head with practice, I became more confident, and with that confidence I was able to "read" my partner better and actually be open to any criticism or pointers given.

I didn't know how to suck dick, I had to learn, so I use that approach with any new lover I have.

He has to "learn" my body because all pussies look different and just are. This is why many lovers fail at oral until they learn that lover's body.

Gotta know your partner and what feels good for them. Now I agree with Lady Cassanova and Chocolate1 about getting the job done right.

My current lover only gets better at this skill, but I had to be patient because when we first started out he would induce pain and not pleasure. Now he knows how to handle my pussy so it feels great.

Sometimes it takes time to learn to work a specific pussy or dick. The more head I give the better I get. I think that holds true for most things in life.

Hey Girl!

I was wondering where you were!