Is there a hidden secret to taking the first step in the dating sphere? When you have self-confidence and a good sense of what makes up sexual harassment, not necessarily. So before you plunk down money for that dating self-help book, learn how to speak with a woman without seeming like a creepy stalker with a Selena Gomez shrine in your parents' basement. Make the apparent small adjustments yourself, depending upon your sexual choice. Source of article: visit at present this webpage.

How you can talk to a female - On the street

It all begins with paying attention to whether or not she wants to engage in conversation with you in the first place. If she is walking fast, focused on her phone and avoiding eye contact, don't force your way into her bubble. Also, do not bet all your chips on one-on-one road conversation after dark. Nobody owes you conversation. However, if you make eye contact and she gives you a small smile, that's an invitation to say hello. Start with small talk and see where it goes. Try to work in a compliment that isn't really about something physical or sexual. Perhaps you can complement a colorful necklace? Could possibly be a history there, which in turn could spark additional conversation!

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It is really rude to talk to somebody who is on the phone or reading, but if she is just sitting there and smiling at you, feel free to speak with her. Ask if you can sit with her, and leave happy if she states no. Otherwise, you might be able to sit down and have a pleasant conversation with her.

How to speak with a woman - On public transportation

Women frequently have their guard up when riding public transportation, as some of the creepiest people alive are more than willing to infect fellow bus riders with their personalities. That means that flirting possibilities will be few and far between. The eye contact and smile test - and that's brief eye contact, not an intense stare - is always the best initial test. If headphones, a smartphone or book are in play, hold back. The non-physical, non-sexual compliment is an option if you connect, but keep in mind that what works on the street may not work as well on the bus or trolley.

Talking to a waitress

When somebody is a waitress and talking to you, there is a good chance that she is just being nice to get a good tip and does not actually want to date you. Make sure she does not feel like you are paying her for sex by giving her a big tip and implying you would like a date. You can speak with her for a little while and see if there is a spark if the restaurant is not too busy. You can even ask her out there. Obviously, if she gives you her number she is interested.

Conversation to pass the time

If you are on a long flight, making conversation can help pass the time. If there are no barriers to conversation such as books, headphones or computers, read her responses to your conversation. If there are smiles and laughs, you will not be out of bounds if you up the ante just a little. Considering that you might be traveling to different cities, you may have to settle for some contact info. If it isn't phone digits, at least try to get a social media deal with.

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should i wear pants?

i didn't see that mentioned there

MoBetterBliss said:

should i wear pants?

i didn't see that mentioned there

That's optional, especially if you wear a raincoat.

kewlschool said:

MoBetterBliss said:

should i wear pants?

i didn't see that mentioned there

That's optional, especially if you wear a raincoat.

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kewlschool said:

MoBetterBliss said:

should i wear pants?

i didn't see that mentioned there

That's optional, especially if you wear a raincoat.

Well, what about areas outside of Seattle, where raincoats aren't a normal part of one's wardrobe?

Does this also apply to men? I really suck at this and could use some help.

those seem like over-obvious but you would be surprised

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I work part-time at Barnes and Noble, and am often complimented by management about my friendliness.

A few times, male customers have taken it as flirting. I even got a card through the store's mail from a guy who thought that there was something building between us. I don't even know who he is! An anonymous note from someone who's been watching you is not flattering. That was just creepy.

Okay, there was a FINE guy that came in last Saturday. I WAS flirting with him...

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chocolate1 said:

I work part-time at Barnes and Noble, and am often coplimented by management about my friendliness.

A few times, male customers have taken it as flirting. I even got a card through the store's mail from a guy who thought that there was something building between us. I don't even know who he is! An anonymous note from someone who's been watching you is not flattering. That was just creepy.

Okay, there was a FINE guy that came in last Saturday. I WAS flirting with him...

robertlove said:

Does this also apply to men? I really suck at this and could use some help.

I would think that would be an asset.

PurpleJedi said:

kewlschool said:

That's optional, especially if you wear a raincoat.

Well, what about areas outside of Seattle, where raincoats aren't a normal part of one's wardrobe?

Flashers are every where-just saying.

Flashers. . . .

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It gets a little scarier though when they in front of you.

MoBetterBliss said:

should i wear pants?

i didn't see that mentioned there

marycoll said:

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How you can talk to a female - On the street

It all begins with paying attention to whether or not she wants to engage in conversation with you in the first place. If she is walking fast, focused on her phone and avoiding eye contact, don't force your way into her bubble. Also, do not bet all your chips on one-on-one road conversation after dark. Nobody owes you conversation. However, if you make eye contact and she gives you a small smile, that's an invitation to say hello. Start with small talk and see where it goes. Try to work in a compliment that isn't really about something physical or sexual. Perhaps you can complement a colorful necklace? Could possibly be a history there, which in turn could spark additional conversation!

I wish everyone just respect the "head down/ fast walking" routine. The entrance to the Metro station across from my job is dark, creepy, secluded, and thus a prime hangout for sleazy dudes afterdark... If you have to walk through there at night (and you even look like you may have a vagina) you are going to get damn near vebally assaulted by scumbags trying "to get a date".

marycoll said:

Trying these suggestions in NYC might get a dude maced.

uPtoWnNY said:

Trying these suggestions in NYC might get a dude maced.

Wow, the girls in that video were really squirrely.

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I don't think things have to be all that complicated. OK, I'm a woman but I don't think it really matters whether you're a man or a woman. I've never thought things through like this. To me, it's not that complex. I can usually pick up on whether or not someone likes me or is interested in chatting with me, dating me etc. via what they say & body language. It's a gut feeling. Just smile, be friendly and polite and see where things go or don't go. It's really not that difficult or complex.

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I know what some people are gonna say, "Well, that's easy for you to say cuz you're a woman!" Hogwash. C'mon now.

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At the end of the day, if you ask someone out and they decline, so what? There are other fish in the sea.

thekidsgirl said:

marycoll said:

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How you can talk to a female - On the street

It all begins with paying attention to whether or not she wants to engage in conversation with you in the first place. If she is walking fast, focused on her phone and avoiding eye contact, don't force your way into her bubble. Also, do not bet all your chips on one-on-one road conversation after dark. Nobody owes you conversation. However, if you make eye contact and she gives you a small smile, that's an invitation to say hello. Start with small talk and see where it goes. Try to work in a compliment that isn't really about something physical or sexual. Perhaps you can complement a colorful necklace? Could possibly be a history there, which in turn could spark additional conversation!

I wish everyone just respect the "head down/ fast walking" routine. The entrance to the Metro station across from my job is dark, creepy, secluded, and thus a prime hangout for sleazy dudes afterdark... If you have to walk through there at night (and you even look like you may have a vagina) you are going to get damn near vebally assaulted by scumbags trying "to get a date".

Totally true.

Also bad - cab drivers. I HATED when cab drivers would hit on me. I always cabbed home from the club and I lived alone for years, so I would go home alone. It's late at night and now I'm not sure if I want you to know where I live, but I'm paying you to drive me home. BLEH.

CarrieMpls said:

thekidsgirl said:

I wish everyone just respect the "head down/ fast walking" routine. The entrance to the Metro station across from my job is dark, creepy, secluded, and thus a prime hangout for sleazy dudes afterdark... If you have to walk through there at night (and you even look like you may have a vagina) you are going to get damn near vebally assaulted by scumbags trying "to get a date".

Totally true.

Also bad - cab drivers. I HATED when cab drivers would hit on me. I always cabbed home from the club and I lived alone for years, so I would go home alone. It's late at night and now I'm not sure if I want you to know where I live, but I'm paying you to drive me home. BLEH.

I would always make them drop me off at the 7/11 near my home.

The amount of harassment that women constantly have to deal with is incredible.

JustErin said:

CarrieMpls said:

Totally true.

Also bad - cab drivers. I HATED when cab drivers would hit on me. I always cabbed home from the club and I lived alone for years, so I would go home alone. It's late at night and now I'm not sure if I want you to know where I live, but I'm paying you to drive me home. BLEH.

I would always make them drop me off at the 7/11 near my home.

The amount of harassment that women constantly have to deal with is incredible.

it truly is. i was sexually molested at age five, and at age 53 i am STILL being sexually harassed by men. it will never end

marycoll said:

If headphones, a smartphone or book are in play, hold back.

That sucks Can't meet anyone who likes music or reading.

XxAxX said:

i was sexually molested at age five,

That's horrific! Sorry to hear that.

Cinny said:

XxAxX said:

i was sexually molested at age five,

That's horrific! Sorry to hear that.

thanks

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CarrieMpls said:

thekidsgirl said:

I wish everyone just respect the "head down/ fast walking" routine. The entrance to the Metro station across from my job is dark, creepy, secluded, and thus a prime hangout for sleazy dudes afterdark... If you have to walk through there at night (and you even look like you may have a vagina) you are going to get damn near vebally assaulted by scumbags trying "to get a date".

Totally true.

Also bad - cab drivers. I HATED when cab drivers would hit on me. I always cabbed home from the club and I lived alone for years, so I would go home alone. It's late at night and now I'm not sure if I want you to know where I live, but I'm paying you to drive me home. BLEH.

I know someone who was taken to an abandoned building and raped by a cab driver. Horrible.

chocolate1 said:

I work part-time at Barnes and Noble, and am often complimented by management about my friendliness.

A few times, male customers have taken it as flirting. I even got a card through the store's mail from a guy who thought that there was something building between us. I don't even know who he is! An anonymous note from someone who's been watching you is not flattering. That was just creepy.

Okay, there was a FINE guy that came in last Saturday. I WAS flirting with him...

[Edited 10/17/13 3:13am]