ZombieKitten said:

iaminparties said:

Extremely good girl

or I just haven't broken up with the last 5 just yet

You got them on a string or is it Dick-in-turns

imago said:

I have absolutely no interest in establishing any lasting relationship with any of my exes in any meaningful way , though a couple are on facebook and I've added 1, but we're so far apart now in our experiences that it's really just polite hellos. I think we don't mind each other because after we split, we didn't pee in each other's sandboxes so to speak.

I recently saw a youtube of Cher at Sonny's funeral (I know that is completely gay), and I was awestruck that she appeared still completely in love with him on some level. I find it interesting, even enviable on some level, but that could never be me. When I fall out of love, I do so on every concievable level, including just liking the person as a friend. And, this isn't a sign of me not having ever been in love. I was in an on again off again relationship for nearly 6 years where at points I was deeply in love--I mean, not eating, completely infactuated, preoccupied, etc. But, when it's over it's over.

I also don't think forgiving an ex who did you wrong is all that interesting to me. I have no interest in forgiving nor being forgiven. It's an awfully big ocean, and we *Can* avoid each other until our dying days, and that's fine with me. For those who will always on some level love their exes, that's fine--I'm just not that type of person, and see no personal benefit in it. Hell, I won't even give good lip services to some of my exes. We're exes for a reason.

The most that can be said, is that I've learned from a few of my exes. One of my exes had an amazing ability to ask for whatever she wanted withouth care of how that made her look. It came off as pushy, but I've adopted *some* of that and it's helped me in many situations. In that regard, I admire that mess of a woman.

I find that part interesting, because while you say that when you are over a person you completely move on, you were also in an again off relationship? So how did that work for you?

GoldDolphin said:

imago said:

I have absolutely no interest in establishing any lasting relationship with any of my exes in any meaningful way , though a couple are on facebook and I've added 1, but we're so far apart now in our experiences that it's really just polite hellos. I think we don't mind each other because after we split, we didn't pee in each other's sandboxes so to speak.

I recently saw a youtube of Cher at Sonny's funeral (I know that is completely gay), and I was awestruck that she appeared still completely in love with him on some level. I find it interesting, even enviable on some level, but that could never be me. When I fall out of love, I do so on every concievable level, including just liking the person as a friend. And, this isn't a sign of me not having ever been in love. I was in an on again off again relationship for nearly 6 years where at points I was deeply in love--I mean, not eating, completely infactuated, preoccupied, etc. But, when it's over it's over.

I also don't think forgiving an ex who did you wrong is all that interesting to me. I have no interest in forgiving nor being forgiven. It's an awfully big ocean, and we *Can* avoid each other until our dying days, and that's fine with me. For those who will always on some level love their exes, that's fine--I'm just not that type of person, and see no personal benefit in it. Hell, I won't even give good lip services to some of my exes. We're exes for a reason.

The most that can be said, is that I've learned from a few of my exes. One of my exes had an amazing ability to ask for whatever she wanted withouth care of how that made her look. It came off as pushy, but I've adopted *some* of that and it's helped me in many situations. In that regard, I admire that mess of a woman.

I find that part interesting, because while you say that when you are over a person you completely move on, you were also in an again off relationship? So how did that work for you?

That was the relationship that taught me to completely 'turn off' my interest.

You see, I figured something out about myself from the relationship that followed that one---I was in love with being in love. Meaning, I may have not wanted to be in a relationship, but I would allow myself to 'relapse' because I missed the good times. Also, we had the same ciricle of friends, and were 'used' to each other, both being difficult personalities. It just seemed to work. So, it was on again off again, sometimes closed, sometimes open. A wierd phase in my life.

I think back and giggle about it, but I don't miss it nor the person. I wish her well, so long as we don't have to talk or be around each other.

iaminparties said:

When is too many EX's a red flag?I don't care who you been with in the past.

If a girl is 20 and had 20 exes.Is that too much? 40 year old with 200 exes

36 exes-Good girl

37 exes-Fucking slut

How many exes do you have?

Serious said:

GoldDolphin said:

Was it more of a platonic relationship than a loving one? Because I can't understand how one can be friends with an ex, (at least one that you potentially saw as a life partner xD).

I know it isn't easy and it might not always work, but I find it incredibly sad if somebody does not want to stay friends with somebody who he/she saw as a life partner.

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It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

we haven't been properly introduced yet.

Alej said:

Serious said:

I know it isn't easy and it might not always work, but I find it incredibly sad if somebody does not want to stay friends with somebody who he/she saw as a life partner.

[Edited 1/29/13 10:51am]

It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

Alej said:

Serious said:

I know it isn't easy and it might not always work, but I find it incredibly sad if somebody does not want to stay friends with somebody who he/she saw as a life partner.

[Edited 1/29/13 10:51am]

It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

I've always said that staying friends with your ex is like telling your kidnapper, "Yeah, we can keep in touch"....

Serious said:

Alej said:

It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

shorttrini said:

Alej said:

It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

I've always said that staying friends with your ex is like telling your kidnapper, "Yeah, we can keep in touch"....

If you can have a healthy relationship with them, I say go for it but this dude fucked me over too many times and I would justify his behaviour. I actually had to lie to make sure that he stayed away from me.

Alej said:

Serious said:

I know it isn't easy and it might not always work, but I find it incredibly sad if somebody does not want to stay friends with somebody who he/she saw as a life partner.

[Edited 1/29/13 10:51am]

It's hard to do when all they want is to keep you around so that they can hurt you over and over to make themselves feel better.

True. It's a shame really, but some people are very insecure... :/

She was way better in bed than her mom.