There's this guy who I've thought was pretty cute for the past few months-- I met him back when I was dating my ex, and this guy is my ex's friend...

We've never had more than a couple conversations together. He's not in any of my classes. The only place I know to see him is at the Best Buy where he works.

Anyway, he's nice and very approachable, but I'm really shy... how should I go about turning this into something more? Or should I, even? I mean, I know he's a close friend of my ex's and all...

He doesn't have a Facebook, so I can't friend him and chat with him on there. Don't know his number either.

Thank you orgers

simple one

ask him if he can get you a discount at best buy for something. that's the ice breaker. if he likes you he will try it on with you. you can always suggest you will "make it up to him" if he does

You shouldn't ask him out.

Like him all you want, but if you ask this guy out, you're going to cause trouble between him and his friend (your ex-boyfriend). That is a huge no-no.

You need to wait for him to ask you out - which he probably won't, seeing as how...you now...you dated his friend. Simply put: find someone else.

Genesia said:

You shouldn't ask him out.

x's a million!

If he likes you he would ask YOU out... but he has not....

this may mean that he isn't interested in you. Women who ask guys out usually end up compromising too much of themselves with a guy who isn't head over heels for them.

Now please do NOT take this personal. You may be pretty, fun, smart... but maybe he has a reason?

Now if you dated his friend, then he may not want to date you at all for that very reason.

Leave him alone.

GuRRRL, have you ever heard of "Bros before Hos"?

If he's your exes friend, you need to steer the heck away from that scenerio. Pardon my French.

There's lots of good fish in the sea... You're young, most likely attractive and you've got at least another 10 years ahead of you in which to play...

Go play!!!

FYI....
u should never ask out a guy.

wiggleme said:

FYI.... u should never ask out a guy.

ask out whoever you like, as often as you like...

I agree with all the effers who've commented on this thread so far. Life's too short to waste your time with this guy. Too much complication even before you get started.
Your ass be all young an' shit.
Which means you have years & years ahead of you to be lookin' for a man an' shit.
Well,
at least up until you're 36 years of age.

Or is it 38?
I don't remember.
Go through the previous GD pages & look up the "At What Age Should I Stop Looking For A Man?" thread. Between that thread & this one, you should be all set. I mean, y'know.... as far as dating goes.
Or,
if you want,
you can just do what I usually do;
go look up some internet porn that suits your particular masturbatory tastes & then just beat off to that shit.
I mean, y'know,

if you're old enough.
If you're not,
then make sure you that go get your parents' permission first.

You people telling her not to ask this guy out are trying to play God with her life. For shame!

Amanda, if you want to ask him out then just walk up to him and do it. You might trip over the first three or four words but as soon as he understands what you're asking, all the pressure will go away.

And remember this the next time Orgers try to play God with your life: You will regret the things you don't do way more than the things you do.

imago said:

GuRRRL, have you ever heard of "Bros before Hos"?

If he's your exes friend, you need to steer the heck away from that scenerio. Pardon my French.

What makes you think Amanda is a "Ho"?

And by the way - the fact that this guy DOESN'T have a Facebook account is a HUGE PLUS in my eyes.

No Facebook? That might mean he actually has a personality!

Good luck!

find out his interest - there must be something he is into

see if its something you also enjoy

go and join it - it will bring you closer and then u never know..............

dont worry about your x - thats just playground stuff - if u really like him and he also likes u just go 4 it!!!!!!

I do not agree that you should stay away because he is your ex's friend.

Personally I would just drop hints that you're single and possibly interested in him and see if he makes a move. You might not have an issue in regards to your ex, but he may.

Just act interested, if he wants to ask you out, he will make some kind of move.

Thanks for all the advice, guys.

I think right now my plan is to try to drop hints... I don't think we know each other well enough/I'm not bold enough to just plainly ask him out right now.

I am going to make an attempt though. Truthfully, I don't know how close he is with my ex... about three weeks after my ex and I were over, I ran into him at Best Buy and he asked me how my ex and I were doing... and then seemed shocked to hear we were over.

RodeoSchro said:

You people telling her not to ask this guy out are trying to play God with her life. For shame!

Amanda, if you want to ask him out then just walk up to him and do it. You might trip over the first three or four words but as soon as he understands what you're asking, all the pressure will go away.

And remember this the next time Orgers try to play God with your life: You will regret the things you don't do way more than the things you do.

That's been true for me so far... the regret always comes from doing absolutely nothing

AmandaWint3r said:

RodeoSchro said:

You people telling her not to ask this guy out are trying to play God with her life. For shame!

Amanda, if you want to ask him out then just walk up to him and do it. You might trip over the first three or four words but as soon as he understands what you're asking, all the pressure will go away.

And remember this the next time Orgers try to play God with your life: You will regret the things you don't do way more than the things you do.

That's been true for me so far... the regret always comes from doing absolutely nothing

It's good advice.

Oh, and the fact that the guy didn't know you were broken up three weeks after the fact seems to indicate he's not that close with your ex. So there's one more worry to take off the list!

Cuz seriously, it's NOT 1890. Dick IS fuckin Liz, and soda pop DOES have fizz....if u like the dude, let him know in some way. Sound like u have a game plan tho. I just couldn't pass up my Days of Wild reference.


EDIT: I passed up asking out Serena Cuellar AND Heidie Benitez...and u see.....I still remember they goddamn names....and I'm 34...It must be a regret
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