Although menopause is still a good decade or so away, it seems like I feel like it's starting to be too late to find a nice guy and whatnot. It seems that after age 28, the number of single, available, sane, employed men exponentially falls off year after year.

I've never dated much in the past and don't know if I'm really up for it these days because so many guys are lazy in relationships.

I think I should give up, have any of you given up?

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At 40 I'm Happy Been Married-Didn't work and I moved on I noticed as I got 30 that men ain't bout shit so I'm cool with it

nursev said:

At 40 I'm Happy Been Married-Didn't work and I moved on I noticed as I got 30 that men ain't bout shit so I'm cool with it

Nurse, I love your posts all the time

Yeah I feel a bit better because at first I thought it was just me being weird or something. I'm just getting to the point that if a guy ain't superman then I can't be bothered, LOL

Never been one of those people that just need to be with somebody-My best friend is like that. Bad relationships with both men and women and just never learned to like/love herself and be content.

SeventeenDayze said:

nursev said:

At 40 I'm Happy Been Married-Didn't work and I moved on I noticed as I got 30 that men ain't bout shit so I'm cool with it

Nurse, I love your posts all the time

Yeah I feel a bit better because at first I thought it was just me being weird or something. I'm just getting to the point that if a guy ain't superman then I can't be bothered, LOL

and that's exactly where you need to be-ur on the right track I'm telling u men ain't bout shit

Stymie said:

I think you need to work on yourself before you seriously think about getting a partner.

Amen

nursev said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Nurse, I love your posts all the time

Yeah I feel a bit better because at first I thought it was just me being weird or something. I'm just getting to the point that if a guy ain't superman then I can't be bothered, LOL

and that's exactly where you need to be-ur on the right track I'm telling u men ain't bout shit

Yeah I'm scared of getting knocked up by the wrong guy and then suffering from his BS for an eternity, LOL

SeventeenDayze said:

nursev said:

and that's exactly where you need to be-ur on the right track I'm telling u men ain't bout shit

Yeah I'm scared of getting knocked up by the wrong guy and then suffering from his BS for an eternity, LOL

That's why you protect urself I was married to my son's father-don't regret having him-he's the love of my life Being a parent is cool Now the Ex is another issue

Now.
Now is a good time to give up on finding a man.
Because, as the saying goes, "If not now, when?"
Which, by the way, is a rhetorical question.
Because if it wasn't a rhetorical question, then it wouldn't have gone on to become a saying, now would it?



That last sentence is also a rhetorical question.

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Just don't bother looking. Go and enjoy life, do things, visit friends.

Let the guy find you

luv4u said:

Just don't bother looking. Go and enjoy life, do things, visit friends.

Let the guy find you

Amen again

nursev said:

luv4u said:

Just don't bother looking. Go and enjoy life, do things, visit friends.

Let the guy find you

Amen again

and then she'll see that guys ain't shit

nursev said:

nursev said:

Amen again

and then she'll see that guys ain't shit

As a result of being single for a hot minute, I find myself to be more independent, assertive, confident and unconcerned with trying to impress losers....those very actions have perhaps indirectly made me less desirable to most guys because they usually don't want someone who has all of those qualities? Well, at least that's the way it seems anyway. I saw on the cover of Ebony magazine some story talking about how being an educated black woman or black man kind of places you in a category of being single for a longer period of time (esp. for black women it seems)....

So yeah, where do I sign up to be a cat lady?

Are you opposed to something like Match.com or okaycupid or eharmony?

If you're a woman, I think after 24 is definately when you should stop.

If you're a man looking for another man, no age is good. But, you'll get sex--that's for sure.

imago said:

Ocean said:

imago said:

If you're a woman, I think after 24 is definately when you should stop.

If you're a man looking for another man, no age is good. But, you'll get sex--that's for sure.

Omg 24

Because after 24, her body stops producing estrogen, hemogloben and cortisone I believe.

ufoclub said:

Are you opposed to something like Match.com or okaycupid or eharmony?

A few years ago, I took that eharmony survey and it said I had no matches in the whole country

I could write a book about the guys I've met from okCupid. One guy bought literally one cup of coffee for me before basically trying to make a friends with benefits arrangement/agreement with me. To add insult to injury, he didn't even bother to shave or put on nice clothes when we met in person. Okcupid is awful, LOL Same with Match.com, it seems like I keep meeting the same "type" of guy from those sites, the only thing different about them is their name, LOL

imago said:

Ocean said:

imago said: Omg 24

Because after 24, her body stops producing estrogen, hemogloben and cortisone I believe.

You can't even spell "hemoglobin" and you think you's the expert??

SeventeenDayze said:

ufoclub said:

Are you opposed to something like Match.com or okaycupid or eharmony?

A few years ago, I took that eharmony survey and it said I had no matches in the whole country

I could write a book about the guys I've met from okCupid. One guy bought literally one cup of coffee for me before basically trying to make a friends with benefits arrangement/agreement with me. To add insult to injury, he didn't even bother to shave or put on nice clothes when we met in person. Okcupid is awful, LOL Same with Match.com, it seems like I keep meeting the same "type" of guy from those sites, the only thing different about them is their name, LOL

eharmony won't match you if you're unsaved trash. Try chemisty.com or match.com

imago said:

Ocean said:

imago said: Omg 24

Because after 24, her body stops producing estrogen, hemogloben and cortisone I believe.

And going back to the original topic...

Why are you so hung up on finding a man!? This ain't the 50's where a woman if she don't have a man by age 20 she's an old maid.

Maybe you should let him find you? I think you're prematurely over-reacting thinking that men are dropping off the side of Earth because you're over 28. You're still young and in your child bearing years, so what's the rush for? If you're really worried about your clock ticking for children, do realize there is a sperm bank.

I hope you don't think that finding a man is going to make you once and for all "happy". This is a big mistake in thought if you think so. "Happily ever after" is what you make of it...

And what kind of man are you looking for? Long term relationship man? Marriage man? One night stand man?

If he doesn't love you for what you are (that includes your age), maybe you should reconsider your checklist when it comes to men.

To say "Men ain't shit" is offensive imo. Don't get mad @ all men, because of the men you've decided to be in relationships with turned out to be assholes...that's your fault for choosing them. There are good guys out there, some of you ladies don't give them a chance. It's hard to talk to woman imo, they want to judge you before they even get to know you. I've never played/cheated on/abused a woman in my life, & I'd do whatever I could to make my woman happy. I would suggest that you never give up on finding someone....just give some a chance.

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

imago said:

Because after 24, her body stops producing estrogen, hemogloben and cortisone I believe.

You can't even spell "hemoglobin" and you think you's the expert??

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I've been with some good men

But I've also been with some even better women

If you find that all the men you are around are leaving a sour taste in your mouth you should come

play on our side. I'd be more than happy to make you tingle all over

On a more serious note, just love yourself and live your life the best way you can. Love has a

habit of hitting you when you least expect it.

I feel as if I've been mocked.

imago said:

I feel as if I've been mocked.

Been contemplating your very existence?

LadyCasanova said:

imago said:

I feel as if I've been mocked.

Been contemplating your very existence?

When? Starting now