I think a lot of it is ego. Some girls want to believe they're the best lover their man (or any man) has ever had and they freak out when they find out they're just like any other pussy he's had.

I've never been in a physical fight with anyone over a man but I've been in what I call a "cock fight" with another girl over the attention of a man. Over a man that neither of us were really interested in. That was purely ego driven. And I won.

HotGritz, grabbing crotches is far worse.

sextonseven said:

paintedlady said:

I honestly do not think it goes that deep... actually its silly to be so judgemental.

I think its just an issue of feeling disrespected and betrayed.

Anger and shock is a bad combo for some people. I've seen otherwise rational adults act like assholes in these situations... it is more of a loss of judgement propelled by "passion". Its the same reason why a husband unloading a gun on a dude humping his wife is called a "crime of passion".

Haven't you said many times that you had major problems with your mother and how she raised you?

I don't have emotional issues regarding men, I never fought a chick over a guy. In my early twenties I was ready to beat up THE DUDE that cheated on me over my sense of betrayal, but I never hit him either. When I saw him later, I was over my shock and I never even yelled at him or argued at all.

I never went "apeshit" either. So yeah... my fucked up upbringing destroys the lame theory that people only go nuts because of their upbringing.

I know thugs who grew up in fucked up homes that walked away from situations like this.

Like I said... upbringing has zero to do with it. Alcohol is a bigger factor. People with "fine" upbringings go "apeshit" more often over stuff like this.

What don't you get? My personal experience is the opposite of what justerin and spinlight claim.

paintedlady said:

sextonseven said:

Haven't you said many times that you had major problems with your mother and how she raised you?

I don't have emotional issues regarding men, I never fought a chick over a guy. In my early twenties I was ready to beat up THE DUDE that cheated on me over my sense of betrayal, but I never hit him either. When I saw him later, I was over my shock and I never even yelled at him or argued at all.

I never went "apeshit" either. So yeah... my fucked up upbringing destroys the lame theory that people only go nuts because of their upbringing.

I know thugs who grew up in fucked up homes that walked away from situations like this.

Like I said... upbringing has zero to do with it. Alcohol is a bigger factor. People with "fine" upbringings go "apeshit" more often over stuff like this.

What don't you get? My personal experience is the opposite of what justerin and spinlight claim.

I never said I didn't get anything. I was just asking the question to see if you thought there was any connection between your upbringing and your actions. You said there wasn't so okay.

sextonseven said:

Haven't you said many times that you had major problems with your mother and how she raised you?

Oh and BTW... I think justerin and spinlight were speaking more of people with emotional baggage.

I grew up poor and in the hood... even seen too much shit, but I was loved. This is why I am a better parent than my abused mother was.

I make mistakes sure... but I am not some chick walking around with some chip on her shoulder.

I think justerin is more speaking of some bitter person who has a chip on their shoulder. That doesn't have to come from upbringing ... a "fighter" can be from any background, good or bad.

Any confident person will step to any person in the right circumstance. I think its more natural for people to be violent than not... especially if they are letting their emotions guide their actions.

I think it takes wisdom and thoughtfulness against instinct to not beat someone upside their head when you are pissed off.

Fighting is more of an act of "letting loose"... like animal sex.

That's just me though.

sextonseven said:

paintedlady said:

I don't have emotional issues regarding men, I never fought a chick over a guy. In my early twenties I was ready to beat up THE DUDE that cheated on me over my sense of betrayal, but I never hit him either. When I saw him later, I was over my shock and I never even yelled at him or argued at all.

I never went "apeshit" either. So yeah... my fucked up upbringing destroys the lame theory that people only go nuts because of their upbringing.

I know thugs who grew up in fucked up homes that walked away from situations like this.

Like I said... upbringing has zero to do with it. Alcohol is a bigger factor. People with "fine" upbringings go "apeshit" more often over stuff like this.

What don't you get? My personal experience is the opposite of what justerin and spinlight claim.

I never said I didn't get anything. I was just asking the question to see if you thought there was any connection between your upbringing and your actions. You said there wasn't so okay.

Oh... naw, some people fight like they like to fuck. If that makes any sense.

Because it's hood rat shit or he has that hammer

nursev said:

Because it's hood rat shit or he has that hammer

I've TOO MANY of those prissy college girls go nuts all the time!

Its the hammer!

Women don't fight over little dicks.

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

Because it's hood rat shit or he has that hammer

I've TOO MANY of those prissy college girls go nuts all the time!

Its the hammer!

Women don't fight over little dicks.

got to be that

nursev said:

paintedlady said:

I've TOO MANY of those prissy college girls go nuts all the time!

Its the hammer!

Women don't fight over little dicks.

got to be that

THAT is the answer!! Horny girls get dumb over big dick.

The guy I was gonna fight was hung like a donkey... its gotta be it!

damn.freggin.fat.dicks.

[Edited 3/1/12 17:07pm]

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

got to be that

THAT is the answer!! Horny girls get dumb over big dick.

The guy I was gonna fight was hung like a donkey... its gotta be it!

damn.freggin.fat.dicks.

[Edited 3/1/12 17:07pm]

fucking hilarious, but those big dicks will make u put up with alotta shit

nursev said:

paintedlady said:

THAT is the answer!! Horny girls get dumb over big dick.

The guy I was gonna fight was hung like a donkey... its gotta be it!

damn.freggin.fat.dicks.

[Edited 3/1/12 17:07pm]

fucking hilarious, but those big dicks will make u put up with alotta shit

I was mad as hell... it was because deep down, that dick would no longer be deep down.

Dick is a helluva drug!

PurpleJedi said:

JustErin said:

Dude, your personality is a direct reflection of your environment and upbringing.

It is affected by your environment/upbringing, but you are born with inherent qualities that no one teaches you. It's scientifically proven that how a fetus develops can affect whether that child will be shy/introverted or outgoing/bold. I would have you meet my two sons...both raised in the same house, eating the same food, raised with the same principles...one is timid & prone to back away, the other is bold and prone to throw a punch. In fact, my eldest (the timid one) I begged/forced to go to Karate class and after a certain level he would have none of it. The little one I never took to any classes, but he learns moves from his friends.

It's not a direct reflection of their environment...it's in their DNA.

Yeah, man. We are different and that was my point.

People are born with certain traits, for sure...and that trait is cultivated/exploited/whatever because of environment and upbringing. Being shy or extroverted for example has nothing to do with being violent because you're emotionally connected and/or betrayed or hurt.

I get it, you don't agree with me. Ok.

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

fucking hilarious, but those big dicks will make u put up with alotta shit

I was mad as hell... it was because deep down, that dick would no longer be deep down.

Dick is a helluva drug!

Yes indeedy it'll have you strung the fuck out sitting at home watching late night movies waiting for that dick to come home oh sorry, i'm telling to much for you painted

paintedlady said:

sextonseven said:

Haven't you said many times that you had major problems with your mother and how she raised you?

Oh and BTW... I think justerin and spinlight were speaking more of people with emotional baggage.

I think justerin is more speaking of some bitter person who has a chip on their shoulder. That doesn't have to come from upbringing ... a "fighter" can be from any background, good or bad.

Any confident person will step to any person in the right circumstance. I think its more natural for people to be violent than not... especially if they are letting their emotions guide their actions.

I think it takes wisdom and thoughtfulness against instinct to not beat someone upside their head when you are pissed off.

Fighting is more of an act of "letting loose"... like animal sex.

That's just me though.

No, I'm not. Bitterness and emotional baggage have nothing to do with it. Thinking it's ok to respond in a violent way - regardless of the circumstance is all I am talking about.

Actually, imo, a confident person will actually not "step up" in any circumstance. And I don't believe for one second that it's more natural to be violent than not.

Anyway, again. We just don't agree...and that's cool.

[Edited 3/1/12 17:22pm]

nursev said:

paintedlady said:

I was mad as hell... it was because deep down, that dick would no longer be deep down.

Dick is a helluva drug!

Yes indeedy it'll have you strung the fuck out sitting at home watching late night movies waiting for that dick to come home oh sorry, i'm telling to much for you painted

I'm good now... I found some new dick. Took a while too before I found some decent dick. Good dick is hard to find. God bless all the good dick.

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

Yes indeedy it'll have you strung the fuck out sitting at home watching late night movies waiting for that dick to come home oh sorry, i'm telling to much for you painted

I'm good now... I found some new dick. Took a while too before I found some decent dick. Good dick is hard to find. God bless all the good dick.

Because some women are stupid and instead of wanting to beat the man's ass, they want to go after the chick because women tend to have zero loyalty to each other.

Until women like these decide they are good enough to not deserve assholes, the fights will continue.

like i said,

i'm all that.

but how could i fuck

wit a girl that's soooooooo

un-lady like?

nursev said:

Because it's hood rat shit or he has that hammer

I've never dated a dude with a small dick. What a shame that you straight women always have experience with, like, several of them.

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

Yes indeedy it'll have you strung the fuck out sitting at home watching late night movies waiting for that dick to come home oh sorry, i'm telling to much for you painted

I'm good now... I found some new dick. Took a while too before I found some decent dick. Good dick is hard to find. God bless all the good dick.

You ain't lyin' at all chile.

JustErin said:

PurpleJedi said:

It is affected by your environment/upbringing, but you are born with inherent qualities that no one teaches you. It's scientifically proven that how a fetus develops can affect whether that child will be shy/introverted or outgoing/bold. I would have you meet my two sons...both raised in the same house, eating the same food, raised with the same principles...one is timid & prone to back away, the other is bold and prone to throw a punch. In fact, my eldest (the timid one) I begged/forced to go to Karate class and after a certain level he would have none of it. The little one I never took to any classes, but he learns moves from his friends.

It's not a direct reflection of their environment...it's in their DNA.

Yeah, man. We are different and that was my point.

People are born with certain traits, for sure...and that trait is cultivated/exploited/whatever because of environment and upbringing. Being shy or extroverted for example has nothing to do with being violent because you're emotionally connected and/or betrayed or hurt.

I get it, you don't agree with me. Ok.

I think that we're actually in agreement in a way, but my tendency is to lean more towards nature while you lean more towards nurture in this topic.

or

missfee said:

paintedlady said:

I'm good now... I found some new dick. Took a while too before I found some decent dick. Good dick is hard to find. God bless all the good dick.

You ain't lyin' at all chile.

You both get a

^^^

Cheating/lying/infidelity can bring out the worst in people who under normal circumstances are pretty level headed rational people. This is why people shouldn't assume, be indifferent, or be dismissive how their significant other will react if they've discovered their having an affair. Betrayal, humiliation, hurt, jealousy, love, lust, sex, lies, time... ones state of mind can be a volatile mix of emotions.

That's one just one aspect the other...

Most of the women I've seen in county or district lockup on Monday morining, are women who've confused fucking a dude with being in a relationship. First mistake. Before the get in a fight with "the other woman", the guy they've been "kicking it with" has lied about other shit and has been shady about everything in general. Instead of stepping, these woman stay and use their cell phones as GPS trackers trying to keep up with his every move. The thing is, they'll take the guy back and the whole drama plays out again and again. To me this sounds like someone has some self-esteem/self-worth issues. "She stole your man", "you can't keep a man", "she's a home wrecker." Are you serious? These are the three dumbest things any woman can ever say. Woman shift all the blame to the other woman, instead placing the blame on the man they are invovled with. You can't keep anyone who doesn't want to stay or who doesn't give a damn enough to think he could lose you in the process if he creeps.

PurpleJedi said:

missfee said:

You ain't lyin' at all chile.

You both get a

paintedlady said:

nursev said:

Because it's hood rat shit or he has that hammer

I've TOO MANY of those prissy college girls go nuts all the time!

Its the hammer!

Women don't fight over little dicks.

They sure don't!

TD3 said:

^^^

Cheating/lying/infidelity can bring out the worst in people who under normal circumstances are pretty level headed rational people. This is why people shouldn't assume, be indifferent, or be dismissive how their significant other will react if they've discovered their having an affair. Betrayal, humiliation, hurt, jealousy, love, lust, sex, lies, time... ones state of mind can be a volatile mix of emotions.

That's one just one aspect the other...

Most of the women I've seen in county or district lockup on Monday morining, are women who've confused fucking a dude with being in a relationship. First mistake. Before the get in a fight with "the other woman", the guy they've been "kicking it with" has lied about other shit and has been shady about everything in general. Instead of stepping, these woman stay and use their cell phones as GPS trackers trying to keep up with his every move. The thing is, they'll take the guy back and the whole drama plays out again and again. To me this sounds like someone has some self-esteem/self-worth issues. "She stole your man", "you can't keep a man", "she's a home wrecker." Are you serious? These are the three dumbest things any woman can ever say. Woman shift all the blame to the other woman, instead placing the blame on the man they are invovled with. You can't keep anyone who doesn't want to stay or who doesn't give a damn enough to think he could lose you in the process if he creeps.

Yes yes yes....even so called intelligent, mature women who supposedly know their worth do this shit. Now I will say, if you have a good guy then there will always be some chick after him (that's another topic for another time) but if he truly is a good guy then he won't put you in a position to have to fight or argue or get your heart broken and your pride hurt.

Remember NASA astronaut Lisa Nowak? She was ready to drive how many miles to go "talk" to the other woman who was fuckin' her man? This chick wore a friggin' diaper and had rope and duct tape in the trunk of her car.

I read a story yesterday about some Falcons football player whose current girlfriend and ex-girlfriend/baby momma pregnant with his 3rd child got into a fight that was so serious the baby momma was bleeding from the head. Neither of these women got mad at him!

A woman I've known since highschool and who has always been on the nerdy side, a repuclican and all reserved and demure and shit, is wanting me to drive her to San Diego so she can fuck up this woman's car who "stole her man". Bitch is u crazy? 1) I aint driving to San Diego to commit vandalism. 2) I aint driving MY CAR to SD to commit vandalism and 3) Why we aint fuckin' up his car when he lives 3 miles from yo azz?

I know there are instances where guys go all ape shit over losing their woman but I think this is not as common as when women do it. Maybe men are just more naturally confident.

Because dick whipping is a disease and once they get good dick, they would fight anyone to keep it... dick (and pussy) can make anyone dumb enough to do that shit.

HotGritz said:

TD3 said:

^^^

Cheating/lying/infidelity can bring out the worst in people who under normal circumstances are pretty level headed rational people. This is why people shouldn't assume, be indifferent, or be dismissive how their significant other will react if they've discovered their having an affair. Betrayal, humiliation, hurt, jealousy, love, lust, sex, lies, time... ones state of mind can be a volatile mix of emotions.

That's one just one aspect the other...

Most of the women I've seen in county or district lockup on Monday morining, are women who've confused fucking a dude with being in a relationship. First mistake. Before the get in a fight with "the other woman", the guy they've been "kicking it with" has lied about other shit and has been shady about everything in general. Instead of stepping, these woman stay and use their cell phones as GPS trackers trying to keep up with his every move. The thing is, they'll take the guy back and the whole drama plays out again and again. To me this sounds like someone has some self-esteem/self-worth issues. "She stole your man", "you can't keep a man", "she's a home wrecker." Are you serious? These are the three dumbest things any woman can ever say. Woman shift all the blame to the other woman, instead placing the blame on the man they are invovled with. You can't keep anyone who doesn't want to stay or who doesn't give a damn enough to think he could lose you in the process if he creeps.

Yes yes yes....even so called intelligent, mature women who supposedly know their worth do this shit. Now I will say, if you have a good guy then there will always be some chick after him (that's another topic for another time) but if he truly is a good guy then he won't put you in a position to have to fight or argue or get your heart broken and your pride hurt.

Remember NASA astronaut Lisa Nowak? She was ready to drive how many miles to go "talk" to the other woman who was fuckin' her man? This chick wore a friggin' diaper and had rope and duct tape in the trunk of her car.

I read a story yesterday about some Falcons football player whose current girlfriend and ex-girlfriend/baby momma pregnant with his 3rd child got into a fight that was so serious the baby momma was bleeding from the head. Neither of these women got mad at him!

A woman I've known since highschool and who has always been on the nerdy side, a repuclican and all reserved and demure and shit, is wanting me to drive her to San Diego so she can fuck up this woman's car who "stole her man". Bitch is u crazy? 1) I aint driving to San Diego to commit vandalism. 2) I aint driving MY CAR to SD to commit vandalism and 3) Why we aint fuckin' up his car when he lives 3 miles from yo azz?

I know there are instances where guys go all ape shit over losing their woman but I think this is not as common as when women do it. Maybe men are just more naturally confident.

I think it's because most men know that they have more options available. With women, that desperate feeling creeps in as if the one they fighting the other chick over is THE ONLY MAN they can get and want to hold on to for dear life. They either don't believe there's another guy out there for them or too lazy to be open to meet someone else who could treat them better.

Timmy84 said:

Because dick whipping is a disease and once they get good dick, they would fight anyone to keep it... dick (and pussy) can make anyone dumb enough to do that shit.

Its seems to me that when men get pussy whipped they don't so much get into fights but rather sacrifice a lot of what they've worked for and they allow themselves to be made fools of. I remember a guy I had a crush on several years back but I kept my distance because he had a girlfriend. Anyway, she wasn't what I would call pretty (had a fat ass tho) and she was so so rude to him ALL OF THE TIME. People called him pussy whipped. He would give her his check then complain about bills not getting paid. He could never hang out with friends, or if he did then he had a curfew. He was taking care of her kid but not seeing his own bio child from a previous relationship. She would talk to him crazy and he wouldn't say anything back to her. I heard later that she left him for someone else and he got real depressed and lost a lot of weight...went from 200 to 175 in 2 weeks time.