Do you think this is true or not? What are your thoughts on this?

Reminds me of one of my brothers. Everytime he brought a "homegirl" to the house, we'd take bets on when they'd start dating (or at least fuckin' ). The last "homegirl" he brought home ended up becoming his wife. They've been married for 7 years now.

I do have guy friends, though...gay guy friends. That counts, right?

I do believe man & women can be just friends...

Most of my [straight] guy friends are married, yet we hang out and I socialize with their wives as well. There is only one wife who doesn't dig me (even after 18 years), but it's not because she sees me as a threat to her marriage. We are just different kinds of people, and our attempt at bonding for his sake didn't work.

I think that the video's conclusion was flawed. Just because one party may have feelings toward the other does not mean that they can't have a friendship. I have a friend that I am very close to, who I also have very strong feelings for. I'll still be his friend and be there for him even if I can't be with him romantically...

A male friend once told me that the only reason a guy would be "buddies" with a girl, is if he is trying to "F" her. If that is the case, then they weren't really friends in the first place.

I've got loads of girls who are just friends....

I would sleep with all of them given the chance, my partner would kill me if I did... so they are just friends!

That dude is kinda hot.

And sure they can be just friends, but it's super rare...because someone always wants to fuck someone.

JustErin said:

That dude is kinda hot.

And sure they can be just friends, but it's super rare...because someone always wants to fuck someone.

I agree with you. I've rarely had a female friend I didn't want to sleep with & the ones I didn't want to sleep with wanted to sleep with me

MyNameIsPiper said:

Reminds me of one of my brothers. Everytime he brought a "homegirl" to the house, we'd take bets on when they'd start dating (or at least fuckin' ). The last "homegirl" he brought home ended up becoming his wife. They've been married for 7 years now.

I do have guy friends, though...gay guy friends. That counts, right?

Some women find their gay male friends attractive too though....

chocolate1 said:

I do believe man & women can be just friends...

Most of my [straight] guy friends are married, yet we hang out and I socialize with their wives as well. There is only one wife who doesn't dig me (even after 18 years), but it's not because she sees me as a threat to her marriage. We are just different kinds of people, and our attempt at bonding for his sake didn't work.

I think that the video's conclusion was flawed. Just because one party may have feelings toward the other does not mean that they can't have a friendship. I have a friend that I am very close to, who I also have very strong feelings for. I'll still be his friend and be there for him even if I can't be with him romantically...

A male friend once told me that the only reason a guy would be "buddies" with a girl, is if he is trying to "F" her. If that is the case, then they weren't really friends in the first place.

So you know for a fact that your close male friend wouldn't ever want to have sex with you under any circumstance? I can be a woman's friend & still want to have sex with her.....

Tittypants said:

chocolate1 said:

I do believe man & women can be just friends...

Most of my [straight] guy friends are married, yet we hang out and I socialize with their wives as well. There is only one wife who doesn't dig me (even after 18 years), but it's not because she sees me as a threat to her marriage. We are just different kinds of people, and our attempt at bonding for his sake didn't work.

I think that the video's conclusion was flawed. Just because one party may have feelings toward the other does not mean that they can't have a friendship. I have a friend that I am very close to, who I also have very strong feelings for. I'll still be his friend and be there for him even if I can't be with him romantically...

A male friend once told me that the only reason a guy would be "buddies" with a girl, is if he is trying to "F" her. If that is the case, then they weren't really friends in the first place.

So you know for a fact that your close male friend wouldn't ever want to have sex with you under any circumstance? I can be a woman's friend & still want to have sex with her.....

I never said that people can't have sexual feelings for a friend. Just because one friend has sexual feelings toward the other, he/she can't be a friend? One thing has nothing to do with the other, IMO.

What my one friend described was a scenario in which the guy is ONLY friends with girls to sleep with them. Is that true friendship? No.

Of my close male friends:

• The first one is gay.
• One let me know that he used to like me in college, but now he is married and we are still friends.
• Two have never shared those feelings for me so I can't speak for them.
• With the last, it is mutual between us, but we have not acted on it- for over 10 years- and remain "buddies".

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I didn't watch the video, but of course they can be friends.

I'm sure there are some people that can't, both men and women. But I have men friends and my bf has female friends and I know plenty of folks who are the same.

i have 2 close male friends, and they aren't gay. it's never been a problem.

Are "having sexual desire for" and "being friends with" mutually exclusive concepts? I don't think they are.

They can be, but I think in many cases there are feelings one way or another. I've had plenty of female friends over the years that I didn't want to fuck, though some may have wanted that from me, but I guess as long as you know the other person doesn't feel the same and you keep hanging around, you've got no one but yourself to blame.

Efan said:

Are "having sexual desire for" and "being friends with" mutually exclusive concepts? I don't think they are.

I was going to say the exact same thing.

retina said:

Efan said:

Are "having sexual desire for" and "being friends with" mutually exclusive concepts? I don't think they are.

I was going to say the exact same thing.

That's what I've been trying to say. I guess I used too many words.

chocolate1 said:

retina said:

I was going to say the exact same thing.

That's what I've been trying to say. I guess I used too many words.

chocolate1 said:

retina said:

I was going to say the exact same thing.

That's what I've been trying to say. I guess I used too many words.

You were talking about romantic feelings though, right? I think that makes it a little bit more complicated, as it will affect your mood and behaviour. Sexual desire is easier to control, and it's just something that's always "there" in the background to various degrees when you hang out with people of the gender you're attracted to.

retina said:

chocolate1 said:

That's what I've been trying to say. I guess I used too many words.

You were talking about romantic feelings though, right? I think that makes it a little bit more complicated, as it will affect your mood and behaviour. Sexual desire is easier to control, and it's just something that's always "there" in the background to various degrees when you hang out with people of the gender you're attracted to.

Yes and no.

I was thinking "sex" but typed something a little less physical.

In my 2nd reply, however, I did specifically speak about sex.

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chocolate1 said:

retina said:

You were talking about romantic feelings though, right? I think that makes it a little bit more complicated, as it will affect your mood and behaviour. Sexual desire is easier to control, and it's just something that's always "there" in the background to various degrees when you hang out with people of the gender you're attracted to.

Yes and no.

I was thinking "sex" but typed something a little less physical.

Don't we all?

retina said:

chocolate1 said:

Yes and no.

I was thinking "sex" but typed something a little less physical.

Don't we all?

Yes they can, especially if they are different ages.

It's all about chemistry and sometimes you just get on as friends, nothing more.

I don't really get the definition of "friendship" in this context, as it seems to automatically exclude finding someone attractive, wanting to "go out" with them and probably sex too. Why?

Of course men and women can be friends.

Of course there will be sexual fantasies or the urge for physical closeness involved at some point, but it's natural and shouldn't harm real friendship.

Of course you can have sex with a person and remain "friends".

I love all of my true friends. I have (or had, at some point) sex with many of my female friends and we're all still friends.

TheFreakerFantastic said:

Yes they can, especially if they are different ages.

It's all about chemistry and sometimes you just get on as friends, nothing more.

Why should age difference change the feelings you have for a person?

I completely disagree. If you get along, you'll be friends; if you find each other attractive, you'll have some kind of physical desire for each other; it's all natural and does not automatically exclude or harm the friendship.

of course they can be friends.

Most if not all women think they can be just friends with men....

Most if not all men have imagined what it would be like the sleep with every single female friend they have ever had or ever will have! ....I'm a happily married man and I'll admit to lusting after a few of my good female mates...its just the way we are...doesn't mean I don't love my lady any less...

There may be a risk in being friends, but that risk is not any greater than any other situation such as:

-being bridesmaids/groomsmen together at friends' wedding

-getting tangled in each others' dog leashes

-accidentally touching hands when picking up dropped papers

-arguing passionately with one another over their opposing philosohies on the TV show they both work on

-seeing her across the street watering her roses in her cutoff jeans

-you are her bounty hunter

-looking to become a lingerie-clad singer for a girl group

I just don't think that most men really enjoy hanging out with chicks.

Of course there are exceptions, but really I think men put up with a lot in the hopes of getting some.

JustErin said:

I just don't think that most men really enjoy hanging out with chicks.

Of course there are exceptions, but really I think men put up with a lot in the hopes of getting some.

I would probably only hang out with women if it did not look weird

DaveT said:

Most if not all women think they can be just friends with men....

Most if not all men have imagined what it would be like the sleep with every single female friend they have ever had or ever will have! ....I'm a happily married man and I'll admit to lusting after a few of my good female mates...its just the way we are...doesn't mean I don't love my lady any less...

I don't think the ratios are that extreme or that different at all. I haven't thought about what it would be like to sleep with every single female friend I have, just the ones who are physically and emotionally attractive enough.

I'm sure it's the same with women. They may not talk as openly about it, but they too think about what it would feel like to sleep with the people they know, from time to time. It's natural.