The women in ur life r kicking u in ur balls blackbob......cant u feel the pain?Fuck me u put up with some shit!!!!

johnart said:

Dude, no disrespect, this is only based on the many threads about your girlfriend you've posted here.

She sounds like a major bitch.

she really does.

you don't give many good relationship reports, do you?

NDRU said:

The girl sounds stupid...

you are rather honest!

What she said would certainly make me feel very lonely.



Good luck

[Edited 8/25/11 0:58am]

I'm not trying to add fuel to the fire here, but whenever they say shit like 'they're bored with a place' or bored with an apartment, half the time they're talking about the relationship through proxy.

I'm your busitng your ass and she can't appreciate it, I think you know what most of us are going to tell you.

i dont like dissing her in open forums but when her behaviour is out of order...she makes me feel like i am wrong to say something to her about it...?

would you be annoyed if your partner said ' its a shithole..i hate living there ' to someone they casually know ?....

.

blackbob said:

i dont like dissing her in open forums but when her behaviour is out of order...she makes me feel like i am wrong to say something to her about it...?

would you be annoyed if your partner said ' its a shithole..i hate living there ' to someone they casually know ?....

.

I say, find a girlfriend who appreciates you and the things she has.. find someone who is eager to make something of her life, not someone who is moaning about how things are now. Especially if she's not working . I would want someone in my life who is at peace where they are now and who would want to make something out of what they have with me, and looked at their lives with eagerness while knowing that things can only get better. Because it can. If you have the mindset for it.

Life is too short to deal with shitty people. Life is too short to be upset with the things we have. It makes no sense. If she doesn't like living there then she's never going to be satisfied. You can't be satisfied with your life unless you are accepting where you are currently. Know that if this mindset continues things won't get better with her.

blackbob said:

i dont like dissing her in open forums but when her behaviour is out of order...she makes me feel like i am wrong to say something to her about it...?

would you be annoyed if your partner said ' its a shithole..i hate living there ' to someone they casually know ?....

.

depends if she has big tits or not

unique said:

she may have just been saying that cuz the guy died, to make him feel better. but perhaps saying, it's alright, or it's not wonderful would be better

i suppose you live in scotland, which is a shithole, so she isn't really wrong. plus you live in glasgow, which is a shithole within a shithole. so if you live in a shit area of glasgow, she's probably speaking the truth

just slap her about a bit and call her a cunt, whilst drinking special brew and buckie and make the most of your shitty existance

any more life tutoring and you know where i am ya bass

Bwahahaha!

blackbob said:

i dont like dissing her in open forums but when her behaviour is out of order...she makes me feel like i am wrong to say something to her about it...?

would you be annoyed if your partner said ' its a shithole..i hate living there ' to someone they casually know ?....

.

Ask her where would she like to live instead?? And then ask her if she really wants that place to be with you....??

.

Go from there!

unique said:

blackbob said:

i dont like dissing her in open forums but when her behaviour is out of order...she makes me feel like i am wrong to say something to her about it...?

would you be annoyed if your partner said ' its a shithole..i hate living there ' to someone they casually know ?....

.

depends if she has big tits or not

thats what i like about you...life is simple....big tits only do it for me for soo long ... '' you cannot live by big tits alone '' .....rab c nesbitt..

blackbob said:

i didnt bring it up because it was one of her best friends that had died so i thought i'd better leave it....she has her good side but i dont understand her sometimes..

.i said today when i came in from work that she shouldnt be saying that to people

In stead you could have asked yer why she said it. Then you would have had a conversation with her about it. Now you just told her how she should behave, according to your standard. You missed a change on a conversation about her standards, yours and how they differ.

but she just said that i am always moaning at her so she is in a huff...

Well. You could have asked her first before you told her what she can or can't say to people.

i am just not sure sometimes if its ME that is overreacting to her actions...thats why i post these things on here because i question myself about them and i need other people's opinions on it to make sure i am not going off my head...

This is an internetforum for Prince fans. Allthough a great bunch of people, do you really want to give them the responsibility for your life decisions? If you truly are open for alternative views and soulsearching, why don't you start talking to a proffessional. Before you have another kid that has to grow up in single parent poor household.

it annoyed me because the guy she was saying this too left his wife and his 3 kids with nothing after gambing his house and everything away... he is obviously living in a respectable area with his mum while i am busting my ass working and decorating so she can say these things to losers like him..!!

So, you'r jalous and angry about this guy his situation. No need to take that out on your girlfriend, is there?

.

Blackbob, I realize that you are suffering.

However, in stead of blaming your current girlfriend and/or ex-girlfriend for your own suffering, you might want to take charge of your own life and get a professional in. IMO it's not wise to leave major life decisions up to some folks on the internet, who don't know you, nor the people involved. Especially because these advices are based on your interpretation of your situation. So, they have very limited information and based on that limited and subjective information give you advice. Do you really want to base your decisions on that?

ludwig said:

tinaz said:

And you didnt say anything to her?

Why should he? Ask the internet!!!!

Yeah, hold the forummembers accountable for your decisions, not yourself.....

blackbob said:

unique said:

depends if she has big tits or not

thats what i like about you...life is simple....big tits only do it for me for soo long ... '' you cannot live by big tits alone '' .....rab c nesbitt..

"i like big butts and i cannot lie..." - sir mixalot

i hear ya

There is either something really missing in these stories or you are a glutton for punishment.

You characterize yourself as being very sympathetic, genuine, and sensitive. Yet your partner seems to be uncaring, callous, and crass. Not to mention, she has gone out of her way in some situations to offend or hurt you.

Why do you stay? Honestly. I know people have asked you before. People have stated, as they have in this thread, that they are confused as to why you stick around for the abuse. So? Pony up an answer.

It reminds me a bit of purplemookiebut who would share her grievances but then had these humongous black clouds over her own behavior. I think to myself that this sort of human tendency to continually punish oneself and then complain about it is a cry for help. Are you seeking help? Cuz this forum is an unfulfilling mistress and any help you get here will be shortlived and oft-forgotten in the heat of the moment.

Spinlight said:

You characterize yourself as being very sympathetic, genuine, and sensitive.

Yet your partner seems to be uncaring, callous, and crass.

Don't forget his ex-girlfriend, mother of his first child. She also is a horrible person.

And all Blackbob does, is work hard, pay for everybody and being the best dad and lover in the world.

Somehow, I think something doesn't add up in this picture.

IMO, having two women, both mother of your children, who are unhappy with the way you behave, is a pattern.

Blakbob might want to sell it to us that it's his bad choice of women. It's their fault.

Somehow, I think the common denominator here is Blackbob himself.

Well, or he's going to leave this girlfriend and moves on with another girl. Impragnating her, having to pay for his household with wife nr. 3 and her child, and two more single mother households. Then, under all this stress, he'll start complaining about wife 3.

Or, he might look at his own behaviour and hold himself accountable for his own actions. And start to do some serious soul searching.

Somehow, I get the impression he'll go for wife 3 before he will do anything about himself. Hopefully, I get surprised and Blackbob is going to solve the problems he caused himself!

Yeah something is missing in this puzzle. I don't understand the story my damn self...

As if Bob would be the first person in history to keep repeating the story of falling in love with the wrong person? Stop making it out as y'all are so damn better - you never had one or two failed relationships? That they have a child and that he has one from a previous relationship is irrelevant. VERY MUCH SO.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I agree with the nice people who've said that perhaps you need to consider your relationship's future. You cannot stay with her only because you have a child together, it doesn't benefit the kid or you. Good luck.

Teacher said:

As if Bob would be the first person in history to keep repeating the story of falling in love with the wrong person? Stop making it out as y'all are so damn better - you never had one or two failed relationships? That they have a child and that he has one from a previous relationship is irrelevant. VERY MUCH SO.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I agree with the nice people who've said that perhaps you need to consider your relationship's future. You cannot stay with her only because you have a child together, it doesn't benefit the kid or you. Good luck.

Challenging someone means that I'm not a nice person?

Well, maybe I'm wrong. And Bob is a great guy, and it's all his girlfriends their fault. Who knows? Not me.

dJJ said:

Teacher said:

As if Bob would be the first person in history to keep repeating the story of falling in love with the wrong person? Stop making it out as y'all are so damn better - you never had one or two failed relationships? That they have a child and that he has one from a previous relationship is irrelevant. VERY MUCH SO.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I agree with the nice people who've said that perhaps you need to consider your relationship's future. You cannot stay with her only because you have a child together, it doesn't benefit the kid or you. Good luck.

Challenging someone means that I'm not a nice person?

Well, maybe I'm wrong. And Bob is a great guy, and it's all his girlfriends their fault. Who knows? Not me.

It's the way you say it, not what you're saying. It's always the case no matter who says it and when.

Teacher said:

As if Bob would be the first person in history to keep repeating the story of falling in love with the wrong person? Stop making it out as y'all are so damn better - you never had one or two failed relationships? That they have a child and that he has one from a previous relationship is irrelevant. VERY MUCH SO.

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I agree with the nice people who've said that perhaps you need to consider your relationship's future. You cannot stay with her only because you have a child together, it doesn't benefit the kid or you. Good luck.

Machaela said:

You could always help her pack, move out and into her own shithole ...

Bob: "You know what's worse than living in a shithole?"

Her: "What?"

Bob: "Living behind one." (Points to her shit in the backyard.)

blackbob said:

Was at a funeral yesterday with my girlfriend and I overheard her talking to some loser who had lost his wife and family by losing everything on heavy gambling and was now living with his mum.....he asked my girlfriend how it was where she lived and she replied ' its a shithole...I hate it '....now I know we don't live in the best area in the world but its far from the the worst...I have bust my ass doing the house we have up and we have spend thousands And thousands on it......am I right to be annoyed that she is saying this to people? [Edited 8/25/11 2:36am] [Edited 8/25/11 2:37am]

She probably just didn't want to make the guy she was talking to feel bad because he's not doing too well right now. It's pretty fucked up when someone else tells you they're having a hard time, to go, "My place? Glad you asked. It's a fucking palace."

Then again, it's possible she might genuinely hate it. If she does, so what. She wasn't talking about YOU, but the house. That's the problem, too many people associate themselves with their living environment or their belongings or whatever. If I were with someone and they said where we lived sucked, I wouldn't care and shit, if they were telling the truth, I'd be sitting right next to them nodding like, "Yeah, it sucks ass."

blackbob said:

Was at a funeral yesterday with my girlfriend and I overheard her talking to some loser who had lost his wife and family by losing everything on heavy gambling and was now living with his mum.....he asked my girlfriend how it was where she lived and she replied ' its a shithole...I hate it '....now I know we don't live in the best area in the world but its far from the the worst...I have bust my ass doing the house we have up and we have spend thousands And thousands on it......am I right to be annoyed that she is saying this to people? [Edited 8/25/11 2:36am] [Edited 8/25/11 2:37am]

Did someone say "it's a shithole...I hate it", or similar when you were a kid and it upset you?

blackbob said:

i didnt bring it up because it was one of her best friends that had died so i thought i'd better leave it....she has her good side but i dont understand her sometimes..

.i said today when i came in from work that she shouldnt be saying that to people but she just said that i am always moaning at her so she is in a huff...i am just not sure sometimes if its ME that is overreacting to her actions...thats why i post these things on here because i question myself about them and i need other people's opinions on it to make sure i am not going off my head...

it annoyed me because the guy she was saying this too left his wife and his 3 kids with nothing after gambing his house and everything away... he is obviously living in a respectable area with his mum while i am busting my ass working and decorating so she can say these things to losers like him..!!

.

Hopefully I avoid sounding offensive, but what you describe sounds like emotional abuse. It sounds like your own self worth has been slowly chipped away, so that every time your girlfriend does something you disagree with, you start questioning yourself rather than saying: "Hey, that's not okay with me, can we talk". I imagine that if she beats you down and your reaction to her verbal attack is to get depressed, she instantly turns it around and complaints that you're a downer.

Remember (big banal statement coming up:) relationships are all about compromises, and that means that you too should have a say.

Don't tolerate an emotional terrorist. Just don't. It can (speaking from experience) take years and years to learn to be a human again afterwards.

PippiL said:

blackbob said:

Was at a funeral yesterday with my girlfriend and I overheard her talking to some loser who had lost his wife and family by losing everything on heavy gambling and was now living with his mum.....he asked my girlfriend how it was where she lived and she replied ' its a shithole...I hate it '....now I know we don't live in the best area in the world but its far from the the worst...I have bust my ass doing the house we have up and we have spend thousands And thousands on it......am I right to be annoyed that she is saying this to people? [Edited 8/25/11 2:36am] [Edited 8/25/11 2:37am]

She probably just didn't want to make the guy she was talking to feel bad because he's not doing too well right now. It's pretty fucked up when someone else tells you they're having a hard time, to go, "My place? Glad you asked. It's a fucking palace."

Then again, it's possible she might genuinely hate it. If she does, so what. She wasn't talking about YOU, but the house. That's the problem, too many people associate themselves with their living environment or their belongings or whatever. If I were with someone and they said where we lived sucked, I wouldn't care and shit, if they were telling the truth, I'd be sitting right next to them nodding like, "Yeah, it sucks ass."

100 percent correct, the end.

I do think it's appropriate to call anyone's significant other out of their name. Do you guys know Bob's lady? Good-grief.

As someone else has suggested maybe relationship counseling is an option to assist you and/or your lady through this ruff period. I'm not sure an Internet board forum is an appropriate place to seek sound advice. Bob, try not to say anything to your lady you really don't mean; tit for tat comments never help.

Havin' read some of your other threads, it appears you and our significant other are going through what I like to call the "grind". You're being pulled from all directions. I don't know many couples with a family who don't go through this. The hard part is, not to taking those frustrations out on each other and realizing both of you are doing the best you can at present. This stuff has to be talked out (that not easy) and if you both have reached a point were those conversations lead to recriminations... counseling could assist. Good luck to ya both.

Instead of making countless threeads, shouldn't you decide to communicate about your unhappiness with her? Things aren't gonna change if you allow this to continue. I dunno man.

NMuzakNSoul said:

Instead of making countless threeads, shouldn't you decide to communicate about your unhappiness with her? Things aren't gonna change if you allow this to continue. I dunno man.

Apparently. But I don't know what Bob's deal is. Can he NOT talk to her about this in private? Obviously a bunch of people in a message board ain't gonna solve the situation for him and his woman.