ZombieKitten said:

CM7 said:

that's ok... me either.

well I hope things get better for you!

Well Thank You.

Spinlight said:

Sex during a relationship is destined to dry up. It's why men cheat. Gay or str8.

Speak for yourself.

armpit said:

I've never heard anything about birth-control resulting in some widespread loss of libido.

I think guys should be more worried if their girlfriends don't use birth control at all.

I agree with your second statement.

Hormonal birth control is associated with lots of side effects, and loss of sexual desire is pretty high up there for large numbers of women. Which sucks, doesn't it? You go on it so you can fuck with abandon, then you don't want to. Evil!

I used to work in clinical research doing investigational studies on different medications. Yes, birth control pills cause many different side effects including a decline in sexual desire. Any time that you disturb your natural hormone balance, you run the risk of many different side effects.

Also birth control pills are given for many different symptoms and reasons, not just to prevent pregnancy.

There's so many different types of birth control pills there these days, if any one is experiencing this symptom, they should talk to their dr. So many different things can cause homone changes and effect sexual desire.

Thank goodness we don't have to worry about birth control anymore!

[Edited 8/6/11 10:09am]

ZombieKitten said:

TD3 said:

I didn't have time to respond to your other thread about this subject in your previous thread Z.K. So, I'll say my two cents here.

Long term relationships /marriage have ebbs and flows. Relationship aren't easy (as if that's news) and couples will have diffucult, good, joyful, painful, and time of toil. To wrap this up all into a neat little bow and reduce sexless relationships to lack of desire, birth control, or women not being sexually fulfilled is a tad simplistic, in most instances. There's more going in a relationship than the bed... and you can't live there. (imo)

I know that. But if this is the problem, it can be fixed! I'm going to have to post a link to the message board I was reading on. It was scary!

I know you do...

These threads (in my opinion) have been narrowly focused on 3 to 4 things when the subject itself is soooo complex.

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[Edited 8/6/11 17:00pm]

PunkMistress said:

armpit said:

I've never heard anything about birth-control resulting in some widespread loss of libido.

I think guys should be more worried if their girlfriends don't use birth control at all.

I agree with your second statement.

Hormonal birth control is associated with lots of side effects, and loss of sexual desire is pretty high up there for large numbers of women. Which sucks, doesn't it? You go on it so you can fuck with abandon, then you don't want to. Evil!

Again, I have to ask: why do all women in relationships have to use birth control? Why can't the men be the ones using it?

edit: okay, I know if a couple wants to get the maximum effectiveness out of condoms then the woman should be using spermicide as well. I take back my question.

[Edited 8/6/11 9:20am]

sextonseven said:

PunkMistress said:

I agree with your second statement.

Hormonal birth control is associated with lots of side effects, and loss of sexual desire is pretty high up there for large numbers of women. Which sucks, doesn't it? You go on it so you can fuck with abandon, then you don't want to. Evil!

Again, I have to ask: why do all women in relationships have to use birth control? Why can't the men be the ones using it?

There are not many possibilities for men. I'd love to take the pill again if it was not for the side effects so that I would not have to deal with condoms anymore . They take away a lot of the fun from sex.

sextonseven said:

PunkMistress said:

I agree with your second statement.

Hormonal birth control is associated with lots of side effects, and loss of sexual desire is pretty high up there for large numbers of women. Which sucks, doesn't it? You go on it so you can fuck with abandon, then you don't want to. Evil!

Again, I have to ask: why do all women in relationships have to use birth control? Why can't the men be the ones using it?

edit: okay, I know if a couple wants to get the maximum effectiveness out of condoms then the woman should be using spermicide as well. I take back my question.

[Edited 8/6/11 9:20am]

Too late

I sure won't use them. I one time used a condom that had them and it hurt a lot. Never again.

[Edited 8/6/11 9:25am]

Serious said:

sextonseven said:

Again, I have to ask: why do all women in relationships have to use birth control? Why can't the men be the ones using it?

There are not many possibilities for men. I'd love to take the pill again if it was not for the side effects so that I would not have to deal with condoms anymore . They take away a lot of the fun from sex.

But your bf still uses them while you use nothing. So that means he should be very worried!

sextonseven said:

Serious said:

There are not many possibilities for men. I'd love to take the pill again if it was not for the side effects so that I would not have to deal with condoms anymore . They take away a lot of the fun from sex.

But your bf still uses them while you use nothing. So that means he should be very worried!

Why?

Serious said:

sextonseven said:

But your bf still uses them while you use nothing. So that means he should be very worried!

Why?

I was just repeating what others were saying on this thread. But I would assume they mean except for vasectomies, leaving the responsibility of birth control solely to the man via condoms is not very reliable.

sextonseven said:

Serious said:

Why?

I was just repeating what others were saying on this thread. But I would assume they mean except for vasectomies, leaving the responsibility of birth control solely to the man via condoms is not very reliable.

But that means I need to be worried not him . He'd love to have a baby .

Serious said:

sextonseven said:

I was just repeating what others were saying on this thread. But I would assume they mean except for vasectomies, leaving the responsibility of birth control solely to the man via condoms is not very reliable.

But that means I need to be worried not him . He'd love to have a baby .

I'd double-check those condoms for pinholes.

sextonseven said:

Serious said:

But that means I need to be worried not him . He'd love to have a baby .

I'd double-check those condoms for pinholes.

Leo's orgasm theory does not work for me though.

I've known women (on the pill) who had not yet had them but had strong sex drives, and others who had had them but had low sex drives.

My cousin got Depo Provera® and says she's never horny...but she also kinda hates her husband too, so I don't know if that is part of the problem

PunkMistress said:

armpit said:

I've never heard anything about birth-control resulting in some widespread loss of libido.

I think guys should be more worried if their girlfriends don't use birth control at all.

I agree with your second statement.

Hormonal birth control is associated with lots of side effects, and loss of sexual desire is pretty high up there for large numbers of women. Which sucks, doesn't it? You go on it so you can fuck with abandon, then you don't want to. Evil!

yes, maybe the complications are a reminder that sex can be pretty serious business even after all this time.

I wish there were more options for guys. I have gotten guilt for essentially forcing someone to take the pill (not really, but that was the feeling), but they did not want to use condoms and IMO vasectomy is not quite an equal trade off. I would definitely try the pill if I could.

And yeah it is all a cruel thing, pill kills sex drive, condoms ruin the experience.

thekidsgirl said:

NDRU said:

I was on the Pill for 20 years and never had any trouble "getting there."

So much for that theory.

Genesia said:

ZombieKitten said:

Genesia said:

I was on the Pill for 20 years and never had any trouble "getting there."

So much for that theory.

Combined? I was on combined for 10, and like-wise I have not had a decrease in libido from anything except Implanon and that was because it was a 6 months spent in bloody hell.

I don't know what "combined" means.

Genesia said:

ZombieKitten said:

Genesia said:

I don't know what "combined" means.

Combined oral contraceptive pill - estrogen and progesterone. Maybe it's not called that in US?

Well...that's what most of them are here. We just call everything "The Pill."

Genesia said: