If I weren't single and had someone else, it wouldn't be called cheating because I'd be bringing the other guy home for both of us to have. And if he has someone else, he better bring the motherfucker home and share him with me too.

Last time I went dancing, a really cute gorgious guy kissed me.

Then a hot blond girl went after me, telling him to back of and she made out with me.

I was dancing and drunk, having a great time. In the end, the girl won and I spend a great night with her. So, would that be cheating the guy I kissed before??

I really like cheating

Haven't been in relationships longer than 2,5 year. I don't cheat, I just break up when the man or the relationship makes me unhappy.

vainandy said:

If I weren't single and had someone else, it wouldn't be called cheating because I'd be bringing the other guy home for both of us to have. And if he has someone else, he better bring the motherfucker home and share him with me too.

LMMFAO!! See, this is why I love you, Andy!!

missfee said:

No. If committed in a happy, fulfilling relationship, there would be no need to stray because you would have all that you need.

In my last relationship, I was with guy who was really nice and was into me, my family loved him but I wasn't as into him as I thought I probably should had been. He treated me well, but the relationship was draining since he was a bit needy and I wasn't getting all that I needed out of it. As a result, I started looking at other men and could see myself going out with another guy had the opportunity presented itself. Once I recognized that this was happening, I knew that our relationship had to end. Just that simple.

And you're a MUCH better person by staying true to your morals.

No. End of story.

Never.

No.

PurpleJedi said:

missfee said:

No. If committed in a happy, fulfilling relationship, there would be no need to stray because you would have all that you need.

In my last relationship, I was with guy who was really nice and was into me, my family loved him but I wasn't as into him as I thought I probably should had been. He treated me well, but the relationship was draining since he was a bit needy and I wasn't getting all that I needed out of it. As a result, I started looking at other men and could see myself going out with another guy had the opportunity presented itself. Once I recognized that this was happening, I knew that our relationship had to end. Just that simple.

And you're a MUCH better person by staying true to your morals.

IMO cheating sometimes may be a better option than leaving your partner. And no I never cheated on my partners in my life.

Serious said:

PurpleJedi said:

And you're a MUCH better person by staying true to your morals.

IMO cheating sometimes may be a better option than leaving your partner. And no I never cheated on my partners in my life.

I can see that in the sense of a one-night-stand that means nothing.

But "cheating" implies a relationship...continually talking/communicating & meeting with that other person. That other person now becomes the more important "partner" in your life. The relationship with your spouse then takes a turn for the worse...and if things were bad before, they become HORRIBLE. The spouse will know...as careful as you can be, it becomes abundantly clear that the cheating spouse has "checked out" emotionally. Especially if you've been together for a long time and can pick up on little hints and clues.

Unless you both agree to an "open" relationship, I just don't see how cheating can be "better" than leaving.

PurpleJedi said:

Serious said:

IMO cheating sometimes may be a better option than leaving your partner. And no I never cheated on my partners in my life.

I can see that in the sense of a one-night-stand that means nothing.

But "cheating" implies a relationship...continually talking/communicating & meeting with that other person. That other person now becomes the more important "partner" in your life. The relationship with your spouse then takes a turn for the worse...and if things were bad before, they become HORRIBLE. The spouse will know...as careful as you can be, it becomes abundantly clear that the cheating spouse has "checked out" emotionally. Especially if you've been together for a long time and can pick up on little hints and clues.

Unless you both agree to an "open" relationship, I just don't see how cheating can be "better" than leaving.

English is not my first language, for me cheating does not imply a relationship. If my boyfriend had a one-night-stand I would call it cheating. What term would be correct if cheating is not?

But even if it is more than "just" a one-night-stand I still think sometimes it might be better than ending the relationship. If you find out than at least you have the chance to work on the relationship and try to save it. And there is also a chance that "other" relationship might end after some time. And no way am I saying cheating is cool for me, I am not the person for an open relationship, I'd be devestated if I'd find out my bf is cheating on me.

alexnvrmnd777 said:

vainandy said:

If I weren't single and had someone else, it wouldn't be called cheating because I'd be bringing the other guy home for both of us to have. And if he has someone else, he better bring the motherfucker home and share him with me too.

LMMFAO!! See, this is why I love you, Andy!!

Serious said:

PurpleJedi said:

I can see that in the sense of a one-night-stand that means nothing.

But "cheating" implies a relationship...continually talking/communicating & meeting with that other person. That other person now becomes the more important "partner" in your life. The relationship with your spouse then takes a turn for the worse...and if things were bad before, they become HORRIBLE. The spouse will know...as careful as you can be, it becomes abundantly clear that the cheating spouse has "checked out" emotionally. Especially if you've been together for a long time and can pick up on little hints and clues.

Unless you both agree to an "open" relationship, I just don't see how cheating can be "better" than leaving.

English is not my first language, for me cheating does not imply a relationship. If my boyfriend had a one-night-stand I would call it cheating. What term would be correct if cheating is not?

But even if it is more than "just" a one-night-stand I still think sometimes it might be better than ending the relationship. If you find out than at least you have the chance to work on the relationship and try to save it. And there is also a chance that "other" relationship might end after some time. And no way am I saying cheating is cool for me, I am not the person for an open relationship, I'd be devestated if I'd find out my bf is cheating on me.

Is it possible that ANYONE who truly loves their spouse/partner could be in an "open relationship"???

ANY MAN WHO REPLIES NO IS NOT BEING TRUTHFUL!!! A MAN IS A MAN IS A MAN!

StillGotIt said:

I you could cheat on your current partner....there is no way in hell they will ever know.....absolutely guaranteed insanely fantastic sex.....would you do it?

No, nope, no way, nein.

davetherave6767 said:

ANY MAN WHO REPLIES NO IS NOT BEING TRUTHFUL!!! A MAN IS A MAN IS A MAN!

PurpleJedi said:

Serious said:

PurpleJedi said:

Is it possible that ANYONE who truly loves their spouse/partner could be in an "open relationship"???

That's a good question. Well I know that my bf loves me and I am pretty sure that he would prefer an open relationship if he could choose. So I guess it is possible. He knows that he would hurt me though if I was not the only one for him, so he does not go for it. Still I wish he would not even be interested to be with someone else too even if I gave him a pass .

IMO, it's "ok" for someone to feel attraction to other people even in a relationship...I mean we are human. But part of what makes us higher animals is that we should be able to control ourselves. If you're in a relationship, and you LOVE that person, then even though you may have an attraction to someone else and even fantasize about that person...your love should prevent you from acting on it.

At least, that's my naive take on things.