Efan said:

BlackAdder7 said:

there's privacy, and there's hiding sex toys. he knows about her vibrator. she doesn't know about his flashlight.

But does he need to tell her if he masturbates?

does he need to tell her if he views porn?

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

But does he need to tell her if he masturbates?

does he need to tell her if he views porn?

Right, exactly. It has nothing to do with her really, unless he wants to ask her to get involved.

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

But does he need to tell her if he masturbates?

does he need to tell her if he views porn?

Isn't that my same question?

Efan said:

ZombieKitten said:

does he need to tell her if he views porn?

Isn't that my same question?

not really, he could get away with it if he is thinking of his wife

but if he is viewing porn that's kind of unlikely!

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

Isn't that my same question?

not really, he could get away with it if he is thinking of his wife

but if he is viewing porn that's kind of unlikely!

Interesting.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

does he need to tell her if he views porn?

Right, exactly. It has nothing to do with her really, unless he wants to ask her to get involved.

how would you feel if the person with whom you were in a relationship with hid something from you?

Efan said:

ZombieKitten said:

not really, he could get away with it if he is thinking of his wife

but if he is viewing porn that's kind of unlikely!

Interesting.

I'm just being facetious!

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

Interesting.

I'm just being facetious!

Well, you're so gorgeous I can't imagine anybody you're with fantasizing about somebody else.

But for the rest of us normal humans...

Efan said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm just being facetious!

Well, you're so gorgeous I can't imagine anybody you're with fantasizing about somebody else.

But for the rest of us normal humans...

the thing with me is I couldn't care less. I don't think I've ever fantasised about my husband ONCE! AND I watch porn secretly when nobody is home.

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

Well, you're so gorgeous I can't imagine anybody you're with fantasizing about somebody else.

But for the rest of us normal humans...

the thing with me is I couldn't care less. I don't think I've ever fantasised about my husband ONCE! AND I watch porn secretly when nobody is home.

I think I'd be the same if I were in a relationship. I'm not particularly jealous of porn or objects like a fleshlight. I guess if my partner didn't tell me about getting a fleshlight I'd be pissed because I could have some fun using it on him. There are times when jacking someone off (or getting jacked off by someone) is damn good fun. The Fleshlight would just add another dimension to that.

Efan said:

ZombieKitten said:

the thing with me is I couldn't care less. I don't think I've ever fantasised about my husband ONCE! AND I watch porn secretly when nobody is home.

I think I'd be the same if I were in a relationship. I'm not particularly jealous of porn or objects like a fleshlight. I guess if my partner didn't tell me about getting a fleshlight I'd be pissed because I could have some fun using it on him. There are times when jacking someone off (or getting jacked off by someone) is damn good fun. The Fleshlight would just add another dimension to that.

Absolutely

Any toys I have are for our together use as well

I'm just amazed that in the middle of the Supoer Bowl, Orgers still find the time to opine on sexual topics. I guess we're just a bunch of hornodgs.

728huey said:

I'm just amazed that in the middle of the Supoer Bowl, Orgers still find the time to opine on sexual topics. I guess we're just a bunch of hornodgs.

In fairness, though...does anybody really care about this Super Bowl?

Efan said:

728huey said:

I'm just amazed that in the middle of the Supoer Bowl, Orgers still find the time to opine on sexual topics. I guess we're just a bunch of hornodgs.

In fairness, though...does anybody really care about this Super Bowl?

NO ... AND the 1/2 time SUCKED !

Efan said:

728huey said:

I'm just amazed that in the middle of the Supoer Bowl, Orgers still find the time to opine on sexual topics. I guess we're just a bunch of hornodgs.

In fairness, though...does anybody really care about this Super Bowl?

super WHAT????

Like the org stops when the footy grand final is on here

BlackAdder7 said:

JustErin said:

Right, exactly. It has nothing to do with her really, unless he wants to ask her to get involved.

how would you feel if the person with whom you were in a relationship with hid something from you?

If it has nothing to do with me, I wouldn't care. Why would I?

Masturbation is not about your partner. If you want to share then fine...otherwise it's totally a private thing and the other person has no right to know about it.

Mach said:

Efan said:

In fairness, though...does anybody really care about this Super Bowl?

NO ... AND the 1/2 time SUCKED !

It was the worst! Just awful.

Efan said:

Mach said:

NO ... AND the 1/2 time SUCKED !

It was the worst! Just awful.

Awful is a compliment to that crap !

who picks that stuff ... they need to be fired !

PANDURITO said:

johnart said:

We're dying to get one btw.

One?

As in "pass me the vagina, darling" ?

No dumbass, they come in all kinds of shapes.
I like the clear (non-descript) ones personally. It's not like I'm getting it to think I'm actually fucking something that's alive.

ZombieKitten said:

Efan said:

In fairness, though...does anybody really care about this Super Bowl?

super WHAT????

Like the org stops when the footy grand final is on here

In fairness, there were plenty of Orgers watching the finals of the World Cup last year. But yes, that's just another reason to talk about sex. If you were a Spaniard, what better way to celebrate an incredible football title than having mad celebration sex with a loved one (or at least a hottie). And if you were a Dutchman, what better way to console one's self than some sympathy sex.

BlackAdder7 said:

Efan said:

I agree! I just didn't understand why he wouldn't tell her about it in the first place. If she DID have a problem with it, she would be in the wrong.

I'd disagree with you on her being wrong. If she was upset that he had a sex toy, it would be her feelings. How could someone be wrong about their feelings? Let me put it another way...If she was upset about the sex toy, and she told him...he could respect her feelings and get rid of it, or he could calmly explain his feelings as to why he likes it, and incorporate it into their play. If she says she's not comforetable with it..and he loves her...He'll respect her feelings, or they'll hopefully work out a compromise. He didn't give a chance to give her input on it, and that's wrong, in my opinion

Wait Wait Wait...WHAT???
First of all, yes, you can have feelings that make you wrong. Then you decide if you're gonna hold on to those feelings and deal with the consequence or if you're gonna work on them. Selfishness, for example, is a feeling we all experience at one time or another in our life...it is not always a "right" feeling to have so we have to work through it or be dickish about it.

If she enjoys a sex toy, but becomes upset over him having one, that would be wrong.

Getting rid of his toy would not be "respecting" her feelings, it would be more like obedience.

We're talking about a toy in a situation where one partner already enjoys them (I'm not saying he shouldn't tell her), we're not talking about going out and finding a fuck buddy. Should he notify her every time he jerks off as well? Or only when he does it in a way that involves anything other than lotion and his hand?

I don't believe that intimacy is based on partners having to know every single thought, fantasy or method of masturbation the other one has. That's why it's masturbation, it's YOUR time and YOUR thing.

it's interesting, now that some of you mentioned it, how, indeed, it is always some

big laughing matter when a guy has a sextoy and yet a woman can have one and

no one bats an eye. heck, women even have sextoy/tupperwear parties, lol.

so why would that be? since in almost all other aspects of sexuality women are the

ones who always get shit upon if they show any kind of interest or enjoyment for

things.

men always get more respect or some such bull if they do sexual stuff.

yet, with sextoys it's the other way around. i find that quite interesting and wonder

what the cause of that might be.

and as for bob not telling his girlfriend about it straight away, i think everyone has the

right to their own privacy.

especially if you don't live together.

if you live together and you stick it to your fleshlights 3 times a day while your girl is

at work and then bail on her needs when she comes home and wants some romance,

sure it could be an issue and it would be like being secretive and well, unpleasant.

but if it doesn't take away from her shagging time, what's the problem?

if i'd have a dude, whom i was dating and not living with, go through my stuff and get

all up in a twist because i had a sextoy that he didn't know about, and then making a

freakin sextoy into an issue of trust, i'd seriously think about getting rid of him.

it's a sextoy people, we're not living in stalinist russia

728huey said:

ZombieKitten said:

super WHAT????

Like the org stops when the footy grand final is on here

In fairness, there were plenty of Orgers watching the finals of the World Cup last year. But yes, that's just another reason to talk about sex. If you were a Spaniard, what better way to celebrate an incredible football title than having mad celebration sex with a loved one (or at least a hottie). And if you were a Dutchman, what better way to console one's self than some sympathy sex.

sure, but only the aussies watched the footy grand final

and it's not rugby, it's AFL

IstenSzek said:

it's interesting, now that some of you mentioned it, how, indeed, it is always some

big laughing matter when a guy has a sextoy and yet a woman can have one and

no one bats an eye. heck, women even have sextoy/tupperwear parties, lol.

so why would that be? since in almost all other aspects of sexuality women are the

ones who always get shit upon if they show any kind of interest or enjoyment for

things.

men always get more respect or some such bull if they do sexual stuff.

yet, with sextoys it's the other way around. i find that quite interesting and wonder

what the cause of that might be.

sextoys for women have been around since they were used by doctors to cure their hysteria!

I'm pretty sure this whole idea is too do with the idea that a man would be desperate to have to use one, not something they would tell their mates, since it implies they can't get any real action - sadly that in itself is enough to be ridiculed. It's like blow-up dolls, a JOKE.

Women aren't SUPPOSED to be out getting action, perhaps then it's OK to rely on our battery operated friends? Like good little girls at home, staying out of trouble!

2 of my friens have throw the sex toy tupperware like parties and sell all kinds of things. i know there is a sleeve they carry in aid to jerking a guy off. that fleshlight picture gives me dirty thoughts. omfg i so would love to see footage of a man using one.

purplemookiebut said:

2 of my friens have throw the sex toy tupperware like parties and sell all kinds of things. i know there is a sleeve they carry in aid to jerking a guy off. that fleshlight picture gives me dirty thoughts. omfg i so would love to see footage of a man using one.

Go to xtube and search fleshlight

purplemookiebut said:

2 of my friens have throw the sex toy tupperware like parties and sell all kinds of things. i know there is a sleeve they carry in aid to jerking a guy off. that fleshlight picture gives me dirty thoughts. omfg i so would love to see footage of a man using one.

Have fun.

http://www.tnaflix.com/am...video51935

NSFW

Wait, this one is funnier.

http://www.tnaflix.com/cu...video66475

[Edited 2/6/11 21:12pm]

I just love how we Orgers love to support one another in our perversions...

JohnArt & JustErin, this 's for you...