O.K. we all know that guys just love it when a woman is bisexual and is willing to do it with another girl while they watch. Many a man has expressed envy for JerseyKRS purrfect marriage. However, what if the shoe was on the other foot. What if the woman is straight and the man is bi and he wants her to watch him get off with another man? Would you do it ? Would you enjoy it?

As a man I think the bisexual woman thing is more of a fantasy than a real desire. Yes I do have the fantasy, too. But I know a few guys who are with bisexual woman (or women who had previously been with women) and for the most part they are in committed monagamous relasionships, just like I am. It was not the three-way stuff you'd dream of.

There is one couple, though, and apparently the husband does not take part in the wife's affairs, but instead listens to them have sex loudly while he watches TV or tries to read sexy!

So I think it depends on the couple. Even if a girl was willing to bring another girl into bed, what are the chances you'd be into both of the girls? Attraction is tricky. Three-way attraction has to be much trickier.

I think it is more difficult for an openly bisexual man to find a mate than it is for an openly bisexual woman. It's my opinion, not a result of any serious study on my part. Honestly I am open to it. It may be my age, getting close to 50, that is making me more open to a non monogomous relationship. Also I kinda like looking at man on man porn and for some reason it has taken me all this time to admit it.

Personally I have been celibate for nearly 8 years now and i am sick of waiting for Mr Right. Mr Goodtime and Mr SafeSex are clearly looking very very good to me right now.

Deadflow3r said:

I think it is more difficult for an openly bisexual man to find a mate than it is for an openly bisexual woman. It's my opinion, not a result of any serious study on my part. Honestly I am open to it. It may be my age, getting close to 50, that is making me more open to a non monogomous relationship. Also I kinda like looking at man on man porn and for some reason it has taken me all this time to admit it.

Personally I have been celibate for nearly 8 years now and i am sick of waiting for Mr Right. Mr Goodtime and Mr SafeSex are clearly looking very very good to me right now.

that is good to be able to admit what you want, and I am sure there are men willing to oblige you!

I have not been able to let go of the jealousy surrounding an open relationship. Watching a girl kiss another girl for drunken fun is one thing, but I'm not sure I want to open up the bedroom doors to just anyone.

But realistically, I don't know why non-monagamous relationships could not work, esp if you're mature about it.

Like I said I am not young and I do not want to start my own convent anytime soon but my name is Theresa. bad omen.

I want a sex partner that I can trust and one that doesn't feel the need to lie to me. I would be much more open to a guy who dated guys aswell as me than I would to being one of two or more women. I can't do the sisters/wives crap. And it is true I do have some fantasies about 3 ways that I would not mind trying out.

i am also getting sick of waiting for some sort of Prince Charming that may actually dig women his own age. Why not open the door a little wider? Guys that are a bit kinky and honest about it tend to have safe sex practices where as the ones who barely can admit it to themselves are the ones you have to watch out for IMO.

I have watched all the disney movies growing up and bought the whole package. I do not want to do the Denise Matthews thing and become a born again virgin and never have another sexual thought or masturbate again. i also am a little tired of being my own best friend in the sex department aswell. Would it kill me if I wasn't the only one? I think it is killing me more to think of my sex life being over when I am 49 years old!!!!!

Dating a bisexual man is one thing, dating a man who wants you to watch him “get off” with another man is another thing entirely.

If I were single and met a man I was attracted to, his being bisexual would not put him out of the running for a date.

As for the other part, I would not date any man who wants to sleep with other people (men or women), let alone have me be present to watch.

Finally, a conversation on the org I can participate in!!!

Now...

4 years ago, I dated a bi-sexual guy. Thing is, he didn't tell me, I had to find out. He would tell other people to tell me things about him, that he should have told me himself. For instance, he neglected to tell me that he was married before we met, and that he had 2 kids....which wouldn't have bothered me had he been upfront about it. To me, it seemed like he was ashamed of his straight side, but to others, it was like he was ashamed of his gay side. That shit is too much to deal with. We broke up because he and his best friend went out one night, and he fucked some pregnant chick in a car in an alleyway. He told a friend of mine, who told me. Later that night, he called the house, and I asked him if there was anything we needed to discuss, and he accused me of being dramatic blah blah and never wanted to see me again. I saw him 3 weeks later hanging on some girl, then that same night, he was trying to hook back up with me. Too much fucking drama. Bi-sexuals can go fuck their mommas. It is RARE that I have met a bi-sexual guy who hasn't had issues with either side of his sexuality. Females are no problem. I have bi-sexual female friends, and I have seen them in genuine relationships with both sexes. With the guys, it's a whole other thing. I've seen bi-sexual guys with gay guys, and they'll be QUICK to say that they're "bi", before they'll admit to being gay. It's as if they have a problem with being gay themselves, yet, have no problem dating gay men. That shit is twisted to me. At least with a gay guy, I know he's always gonna like dick, and I would be more than willing to supply. But no, I would never date one again. Before I even met my ex, I used to tell people that I wouldn't date a bi-sexual guy, out of fear of him cheating on me or leaving me for a female, and I was hoping he would prove me wrong....so much for hope.

I would not knowingly date a bisexual man IF the relationship was going to be sexual. Well, that was rather redundant because if we are "dating" I guess that means sex is involved. I would have no interest in seeing my partner engage in sexual activity with another man. Albeit fascinating to watch, I couldn't sustain a sexual relationship with a man who enjoys sex with another man. I am not sexually attracted to women, so if my significant other wanted to get freaky and engage in a threesome, I'm out. But for those who enjoy it, carry on!

BklynBabe said:

Watching 2 men is not a turn on for me. That's like twice as many dingleberries!

You are fken crazy funny!!!!

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Can we be clear about that here?

Bisexual simply means they'll date both men and women - not that they MUST date both at the same time.

CarrieMpls said:

Dating a bisexual man is one thing, dating a man who wants you to watch him “get off” with another man is another thing entirely.

If I were single and met a man I was attracted to, his being bisexual would not put him out of the running for a date.

As for the other part, I would not date any man who wants to sleep with other people (men or women), let alone have me be present to watch.

See for me it is just the opposite. I want to see that other guy and I don't want to find out that the other guy has no clue about me either. That is bull shet. I do think that as a society we are harder on bisexual men than we are on bisexual women. I often find men that others think "looks gay" attractive. Often times those men do swing both ways.

ScarletScandal said:

Finally, a conversation on the org I can participate in!!!

Now...

4 years ago, I dated a bi-sexual guy. Thing is, he didn't tell me, I had to find out. He would tell other people to tell me things about him, that he should have told me himself. For instance, he neglected to tell me that he was married before we met, and that he had 2 kids....which wouldn't have bothered me had he been upfront about it. To me, it seemed like he was ashamed of his straight side, but to others, it was like he was ashamed of his gay side. That shit is too much to deal with. We broke up because he and his best friend went out one night, and he fucked some pregnant chick in a car in an alleyway. He told a friend of mine, who told me. Later that night, he called the house, and I asked him if there was anything we needed to discuss, and he accused me of being dramatic blah blah and never wanted to see me again. I saw him 3 weeks later hanging on some girl, then that same night, he was trying to hook back up with me. Too much fucking drama. Bi-sexuals can go fuck their mommas. It is RARE that I have met a bi-sexual guy who hasn't had issues with either side of his sexuality. Females are no problem. I have bi-sexual female friends, and I have seen them in genuine relationships with both sexes. With the guys, it's a whole other thing. I've seen bi-sexual guys with gay guys, and they'll be QUICK to say that they're "bi", before they'll admit to being gay. It's as if they have a problem with being gay themselves, yet, have no problem dating gay men. That shit is twisted to me. At least with a gay guy, I know he's always gonna like dick, and I would be more than willing to supply. But no, I would never date one again. Before I even met my ex, I used to tell people that I wouldn't date a bi-sexual guy, out of fear of him cheating on me or leaving me for a female, and I was hoping he would prove me wrong....so much for hope.

See this is perfect. It is the dishonesty part that ends up making a huge mess.

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Can we be clear about that here?

Bisexual simply means they'll date both men and women - not that they MUST date both at the same time.

well this is a whole nother can of worms. Can a bisexual man be in a monogomous relationship for ever and ever and forgo the other sex?

CarrieMpls said:

Dating a bisexual man is one thing, dating a man who wants you to watch him “get off” with another man is another thing entirely.

If I were single and met a man I was attracted to, his being bisexual would not put him out of the running for a date.

As for the other part, I would not date any man who wants to sleep with other people (men or women), let alone have me be present to watch.

Deadflow3r said:

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Can we be clear about that here?

Bisexual simply means they'll date both men and women - not that they MUST date both at the same time.

well this is a whole nother can of worms. Can a bisexual man be in a monogomous relationship for ever and ever and forgo the other sex?

Of course. It's no different than a heterosexual man forgoing partners of the opposite sex besides his wife. Bisexuality does not equal polyamory.

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OH YES IT DOES!!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Deadflow3r said:

CarrieMpls said:

Dating a bisexual man is one thing, dating a man who wants you to watch him “get off” with another man is another thing entirely.

If I were single and met a man I was attracted to, his being bisexual would not put him out of the running for a date.

As for the other part, I would not date any man who wants to sleep with other people (men or women), let alone have me be present to watch.

See for me it is just the opposite. I want to see that other guy and I don't want to find out that the other guy has no clue about me either. That is bull shet. I do think that as a society we are harder on bisexual men than we are on bisexual women. I often find men that others think "looks gay" attractive. Often times those men do swing both ways.

The point is, just because someone is bisexual doesn’t mean they are sleeping with the other sex, whether behind your back or right in front of you. Bisexual people can be monogamous. Just as straights and gays can be. And I have no interest in a non-monogamous relationship. So I would only be interested in a monogamous-minded man, whether he's bi or straight.

ScarletScandal said:

OH YES IT DOES!!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Qualify, bro. The bisexuals you've met have slept around. I know some who give zero reason to believe they do.

ScarletScandal said:

OH YES IT DOES!!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

You may think bisexual people have a tendency to want multiple partners, but that doesn’t change the definition of bisexual. It simple means being sexually attracted to both sexes.

Whether someone dates or is in a relationship with more than one person at a time is a completely different thing, no matter their gender preference.

Lammastide said:

Deadflow3r said:

well this is a whole nother can of worms. Can a bisexual man be in a monogomous relationship for ever and ever and forgo the other sex?

Of course. It's no different than a heterosexual man forgoing partners of the opposite sex besides his wife. Bisexuality does not equal polyamory.

[Edited 12/28/10 11:56am]

exactly. NO man is ever totally satisfied

NDRU said:

Lammastide said:

Of course. It's no different than a heterosexual man forgoing partners of the opposite sex besides his wife. Bisexuality does not equal polyamory.

[Edited 12/28/10 11:56am]

exactly. NO man is ever totally satisfied

Well, I'd suspect no man is ever totally blind anyway. I'm guessing almost all of us look... and fantasize. Touching, however, I think we can keep from doing.

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NDRU said:

As a man I think the bisexual woman thing is more of a fantasy than a real desire. Yes I do have the fantasy, too. But I know a few guys who are with bisexual woman (or women who had previously been with women) and for the most part they are in committed monagamous relasionships, just like I am. It was not the three-way stuff you'd dream of.

There is one couple, though, and apparently the husband does not take part in the wife's affairs, but instead listens to them have sex loudly while he watches TV or tries to read sexy!

So I think it depends on the couple. Even if a girl was willing to bring another girl into bed, what are the chances you'd be into both of the girls? Attraction is tricky. Three-way attraction has to be much trickier.

Exactly. The porn industry has painted a totally unrealistic picture of how bisexual women are. They paint a picture of two beautiful lipstick lesbians together that let a man join in with them during sex. Well, 90% of the lesbian couples I have seen, whether gay or bisexual, have been a beautiful feminine lipstick lesbian with an ultra masculine butch bulldagger. First of all, I doubt there are very few men that would be turned on watching sex and joining in with that type of couple. Secondly, that bulldagger has no interest in a man whatseover so she's not going to join in with him anyway. And thirdly, even if her girlfriend wants to have a threesome with a man while she's with her, she's going to be beat her ass (and she should beat her ass).

That lipstick lesbian threesome with the man joining in is just unrealistic fantasy created by the porn industry. Yeah, it happens sometimes but the women are usually drug addicts or just plain out sluts. I have, however, seen men who may not want a threesome with two beautiful lipstick lesbians, but try to see if he can sleep with a lipstick lesbian and see if he can take her away from her bulldagger. It's strictly to boost his ego like he's somebody that's all that. Well, I fixed on those bastards one night. I told a bulldagger friend of mine to tell a motherfucker he could have a threesome with the two of them, but if they were going to have a threesome, it wasn't going to be the type of threesome he wants. I told her to tell that motherfucker that he has to let her fuck him up with ass with her strap-on and that neither one of them were going to touch his dick and he wouldn't be allowed to touch the two of them whatsoever. Well, she told him that and she never had a problem out of that bastard harassing them again.

Lammastide said:

NDRU said:

exactly. NO man is ever totally satisfied

Well, I'd suspect no man is ever totally blind anyway. I'm guessing almost all of us look... and fantasize. Touching, however, I think we can keep from doing.

yes, exactly. We're never satisfied. But we can be good, at least.

I have had a lot of trouble with finding a hetero guy who wants to be with just me.

I'm not interested in expanding the playing field to include TWO SEXES to be dumped for. The competition has been rough enough against other women.

chocolate1 said:

I have had a lot of trouble with finding a hetero guy who wants to be with just me.

I'm not interested in expanding the playing field to include TWO SEXES to be dumped for. The competition has been rough enough against other women.

I'm certain those guys have been crazy, regardless of their orientation.

Lammastide said:

chocolate1 said:

I have had a lot of trouble with finding a hetero guy who wants to be with just me.

I'm not interested in expanding the playing field to include TWO SEXES to be dumped for. The competition has been rough enough against other women.

I'm certain those guys have been crazy, regardless of their orientation.

Thank you!

i don't think so..that tent scene in brokeback mountain always kinda weirded me out. i adored heath ledger but i hate jake gyllnehall. now james franco and sean penn making out in milk wasn't too bad.or was jennifer tilly with gina gershon. hey maybe if it was franco and heath or throw johnny depp in the mix it could be hot...otherwise i wouldn't want to watch a boyfriend with another guy or another girl at that matter...