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Weird Facebook situation - need some advice I want to share with y'all some weird Facebook related stuff, plus I might need some advice on how I should act in this situation.
First off, I've recently been interested in a girl that I'll refer to as "Jennifer" here, and she's best friends with my very good friend who I'll refer to as "Erin". I added Jennifer to my FB friends list a few months ago even though I've only met her twice in real life, and we've both been quite active commenting and "liking" stuff on each other Facebook walls. I don't know at this point whether she wants to be more than just friends, but she told Erin I'm a fun guy and I'll be partying with them on Saturday next week. Here's the weird part: Last Sunday, some girl, let's just call her "Betty", added Erin as her friend on FB, even though Erin had no idea who Betty was. It didn't take long to find out that "Betty" was a fake account, as no-one with her full name existed. Then later the same day, "Betty" added me as a friend on Facebook.. I figured this must be some pervert or something so I ignored the friend request and reported her account as fake. Then Erin adds the fake Betty as her friend on Facebook... Today I asked her about it and she tells me that Jennifer is behind this "Betty" account and that she's just "having fun"... Then I get another friend request from "Betty" with a message: "Hey hot stuff, fun to see you around here.." Since Jennifer doesn't know that I know Betty is actually her, I sent "Betty" a message: "Sorry I don't recall who you are, can you refresh my memory please?" I haven't heard from "Betty" yet, but things might get weird if I add "Betty" on FB... This is all so confusing 
I really like Jennifer and I hope that my meet-up with her and Erin will lead to something more... but this Facebook-alter confuses me! Any advice? P.S. I should add the "Betty"-alter is supposed to be a 22 year old single mother, while Jennifer is 4 years older and has no kids. The profile pic used for "Betty" looks more like a 16 year old though.. [Edited 5/4/10 9:26am] | |
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Since I couldn't make heads or tails out of that...no, I don't have any advice. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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I would ignore "Betty"  "Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
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Meh....just call her out on it. Sounds kinda childish to me.  "Bring friends, bring your children and bring foot spray 'cause it's gon' be funky." ~ Prince
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Are you having a Facebook fight?  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: Are you having a Facebook fight?
No, a girl I'm interested in (I'll be partying with her and my friend less than 2 weeks from now) and who is already friends with me on Facebook, is adding me on FB through her alter-account. The thing is she doesn't know I know it's her alter. [Edited 5/4/10 9:37am] | |
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purplehippieonthe1 said: meow85 said: Are you having a Facebook fight?
No, a girl I'm interested in (I'll be partying with her and my friend less than 2 weeks from now) and who is already friends with me on Facebook, is adding me on FB through her alter-account. The thing is she doesn't know I know it's her alter. [Edited 5/4/10 9:37am] That's just weird. Tell her you know there's two of her, I guess? "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: purplehippieonthe1 said: No, a girl I'm interested in (I'll be partying with her and my friend less than 2 weeks from now) and who is already friends with me on Facebook, is adding me on FB through her alter-account. The thing is she doesn't know I know it's her alter. [Edited 5/4/10 9:37am] That's just weird. Tell her you know there's two of her, I guess? | |
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Mach said: meow85 said: That's just weird. Tell her you know there's two of her, I guess? I agree. And you might reconsider wanting to begin a romantic relationship with someone who's into silliness like this. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Lammastide said: Mach said: Yeah seems pretty weird ~ I'd just come out with it ...healthy relationships don't need games
I agree. And you might reconsider wanting to begin a romantic relationship with someone who's into silliness like this. I will probably tell her I know about the alter at some point... I haven't changed my plans about meeting her though.. I haven't met her in real life since January, I added her on Facebook in March and whether she just wants to be friends or something more, she seems to have some interest in me.. otherwise she wouldn't comment on my links or statuses almost seconds after I post them.. I'm just confused about her intent with the alter. Does she want to use the alter to find out stuff about me, for instance how interested I am in the real person behind the account, or is it just a silly prank on her friends in general? I can't see "Betty"'s friends list since I haven't added her, I only see the mutual friends and they are (predictably) Erin and Jennifer's real account. [Edited 5/4/10 9:58am] | |
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Dude. You're too old for this shit. Chick is 26 and making alter accounts for "fun"?
Facebook is so stupid sometimes. | |
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Lammastide said: Mach said: Yeah seems pretty weird ~ I'd just come out with it ...healthy relationships don't need games
I agree. And you might reconsider wanting to begin a romantic relationship with someone who's into silliness like this. 
I can only assess so much from the descriptions in this thread, but it seems to me weird FB behaviour could be counted as a red flag. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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JustErin said: Dude. You're too old for this shit. Chick is 26 and making alter accounts for "fun"?
Facebook is so stupid sometimes. She does seem to be a Facebook addict... Some days I've logged on Facebook and the first thing I see in the "news feed" is her joining something like 20-30 pages or groups. 
It's gotten to the point that during her exams period (she's studying at the local university) she has twice disappared completely from Facebook, the next day her account is back to normal and all her comments on my wall are back. If she were to hook up with me, she probably wouldn't have as much time for Facebook, if ya know what I mean.  | |
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ThreadCula said: I would ignore "Betty"
Seems they might be playing head games 
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moderatorpurplehippieonthe1 said: JustErin said: Dude. You're too old for this shit. Chick is 26 and making alter accounts for "fun"?
Facebook is so stupid sometimes. She does seem to be a Facebook addict... Some days I've logged on Facebook and the first thing I see in the "news feed" is her joining something like 20-30 pages or groups.
It's gotten to the point that during her exams period (she's studying at the local university) she has twice disappared completely from Facebook, the next day her account is back to normal and all her comments on my wall are back. If she were to hook up with me, she probably wouldn't have as much time for Facebook, if ya know what I mean. I dont see a problem with her being on facebook a lot. It's just the making a fake account thing that is really weird to me. Lets see her pic!  | |
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Genesia said: Since I couldn't make heads or tails out of that...no, I don't have any advice.
The whole thing sounds dumb. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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purplehippieonthe1 said: meow85 said: Are you having a Facebook fight?
No, a girl I'm interested in (I'll be partying with her and my friend less than 2 weeks from now) and who is already friends with me on Facebook, is adding me on FB through her alter-account. The thing is she doesn't know I know it's her alter. [Edited 5/4/10 9:37am] Is it Dan? I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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JustErin said: purplehippieonthe1 said: She does seem to be a Facebook addict... Some days I've logged on Facebook and the first thing I see in the "news feed" is her joining something like 20-30 pages or groups.
It's gotten to the point that during her exams period (she's studying at the local university) she has twice disappared completely from Facebook, the next day her account is back to normal and all her comments on my wall are back. If she were to hook up with me, she probably wouldn't have as much time for Facebook, if ya know what I mean. I dont see a problem with her being on facebook a lot. It's just the making a fake account thing that is really weird to me. Lets see her pic! Post her name so we can all friend her! We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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JustErin said: purplehippieonthe1 said: She does seem to be a Facebook addict... Some days I've logged on Facebook and the first thing I see in the "news feed" is her joining something like 20-30 pages or groups.
It's gotten to the point that during her exams period (she's studying at the local university) she has twice disappared completely from Facebook, the next day her account is back to normal and all her comments on my wall are back. If she were to hook up with me, she probably wouldn't have as much time for Facebook, if ya know what I mean. I dont see a problem with her being on facebook a lot. It's just the making a fake account thing that is really weird to me. Lets see her pic! I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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I would just be happy if Carrie's cat, sugarprincess, would stop hissing at me in her facebook account. | |
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fuckin' white people... | |
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thejason said: fuckin' white people...
OMG. I dunno the responses to this thread are cracking me up I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
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TotalANXiousNESS said: purplehippieonthe1 said: No, a girl I'm interested in (I'll be partying with her and my friend less than 2 weeks from now) and who is already friends with me on Facebook, is adding me on FB through her alter-account. The thing is she doesn't know I know it's her alter. [Edited 5/4/10 9:37am] Is it Dan? Naw, I don't think he's ever posted on my Facebook wall.
You'd probably see her posts all over if you were looking at my wall on FB.. | |
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purplehippieonthe1 said: TotalANXiousNESS said: Is it Dan? Naw, I don't think he's ever posted on my Facebook wall.
You'd probably see her posts all over if you were looking at my wall on FB.. Are you my friend on FB?? http://www.facebook.com/#...ef=profile If so put sumthin on my wall so i can click your little icelandic pic n check it out. I'm not gonna go hunting you down. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
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TotalANXiousNESS said: purplehippieonthe1 said: Naw, I don't think he's ever posted on my Facebook wall.
You'd probably see her posts all over if you were looking at my wall on FB.. Are you my friend on FB?? http://www.facebook.com/#...ef=profile If so put sumthin on my wall so i can click your little icelandic pic n check it out. I'm not gonna go hunting you down. Yes we're FB friends... check your wall | |
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meow85 said: Lammastide said: I agree. And you might reconsider wanting to begin a romantic relationship with someone who's into silliness like this.
I can only assess so much from the descriptions in this thread, but it seems to me weird FB behaviour could be counted as a red flag.
I think she's trying to "test" you to see if you'll flirt with "Betty". "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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chocolate1 said: meow85 said:
I can only assess so much from the descriptions in this thread, but it seems to me weird FB behaviour could be counted as a red flag.
I think she's trying to "test" you to see if you'll flirt with "Betty". I've ignored both of "Betty"'s friend requests.. I might just mention it casually when I meet her on the 15th... something like: "Hey, how you doin', BETTY?" | |
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The question U should be asking is... "Would this count as a threesome?"  | |
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comegetwild said: The question U should be asking is... "Would this count as a threesome?"
True. | |
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JustErin's right, I'm too old for this shit!
Now I get a message from "Betty": "I just know you through my friend "Erin" "...
I don't know if I should call her out on it just yet.. maybe I could mess with her a bit  ... say stuff like "Yeah OK... I see you know "Jennifer" too, she's smokin' hot... I'd hit that "[Edited 5/4/10 17:17pm] | |
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