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Does Anyone Feel Like They Are Behind On Their Life Goals, Besides Me? I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?! But I still have hope--just can't dump this nagging insecurity based on the economy lately! Anyone else?  [Edited 2/19/10 2:12am] | |
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poetcorner61 said: I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?!
I would not say you are behind, you just did things in your own order. I could say the same for myself, having my first child at 38 yrs old. Most of my friends and ppl I went to school with have children in college, some have grandkids already. I have an infant, seems weird but I have to remind myself that each one of us has our own path. There is no right and wrong order to the path we choose.  | |
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MrsMdiver said: poetcorner61 said: I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?!
I would not say you are behind, you just did things in your own order. I could say the same for myself, having my first child at 38 yrs old. Most of my friends and ppl I went to school with have children in college, some have grandkids already. I have an infant, seems weird but I have to remind myself that each one of us has our own path. There is no right and wrong order to the path we choose. Thank you for saying that! I agree! You are probably providing your child with a lot more economic security than I could provide when younger...each person has their own path...what is backwards for some is forwards for others! I'm sure you make a better parent because of your life experience!  | |
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No, we all have our own paths.
It used to make me mad when people would make comments because I didn't have my own place, for instance. I saved my money until I could afford what I really wanted- a nice house. Now I own a 3-bedroom, two bath... I got it when I was 41. But I do get upset when I think about not being married and having no children at 42. 
I commend you on finishing you degree.  "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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poetcorner61 said: MrsMdiver said: I would not say you are behind, you just did things in your own order. I could say the same for myself, having my first child at 38 yrs old. Most of my friends and ppl I went to school with have children in college, some have grandkids already. I have an infant, seems weird but I have to remind myself that each one of us has our own path. There is no right and wrong order to the path we choose. Thank you for saying that! I agree! You are probably providing your child with a lot more economic security than I could provide when younger...each person has their own path...what is backwards for some is forwards for others! I'm sure you make a better parent because of your life experience! I commend you for following your path.
I hope that I am going to be a good parent, all I can do is try my hardest to do what is right by our son. I have to say that I never imagined I would be doing this at my age or where I am in my life at the moment. I just tell myself that everything happens for a reason.  | |
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I don't have any. I guess I'm a bit of a drifter and underachiever in that sense. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: I don't have any. I guess I'm a bit of a drifter and underachiever in that sense.
I think it is the best way to be. | |
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MrsMdiver said: Fauxie said: I don't have any. I guess I'm a bit of a drifter and underachiever in that sense.
I think it is the best way to be. I'm not sure. Sometimes I think I'd be better served by having some ambition. 
. [Edited 2/19/10 4:50am] MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: MrsMdiver said: I think it is the best way to be. I'm not sure. Sometimes I think I'd be better served by having some ambition.
. [Edited 2/19/10 4:50am] Well ambition is one thing but feeling like you have to be doing a certain thing at a certain time of your life is different. You have goals and ambitions..... I know one  | |
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MrsMdiver said: Fauxie said: I'm not sure. Sometimes I think I'd be better served by having some ambition.
. [Edited 2/19/10 4:50am] Well ambition is one thing but feeling like you have to be doing a certain thing at a certain time of your life is different. You have goals and ambitions..... I know one True, there is at least one.  But yeah, what you said about particular goals by a particular time is more what I'm referring to. I don't have too many really concrete ambitions and goals and I certainly don't have timelines. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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I used to feel that way. I’d look around at other people my age and see how much “more” they have than me. Financially, career-wise, they’re married with kids, have their phd’s, etc.
But as I look back on my life, I really have very few regrets. I had a hell of a good time in my youth. I’ve seen every band or artist I ever wanted to see, I danced my cares away more times than I could ever possibly count, I traveled to foreign countries and met people all over the world that I still consider to be dear friends. I wouldn’t change any of it for anything and lots of people don’t ever get those experiences. |
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poetcorner61 said: Does Anyone Feel Like They Are Behind On Their Life Goals, Besides Me?
Meeeee! I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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My life is going well, got a great wife and kids and a decent house.
I do feel horribly stuck with my career though. I work 3rd shift at a factory and it's less than I could be doing with my life. As I'm approaching 40 I'm wondering...what's the next move? | |
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MrsMdiver said: poetcorner61 said: I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?!
I would not say you are behind, you just did things in your own order. I could say the same for myself, having my first child at 38 yrs old. Most of my friends and ppl I went to school with have children in college, some have grandkids already. I have an infant, seems weird but I have to remind myself that each one of us has our own path. There is no right and wrong order to the path we choose. Yep. I left school at 16 with nothing. Ended up doing a degree in my mid-twenties, and am now doing a masters in my late thirties. I have enough faith in life to just roll with it. I've never stressed about it, and that's probably why I enjoyed evey job I've done (even McDonald's as a 17 yr old), but have never felt that any of that status shit defines me. I'm the same me eventhough I've got various letters after my name now. Actually, I don't have 'life goals' beyond being happy doing what I'm doing right now, so maybe I'm the wrong person to ask. I'll shut-up now  | |
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vivid said: MrsMdiver said: I would not say you are behind, you just did things in your own order. I could say the same for myself, having my first child at 38 yrs old. Most of my friends and ppl I went to school with have children in college, some have grandkids already. I have an infant, seems weird but I have to remind myself that each one of us has our own path. There is no right and wrong order to the path we choose. Yep. I left school at 16 with nothing. Ended up doing a degree in my mid-twenties, and am now doing a masters in my late thirties. I have enough faith in life to just roll with it. I've never stressed about it, and that's probably why I enjoyed evey job I've done (even McDonald's as a 17 yr old), but have never felt that any of that status shit defines me. I'm the same me eventhough I've got various letters after my name now. Actually, I don't have 'life goals' beyond being happy doing what I'm doing right now, so maybe I'm the wrong person to ask. I'll shut-up now I admire that. | |
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sounds to me that you are living life, just like all of us, and I'm proud of all of your accomplishments. You will get where you want to go with that attitude, nothing wrong with enjoying the sights as you meander along your life path. | |
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Every day is a blessing and an opportunity to something fulfilling.
Never quit. | |
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Oh, and here's a great book to read. It will reinforce that no matter what your age, position or situation is, you can do whatever you set your mind to:
http://www.amazon.com/Thi...535&sr=8-1 | |
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poetcorner61 said: I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?! But I still have hope--just can't dump this nagging insecurity based on the economy lately! Anyone else?
[Edited 2/19/10 2:12am] First of all there is no set order to anything! It's awesome that you're still truckin along. Do you know how many people would have given up and not even went BACK to school??? Like, the MAJORITY! Atleast your attempting your ggoals! Most people don't even do that! Good job. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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TotalANXiousNESS said: poetcorner61 said: I'm wondering if anyone feels like they are behind in their life goals, besides me... I did everything backwards...I started college, dropped out, got married, had a child, raised my child, went to college when I could, worked, got divorced, went back to college...now I am about to finish a degree program but I feel like I am ten years behind in my education and career goals...which produces a lot of anxiety...not to mention job searching in this economy! Anyone else feel this sense of insecurity and...floating, for lack of a better word, until you find that next anchor?! But I still have hope--just can't dump this nagging insecurity based on the economy lately! Anyone else?
[Edited 2/19/10 2:12am] First of all there is no set order to anything! It's awesome that you're still truckin along. Do you know how many people would have given up and not even went BACK to school??? Like, the MAJORITY! Atleast your attempting your ggoals! Most people don't even do that! Good job. Yep. Best foot forward and you'll be dandy. | |
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Other than taking care of my retirement savings, my only goal is to have no goal. | |
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Ace said: Other than taking care of my retirement savings, my only goal is to have no goal.
What a beautiful contradiction! | |
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vivid said: Ace said: Other than taking care of my retirement savings, my only goal is to have no goal.
What a beautiful contradiction! Zen is an end in itself. Your only goal must be Mushotoku, the goal of having no goals, of striving not to strive. "How is it possible to strive to not have goals?" you might ask. Isn't that itself a goal?
- Zen Judaism: For You, A Little EnlightenmentDon't be a smart aleck. You should be as goalless and lacking in purpose as your cousin, the successful one. | |
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I definitely am behind on some of my goals. But I'm slowly, reluctantly learning I'm in no race and that I should just enjoy checking out the scenery on the trip. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Is it necessary to have goals? | |
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Fauxie said: I don't have any. I guess I'm a bit of a drifter and underachiever in that sense.
In societies eyes you may be considered that, but not in reality. | |
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Ace said:[quote] vivid said: Zen is an end in itself. Your only goal must be Mushotoku, the goal of having no goals, of striving not to strive. "How is it possible to strive to not have goals?" you might ask. Isn't that itself a goal?
- Zen Judaism: For You, A Little EnlightenmentDon't be a smart aleck. You should be as goalless and lacking in purpose as your cousin, the successful one. It wasn't that I didn't understand the concept of the goal of not having one, I just found the two parts of your original statement a wonderfully western take on the whole idea | |
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Kind of. On one hand, I feel like I've accomplished a lot -- a Master's Degree, moving to NYC; but on the other hand when compared to my friends, I still feel kind of behind. Most of them are married, with kids, own homes/apartments, go on fun vacations to foreign countries, etc. (Most don't have secodary degrees, though.) And I don't want to be married or have kids, so I don't care about that. I do wish my 'career' was better off, which would help in the "fun vacations" and home owner thing. After a decade of struggling paycheck to paycheck at museums , I *finally* have a job that pays me a living wage (for NYC, even!); but I really miss working in a museum environment.
 The check. The string he dropped. The Mona Lisa. The musical notes taken out of a hat. The glass. The toy shotgun painting. The things he found. Therefore, everything seen–every object, that is, plus the process of looking at it–is a Duchamp. | |
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Wrong ass thread...EDIT [Edited 2/19/10 21:16pm] I'm sick and tired of the Prince fans being sick and tired of the Prince fans that are sick and tired! | |
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Adisa said: All the people that keep saying Tiger doesn't owe anybody anything except his wife have zero understanding of business/ organizational life and will not go very far in their own personal endeavors of such.
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