Do you dress up for a date? I just got back from a blind date totally disgusted. The guy looked as if he was going on some trip to the woods to sleep under a tent, like a tramp or something. And the stupidities I had to listen to for three hours are not even worth talking about. What a waste of time.
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One should at least make an effort.

Yeah, I totally agree, but the men that I´ve had blind dates with made zero attempt or at least it wasn´t visible. I just wonder if it´s just a matter of Czech men or men in general.

dag said:

I'm so sorry about your date

One rule claims: true man has to stink even on a photograph I guess he was TRUE man

Yes, I'll make sure I'm presentable.
I think the other person needs to show that they cared enough to make an effort.

If I wear a collared shirt I ensure it doesn't have a front pocket (that pocket is meant for pens, business cards, and other items that have no business being flaunted on a date ). Also, I'll make sure my shoes aren't just plain old sneakers, or if they're sporty that they're my Kenneth Coles or higher brand (no Nikes to a date). I'll always have some type of product in my hair. Blue jeans are fine so long as they're loose fit and not riddled with holes.

These aren't 'rules' I place on others--these re personal rules for myself that I normally follow.

Also, lastly:

1) I refrain from cursing
2) I refrain from negative comments or invasive lines of questioning
3) I'll wont' interrupt when the other person is speaking (I have a habbit of doing this otherwise )


Basically, I'm a little bit old school (which is why I hate dating). To me, a date is something that can have a casual feel with little pressure, but I'll never get to the point where I'm terribly impressed by someone who shows up with a "This is me--take it or leave it" attitude. Show some effort. Let me know you at least cared enough to try.

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I usually throw on a flannel and some hip waders, put a few provisions in a backpack and jot down a few witty anecdotes.

Oh wow! Im sorry you had to suffer for 3 hours.

I think a person should make an effort! Its like he's saying he didnt care!


A co worker set me up once a few years ago. And the guy called me from his truck and told me he was outside. I should have stayed home and watched a movie. He looked better in his picture. He talked about himself all night and I had no desire to tell him more about me. I shut down. We didnt get past the appetizers. I asked him to take me home.

instead of my cheaper jeans and a worn out black shirt, I put on my more expensive jeans and a clean black shirt. I also change my combat boots for a pair that's in better shape, but usually they're indistinguishable from what I'd probably worn when asking the woman in question for a date in the first place.

Imago said:

It's actually true, Dan cleans up really well for a date.


It’s not till you get to know him that he shows his true, lowbrow colors in all their crass glory.

dag said:

I have been dating the same person for 25ish yrs now and STILL when we go out on dates I dress nice and so does he

Imago said:

I must be ovulating because as a date you sound sexy as hell to me right now

Imago said:

Pffft.

I totally dress up for a date...

zaza said:

He looked nice in the picture, like an intelectual, I thought. Well, he was an "intelectual", but an annoying one.
He wouldn´t shut up, kept talking politics and reality shows, claimed that our president is gay following and supporting Russian interests, called all the people "not normal" and kept telling me how happy he is to meet someone "normal" like me, then he´d go on over and over about how beautiful and sexy I am and that I must look hot in bikiny totally embarrassing me and the worst of all, he´d laugh at his jokes that I didn´t even get were jokes. Normally, I would have left earlier, but he travelled four hours to see me so I didn´t wanna be rude.

Mach, lucky you to be in a steady relationship.

You all, guys, seem cool. Doesn´t anyone wanna go on a date?
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dag said:

dag said:

Well, if you wouldn't mind I'm younger..

zaza said:

No, cause you´re normal. Are you single again or what?

dag said:

Yes, I'm single for about 4 months now (that relationship we've talked about lasted just 2 weeks ).

depends on what the date is, but generally always as nice as possible give the setting. it's just polite

zaza said:

Really? We haven´t talked in a while, then.

dag said:

I'll send you an orgnote

dag said:

I do.
Although I'm gay, I think it's so tacky for a woman to be in a dress and heels with some guy in an untucked shirt and jeans.
I don't worry about it, but you would think guys would get a clue that if she is 'dressed' he should be also. But women still go out with them dressed like that to anyplace that won't reject you without a tie.

dag said:

shit... I dress up nyse nyse all the time?

SUPRMAN said:

You´re right, even though, I wasn´t wearing a dress and heels. I was also dressed kinda casual cause I knew we wouldn´t be going into some really posh restaurant. I had a tight jeans on, high nice boots and tried to put on a nice sweather and a blouse just to be comfortable and look decent a bit, but he really look like a homeless.
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Ottensen said:

I stopped ovulating! Mofo dried up! But yeah, this guy has his head on straight and sounds like a decent catch!

dag said:

See, when I read this I got turned on. I love lumberjacks

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

settle down Frances

I think both parties should show up to a date in the outfit they'll most often be wearing once they're married:

Sweats and a bag of potato chips.

Truth in advertising!

I've got a question for you: why did you waste three hours on this knob?

1) Always arrange to meet on neutral ground and have your own transportation. (Do not let him know where or what your transportation is or your home address.)

2) Make the first date something of very limited duration. Coffee, for example. That doesn't last more than an hour unless you want it to.

3) Arrange an out. Have a friend call you at a pre-ordained time. If the date's going badly, feign an emergency. If it's going well, tell them what a wonderful time you're having and that you'll call them tomorrow.

4) If someone can't even be bothered to make an effort on a first date, he will never, ever make an effort in a full-fledged relationship.

Chalk this one up to experience.