I already knew. He just hid it for so long, but it was up to him to get to that point in his life. I am so happy for him. He's a really loyal and wonderful friend and he deserves to be happy and stop living a lie. I've been friends with him since college.

I'm so happy for him. When I visited in May he seemed SO depressed. He said it has been like weights being lifted off his chest. I'm sorry, I'm so fricking happy for him. Be you. I'll still love ya! Well, him anyways!

Nice. Sounds like he has a very good friend.

Thank God for loving straight girls. I would have been dead years ago without people like you!

A friend of mine came out to me when I was in the military (actually several have, but this one was particularly puzzling).

I knew that he was sexually attracted to me. I also knew he couldn't have possibly been straight even though he's not 'gay' acting.

Anyways, he's not bi, nor bi-curious, nor even remotely interested in sweet sweet poontang.

But flash forward to current day... married, with children, living a repressed churchy life in South Carolina.


I feel more sorry for his wife than I do for him because ever decision he's ever made in life has been selfish in nature. I mean, every decision.

And now there's this woman who's married to a lie. To an illusion. And her heart, and youth, and child bearing years will be lost to that when he finally snaps and decides he can't take it anymore---at which point, he'll just go on to make more selfish decisions.


I fear...and trust me... F-E-A-R he'll come looking for me to make 'amends' for past trespasses, when in my mind, I've divorced him as any part of my life years and years ago.


Hell, even in my life, I've not told my mom that I've slept with men. I wouldn't dare tell certain employers, and I don't even think I'll tell some of my older friends. It's like I'm having to pick and chose.

Good on your friend.

Imago said:

bookmark this post so you're prepared for that day!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I'm really thinking I'll just end up with a girl.
It's simpler and from my experience, gay men are catty girls with buttholes to me anyways. Vaginas are just much sturdier that way.


But I digress. I honestly think my buddy is going to snap soon. he's been married about 4 or 5 years now. That's a very long time for him to do anything that's not 100% for his own pleasure. And with children, he's going to absolutely freak the fuck out at how much he hast to devote to other human beings.


Shame too, cause he had the nicest little bubble butt ever. It deserves to be ripped apart for old time's sake.

Imago said:

I have an aquaintence that I knew who was just like that. Gay as he wants to be (under cover) but married with kids. He is delusional and so mixed up. I feel sorry for his wife.

But speaking of....I mean, do you turn a blind eye? Most men just aren't that great at hiding shit.

KatSkrizzle said:

hmmm. In the case of my buddy, it was an easy decision because he was such a selfish person. I was already in the process of disowning him as a friend when he got laid off and ended up having to move to North Carolina, where he settled in with that poor girl.


But struck me as terribly selfish was that he asked my advice and I said, "Look, Phil <---(fake replacement name used to hide his identity), you're gay. You'll always be gay, and if you chose to live in the shadows about it, so be it. But why marry someone and do this to her? She's marrying a lie."
His response was, "But I really do love her, and you're wrong about that.". This of course is just a lie.

I then bid him good luck but that I couldn't watch him do this to other people. It was 'passing judgement' so much as not wanting to be part of a karmic process that hurt someone else....someone innocent of any wrong doing.

Now, trust me--I'm a sick, evil, bitch when I want to be. But only to people who deserve it. I just couldn't be part of that process. Plus at the time, I was really starting to fall for my now ex-girlfriend and had already divorced myself from most of my military friends at the time.


Life is weird.


If you know somebody in that position, it's up to you how you should handle it, honestly. I don't think there's a template for these things.
However, for me personally, I just didn't want to be part of it...Plus as I said, my buddy was terribly selfish for many other reasons.

Imago said:

And you just randomly chose that name on purpose? Where's MDiver? that's all I can think of!

Your friend

awwwww very very cool

Congrats to him.