Who left the GD door open today?

'Tame wild thoughts'?

Ok, I'm all for being faithful and devoted in a relationship, and constantly lusting after people other than your partner is definitely a bad thing imho, but that line above speaks to me far too much about forcing yourself to change, to bend to something that may even be unnatural and unhelpful. It's all too try-hard for my liking. I let my thoughts, lustful or otherwise, roam where they will. If I still love my wife and want to have sex with her and have no desire to cheat then I'll still be around and it's all still good. I obviously still love her the way I thought I did. I just thought about choking Erin and that's fine.

I can't even read this thread

How can you make love like the first woman and man and believe that Adam or Eve gave an inkling of thought to whether or not GOD was gonna give them other sex partners? I am certain EVE would start singing, "FURY," if the song between them wasn't, "The Greatest Romance that's ever been sold."

Would Adam want Eve thinking about some gorgeous blue rainbow guy when He is wearing the plants in the family? I'm just being silly...but U know what I mean...Devotion is the key to a divine love.

For real! It makes me wanna burn stuff

You usually want to burn stuff, though.

True, burn it black!

...there is NO room 4 lust in my L-I-F-E anymore!!..
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...L-O-V-E is WATCHFUL..and sleeping slumbereth not..
..though weary..it is not tired...though pressed..it is not straitened...though alarmed..it is not confounded...BUT AS A LIVELY FLAME AND BURING TORCH..it forces its way upwards..and securely PASSES through all..
...4 it is a LOUD cry in the ears of God...
..the mere ardent affection of the S-O-U-L..
...where it saith.."My God..my L-O-V-E..thou art all mine..and i am all thine"..
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..God is L-O-V-E..but God can also be a tyrant.....4 our good..
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..when we go after things that can only bring insecurity and ugliness(example lust)..it is out of His great L-O-V-E that theLord may HIT US HARD..
...on occasion He is forced 2 take up the "holy hammer"
..it goes against His nature 4 the Lord 2 hurt us..but oftenthere is no other way he can draw our attention...
...if He tries 2 tap out shoulders..we pay no heed...if he says from within.."HEY YOU!"..we plug our ears in a frenzy of activity...
..BUT ONE GOOD..HARD BLOW.....AND WE LISTEN!!!..
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....2 put it very simply...the purpose of the pain we undergo in L-I-F-E with lust...is 2 help us go beyond pain....and find L-O-V-E..
..mzsexybaby

...there is NO room 4 lust in my L-I-F-E anymore!!..

..when we go after things that can only bring insecurity and ugliness(example lust)..it is out of His great L-O-V-E that theLord may HIT US HARD..

..mzsexybaby

It appears that although men and woman can differ on their feelings, sometimes both agree that outside stimulation is a turn on. I believe that can be true when you are stupid, not when you are respecting someone.

I agree with you, I am strict in this way. I have room for forgiveness for my lover always, but to tolerate his lust was outside of our lust for eachother couldn't go very far into forever happily.

According to Tame that last sentence spells doom, where my wife and I 'let one or the other turn away from devotion' or 'both turn away and create a space between them. That space will expand and contract over time, or it will continually expand to their love's demise'.

Homewrecker!

No. Let me set the stage....If a man is having repeated fantasies about another woman and he tells his wife about (assuming the husband and wife are close enough to be open) He has admitted turning away from her.
If she says, well then, I'll let my thoughts get carried away as well, she is also turning away...creating a space between them.

If she allows him to let those thoughts fizzle and is still there for him lovingly, she is responsible for keeping that space from expanding.

Two people are responsible for the relationship ending or being preserved under life's challenges.

All eyes wander. Anyone who denies this is a fool. Are you trying to say that only stupid people see outside stimulation as a turn on? Have you never had a fantasy whilst in a relationship that does not involve your partner? Have you never taken a sideways glance at a hottie while involved?

Even nuns feel like shagging sometimes....

There's that pedestal again....."stupid".....sheesh

I just want to be clear...You have to have some kind of strict belief system in this world...
Love isn't..."Anything goes." Love makes sacrifices for love because it is fragile. I am trying to inspire you to respect every minute of your love life by being faithful to it in your mind.

...there is NO room 4 lust in my L-I-F-E anymore!!..
.
...L-O-V-E is WATCHFUL..and sleeping slumbereth not..
..though weary..it is not tired...though pressed..it is not straitened...though alarmed..it is not confounded...BUT AS A LIVELY FLAME AND BURING TORCH..it forces its way upwards..and securely PASSES through all..
...4 it is a LOUD cry in the ears of God...
..the mere ardent affection of the S-O-U-L..
...where it saith.."My God..my L-O-V-E..thou art all mine..and i am all thine"..
.
..God is L-O-V-E..but God can also be a tyrant.....4 our good..
.
..when we go after things that can only bring insecurity and ugliness(example lust)..it is out of His great L-O-V-E that theLord may HIT US HARD..
...on occasion He is forced 2 take up the "holy hammer"
..it goes against His nature 4 the Lord 2 hurt us..but oftenthere is no other way he can draw our attention...
...if He tries 2 tap out shoulders..we pay no heed...if he says from within.."HEY YOU!"..we plug our ears in a frenzy of activity...
..BUT ONE GOOD..HARD BLOW.....AND WE LISTEN!!!..
.
....2 put it very simply...the purpose of the pain we undergo in L-I-F-E with lust...is 2 help us go beyond pain....and find L-O-V-E..
..mzsexybaby