JustErin said:

Seems so

JustErin said:

Well, I guess though it's like I said, I think some people seem to get away with being rude at times while others don't.

But I think that's the way it is with everything.

I am just saying, this person might have a point in creating this thread, but maybe he/she can do something to make the situation better by just.. being more polite... or what is it.. MORE ASSERTIVE than aggressive in dealing with some situations.

mdiver said:

Well see you and I have reached the same point! She's predictable, right?

So.. I have learned over my interaction to expect the predictable, and see it for what it is, but maybe not be so emotionally invested in response which are predictable, you know?

I can say that I was stupid and actually fell for Gold319 or Desire2006 sad story a while back.
She contacted me and asked if I had a few mins to talk. I said sure.
BIG MISTAKE.

Some ppl do not want someone to listen, give support or feed back when they ask you for an opinion.
I have since learned that ppl like that deserve to be ignored. Clearly a waste of time. The interaction I had with her was appalling and disrespectful.

I was offended by the comment she made about our unborn child but I have spent enough time listening to her to know why she made those comments.

So I have learned not to be so nice and friendly to strangers on the org.

I just chose to ignore them, especially ones that I know do not like me (shanti) or like what I have to say.

Ignoring and not wasting your time on them is the best thing to do. I have come to learn who to give my time and opinions to.
There are some wonderful humans on this site, I would rather focus on them.




silly mistake
[Edited 3/16/09 8:51am]

lascantas said:

Well i think that there are people (me included) that have been here a very long time and value this place very much. We have met and made many friends not just online but IRL too. So i think that for some, this place means more than just a forum that if it went offline (like HQ) they would not care about..yanno?

xenon said:

Look...

This is the thing. Some people are better at dealing with people than others. Some people are funnier.. so yes people will maybe cut some slack to those who are just better people persons! Two people can say the exact same thing, but maybe one can say it with humor.. or I don't know what. But it's still the exact same thing in essence. So.. you know maybe the people person can just get by with it better because he/she is just better at handling people.

However, the person who is slighted STILL doesn't like the comment, you know? But maybe this person does not know how to repsond to it. I have had this problem before. To tell you the truth, I have actually asked advice from the mods on handling comments to me--those that I do not understand or.. those that I understand,but aren't very nice.

They have really helped me.. interact better. I think. Maybe not?

I am too honest, I think.

Well, it's a good thing that I don't get all upset about people on here thinking I'm an asshole.

Hell, people even go out of their way to tell me how much I suck in orgnotes.

JustErin said:

You can't argue with the truth

shanti0608 said:

shanti0608 said:

i never knew she said that

that's just wrong , i'm sorry

mdiver said:

But what I don't get is why they feel the need to tell me that. Like, ok. That's nice. Thanks for your input.

Like it's going to have some kind of impact on me to know that you think I am a cunt?

jami0mckay said:

opppsssss I guess I should not rely on spell check.



I didn't think anyone read my posts.

JustErin said:

Well I think for people who aren't used to it.. like me. I can only speak for myself. We just want to be able to interact. Some people just don't know how to interact, and it's frustrating. For me, I like this the GD and PR forums (I don't know anything about Prince or music), and even though I might not be popular.. which is FINE with me. I want to be able to interact in a positive way. And I have to say, I had trouble when I first joined. But you know, I cannot control other people: I can only control myself.
So this is why I asked for help.

I know maybe somebody like you well maybe you didn't have problems because you know how to interact very well. I didn't. I am not shy really, but I was intimidated. And I didn't know how to be less intimidated. I became defense because I was intimidated, you know?

I dunno. I want to be liked.. I don't want people not to like me even though they might disagree with me on some things. At the same time, not everybody is going to like a person either. I just want to be liked in general, you know?
However, I cannot change who I am to be liked, you know? But I can change how I interact with people. And by doing so, I am more empowered(??).
[Edited 3/16/09 8:57am]

JustErin said:

I've only had that twice on here, but I'm usually too drunk to know which of my lame comments they're referring to.

JustErin said:

Some people get off on that shit i guess

Dewrede said:

You have nothing to be sorry for. You have always been kind and considerate to me, even when we may disagree.
I really feel sorry for her making that comment. It says a lot about her if she can say something like that about a child of two ppl that have take the time to try to help her.
If I was a true bitch I would have let her have it but it is not my style, she is not worth the time. I learned that the hard way. I had many ppl try to warn me, ppl that tried to help her before I did.



Hi ya

lascantas said:

Listen man, here's the thing. Everyone wants to be liked....but if someone wants to hate on you because they disagree with you on some things, why would you even want to have them like you? Like who cares? Talk to the people on here that you can relate to and ignore those you can't.

There is nothing wrong with gravitating towards like minded people. Does that mean that others may be excluded? Sure, but they can gravitate towards others that are more like them.

This is not high school or childish, it's just life and there is nothing wrong with that.

i would like boring people to leave.

starkitty said:

JustErin said:

I agree with you. I just ignore people when they get all..whatever. And I also stand up for myself, too. I am not afraid of expressing an opinion, obviously. And I don't really care if a person disagrees either. But it did bother me when people used I dunno what you would say..trivialize my opinions or beliefs. I have to be honest. It did bother me. Now it doesn't so much. And from some people, it's predictable what they are going to say, just as much as it's predictable what I am going to say, too. So what?

As far as it not being high school or childish, well I would agree it's ALL just life. I think adults do resort to childish behavior in many circumstances, so it's not surprising it happens here. It's nice to say "We are all adults," but there are instances where we don't act mature. Maybe you do.. which is great. But I don't think all of us do. I know I don't! But I am trying.

P.S. I think it's true one gravitates toward like-minded people, and there is nothing wrong with that. This is why I say, there are some people more "invested" in this site than others. I am invested to the degree where I want to be able to interact in a positive manner. I want to be able to share my opinion or have discussions. I want people to "like" me as far as my interaction.. to where I am honest in what I say and polite. I have realized everyone is trivialized at one point or another. I didn't realize this until I interacted a bit more and became more confident. So this is why I now don't take things as personally as I once did.

As far as being a member of a "clique," I don't spend enough time here to be member of one. I don't engage in conversations enough to be in one, as I said. But that doesn't mean there aren't cliques here because there are. If you don't agree that's fine because it is just my humble opinion, based upon observation and a few pm's actually . Of course, you are entitled to yours, too. Your experience is obviously different.
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starkitty said:

Seconded

JustErin said:

or what if you've got ugly vayjay and your ologist is tired of looking at it?

shanti0608 said:

ok

yes it says a lot about her indeed

mcmeekle said:

*counts replies*

Well, at least I know which clique I'm in.....

Cliques don't fit into my life. I march to my own beat being my own person who strives on uniqueness. I see the beauty of what's underground and could care less about selling out for the sake of being popular.

Must say it is kinda funny how many people choose to live in the constant pursuit of trying to be 'cool' and maintaining some artificial front that they seem to feel will lure others towards the lie that they’ve perpetuated since they were old enough to become aware of their sexual identities. It’s like that loud, desperate girl sitting next to U in class and wondering aloud, "Wow everyone says I look so hot today, geeze I don’t know why" in her false naiveté. Fishing for compliments under the guise of innocence is merely a lack of sophistication and maturity it's obvious why manners are so contrived.

It’s these people who overuse the newest bullshit of every generation and who talk or make pointless noises to fill silences. People who conform to a stereotype, clique or society or decide on a new favorite gizmo because they’re now part of a group, and suddenly, finally, have an 'identity'. It’s these same people who shift the blame and all of their hangups onto others because they don't have the nerve to face up to their obligations and lack a certain intelligence that comes with acknowledging their mistakes. It’s these peeps who propagate petty rumors in the hopes that they can continue to lie to themselves and others. These peeps are here, there and everywhere.

Maybe the truth will rise to the surface some day, but for now, it’s really far more amusing to sit back and see what people are truly capable of...

Cuddles said:

Do I need to send you an orgnote telling you you're an asshole?

JustErin said:

That's sig-worthy. Don't hate!

Goddamn. I think this is the first time one of these threads popped up without me leading the Clique brigade

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You've finally reached a point where you've pissed EVERYONE off!