What does it look/feel like? What is its character? Do you like it or do you hate it?

not looking for a racy sex-obsessed thread here, just real answers

I forget the feeling of that early relationship intimacy but I'd describe the happy old couple type as "being on the same team" and the trust that whatever you tell them will be in confidence, and your opinion valued and always considered, safely being able to reveal your vulnerabilities

sexually? being naked?

ZombieKitten said:

far out!

ZombieKitten said:

Great answer Charlotte.

I think it's a lot like what ZK said: It's being able to let down your guard and walls and just be. It's unconditional love. It's a shared commitment. It's sanctified, to use a religious term, in that it's set apart from all other things in that closeness.

Shoot, for this brother, it's but a memory.

ThreadBare said:

I like that one, it's being FAMILY

I don't honestly think I know

My question is: Is it possible to establish intimacy with someone who has a different "love language?"

ThreadBare said:

like with an alien?

ThreadBare said:

whats a 'love language'?

thekidsgirl said:

thekidsgirl said:

I think it's kinda like dirty talk. But with a different tongue.

TheMightyCelestial said:

I missed you

TheMightyCelestial said:

is that like when you use your left hand so it feels like somebody else?

ThreadBare said:

Not sure what you mean by love language, but I think love
always finds a way, and if it's true love the intimacy will follow.
Although I'm not sure how I'd describe intimacy.....maybe in simple
terms it's a closeness where the only other person you truly see
when you're together is each other....for some reason I have a hard
time thinking of intimacy outside of the actual act of love.

TheMightyCelestial said:

OMG, you're gonna have to spell it out for me, I'm slow tonight

Intimacy has nothing to do with sex IMO.

Intimacy is:
-laughing at the same things (especially the ones no one else gets or would even think funny).
-ridiculous pet names you call each other in private
-enjoying each other's company in silence, just taking comfort in the knowledge that the other person is there

johnart said:

That's it exactly....that goes for intimate friends as well.

However, for me, there has to be an intimacy in sex as well,
or I want no part of it

Oh my gosh, people.



not

uhh, well zombiekiten, whenever you figure out what a love language is, please explain it to me...I think Threadbare is almost fed up

thekidsgirl said:

I just posted the Love Languages book, to clarify. No, my frustration is from something altogether different, which inspired the question.

Please, Lord...

obsessed said:

That's cuz you don't have a paynus.

ThreadBare said:

oooohhhhh....so let's hear about her

thekidsgirl said:

I like a girl. We communicate differently. That's the whole sordid story... yep, that's about it...

I like it. I want it. I crave it. But I find myself getting it (or trying to) from people whom I don't really want to have sex with (and vice versa).

Weird phase. I'm very into both, but it doesn't usually work out when I try to mix the two. At the moment.

It's holding hands. It's cuddling. It's taking a short road trip to another town at midnight to pick up something at the Super Wal-Mart because the regular Wal-Mart in your town is closed and you forgot that it would be.

It's little stuff. A smile, a compliment, just making each other feel good, like you're needed, wanted, appreciated, whether sex is involved at that moment or ever or not.

johnart said:

I suppose

ThreadBare said:

well why not just be honest with her? Be straight forward
Girls like that

thekidsgirl said:

Yeah, I'm the talker. She isn't. Go figure.

ThreadBare said:

well how does she feel about you? If you don't know you need to ask her