I don't mind unless it's ALL he talks about.

When he says he has slept with around 3,000 yeah, I kinda went..

So luckily he cant remember them all..

it's usually only when we try something new with each other and vibe about it afterwards - like "i've tried this once before and she [hated it/loved it, thought you might/didn't know what she was doing]"
it never bugs me but there was a time that it used to - a LOT.
mainly because of the factor of distance.

but it's never like, "oh man this one time i was with this chick, right, and..." because well, i'm sure most people know better

i just like hearing about past experiences, never past lovers. they're not important.

I'm okay with it, however I will never ask about any of those things.

eikonoklastes said:

hello sweetie

i prefer it. i like to have a realistic veiw of who i'm chosing to love, so i actually stomach any discomfort in an attempt to gain an honest understanding.



but then again im nutso. (my last lover told me i wasnt human, and she prefered not to hear shit about anyone else but her )


not to mention, if i listen to you talk about ANYONE ex or current, i can tell if you still want them...which i would deem beneficial information if we bout 2 git down wit the git down

JDInteractive said:

If it comes up, it comes up, There's a reason you aren't with them anymore.
I've discussed it with my partners and we trade stories and escapades with no harm. I'm still friends with my ex's.

I don't really mind. I am not worried about the past. I know that they are in the past for a reason.

I have more issue with ppl in the present and future and knowing how some women can be.

It doesn't bother me, but I guess it could if she got into details. She's not crazy about me talking about mine.

REDFEATHERS said:

is right!

To have every detail up front in a blooming relationship, for me isn't good. A part of me want to KNOW everything, but the truth is on the inside I'm going nuts, and I never forget. So hopefully I've learned to just get the basics and move on, then somewhere down the road as the relationship gets more stable then hearing the details a bit at a time isn't that big of a deal.

NDRU said:

But what she should have done was run to the doc and get tested!

Love hearing about her past exploits and how she rates them... Fortunately, she appears to be happiest with what she's got now...

It's one of those.. I wanna know...but then again I don't, kind of thing.

eikonoklastes said:

Amen.

FunkMistress said:

JDInteractive said:

Nope ... i encourage the topic and i like talking about it.... i like the stories lol.... usually the dude becomes more relaxed around me anyway when we talk openly about stuff like that.. i usually get a surprised look afterwards ' 'that doesnt bother you?' .. and nope, it doesnt

Hearing about "one night flings" they had is cool and kinda turns me on.


Hearing about it with someone they had a past relationship with (former boyfriends) hurts.


is that fucked up?

newpower99 said:

No, it's not at all.

But for me I'm only pissy about hearing people who come after me.

Before me, well who cares really. He didn't know the awesomeness that is me at that time so it's not his fault.

JustErin said:

Well said... I agree!

shanti0608 said:

This makes total logical sense, but the ax-wielding psycho who lives in my medulla oblongata just refuses to listen to reason.

FunkMistress said:

Girl.... we all gots things that we do or think that make no damn sense.
I could elaborate but you already know where I am going with this one.

Sorry I contacted my ex boyfriend. He's a real jerk

Doesnt bother me, everyone has a past.. now it would be worrying if they went on and on about the same particular person though..

hey JD!

FunkMistress said:

So he has not told you about us then?

eikonoklastes said:

Why? that was in his past..

everyone has a past might as well hear it first hand you know.

REDFEATHERS said:

I forgot diseases expire, my bad.

eikonoklastes said:

You would know!