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Printablehokie1 said: I don't know that I think COMPLETE disclosure is necessary. But, if say in the past you have served federal prison time then yes I would say spill it.
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JustErin said: Sweeny79 said: We all have our secrets. I'm ok with that.
Same. I don't want to know everything and I don't wanna talk about everything. Communication is extremely important but there are some things that should be kept private - such as personal information that friends share with you. Some couples think that sharing information like that with each other is ok simply because they're a couple. It's not. i think thats a whole nutha thing. friends are just that. their issues are totally separate. But if it involves me in some kind of way or affects our relationship then i think its something that i need to know about. not just for the sake of knowing but so i can make my own decision about the situation. | |
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heybaby said: JustErin said: Same. I don't want to know everything and I don't wanna talk about everything. Communication is extremely important but there are some things that should be kept private - such as personal information that friends share with you. Some couples think that sharing information like that with each other is ok simply because they're a couple. It's not. i think thats a whole nutha thing. friends are just that. their issues are totally separate. But if it involves me in some kind of way or affects our relationship then i think its something that i need to know about. not just for the sake of knowing but so i can make my own decision about the situation. Well, yes of course. If it's about the relationship, you should talk about it. But disclosing everything to each other because you think the whole two become one thing applies is terrible, imo. | |
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JustErin said: heybaby said: i think thats a whole nutha thing. friends are just that. their issues are totally separate. But if it involves me in some kind of way or affects our relationship then i think its something that i need to know about. not just for the sake of knowing but so i can make my own decision about the situation. Well, yes of course. If it's about the relationship, you should talk about it. But disclosing everything to each other because you think the whole two become one thing applies is terrible, imo. i agree its just too much. there are alot of things my sister and my friends talk about that i'm sure nobody wants to hear about anyways  | |
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heybaby said: JustErin said: Well, yes of course. If it's about the relationship, you should talk about it. But disclosing everything to each other because you think the whole two become one thing applies is terrible, imo. i agree its just too much. there are alot of things my sister and my friends talk about that i'm sure nobody wants to hear about anyways  "are you girls talking about your periods AGAIN!?!  "
(which actually my sister and I do if we think men are listening, so they STOP listening and we can talk ABOUT THEM safely ) | |
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Anxiety said: shanti0608 said: I am usually an open book. I have made that mistake in the past, telling my mate every little thing and then feeling overexposed when I find out that my partner has kept things from me. do you feel like you made the choice to tell your partner every little thing and it was a risk you took that wasn't reciprocated, or was there was a mutual agreement to share everything that the other person didn't uphold? It is just something within myself that I like to share with my partner. Just throwing stuff out there to see if there is a connection and a spark. I guess it is because I have a need to be stimulated beyond the physical stuff. I do not need to know everything about my partner but I do need someone who is going to share their feelings and beliefs with me upfront if it is going to be something long term. | |
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shanti0608 said: Anxiety said: do you feel like you made the choice to tell your partner every little thing and it was a risk you took that wasn't reciprocated, or was there was a mutual agreement to share everything that the other person didn't uphold? It is just something within myself that I like to share with my partner. Just throwing stuff out there to see if there is a connection and a spark. I guess it is because I have a need to be stimulated beyond the physical stuff. I do not need to know everything about my partner but I do need someone who is going to share their feelings and beliefs with me upfront if it is going to be something long term. I think it's compulsory for you to say that here
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ZombieKitten said: shanti0608 said: It is just something within myself that I like to share with my partner. Just throwing stuff out there to see if there is a connection and a spark. I guess it is because I have a need to be stimulated beyond the physical stuff. I do not need to know everything about my partner but I do need someone who is going to share their feelings and beliefs with me upfront if it is going to be something long term. I think it's compulsory for you to say that here
Oh he has already learned all of this about me a LONG time ago. | |
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shanti0608 said: ZombieKitten said: I think it's compulsory for you to say that here
Oh he has already learned all of this about me a LONG time ago. but imagine if you said, "oh no I keep lots of secrets" | |
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ZombieKitten said: shanti0608 said: Oh he has already learned all of this about me a LONG time ago. but imagine if you said, "oh no I keep lots of secrets" Hehehehe well I am human so therefor I do keep some things a secret... 
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shanti0608 said: ZombieKitten said: but imagine if you said, "oh no I keep lots of secrets" Hehehehe well I am human so therefor I do keep some things a secret...
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ZombieKitten said: shanti0608 said: Oh he has already learned all of this about me a LONG time ago. but imagine if you said, "oh no I keep lots of secrets" 
lol I guess it depends what you class a secret. I feel that there are many things that Valory does not need to know, like how many sheets of toilet paper i use or the like. Is that a secret...hell no because if she anted to know then i would tell her. I guess it is more about being open. I have nothing to hide from her, she is my best friend and partner, why would i want to hide anything from my other half? I dont see it as constructive. There are times when we all need time and space to gather and formulate thoughts on a matter that affects us both..is that a secret? Nope its just human nature. I guess what i mean in a nutshell is that the is nothing i cant or wont tell her. Why would i hide anything from half of me? | |
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OK OK OK I give in.....i used 6 sheets | |
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okay - when I haven't got my mouth full I'll communicate....
"I may not agree with what you say but I'll fight for your right to say it"
Be proud of who you are not what they want you to be... | |
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ufoclub said: Do you think a successful relationship should have complete disclosure and discussion about everything? Or are certain things best left private to maintain a relationship. Personally I've found that talking seems to ease things up and bring you closer.
I don't think anyone needs to know EVERYTHING. I have my privacy....and it should be respected. Breach it..and whatever comes next...is your destiny. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
BOB JOHNSON IS PART OF THE PROBLEM!! | |
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