So tell me org, when was the last time a friend let you down?
DO you give em another chance?
Did it hurt?
Was it a big thing or a small thing?
Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends?

C'mon spill

i had a best friend in junior high school (grades 7-8) and high school (9-12) and college...we did everything together...I did something that I didn't realize bothered him, and he stopped talking to me. He never told me that what I did bothered him.

We became close friends again after I ran into his mom at the supermarket, and she told me that he was getting married. I sent him a card to say good luck, then he called me, we got together for a couple of beers, now we're best friends again.

i was let down though by his refusal to tell me what was wrong

Oh Geez Phil, my husband was over there from 7 till 1 in the morning unloading furniture and shit!!!!!

THATS ENOUGH!!!!!

I normally do not get let down by too many real friends- I choose them wisely. I must admit I have been hurt by ppl that pretended to be my friend.

I try not to ask for much from my friends- I try to be there for them and support them and hope it will be there in return if I ever really need it.

So tell me org, when was the last time a friend let you down?
November

DO you give em another chance?
I always do yes.

Did it hurt?
It always hurts when a friend lets you down. That is like one of the worst things for me and I rarely ever get over it.

Was it a big thing or a small thing?
It was big to me, but to him it didn't matter much.

Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends?
I think this past incident has caused me to be wary of people in general.

I have been guilty of letting people in that, in hindsight, i should never have done...big time
That has caused me to get kicked alot.
These days i am very selective.
Is that a good or bad thing? I am not sure....but getting kicked hurts so fuckit i am gonna not worry and get on with life.
I also used to let people in again once they hurt me...not anymore....fuck em

My friends "let me down" pretty regularly in small ways, but with the way I am, it only makes sense. They deal with my ways and I can't ask for much more from their asses.

mdiver said:

Me too. I always do this.



I'm still not as selective as I should be. I mean, I'm NOT selective really at ALL about who I befriend. I'll be friends with pretty much anybody, but I DO need to be more selective with who I confide in. I think, I KNOW I tend to get to caught up in the moment and later regret it.
I think you are very giving and always want to help people, so someone like you really should stay away form people with a sob story, because you are a giver, and most whiners tend to be takers, and the two don't go together well.



I still let them in. I'm an idiot.

DaniDaniBoBani said:

Some days you show hidden depths Dani

mdiver said:

second chances...

Well it all depends on the person and what they did to let me down. There are some ppl that I sort of forgive but do not forget with so I accept them as a human but not longer value them enough to call them my friend ever again.

So tell me org, when was the last time a friend let you down?
It was some years ago but I'll never forget it.

DO you give em another chance?
No, not for that one.

Did it hurt?
You bet it did.

Was it a big thing or a small thing?
I'd say it was pretty big.

Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends?
No, but it changed how I choose new friends. My true blue old friends have never let me down.

I've been lucky. So far so good.

M

So tell me org, when was the last time a friend let you down? About 3 years ago.
Did you give em another chance?I usually give second chances, but not in this case.
Did it hurt? Yes
Was it a big thing or a small thing?It was a major thing.
Do you then after it happens allow that to change your habits with other friends? It has definitely affected the way I am with any new friends I make, but I have some friends that I have had for many years and I have complete trust in them

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

You are a lucky man and a good man too.

They´ve let me down on occasions for sure but I always forget. They wouldnt be my friends otherwise.

JDInteractive said:

true, very true JD

*****

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I was brought up to trust animals more than ppl- animals act out of instinct and survival- humans some times act out of fear and jealousy and some times plain ignorance.

Animals are great!!
Love the saying- the more ppl I know- the more I love my dog.

Lord is that true!

shanti0608 said:

Sad though..

REDFEATHERS said:

NOT REALLY- my dog is awesome!!!
So are my family, friends and loves ones- just don't have to love every human being- that was my message.

shanti0608 said:

Oh cool.. thats great though

I love animals, but I just dont tend to replace people with animals.. I just cut out the people who betray me I am happy you are happy

The last time I was just a kid - late teens/early 20s.

These days I either don't really have friends that let me down, or whatever they do doesn't have that much of a serious impact on me.

i don't put a lot of expectations on my friends, and i guess it's paid off well because none of them have let me down in a really long time. as long as they're taking care of themselves, that's all i'm concerned about. sounds cheesy, but it's true.

JDInteractive said:

Exactly. I've found in the past few years that the people that I really consider friends really CANNOT let me down, unless they do something extremely major like not turn up on my wedding or some shit like that. That's why I consider them friends in the first place, cos I know they won't do stuff like that. The people who do let me down aren't people I would have grown into a real friendship with anyways, I have very few close friends and I choose them wisely.

JD Nicole

Teacher said:

In college, my roommate and I had a friend who lived down the hall from us. He'd pop in constantly, like Kramer from "Seinfeld," and all three of us would vibe over music, religion and whatever woman who had our respective nose open at the time. During the past decade or so, my former roommate has passed on, and "Kramer" has pulled away without ever explaining why. I've made entreaties, to no avail; I even congratulated him by e-mail on his recent engagement.

Nada. No response. And, no explanation for it. Never did anything to dude to deserve being cut off like that, but I guess those are the breaks.

Yes, friends will let you down. Give 'em time...

... except, that is, for One Who sticks closer than any brother, One who when we were yet sinners, died for us... But, I'll preach another day...

I've had friends let me down over the years until one day I said "FUCK THAT"
If you pull fuck up, I cut u off

I was let down by a couple of friends that were like brothers at the time. One of them I had mad love for. It crushed me when he did what he did, and it was the last straw, so to speak.

Fast forward twenty years - we recently found eachother on MySpace, and exchanged phone numbers. Our conversation lasted almost two hours! It felt like yesterday. We have made plans to get together soon. The love we had for eachother, like brothers, was very evident during our conversation.

I say, life is too short to hold grudges. I believe in Karma, and the phrase "this too shall pass". Move on - forgive and forget. I have others I need to reach out to, and can't wait until it happens.

My friends let me down all the time but hell nobody's perfect. Yes, my habits with everyone else has change as for me giving them another chance… yes and no. sure I give more chances, like I said nobodies perfect but they only get the one chance to hurt me. Once they've hurt me once I change and they don’t get another chance to do it again. in fairness my family got to me long before my friends started doing it.