Do you ever find out the reason?

Do you insist upon a legitimite response?

Just chock it up to brain in the penis
syndrome?

No reason is good enough, nor will change what is done.

Why do women think there's NO reason why a man would cheat?

No one has a reason to cheat , they should just leave the relationship if its not up to par. Women have this fucked up need to
stay in a relationship till they find a suitable replacement.

origmnd said:

Um, that is absolutely not gender specific. Women AND men both do this.

JustErin said:

I seem to always hear that it's the sex, they find someone that will give them what they are not getting at home.

luvsexy4all said:

That's assuming the philanderer admits the deed. It's all about the dick.

I've gotten the "I wasn't actually going to meet her", when busted arranging a hook-up with online dating.

I don't care for the details, I just kick their ass, cut their nuts off and tell them yeah that is what you get for fuckin with me buddy.


Ok really I don't cut their nuts off, ass kickin and and fuck you yes that they do get.

mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

HAHAHAHH!

I do about the same type of thing, although unlike you I actually follow through with the castration!

Tonylover said:

dayum...lol
I have this "attitude", outlook, what ever you want to call it, that if someone can get you ( person I'm with), then they can have you, cause if it happens, you weren't for me in the first place..which may be part of the reason I haven't had anyone cheat ( well that I know of 100%). It's a mind game thing I suppose..

veronikka said:

Which is usually the case for us men.....I know how to cook, I can clean, I can take care of my home, but I just can't seem to grow tits and a vagina and talk dirty to myself wanting cum all over my face and tits, and ask for it aggressively while grabbing my ass or coddling my penis!!!

DexMSR said:

i've had a bloody good try
[Edited 5/11/07 10:55am]

origmnd said:

Thats sooo untrue..

origmnd said:

What? I've never had that problem

There is a BIG difference between legitimately trying to work out something and just sticking with it cuz it's better than nothing.

As a guy, I love my woman and would never cheat on her, EVER but we're wired to want to fuck EVERY woman we find attractive, period.

It's when your mind is detached from your dick, that's what you should look for in a guy. Some guys are hard-wired brain to dick and then anything that walks is fair game, regardless if they're in a committed relationship. Sad but true.

To answer the question, if my woman cheats (it's happened) I'm the hell out of there. There's no second chances because a level of trust has been broken that will never be achieved again no matter what words are spoken.

People's actions define who they are in life.

Call the TV show Cheaters, you'll get your answer.

Slave2daGroove said:

Thats why I dont understand how people can stay together after cheating and then say " I can forgive but not forget" I dont think a relationship can survive either after cheating has gone on.

hisfan4ever said:

I have unfortunately been misstreated by so many boyfriends and I am not just talking about mean things being said...I am talking bout black eyes and shit, that in all reality I really don't have time to put up with high school, petty bullshit. The turning point was when I could not take it anymore and I fought back and blacked his eye as he did mine...mind you I was 17 or 18 at the time and it was the most liberating thing I have ever felt in my life. I do not take shit from anyone, that may be a good or bad thing I dunno, but no women should have to deal with that. However, the problem is women get scared to leave and it took me about two of the 3 almost 4 years I dated this asshole starting in high school to wake the fuck up and realize that hey I should not have to be treated this way and it is not right. Now my only concern is myself which is number one. Frankly everyone else comes second, and that may sound harsh, but I have learned that you can not take care of others until you can full love and take care of yourself.

I was cheated on a few times by my ex... when I finaly got an explanation I was the one that ended up apologizing..

the guy had alot of mental problems and self harmed..
he was sexualy abuse when young so he slept with other women because it made him hurt.. he explaned that when he slet with me he didnt hurt.. only felt joy and passion.. that no other form of self harm would satisfy his urge those 3 times.

veronikka said:

It's a violation of trust - and once that's gone it's difficult to rebuild, if it can be done at all. If you continue on without resolution - all you do is create resentment and mistrust and live in constant suspicion. It's unhealthy, to say the least.

spell
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It all depends on the "reasoning" behind the cheating... people do change..
sometimes its easy to forgive other times its harder.. but sometimes people need to be given a second chance.
Hell I gave that guy 4 chances of course I broke up with him when I first found out before he explaned..although I would have to say I might not have if he didnt have those problems.

mostbeautifulgrlntheworld said:

Well said!

And to all the meanies out there...

There seems to be a double standard with infidelity. The one doing the cheating would go batshit over their partner doing the same thing.

xplnyrslf said:

But also remember there is another double standard of that it is ok for men to have their women on the side, but when a women does it she is called a slut, whore, sleeze or whatever else someone can think to call her.

The most of u sound like u think that humans r 1 dimensional beings.

Claiming ownership on 1 persons affections is perfectly ridiculous.
The same goes for promising someone your exclusive love forever etc.
True love isn't something that can be controlled.

Right now he's probably slow dancing with a bleached-blond tramp,
and she's probably getting frisky.
right now he's probably buying her some fruity little drink
cause she can't shoot whiskey.
right now, he's probably up behind her with a pool-stick,
showing her how to shoot a combo
and he don't know...

I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped up 4 wheel drive,
carved my name into his leather seats.
I took a louisville slugger to both head lights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires.
maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.

right now, she's probably up singing some
white-trash version of Shania karoke..
right now, she's probably saying "I'm drunk"
and he's thinking that he's gonna lucky,
right now, he's probably dabbing on 3 dollars worth of that bathroom cologne.
and he don't know...

I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped up 4 wheel drive,
carved my name into his leather seat...
I took a louisville slugger to both head lights,
slashed a hole in all 4 tires...
maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.

I might've saved a little trouble for the next girl,
cause the next time that he cheats..
oh you know it won't be on me!
no.. not on me..


maybe next time he'll think before he cheats.
ohh.. maybe next time he'll think.. before he cheats...

noimageatall said:

Must be a special dispensation for JW's?

if she's with holdin..

if she aint givin the right stuff..

if he just CAN...

if he has no respect for relationship..

if the opportunity arises cause its there...

if hes just the type that always looks for tail..



certainly women cant equate all these examples

I think I would rather like the guy to say that he is beginning to feel attracted by another woman, and would like to end the relationship than to straight out cheat.

Paradisekiss03 said:

That's what I say! If they really feel that their current relationship is over, why not end it? It will be painful for all involved, but I doubt it will be as bad as the other person finding out that they were cheated on.